Looking Back

Spring SedumHave you ever noticed yourself in a situation where you find your mind projecting itself forward into the future and seeing your failure in this moment or an outcome you’d prefer not to have? It’s that crazy thing your mind does to keep you stuck exactly where you are, rather than allowing yourself to expand and fly to the heights and places you dream of going.

Well, I found myself there yesterday and it was a powerful moment.

We were out having a yard walk. Looking at the peas coming up in our garden, a few baby peaches that didn’t freeze, flowers, birds and bugs. I noticed a patch of sedum that is blooming so beautifully I wanted to take a picture of it.

As I was kneeling down and getting closer to it pulling some grass that was coming up in the middle that might disrupt my picture I heard myself saying. “Looking back, I knew that was a great place for a snake to hide and scare me.” YIKES. What? My heart started pounding and I recognized how in that moment I was planning to be scared.

A little side note… we had a rat snake that lived in our shed last year over the spring. She would scare the crap out of me when I’d open the door and see her up at eye level, on the third shelf, resting with one of her babies. (I decided she was the only snake alive to have laid just one egg… the alternative was more than I could stand.)

But her eyes were round, almost human, and she would just look at me as I’d shiver and breathe heavy for a moment. I’d tell her to stay put, I was just coming in for the shovel or rake. Nothing to worry about, no need to make any sudden movements. Whew. After several months of her gentle presence and noticing there were absolutely no scurrying sounds in the shed when we’d enter my feelings changed.

So, back to present tense, the true snake fear I had has all but melted. I know what I’m looking for and I am cautious and aware of my surroundings when out digging around, pulling weeds or picking up trash. I’ve got this.

So, in the moment of me telling myself a scary story, I thought, “What a great idea!” Ha! What if we told those “looking back” stories, not of failure and fear, but in a way that actually served us?

What if we took that very moment of planning for the worst and began planning for something we’d prefer?

Looking back… I knew this was going to make a beautiful picture; I am always aware of my surroundings and completely safe.

Looking back… I knew everything was working out for me. I have the love and support of family, friends and the vast resources of the God and the universe.

Looking back… I see how silly it was for me to worry that things wouldn’t work out for me because I had plenty of evidence supporting my happiness and success.

Looking back… I always knew I would be a mother, I just got a little scared and discouraged for a bit, much too focused on what hadn’t shown up yet.

Looking back… I knew that job was mine, I just had to let go of the fears and worry I wasn’t good enough.

Looking back… I always knew I could lose the weight and feel happy, healthy and vital I just had to stop beating myself up about where I was. Boy, I’m glad I did!

We’ve got to change the stories we tell ourselves in our minds. We have to decide we are going to succeed, be happy, regain our health, find our perfect partner or make tons of money and then support ourselves in moving that direction.

I can think of so many more negative or scary stories my mind has tried to “look back” on while I was in the present moment. Bless our hearts. I know I’m not alone. It truly is just a function of our minds constantly trying to protect us. When we fully grasp this concept the fear dissipates.

Lightly intend to recognize this, moment by moment when our thoughts are swirling around upsetting, limited or lack filled scenarios and tell a better story. Think of the greatest outcome and begin to describe it to yourself. Let yourself relax into peace, winning and success.

Our minds can’t tell the difference between what’s “real” and what we’re imagining, so begin imagining the things you’d most like to have and watch yourself begin attracting those things into your life.

How would you like your life to be when you “look back” on it? Begin seeing and visualizing it that way now. Relax around your scary mind stories, be consistent with your focus and you can’t go wrong.

Sending you much love, soothing and support.

Start “looking back” on your life right now, envisioning your success, happiness, health and abundance.

Share your “looking back” better feeling story with us and we can hold the vision of your fabulous life with you! One lucky sharer with receive a free Rave Session with me to help you get your energy moving confidently in the direction of what you’d most love. Good luck!

Giving Thanks for Peace

Happy Thanksgiving! I hope your day was filled with warmth, good food, good company and loving family of all kinds.

I am thankful for the love of my family and friends, my happiness and the peace in my heart.

Although our lives may never be exactly what we want, things are always shifting and changing. New opportunities and blessings present themselves as surely as we stumble across old challenges.

My deep peace comes from my knowledge of how the world works, my ability to not take everything I think seriously and knowing how to let myself feel what I feel without struggle. I know nothing lasts long if I don’t resist it and saying three magic words can change everything. Yes & Thank you.

