Tools of the Conscious Creator’s Trade

Growing up, my dad always told me, “Attitude is everything” and “Life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it”. He also told me I’d argue with a fence post, and that I’d bitch about being hung with a new rope, but these first mentioned ideas were the basis from which I built the rest of my life. So thank you, Daddy, you were absolutely right… about all of it. Ok, most of it. Let’s not get carried away.

I’ve been doing this work for 25 years… creating my reality. I was in my early 20’s when I read the book, The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn, that changed my life. I knew while reading The Game of Life and How to Play It, it was all true and I could and would never forget.

The following are some basic takaways from what I’ve learned over these past 25 years. It might have been slow going in the very beginning, but has ramped up exponentially. This train is already rolling folks, jump on!

Get Tough, Girl

Daddy also told me I should have thicker skin. And as a super sensitive empath, this was quite the chore that took years to achieve. I’m still the same super sensitive empath, but I have moved so much of the energy I experienced in my younger life that even I can’t believe how confident I’ve become. My inner knowing and ease with being able to handle whatever happens has shaped my ALL LOVE and No Mercy attitude.

This reality creating isn’t for the faint of heart. You have to be strong in your faith and knowing and, flexible in your allowance of others.

I’ve listened to people laugh at what I say and roll their eyes while looking at the rest of the group like I’m airy-fairy and don’t live in the “real world”. I’ve irritated more than a few people with my incessant positivity and insisting that everything would indeed work out. Even more people have been aggravated with me for not wanting to listen to them go on and on about a problem from a negative vibration and telling them not to argue for their own limitations.

As you get more in touch with your own intuition and start living more fully in your body you’ll begin to feel energy physically. Negatively focused conversations (even from the best intentions) will clench your gut, chest or throat and make you want to run screaming down the street, tearing out your hair. I still have to remain calm while listening to people focus or speak fearfully or negatively, knowing this behavior is only creating the next opportunity for them to feel this way again. And, while maybe what they need most is more love and positivity, if I say something, it will only trigger them.

Pro Tip: It’s relevant for some to explore the lower vibrations more or for longer than is necessary for others… that doesn’t make them wrong, it’s just not right for me and maybe you.

Crystal Nuding

Everyone is where they are on their own path and it isn’t always going to run in alignment with our own. Blessings of love to each of us. We are loving humans that want what we think is best, but each individual is on their own life path and Free Will is the name of the game. Deep breaths and relax.

Take Full and Complete Responsibility for Your Life

When I realized that we are all indeed creating our life by what we focus on and think about, I understood why, in life, I had gotten what I had gotten. No longer did I look to blame people outside of myself. No longer could I yell, scream or lose my shit. I am in control of my own life. I mean, it didn’t happen overnight. It actually took a few years to fully be able to pull it off on a regular basis, but that’s because it was a new concept and I didn’t have support or anyone to really talk with about what I was learning and going through.

Plus, I didn’t understand the concept of Energy at that time. I didn’t know how to feel through what I was feeling physically in my body to let it move. I mistakenly thought that if I felt something it meant it was true, it was real, it is here and if I feel it, it will GROW. Bless my heart.

That is what happens when we feel bad, emotionally or physically, and think negatively about why we feel bad at the same time. BUT, if we’ll set our brain aside and allow ourselves to experience the physical sensations in our body of the raw feeling, that accompanies the emotions, that revolves around the story… are you seeing a pattern here?

Take a moment to sit quietly… nice, straight and tall, both feet on the floor. Take a deep breath. Relax your face, jaw, neck, shoulders. Breathe slowly, deeply… in through your nose, filling your belly completely, then fill your chest, up through your neck and fill your head. Hold that for 2 and release with an audible AHHHHHHHHHH. This stimulates your parasympathetic nervous system that will calm your body without asking your brain for permission, thank you very much. Notice how your body relaxes a bit more after each breath. Feel the heart unclench and relax, the belly soften and the mind begin to ease.

