Focus Forward

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As you give thought to your future—your future that may be 10 years; your future that may be 5 years; or your future that is 60 days away—you literally begin pre-paving. And then, as you move into those pre-paved moments, and as that future becomes your present, you fine-tune it by saying, This, is what I now want. And all of those thoughts that you have put forth about your future, right down to this moment when you are now intending what action you want to take, will all fit together to bring you precisely that which you now want to live.

— Abraham
Excerpted from the book “The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham”

I absolutely loved this Abraham quote. When we are in difficult situations or faced with ugly truths we tend to focus on the right now circumstances of our lives. Which, in moments of joy and happiness is great, but when things don’t look the way you want them to, can be painful to bear. In these hard times, the only thing to do is focus forward.

Think about how good it will feel just a few days, weeks or months from now when everything is as you’d like it to be.

Plan on it, say to yourself and everyone you know and love, “No worries, it’s all coming.” And then start imagining what it will look like when it gets here. Don’t allow yourself to stay focused on what you don’t want. Take a deep breath, relax and know it will work out. It can be hard for us to believe that our minds don’t always have the right answers and that sometimes(most times) until you are consciously focusing on what you want, it actually makes things worse.

Your focus on how you want it to be is the most important thing you can do
to bring about the results you want.

Give yourself the chance to create what you want instead of repeating old scenarios again and again. Let the last time be the last time and move on. No worries. No big deal. That’s how we previously did things, but we’re doing this now.

We think over 70,000 thoughts per day and the majority of those thoughts are the same as yesterday. Focusing forward moves yourself closer to what you actually do want.

When you allow what’s wrong to just flow by you(through your life experience) without fanfare, it doesn’t stick around. The situation will pass and you will be more aware of what you’d prefer to happen next time.

But, when we shout about it, fight about it, blog about it, Facebook it, Tweet it, think about it and discuss it with multiple friends and family members, it can’t help but repeat itself. And then you get to say, “See, I told you so. I knew this was going to happen. This always happens.”

But is that what you really want? No, it’s not. You may think it makes you feel better to “vent”, but you’re only hurting yourself(and the person that has to listen to it). Give yourself 5 minutes with one person to bitch about whatever you need to bitch about and then be done with it.

You want peace, ease, wellness, happiness, relief, health, harmony, joy, excitement, abundance, satisfaction, fulfillment… am I on the right track? Thought so.

Don’t ask why or what else could go wrong? Why only gets you more wrapped up in the trouble at hand and what else is creatively asking for more of what you don’t want.

If you want something different to happen in your world, you’ve got to begin to think differently. Allow yourself to feel through whatever comes up in your moment of upset, but begin to change the way you think about problems… Interesting situation. I wonder how this is going to work out in my favor? Forget that problems even exist. Forget them. Think about the solutions.

Focus forward with these questions. Don’t try to answer them. Just ask and let the universe deliver.

  • What is my true hearts desire?
  • How will it feel when I’ve gotten what I wanted?
  • How can it be easier?
  • Who could help?
  • How can I allow myself to allow more help?
  • How good will I feel when I’ve allowed the easiest solution?
  • How much easier will my life be when I think only in terms of solutions?
  • How fun and exciting will it be when I no longer see life’s problems as problems?

Now, just start making a note of everything that is working out for you. Make a list of things you want and start watching for them to show up.

Keep living your life and doing what you need to do, just notice when coincidences happen or synchronicities show up. Take them as cues that you’re on the right track and let it encourage you to keep your focus on the end result.

If you need help letting go of some old scenarios(heartache/heartbreak/anger/guilt/shame/resentment), I’m here to help. Don’t let your past steal your joyous now. Let that go and live your life.

Life is good and fun and it’s supposed to be easy. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking that struggle is honorable. While those who struggled before us certainly deserve their honor, we don’t have to struggle any more.

Life is easier than we let it be. I can help you let it be easy.

Much Love to you,

14 responses

  1. Rev. James Earl Wells

    I find this very interesting considering my medical problems and the fact that on Sunday I will turn 60. I have been on a roller coaster ride for a few weeks now.
    Reading this makes all that up and down a smooth road. It takes someone like you writing from your heart to express such a great thing that as a human race we tend to leave behind at the door of self pity.
    We need more uplifting and supporting from people like you who can put into words the necessary tools to change a negative into a positive.
    Great post. Love Lincoln’s quote too. Thank You for helping through a hill in my journey of life.
    Much Love To You Too.


    1. Crystal Nuding

      Thank you so much for your kind words. I am happy to have offered words of comfort and encouragement when you needed them.

      I am sending you healing, soothing, peace, ease and flow!

      Seeing your absolute perfect health, wellness, happiness and vitality!
      Blessings to you, James.

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  2. Michelle Dobbins

    I love your questions especially “I wonder how this is going to work out in my favor?” That one lights me up, it reminds me that it is going to turn out in my favor and there’s all kind of fun ways that could happen. “)


    1. Crystal Nuding

      Yes!! It’s one of the most important questions you can ask yourself in any situation. 🙂
      Have a great Friday and an excellent week-end!


  3. nannydavis

    Thankfully, I had this kind of attitude when I lost the vision in my left eye as a result of cataract surgery. It was a very humbling experience, but I was able to focus on the many years of full vision I had enjoyed. I thought of the countless people who have never seen the beauty of God’s creation and how blessed I was to have wonderful memories in the event I became totally blind. Keep looking FORWARD!


    1. Crystal Nuding

      Blessings to you, dear Nancy. What a gift you gave yourself. Thank you so much for sharing your experience and giving us an example of how your life is so much better for focusing forward. 😉
      Sending peace, ease and flow to you!


  4. Alex

    Reblogged this on


    1. Crystal Nuding

      Thanks for the reblog, Alex! I look forward to reading more of your blog. I love the feel! Have a great day!


  5. strictlyholistic

    Really enjoyed this post and such wise words. It’s easy to be negative when life feels like it’s being turned upside down but so important to focus forward and take a more positive view to move on and centre yourself. Thank you.


    1. Crystal Nuding

      It sure can be difficult to focus forward at first, but boy oh boy, how much better life is when we do!
      I appreciate you stopping by and sharing. Thank you so much, Charlotte! I look forward to checking out your blog! 🙂


      1. strictlyholistic

        No problem – thanks so much for following me back! I’m really enjoying connecting with other therapists and people with holistic interests 🙂


      2. Crystal Nuding

        Happy to do it. It’s so important for folks to realize there are other ways to “heal” than the mainstream “reports” to us. 🙂


  6. andysalwaysright

    Was this photo taken near a place called Bijagua in the North of Costa Rica? I took a photo from the very same spot I think! Maybe it’s just somewhere that looks very similar 🙂 YAY!


    1. Crystal Nuding

      Hi Andy! It’s good to hear from you. 🙂
      This picture was taken on the San Marcos River here in Texas… it’s actually a park right in the middle of town. I love that it looks like Bijagua!
      Thanks for stopping by!


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