It’s relatively simple but can be difficult to accept if we’ve spent our lives…reacting to every situation, blaming others for our unhappiness and misfortune, beating ourselves up for every tiny mistake we think we’ve made or thinking someone was “out to get us.”

I can relate to all of it. That was how I lived for a while. It was all I knew. Reacting to life. Recognizing I had control and learning to exercise that control was difficult and heart-wrenching before I learned the true secret to letting life be easy.

Here’s to living each day, appreciating the wonderful people, circumstances and opportunities that constantly surround us. They are always there, we just sometimes get side-tracked by things that worry and scare us.

If you’d like to feel more peace in your heart and happiness in your life, I can help. Click the links below to purchase and send me an email to schedule. Crystal@CrystalNuding.com

Give the lasting gift of peace this season.

“Stuff” is nice but, happiness, health and abundance, the natural by-products of true and lasting peace make life a delicious dream.

All my love,
Crystal

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Blessings & Beliefs

Many blessings for compassionate cooperation

Many blessings for compassionate cooperation

People are mad these days. Mad as hell and don’t want to take it any more. I say, good. Be mad. But then let it go.

Allow yourself to move through that energy and notice how you can shift the circumstances around you by not engaging. And even better than not engaging, how about blessing the person or situation you’re mad at?

I’ve had sessions this past week or so with folks angry, irritated or disgusted by either an individual or group of people. I can totally relate. We’ve all felt those less than warm and fuzzy feelings before and it’s absolutely OK.

Every feeling you have ever felt in your entire life is valid.

Those feelings were your natural reaction to the situation, given everything you’ve lived up to that point. So take a deep breathe and relax. It is OK and you are right to feel how you feel. But that doesn’t mean it can’t change.

We live in a society that wants to make us feel bad for how we feel.

“You shouldn’t feel that way!” “That’s not Christian of you to feel that way.” “That’s not the way I feel, you’re wrong.”

Any of these sound or feel familiar? Of course they do.

If we can’t understand and get frustrated when someone doesn’t like tomatoes or hates walnuts in their brownies, what do you think the reaction will be around subjects with deeper meaning like religion or politics?

We all believe what we believe. Beliefs are merely thoughts we think over and over again. We all think our beliefs are true, but they aren’t. Not necessarily. Unfortunately, some of our beliefs don’t serve us or anyone at all. Some of our beliefs are completely untrue.

We’re not taught to believe things by our parents or teachers by them saying… “Ok, kids! Pay attention. Today, I will teach you to believe ________.”

That didn’t happen.

What did happen was as children we were little sponges.

Our parents raised us and our preachers and teachers taught us like we were only listening to their words. Ha! Bless all of our hearts. I’m sure you can relate from your own experience the truth in this. We’ve all heard, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Guess what folks, it doesn’t work that way.

What we(ALL of us) as children did was pick up on the vibration, the attitude and the underlying meaning of why “they” did what they did. And filtering that through our own short life experiences, beliefs began to form in our little child minds.

Beliefs like…. “Women are supposed to take care of the house and children. Men don’t do dishes or housework. Girls have to be skinny, pretty and nice to get a husband. Boys have to work hard and make lots of money to get a girl. Women are supposed to make everything better. Daddies don’t stick around. I wasn’t good enough for them to love me. I have to be perfect all the time and never make mistakes. Men don’t respect women and think they are hysterical. Women have to take care of and protect themselves because men are neanderthals.”

Children grow up and learn how to treat people and how to allow people to treat them by watching their parents. Is their father kind, loving and respectful to their mother? Does their mother have her own power or does she always defer to father but then blow up and be angry with the children? Girls and boys learn much about the rules of society in their own homes. Whether kindness and compassion or impatience and abuse, they are affected by the circumstances around them.

What if they(we as children) saw and heard parents blessing their enemies?

What if children saw more kindness, gentleness and compassion in their homes? Not only the compassion that parents had for friends and loved ones, but also patience and compassion for people they disagreed with or didn’t appreciate. What change might that bring about?

How can you begin to bless the people that irritate or frustrate you most? Without making huge sweeping moves, what small ways can you begin to bless everyone around you.

What do you think would happen if everyone took a moment to say. “I really can’t stand this person, but wow, they must be suffering to act like that. Or what must they have been through to be like that? Bless their heart.” And then say, bless my heart for having to deal with them. Let yourself feel and move the energy around the situation while giving yourself and the opposing party a break.

Who can you send blessings to today that you have profound judgements about?