Notice what you’re feeling physically in your body. Without thinking about why you feel these things soften and experience them as sensations in the body. Keep your mind occupied with soothing and comforting yourself with kindness and encouragement. If you can’t come up with your own words use these to start. Come up with phrases that are personal, relevant and really feel right for you.

  • Bless my heart, this is uncomfortable!
  • It’s all energy and its all moving
  • This sucks, but it’s only a feeling and it won’t kill me
  • We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe
  • Yes, Please and Thank you!
  • I love you, I love you, I love you!

Learning to take full control of your emotions and thoughts will put you firmly in the drivers seat of your own life. This has been the most rewarding and freeing part of my journey, being in control of myself. It has allowed me to gracefully navigate difficult situations in ways that truly benefitted all involved.

Lighten Up and Laugh About It

Whatever it is, lighten up and laugh. No matter the situation, me being calm and centered always yields a more favorable result. I always think of my sister, Johanna when I need to lighten a tense situation with a funny comment or one-liner. I could always count on her to throw out a hilarious zinger after I had just turned up the tension of a situation because of my own participation from a lower, chest clinching vibration. These days, I always allow myself to take a moment to breathe and feel the tension in my (chest). You can’t think straight when you’re mad, scared, frustrated, upset or worried. So take a minute. There are plenty of things that plenty of people will tell you to freak out about, get mad over, or that it’s worth a fight. Bless ALL hearts. Everything is worth moving the necessary energy around so the correct action for the highest good of everyone can be taken.

That being said, I’m from Texas
and where Zen ends, ass kickin’ begins.

Make it Right

KNOWING I’m creating my reality, I will NEVER say, act, or behave as if something is NOT going to work out for me. That would be acting contrary to my own knowing. Not gonna happen.

If you’ve ever watched or participated in improvisational theater you might know the rule is, Yes, and…
Yes to what’s just been said AND… what’s next… add your spin in the direction you’d like it to go. Yes, and can send you into orbits you didn’t even know existed. NO, ends the game, NO, gets you stuck.

Yes, and…. the most amazing thing happened.

Yes, and… then all my dreams came true!

Yes and… then the perfect situation presented itself that I couldn’t be more thrilled or excited about. It’s beyond all my wildest dreams of what I’d be doing or get to do. It just showed up. I got a phone call and here was something that I hadn’t even been focused on, but that had been important to me for a long time. I’ve spent countless hours thinking and talking about how to make this better or how it can be better and that someone has already figured it out. And here’s a phone call, out of the blue, that has asked me to be involved. WOW. Yes, please and thank you.

When you make things RIGHT, they will ALWAYS work out for you. No matter what they may look like at the time or in the beginning. Keeping our poise, even in the most difficult situations and circumstances. Empty tanks, empty beds, empty bank accounts are all old news. Keep your focus on what you want and intend to make everything right.

  • How could this work out for me?
  • What great thing could happen next?
  • How can I let this be easy?
  • Who is going to show up that I don’t even know about?

When we began dealing with Dionne’s cancer diagnosis, I told only a handful of people what was going on. We had already moved past the diagnosis and were emotionally, mentally and physically moving along the healing path. Me telling and retelling the story was not going to support my vision of her perfect health. When I told our core folks and asked them to tell others that would want to be told we said, this is going to be fine, we are working it out, cry about it as you need to, but we’re moving onward, upward and out of this.

And that’s exactly what we did. Our family and friend group followed our lead and we moved through Stage 4 breast cancer in 5 months. We’re still working our way out of that particular system, but it has come with more blessings that we can count and so many of them are human connections with beautiful, kind and loving people we’d never have had the chance to meet. What a true blessing and miracle that cancer turned out to be. And it’s true for us because we’re creating our reality consciously. These are always options when you make whatever happens “right”.