What you do for others, you do for yourself. When you judge, curse and demean others you’re doing it to yourself. When you bless them, you bless yourself.

Give it a shot. When you take time for prayer or meditation today, whatever that looks like for you, send blessings to those you don’t care for or understand.

You will be surprised at the level of peace you can achieve when you stop raging against what you don’t like and start cultivating more compassion for what you don’t understand.

I would never do what I see many people around me doing every day, but I’m not mad at them about it. My heart sees the suffering in their heart and I have deep compassion for them. Does it always come easily, no. Many times I have to feel through my own anger and judgement about the situation, but I always understand it is that, my OWN anger, fear or judgement.

Even people in positions of authority(doctors, teachers, pastors, politicians, lawyers) have issues. You have issues, your parents had issues, their parents had issues. Get over it. Stop judging others by their issues and recognize you have your own. Take a deep breath and give everyone a break(yourself included.) When you accept your feelings as your own and stop blaming others, life gets really good.

It’s not always easy, but it’s very simple.

Bless your heart, bless their heart, bless all of our hearts. Everything really is OK. We’re all going to get through this and life will be even better because of it.

Seeing and holding the vision of compassion and cooperation in all areas of our lives.

Sending much love and many blessings to all of you.

I’m here if you need some help.
Crystal

Busting Out

Crystal Laughing

We all need and do “bust out” from time to time. The thought of our friends becoming new parents makes my heart feel like it will bust out of my chest. Perhaps the job you loved for so long is no longer a match so it’s time to bust out. Maybe we’re busting out because our work project is complete or school is out and it’s time for much needed ease and relief.

Whatever the reason for your last “bust out”, you can see and probably even FEEL the release and relief of busting out. Extracting yourself from a place or feeling that doesn’t seem big enough for you anymore. Something you can’t contain or keep restrained any longer. Busting out, while sometimes uncomfortable, will set you free.

I grew up out in the country on a huge ranch in between two small Texas towns. The people there are good as gold, with hearts the size of our great state, but the minds around there could use a little opening. I’m sure they’d disagree, but I’m a bit different.

Growing up there, you didn’t even realize what a huge world there was outside of our little slice of it. You spend your childhood and young adult life hearing and doing the same things as everyone else around you, not because you wanted to, just because that’s what you did. Most everyone dressed the same and listened to the same music.

We had new kids come in from far away places(like California, ha!) and I would immediately feel sorry for them. They thought they had landed in po-dunk hell. In some ways they had, in others, it was heaven.

I loved growing up and living there, and even today I still love that that is how and where I grew up. So many things I am, know and do are because of my life in that small place, but there is much more to life and me(and you).

What we learn from our parents, communities and society growing up is just that, what we learn, what they knew to teach us, what they knew about life up to that point. But life goes on and we all keep learning.(hopefully)

Folks from my home town do many things… work in the oil field, in schools, they are teachers, coaches and administrators, they are business men and women, parents, stay-at-home moms, and more than a few cowboys. These are all expected, respected, acceptable and appreciated “jobs.”

But how does it work if what you do or your life path doesn’t look exactly like everyone else? What if you have thoughts and feelings that don’t match what everyone else is thinking and feeling? What if your idea of success doesn’t look like what you’ve been taught success looks like? What if your family/friends/community think you need to be, do or have things you don’t really care about? What if they think what you do is a scam or crazy?

Only one thing to do.

Bust. Out.

First let me assure you that you are perfect, absolutely perfect, right now and that everything is absolutely working out for you. The ultimate beauty of this magnificent world we live in is diversity. Variety is the spice of life. It’s what keeps things interesting. Living the life you were meant to live is the most important thing you will ever do for yourself and the world.

You can’t live your life for everyone else forever. Actually, some can and do. If you love it, do it, otherwise stop and do what you love. It’s up to each of us to determine what we want and what will make us happy. If you’re spending all of your time trying to make sure you’re doing things others will approve of you’re missing out on your own true hearts desires.

I lived much of my younger life doing what someone else told me to do. Parents, teachers, bosses and two husbands all to varying degrees determined my existence. Doing what I was told to do and/or what I knew others expected of me was my way of life. It was only after realizing how miserable I was that began to see I didn’t want the same things as everyone else. And that was OK.

Feeling like an alien in your family or community is actually not a bad thing. Take a big step back and have a look at the values, attitudes, ideals and behaviors of the people you feel separated from, do you agree with them? Often times you won’t, and that will be the reason you feel the separateness.

Appreciate everyone and everything that has brought you to right here and now. Know that from right where you are, you can go where ever you want. And this requires absolutely no change on anyone else’s part. They are perfect just the way they are, too.

When we get this concept and begin to appreciate everyone in our lives for their perfect role in shaping who we have and will become, we are amazingly free. No one can ever offend or upset us again.

Learning to live with other people not appreciating or respecting what you do, who you are or how you do things can be an interesting journey. But,ultimately the most rewarding and important journey we’ll ever take.

One day you’ll realize what other people think doesn’t matter and you’ll find yourself giggling. You’ll laugh and laugh about all the times you worried about what someone else might think. Hilarious.

Set your intention now to discover the real you. Intend to truly know who you are, what you do and your benefit to others/society. Many people from your “original tribe” might not really get it or you and that’s OK.

I’m sure you are well aware how people feel about things they don’t understand… many times fearful or dismissive. But, that’s not about you. It’s about them. Bless them and move on.

So, here’s to busting out in whatever way feels best to you. Here’s to you finding your own clearest, strongest voice and the courage to use it.

Find your niche, spread your wings and soar. The world needs more and more people like you… being truly, authentically, happily who you are.

Sending all my love and many blessings. I’m here to help.

Crystal

Focus Forward

ThroughTheTrees - San Marcos River

As you give thought to your future—your future that may be 10 years; your future that may be 5 years; or your future that is 60 days away—you literally begin pre-paving. And then, as you move into those pre-paved moments, and as that future becomes your present, you fine-tune it by saying, This, is what I now want. And all of those thoughts that you have put forth about your future, right down to this moment when you are now intending what action you want to take, will all fit together to bring you precisely that which you now want to live.

— Abraham
Excerpted from the book “The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham”

I absolutely loved this Abraham quote. When we are in difficult situations or faced with ugly truths we tend to focus on the right now circumstances of our lives. Which, in moments of joy and happiness is great, but when things don’t look the way you want them to, can be painful to bear. In these hard times, the only thing to do is focus forward.

Think about how good it will feel just a few days, weeks or months from now when everything is as you’d like it to be.

Plan on it, say to yourself and everyone you know and love, “No worries, it’s all coming.” And then start imagining what it will look like when it gets here. Don’t allow yourself to stay focused on what you don’t want. Take a deep breath, relax and know it will work out. It can be hard for us to believe that our minds don’t always have the right answers and that sometimes(most times) until you are consciously focusing on what you want, it actually makes things worse.

Your focus on how you want it to be is the most important thing you can do
to bring about the results you want.

Give yourself the chance to create what you want instead of repeating old scenarios again and again. Let the last time be the last time and move on. No worries. No big deal. That’s how we previously did things, but we’re doing this now.

We think over 70,000 thoughts per day and the majority of those thoughts are the same as yesterday. Focusing forward moves yourself closer to what you actually do want.

When you allow what’s wrong to just flow by you(through your life experience) without fanfare, it doesn’t stick around. The situation will pass and you will be more aware of what you’d prefer to happen next time.

But, when we shout about it, fight about it, blog about it, Facebook it, Tweet it, think about it and discuss it with multiple friends and family members, it can’t help but repeat itself. And then you get to say, “See, I told you so. I knew this was going to happen. This always happens.”

But is that what you really want? No, it’s not. You may think it makes you feel better to “vent”, but you’re only hurting yourself(and the person that has to listen to it). Give yourself 5 minutes with one person to bitch about whatever you need to bitch about and then be done with it.

You want peace, ease, wellness, happiness, relief, health, harmony, joy, excitement, abundance, satisfaction, fulfillment… am I on the right track? Thought so.

Don’t ask why or what else could go wrong? Why only gets you more wrapped up in the trouble at hand and what else is creatively asking for more of what you don’t want.

If you want something different to happen in your world, you’ve got to begin to think differently. Allow yourself to feel through whatever comes up in your moment of upset, but begin to change the way you think about problems… Interesting situation. I wonder how this is going to work out in my favor? Forget that problems even exist. Forget them. Think about the solutions.

Focus forward with these questions. Don’t try to answer them. Just ask and let the universe deliver.

  • What is my true hearts desire?
  • How will it feel when I’ve gotten what I wanted?
  • How can it be easier?
  • Who could help?
  • How can I allow myself to allow more help?
  • How good will I feel when I’ve allowed the easiest solution?
  • How much easier will my life be when I think only in terms of solutions?
  • How fun and exciting will it be when I no longer see life’s problems as problems?