You Decide

If you want something, make a decision. Decide what you want and move in that direction. I always encourage one to decide to be happy, healthy and abundant rather than needing any specific name, place, face or thing. We only want specific things because we think they will make us FEEL specific ways. I say, let’s cut out the middle man! How do you want to feel? The feelings will bring the things. The things will only temporarily bring the feelings and then you’ll need something else to bring the feelings. Do you see this pattern?

Decide how you want to feel and move confidently in that direction.

Throughout this journey, certainly more in the beginning, if it doesn’t feel good to think about your absolute peace, boundless joy, flowing abundance and perfect health, that only means you have energy to move around (the situation) and where ever it feels tight or uncomfortable in your body… that’s where to focus first.

Our physical body is an indicator of how our current perception of the situation is lining up with our true higher, God self.
Is this the way God sees it?
Do you feel good? Yes. You are in alignment with your higher God self.
Do you feel bad? No. You are not in alignment with your higher God self

If you feel bad about something it means the way you’re looking at it doesn’t allow you to see the actual benefit of the situation. How do you begin to see the benefit? Move the energy.

Once you do that you’ll always be the one to make the decision. I want this or I don’t. You won’t be waiting around for something or someone else to decide.

It ain’t over till it’s over. Don’t give up. Relax. Give up the struggle. Move the Energy. Hold the line. Stay calm. Stay poised. Breathe. Relax and support yourself.

Tools for Tough Times

As many of us learned during the recent freak winter storm, here in Texas and beyond, it’s good to be prepared. Likewise, in this journey of consciously creating our reality there are things we need along the way. In the beginning, you need a bit more support getting moving, but later you’ll find it’s more about refining and fine tuning for your optimum experience. Below are some suggestions that have helped me through all stages of my growth.

I’ve detailed above a breathing technique that works every time. Your willingness to take the time to do it is up to you. Support yourself, or get support. Once this becomes a regular practice and habit, your life will literally be YOUR OWN.

Make lists of things you love, appreciate and are grateful for. Quick and easy focus shifter when you need to consciously and purposefully move your mind in a better direction.

Keep a journal of all the magical and marvelous things you’ve created by thinking about or focusing on them. Let yourself open to what these might be, often times we’ll not take notice. Take notice.

Write a script when you’re feeling good and loving and in the flow that you can read to yourself when you’re feeling angry, low, scared or upset. Don’t count on your own brain to come up with inspiring material when you’re feeling funky. Take the initiative to support yourself.

Get grounded in your body. Get out in nature, bare feet or lay in the grass, take a shower/be in water, clean or sweep. Turn off the electronics and touch nature. The EMF’s from so many of our electronics are constantly disrupting and scrambling our energy. Nature soothes and supports our highest vibrational alignment.

Start a self care routine, buy yourself a nice comfy robe and big mug for tea. Get comfortable getting comfortable. Notice where you are uncomfortable, soften and soothe, breathe and stretch. Get used to noticing what you feel in your body. This is where your clearest communications from the Divine are received and if you’re not paying attention you’re missing the point.

Say YES to the high vibration friends that invite you to do fun stuff. Or intend to find some. Create your own community. Start a group in your area if there isn’t one. Try this… WANTED: High Vibration Co-Creators to support each other through our Conscious Creation Journey

Get a Consciousness Coach to support you through the tricky times and help move the difficult energy that will make the rest of this journey of conscious creation an absolute ball!

Life is supposed to be fun. Imagine consciously creating your own reality
according to what would thrill and delight you. How does that feel? What does that look like?

Fall in Love With The Process

We’ve spent much of the last week in our back yard and garden enjoying the beautiful weather and stirrings of Spring. Cleaning up after a long, cold winter can be a daunting task and looking out at the visual devastation our garden suffered after this lingering, freezing winter storm we recently experienced was overwhelming.