Now, just start making a note of everything that is working out for you. Make a list of things you want and start watching for them to show up.

Keep living your life and doing what you need to do, just notice when coincidences happen or synchronicities show up. Take them as cues that you’re on the right track and let it encourage you to keep your focus on the end result.

If you need help letting go of some old scenarios(heartache/heartbreak/anger/guilt/shame/resentment), I’m here to help. Don’t let your past steal your joyous now. Let that go and live your life.

Life is good and fun and it’s supposed to be easy. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking that struggle is honorable. While those who struggled before us certainly deserve their honor, we don’t have to struggle any more.

Life is easier than we let it be. I can help you let it be easy.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Alphabet Soup

Alphabet Soup

Photo by Tasya Menaker

Do you ever lie awake in bed at night and wish you could turn your brain off? Chores, bills, family issues running through your mind, one after the other. Things to do, business to handle, problems to solve and beside all of that, the world is going to hell in a hand-basket.

It’s really not, it just serves a handful of folks to make you think it is.

Not to worry, I can help.

Being human we all have this busy monkey mind problem. From where you may be right now, your thoughts can jump around from who’s done wrong, to what you’ve done wrong.

Focusing on what is bad, wrong, terrible, unjust, wrong, wrong, wrong(did I say wrong?) is the natural order of the day for most folks. If you think that’s just the way you are and it can’t change, you’re wrong.

It’s easy to refocus our minds with a bit of information and a couple of simple, easy tools in our belt to use when we need them.

Tip 1 – Get into your “Right Brain.”

As you know, our brain is divided into a right and left hemisphere. The left side of your brain is the analytical, critical thinking side(notice the word CRITICAL?), while the right hemisphere of your brain is where your creativity comes from. When your brain is running a mile a minute, say aloud or to yourself, “let’s get into our right brain.” It will help slow down the computer(your brain) and allow you to focus on something more pleasurable and relaxing.

Tip 2 – Give your brain a job.

Once you’ve gotten yourself into your “right mind,” consciously begin to think of other things. As I was lying in bed the other night trying to turn my brain off so I could get to sleep and rest easily, I started this little game in my head.

Using the alphabet, I started saying words that soothed me and focused me easily in a different direction(I was asleep by K). Coming up with the next word took all of my attention as I was searching for words that felt good so my busy mind was busy supporting me. You can’t keep thinking of what you don’t like if you are actively thinking about something else.

Below is the list of words I started compiling.

  • Amazing Appreciation Abundance Adventure Allow Afloat
  • Bold Believe Boundless Beauty Breakthrough BE Breathtaking
  • Caring Capable Compassion Confidence Creativity Colorful
  • Delicious Desire Dreams Daring Divine Dazzle
  • Exciting Effortless Ecstasy Empower Enjoy Ease Epic Exhilarating Expansive
  • Friendly Flowing Fun Faith Free Fabulous Fantastic Flowery
  • Gracious Grandeur Grateful Giggling Gentle Groovy Graceful
  • Happy Hilarious Hopeful Heart Hugs Honor Healthy
  • Inspired Imagination Independence Innovation Intention
  • Joyous Jokes Juicy Jolly Jocularity Jazz
  • Kindness Kiss Kinky
  • Love Laugh Luminous Life Lounging Lively Luscious Liberty Lavish Lucrative
  • Miracle Moments Memories Magic Mysterious
  • Natural Nature Nice Neat Nurtured Nourished
  • Original Optimist Orgasmic Outstanding
  • Purposeful Positivity Potential Possibility Peace Passionate Prosperity Power Playful Psychedelic
  • Quirky Quality Quilt Quiver Queendom Quaint
  • Romantic Relationship Romance Respect Robust Replenished Recharged Rested Renewed Relief
  • Strong Sweet Smart Solutions Shine Soothing Shift Sensual Serene Spectacular Success
  • Tantalizing Truth Triumph Transformation Thankful Terrific Trust
  • Unfolding Universe Uplifting Utopia Uninhibited Understood United Unequaled Unity
  • Vision Visualize Vibrations Vivacious Vibrant Virile Voluptuous Variety
  • Wonderful Worthiness Wonder Whole Wise Wellness Wealth Whimsical
  • Xylophone (haha, you let me know what X letters you come up with!)
  • Yes Yummy Yielding Yay Youthful Yachting
  • Zealous Zest Zone Zing Zippy

You can do it spontaneously or plan for it. Sometimes it helps to have a plan in place for moments when you know you could have a hard time focusing on the positive. Write them down on a piece of paper and just read them aloud or to yourself. Post your list in your car, on your bathroom mirror, the refrigerator or in your office.