The amount of dead to be cut back and put into the compost pile would make you think everything was lost. But, my understanding from many years previous experience, is that this is just part of the process. I can recognize all the work that needs to be done, but not get bogged down in it. I can see that despite appearances, things are working just as they should, not as I would have them. I don’t quickly give up on things that look entirely dead; I have too often seen that spark of life again spring forth when all seemed lost.

So, understanding this process and what I’m dealing with, I pick a task, just one task. Sweep/spray off the porch, vacuum/mulch leaves from a garden bed, buy/mix soil for pots… What seems to be the most easy and obvious task that will make me feel like I’ve really made some progress? What feels good to me? I understand the energy with which I undertake any task will flow forward into my next one.

Start with what feels good for you and they’ll all go that way.

Life is a process. The old saying that life is about the journey and not the destination is so true… and the journey is a process. We’re always in transition, from where we were to where we’re going.

Evolutionarily speaking our brain is here to protect our physical apparatus. So in that respect, notice, our brain constantly pointing out what’s wrong or could be dangerous is our old, caveman response. Long since useful to us, it’s now actually the most important thing we become aware of in ourselves and start to shift.

Science has proven we are influencing our reality by our focus and attention. So, knowing this information, it’s clear focusing on what is bad or wrong will only create more of what’s bad or wrong in our lives. This is a proven fact. It’s how the experimenter influences the experiment. What’s expected is often what we get. What do you expect? Is it what you want?

Whatever I’m facing in my outer physical reality is a direct reflection of my own inner conflict or struggle. If I can honestly accept that power and soften around my own personal struggles, removing my attention from the person or situation I have falsely blamed for all my worries and upsets, I can change my whole world, which includes individuals in it. I don’t force change on those around me, I create it myself by releasing the energy that created the situation in the first place.

Step by step

So, if I understand my thoughts and focus create my reality, then I would want to practice thinking and focusing on the best, most positive, productive solutions and situations I can think of.

And, if I also understand the physical sensations I feel in my body, attached to the emotions, are the reason I might have difficulty releasing the long-running negative or fearful thoughts, then I’d want to learn to relax my body and allow myself to physically feel better so I could easily shift my thoughts to ones more positive, powerful and productive.

This is all assuming we’re willing to let go of our negative attachments to everyone and everything. If my allegiance to or hatred for a group or individual leaves me red faced, chest tight, stomach clenched, huffing and puffing, it’s not good for me. Do I want to be happy or right? Does being right actually make me happy? How can I relax and more easily move through this tightness in my solar plexus, while constantly setting aside my incessant, unhelpful thoughts and support myself mentally? Bless my heart, bless my heart, bless my heart. This is the work.

If you you’re recently beginning your journey of conscious creation and your mind still tends to focus negatively in judgement or fear, relax. Anyone proficient at anything first had to learn about it and then practice. You can do this and it can be easy. Don’t argue for your own limitation. Let yourself think about how great it’s going to be and then move through any doubt you feel arise physically in your body.

This is the process to fall in love with.

This is the ticket to your own personal freedom. You’ve just been given the keys to the kingdom. You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You have the freedom to focus on, think about and create the life of your dreams. No one else is creating in your reality. Other peoples thoughts and opinions only affect you to the extent you buy into and allow them.

You are F R E E. Go forth and be happy, healthy, and prosperous.

If you understand the value of coaching and are interested in soothing and support along this very real journey of conscious creation, I’m here for you. My support is not required, you can do this alone, but it’s always easier and better together. Join me!

Higher Choices

I don’t know about you all…. but the last ten days have made me take a whole new look at my life. All aspects of my life, what I pay attention to, things I find valuable or intolerable, it’s been illuminating to say the least. As the last full year has been the absolute height of contrast, along with it comes clarity. Great contrast brings great clarity, and 6 degrees in Texas is great contrast. Thank you very much. I have never in my life been through that cold of temps for that amount of time. I’ve lived in Texas, for goodness sake!