Don’t let yourself spend too much time fretting, worrying or focusing on things that upset you. We, as human beings, are vibrational boomerangs. What you put out there you absolutely do get back.

So when you find yourself raging against the machine(any of them or their drivers) take a couple steps back and a big deep breath.

Allowing yourself to move the energy physically in the moment and placing your conscious focus on better feeling things move you away from what you don’t want and draw you closer to that thing or situation that you would prefer, that feels good.

Simply reading a list of positive, good feeling words is much more helpful and effective than complaining about what happened and repeating that story to as many people will listen. You may think sharing your woes feels good, but it actually only creates more of what you don’t want.

Give it a shot. Make your own list or use words from mine. When you find yourself focusing in a way that doesn’t feel good do yourself a favor and consciously turn it around.

Let me know how this list works for you. Please share any other good feeling words I have undoubtedly left out.

Seeing your absolute freedom, happiness, wellness and abundance!

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Much appreciation to Tasya Menaker for the alphabet soup pic!
Check her out here – http://www.flickr.com/photos/tasyamenaker/6643549023/

What do you want?

Sending much love and soothing to everyone this beautiful day. We have been having relatively mild weather this Spring here in Central Texas. My hashtag #MilderTexasWeather is working. Next up is #MildRainyTexasSummer. Share it far and wide! For friends here in Texas, let’s see how we can change the weather, shall we?

It is much easier for someone outside the immediate situation to lend their positive thoughts, as someone facing a tornado can attest. My friend Roxanne Darling in Hawaii writes about how hashtag #thinkcalmthoughts helped dissipate two tsunami’s that were predicted to cause massive destruction. The people in the path of these storms may have been worried, but thousands of people across the world could(and did) easily think calm thoughts and affect the situation.

We are energetic beings and our thoughts are powerful. Watch the fabulous documentary Water: The Great Mystery to hear and see evidence from scientists and holy men about the power of our words and thoughts. They explain how we are all connected and can communicate on a deep level even over thousands of miles.

Water: The Great Mystery – click the picture below to watch the documentary

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Click to watch this documentary on Vimeo

Share #thinkcalmthoughts for our friends in areas prone to harsh weather. It’s important for everyone to recognize we can have an affect on these situations, even from a distance. Many blessings to our friends all over the world that have experienced destructive weather.

What weather would you like to experience more of? Forget what you don’t want to see, what would feel best to you right now?

A drenching rain or a beautiful, cloudless sunny sky?

Come up with your own hashtag and put it out there. See what happens when you begin to actively focus on what you want. This can be about the weather or anything you want more of. Feel free to use some of the examples below or come up with your own. What do you want?

#MildRainyTexasSummer #BrightFuture #DreamJob #BrandNewDay #PowerfulHappyWomen #Equality #StrongPeacefulMen #Hope #BeautifulStrongWomen  #HappyPowerfulMen #HappySuccessfulChildren #HappyHealthyBaby #SuccessfulHappyMarriage #HealthyHappyFitBody #AbundanceAndProsperity #WildlyProsperousBusiness #HappyJoyousLife #PeaceEaseFlow

Better and more powerful than any physical action you could take, really let yourself think about and focus on what you want. Once you get clear and more singularly focused on what you do want, inspiration comes and the action you need to take becomes obvious.

Here are some tips for how to more easily and effortlessly bring about the change you wish to see:

  • Think about it… often. What do you want?
  • Set a goal and write it down. What do you want? When do you want it?
  • Spend time writing about it. Describe what it will look like and how it will be in as much detail as feels good.
  • Post your hashtag on your social media accounts. Send it out for others to share the vision with you.
  • Create a beautiful picture of it either digitally or with magazine cutouts and write your hashtag on it.
  • Post it on your vision board or bathroom mirror.
  • Make it a part of your screensaver or computer background so you see it daily.

People truly love to support each other. A beautiful picture, story or even just sharing the hashtag. People will resonate with it and share it with others.

Share and expand your vision, dream or desire with us. What do you want more of?

Involving many people in your conscious, active, positive focus is fun, rewarding and helps things move along much more quickly. Let in the help.

How good will it feel when you allow yourself the help you need?

I look forward to hearing more about what you want and how that’s progressing for you.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Crystal@CrystalNuding.com

Questions?