I wrote the bulk of this blog before the SnowVid hit us here in Texas and over much of the U.S. so I was already thinking about how our choices were effecting our experience as we went through the “weather event”.

All day, every day we’re making choices. We make so many choices we don’t even realize we’re making them because habit kicks in and it’s no longer a choice. We just do what we’ve been doing. Because frankly, if we were to pay attention to every single detail in our lives all day, every day we’d go nuts.

Although… choices are fantastic! I LOVE choices. Choices are GREAT! But, there are different types of choices. There are choices that serve to move us toward what we ultimately want and there are also choices that take us further down a path we’d rather not travel. Becoming aware of this information will open you up to noticing when you’re choosing something you’d actually rather not.

We could have responded to SNOWPOCALYPSE 2021 in worrisome ways that would have us tied up and frozen (hehe) in overwhelm over a million frantic, scary scenarios that could possibly happen. (Faucets/pipes bursting, electricity going out, pool pump/pipes freezing, neighborhood kitties freezing, though we’d created a shelter) It would have been easy to freak ourselves out over any number of variables we had no control over; as I stood at the window looking at the heavily falling ice collecting on the four, large, old trees that surround our home. We didn’t do it, instead, lot’s of time spent breathing, calming and soothing that night… along with sending everything heat from the inside and singing “strength and flexibility” to all my neighborhood trees and anything else that needed it. It was a prime moment for demonstrating faith and acknowledging the powerful, physical energy that flows through our body when we feel worried or afraid. (or any strong emotion!) On that evening, I made my highest choice, I said “All is Well” and moved forward from there. We had done all of the physical work to care for our property and selves and now the work was to move the energy and soothe ourselves mentally.

Types of Choices

The lowest choice is the fearful or resentful choice. This is the choice we make because we’re afraid if we don’t do it, something bad will happen. We choose this option because we fear we have no other options. It’s the thing we do out of habit that we really want to stop doing but don’t know how. If it feels like it’s your only choice and it sucks… this is the lowest choice. This is the choice that will ensure that your next choice is crappy as well. BUT! Not to worry! We can come back from a lifetime of low choices, but we have to start looking at things a little differently. Namely, where do I feel that energy, physically in my body? Move that and all your choices get better.

Higher choices always feel better, stabilize situations and strengthen confidence. Higher choices are made from a place of peace, ease and with clear sight of our goals ahead. Choosing to take a moment to move any upsetting or unsettled energy puts us in a position to see all our choices for what they are and what they’ll bring into our lives. We can help ourselves make difficult decisions when we understand the concept of higher choices and how that looks in our everyday lives.  

Daily Choices

Participation. At what level are we participating in the conscious creation of our reality? Our recognition of how we’re making our choices and noticing when it’s by default, can help us begin consciously making better choices. Welcome the realization we’ve been on auto pilot in areas of our life for our own sanity and “self protection”. It would be too painful or difficult to really face the thing I’ve been allowing to silently guide my actions and decisions. Consciously choosing to participate in a different way sets us up for major change. All we need is to want more and be willing to take small steps to be better.

Interactions – In our interactions with others we are choosing who we want to be… the understanding, supportive, non-judgmental type, or the negative nay-sayer that craps all over everyone’s exciting ideas. We’ve all been both so don’t start being the judgmental, self righteous, know it all… yep, been that too. Who do you want to be in this world? How do you want to show up for people? How do you want people to show up for you? How do you want people to feel when they leave an interaction with you? Decide who that is and begin to make the conscious choice to be that person in all your relationships and encounters.   

Reaction/Response – In all scenarios, where we as human beings learn or are exposed to some new news or information, we have a physically felt emotion in response. Joy, upset, fear, elation, cognitive dissonance… all emotions, also physical sensations in our bodies. Just knowing this allows us to shift perspective on our initial, knee-jerk reaction. We have the choice to remain calm and allow the momentary storm of emotions and physical sensations (burning ears, pounding heart, constricted throat) to pass, or to burst out with harsh words and actions. Just knowing we have the choice makes it easier to choose a different response. We can actually choose to RESPOND rather than REACT. How great is that?!?

Energetically – We get to choose how we show up in the world energetically and physically. It is my daily intention to vibrate at the highest frequency available to me for everyone’s highest good, no exceptions. When you understand how important Energy is in your life, you’ll shift your focus from less important things and onto the foundational reasons you experiences what you do on a daily basis. Therefore, by choosing your focus you change, with relative ease, everything around you.

WordsChoosing our words is one of the major ways we’re programming ourselves and our world on a daily basis. What do I talk about most. Is it pleasing to me and exciting for others to hear? Or does it drag me down? There’s also an element of choosing and being in the right (for me) circles with people that are having the kinds of discussions that move forward, onward and upward. And if we don’t want to move forward, onward and upward, that’s our choice, and an excellent question and conversation to have with ourselves. 

Making the highest choice for ourselves isn’t always the easiest thing to do, most of the time because we’re afraid. We don’t feel we have the support, the money, the confidence, the training to go for the choice that would really bring us our highest joy and excitement. Or maybe we’re just so concerned with pleasing other people that we don’t have the will or energy to actually figure out what we’d like to do. Moving the energy around these ideas will set you free and have you thinking of all manner of things that would please and delight you.

We’ve all been indoctrinated into a system that hasn’t shared the whole truth. We’ve believed ourselves to be at the mercy of other people, money, debt, governments, the weather, you name it. But I am here to share the good news.

We are only under the control of anyone to the extent we buy into that idea. We are, after all, Vibrational Beings living in a Vibrational Universe. We can be, do or have anything we like and from right where we are is the perfect place to start. We can make the choice to change many aspects of our life simply by shifting the way we think about things, and that all happens inside the quiet of our own mind. Find the energy physically in the body, relax, breathe, support ourselves mentally. I’m here to help.

PS….. All blessings to everyone affected by this recent winter weather event here in Texas and all over the U.S. and world. I say thank you to these events for raising excellent questions in the minds of millions of Americans. This paradigm shift is happening and transparency in our government FOR the people is a big part of that. Yes, please and thank you. All blessings to everyone, no exceptions. Here’s to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness!

PPS… Shall we play game? The first person to email me with the accurate number of how many times choice/choices show up in this blog gets a F R E E session. Just count them up and send me an email (Crystal@crystalnuding.com) with the number! Good luck!

Learn to Play The Game

If you feel your life is limited by your surroundings I’d like to introduce you to the idea of Life as a Game. There are a few things happening in this Game… You’ve got the Game vs the small game and the Player vs the player/piece.

Most folks live their lives from the view point of the playing piece, as on the Monopoly board, rather than the actual hand or Player that moves the piece along throughout the entire Game.

If we don’t understand we are the Player, we will play as the piece.

And you might as well BE a hat, shoe or thimble by the amount of power given away to random and familiar people, agencies, and institutions. But, when you begin to understand the concept of life as a game, which it is (that we absolutely came here to play!), you can relax about the things and situations that upset you.

The Game of life is about evolving into the highest version and ideal of ourselves that chooses Love easily and effortlessly in every instant. Everyone is playing this game, that is the point of this physically manifested universe; a playground to learn to love.

The small game of life is about acquiring things, money, status, power. Most people are stuck in this game. Surviving our childhoods but carrying our old hurts and fears around creating more of the same and blaming someone else for it happening.

In the Game of life we are the Player, the Player sees the whole board and understands the moves made by other Players and makes the best moves based on the wider perspective and understanding of how the game works.

In the small game of life we are the player/piece. As the player/piece we’re an object moved around a board, with no input or power, subject to the whims of a drawn card, taxes or overpriced rentals. Go to jail. Go directly to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Dang.