Full Pond in Spring

Dear Crystal,

I dunno, girl, I like to think that I am a practical kind of guy, and a lot of your essays on your website seem like so much new age happyspeak. How does this work for a business? By contrast, the ideas in ‘Built to Last’, my business bible, are fairly concrete.

Not that I am not open to new ideas. I have read a lot of philosophy, I used to be a Rosicrucian, and I am a zen. Not a zen follower or advocate, not a Buddhist, not a zen master, although I know the answers to all the zen questions that seem so silly to the man on the street (Why is a mouse when it spins? If a tree falls in the forest, etc.) and only zen masters understand my answers. I don’t waste my time anymore offering my answers to the uninitiated, because they don’t understand.

But, like Ghengis Khan, I do seek out new weapons for my arsenal of business all the time.

Can you make your ideas a little less nebulous. Or maybe I am just dense.

Regards,
John Doe

Dear John Doe,
I understand.
I don’t get the impression you are dense, just uninformed.

Addressing your “new age happy-speak” comment, it’s actually new physics. If it works and makes you happier and brings you more health, money, joy, peace and ease? What would you call it? It’s easy for people who don’t understand to make such assumptions.

We live in a vibrational universe. Period, end of story. Science has been proving and telling us more and more about it for around 100 years. The old Newtonian physics model of the world does not contain it all. I’ll save the science explanation for a session if you’re interested.

The bottom line is, things happen vibrationally first and physically second; not knowing or understanding this doesn’t make it not so. Everything ever created was first an idea in someones head before they gave it their focus, time and energy to create it. (We’re creating constantly… jobs that run smoothly OR ones where you lose your *ss)

We (humanity/society) have lived this way for a long time… under the impression someone else was in control of our world. That is not the case. The observer affects his own reality.

My ideas and techniques are concrete as well. Each session is different. Everyone is different.

It depends on how strongly you are entrenched in the old way of living in the world:

  • life sucks and then you die
  • life is hard
  • that’s just the way it is, hon (a favorite phrase of your old white men)
  • you have to work hard and toil to be worthy and deserving
  • struggle is honorable
  • if it’s easy it’s not worth anything
  • the best of life is behind us

If you recognize truth(and bullshit) in your heart when you hear it then you’ll have no trouble understanding everything I have to teach you.

I will give you insights and teach you practical tools to put you in control of your own life and business.

I will explain the role your emotions play in your life and teach you how to move through difficult situations with ease and grace (so things like this won’t happen again.)

Lost my *ss on our first project because my field leader stayed drunk and got us run off the job. I had to fly out at my own expense and finish the job for free. I think I redeemed my good name, but the damage from that one irresponsible individual continues to spread.

Most of the people I work with are already aware of these concepts and are interested in my perspective, energy and support. So, I thank you for offering me the opportunity to really think about someone who knows nothing about this and try to find a way to not only explain but help you understand it.

I find so much of the need for an explanation goes rather quickly once people experience what I’m talking about, then they know for themselves.

So again, in plain English…

  1. We talk on the phone for 45min-1hr.
  2. We first talk about what you want and where you’re experiencing frustration.
  3. I teach you techniques to relax and release stress physically in your body (holding onto this energy is what makes you ill)
  4. I give you insights into why your negative thoughts aren’t true and how they don’t serve you. (consistent negative focus is what creates the things you don’t want)
  5. I give you much better perspectives and teach you to soothe your busy mind when it gets going.
  6. My high vibration calls and trains your vibration upwards.

I’m also an empath and do energy healing, so maybe that will be shocking to you as well. But they are gifts that serve me well and make me excellent at what I do.

What I offer you works for your business because it works for your life. Everything works better when you learn and practice these principles. You hire/attract the right people and create an environment that is harmonious, efficient and productive.

I’m not here to pull teeth or shove anything down anyones throat. There is no pressure from me. You ask me how I could help your business and here it is.

Hope this helps.

Take care, John Doe.

Sincerely,
Crystal

PS…  Life is nebulous, until you squint your eyes and put your attention on something (wanted or unwanted), then you begin giving energy to it and lending to its creation. I help people create what they WANT rather than their current creations of some things they don’t want.

Yes, Is The Grease

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes is one of the most powerful words in any language. No other word has more power to transform your personal situation than “Yes”. Learn to say “Yes” in the face of what you don’t want and difficulties begin dissolving immediately. Recognize there is a perspective in every scenario that serves you and your being willing to see it, gets you halfway there.

When you say “yes” you are not resisting anything and are actually opening yourself to new possibilities. “Yes” allows the situation to resolve, transform or fade all together.

When we say “NO, NO that’s not what I wanted. Let me run and tell everyone how angry I am and how terrible this situation is.” We are only adding our precious and powerful energy to a situation we do not want. When we give things we don’t want our attention we continue to create things that make us feel bad. But, when we can first say “Yes” and then “Thank You”, changes previously unavailable begin to present themselves.

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

“Yes”, I can allow this situation to transform and “thank you” for showing me where my focus and thoughts have been lately.

Don’t worry or give yourself a hard time. Just say, “OK. I’ve been focused on things other than what I want. It’s OK. I’m human. I can say yes and watch it all change. Everything is always working out for me.”

I find when I say “yes”, that most times, if it’s something I really don’t want to do, it doesn’t happen…

I get a call from a friend. “Hey! I’m moving out of my house and have no one to help me, will you?” Uh, yuck. I don’t want to move! BUT, I do love my friend and certainly want to be of assistance if I can, so “yes, of course I will help.” Not something I’m really looking forward to, but we always have fun and this will be no different. We’ll get it done and I’ll get some exercise. “Yes, I will help.”

The day before the big move, I get a call saying someone else with a big truck and a few buddies are happy to help (for beer!) and are taking care of the whole thing, maybe we can do dinner next week when things have settled down. Voila! “YES!” I said yes, and it all worked out. I was able to support my friend and created the space for more help that didn’t require me to move heavy furniture!

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

How can you support yourself by saying “YES” to allow more flow in your life? Even in situations you don’t want. Remember, “Yes” is the grease that allows things to shift and change with ease, “No” gums up the system and creates more of the same.

Do you notice yourself saying “no” and feeling it in your body? Find the “NO” physically in your body and breathe.(stomach, chest, throat, heart?) Breathe gently, in “yes” and out “thank you”. In “yes”, out “thank you.” Allow the resistance to move and watch the situation transform.

Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.

If you need more help saying “yes”, give me a call.

I’m here to help.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Take It Back

Tree And Ivy

I first wanted to start a Take Back The Weather campaign.

Listening to the radio, I heard John Aielii on Eklektikos mention how no one believes the weather man anymore when rain is in the forecast and everyone just expects no rain. Also, watching the thermometer hit 93 degrees yesterday before we’ve even gotten into Spring made me really think about what I want to see “weather-wise” in my life.

I took a big deep breath and let it go.

When we stop looking at life in terms of what we like and don’t like
we have a lot more peace in our lives.

It was, however, very clear to me that it is time to take it back.

Whatever “it” is for you, that maybe you think you don’t have anymore or that someone might have taken from you, take it back. Your youth, confidence, joy, abundance, happiness, vitality, satisfaction… all of these things are still here for you to experience. Regardless of your financial situation, age, gender or social status, your life is your own creation and can be whatever you want it to be.

Decide to focus positively in the direction of what you want.

So, I want milder temperatures and more rain this Spring and Summer here in Texas. How can I go about changing the weather?

For starters, I am going to stop complaining about it being so hot and dry. I will notice when I see rain in the forecast and feel confident and excited about it’s arrival. When I want to say, “Damnit, it’s hot out here”, I will instead say, “It looks like rain!” I will allow myself to feel the physical sensations in my body that come up when looking at evidence to the contrary.

Reality is only temporary, don’t get too bogged down in it.

As I allow myself to focus on what would please me instead of pointing out an obvious irritation, my mind will begin to look for more pleasing things. Our negative focus is only a habit that can be changed like any other. Small steps make the biggest progress.

Decide today to move toward what you want. Here are some statements to help you get started…

  • I will consciously cultivate what I want to see, hear, feel and experience by telling myself it’s on its way. (Everything you want is truly on it’s way to you, release resistance and allow it in.)
  • I will allow myself to feel and move the physical sensations that arise in my body when I am faced with a situation that doesn’t please me.
  • I will start talking about what I want and looking for evidence of its arrival.
  • I will focus on what makes me happy and brings me the most joy.

Take a deep breath and feel the possibility. We live in a miraculous world that has the ability to bring to you all you require or desire. Feel the simplicity of focusing on the wanted as a way of life.

Arguing for your limitation will never get you what you want. Supporting yourself in your mind while moving the energy in your body is the quickest route.

If you are ready to take back your life and need some direction. I am here to help.

Let’s talk.

Much Love,
Crystal