I don’t know about you, but I am here to Play this Game.

My days of being the player/piece that mindlessly gets knocked about by “bad news” or disappointments are long since gone. Being the Player is a much more thoughtful and rich experience. Players feel the full extent of the emotions around any subject or situation and make sound and stable decisions from a place of peace and loving awareness.

If you’re not familiar with these ideas and still find yourself needing other people to be different for you to be happy, I send you all my blessings. This isn’t for everyone. Some people like the small game drama of family fights, disagreements and hospital visits. And everyone gets to have the experience they want. It’s called Free Will.

As the Player we understand we actually chose our most difficult personal experiences from which to learn and grow. But if, as the player/piece we’re unwilling or unable to find a higher perspective, no worries, in this game of life a similar situation will keep coming around. It will happen over and over again in our life, in the lives of our children and in the lives of their children. Until someone along that line wakes up and starts Playing the Game.

Learning to Play this Game is the most important work you will ever do. It changes the work required of you. It releases the drama and fighting, the illness, anxiety, lack, fear and disease. It opens you up to experience true peace in your heart which shifts all manner of circumstances and situations.

If you are ready to feel more in control of your own life and want support in learning to Play the Game, I’m here to help!

Change Your Words

Florence Scovel Shinn told us, “we can’t change our thoughts, but we can change our words”.
Yes, Please and Thank you!

One of the first steps to changing our thoughts IS changing our words. And once we get clear on how to better support ourselves in changing our words, our world changes with us.

How to begin…

Without making any major change in your own life, behaviors or actions, start by noticing how folks around you use their words. Are they making people feel better or worse? Are they calming and soothing the situation or starting shit and fanning flames? You can always tell, your body being a clear indicator. Do you feel like lingering or running away? This exercise in awareness will help you become conscious of the energy present in any situation. Do you want to hang out? Or is it time to skedattle? And whether the energy you’re feeling is your own or someone else’s, becoming consciously aware you’re feeling it is a HUGE part of this game.

Lightly intend to notice how it physically feels to be around your favorite and not so favorite people.

Who are your favorite people to be around?
Who always gives you a lift?
Who exhausts and gives you a headache when you walk away from them?
What are the things about each that you enjoy or don’t?
What are they always talking about?

How to Change Your Words

Making a list can help to organize and clarify information so we can begin noticing the patterns that swirl through our existence. So, once you get better at noticing how people, conversations and situations make you FEEL physically, in your body, you can start moving through the energy that will clear out the irritations and bring in more high vibe, life changing experiences.

Change your words by finding better thoughts and phrases that match what you’re looking to create and write them down. Affirmations are helpful when you’re in struggle and can’t easily access those light, forward thinking, helpful thoughts. Make your list and keep it handy. Repeat them often. Look at them often. Put them up on your bathroom mirror. Set an alarm on your phone that goes off multiple times a day with the affirmations you’re relaxing into.

These can be your own thoughts or ones you borrow from someone else. The most important thing is that you feel good saying it, you buy it, you want it.

Some of my favorite affirmations are from The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn and Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. I have had these books around for over 20 years and will browse through and find loving and soothing insights into anything I might need to soften around.

As you move into your journey of noticing how things make you feel and hearing the words from yourself and others that instigate these feelings, you’ll discover a treasure trove of information that will make your life infinitely easier to navigate.

Becoming aware of our own physical and emotional responses helps us relax around most situations. You’ll be able to feel that familiar feeling in your chest or stomach when faced with a certain situation and then laugh realizing it’s a childhood trigger. Softening around the tension and breathing slowly and deeply allows the moment to pass and releases you from the trigger. When we can mentally support ourselves through emotional or physical discomfort is when we become reality creating ninjas. Change your words, change your life.

Some of my faves and go to phrases…

I love and approve of myself.
Every day, in every way, I get better and better.
I receive all the benefit and release all the detriment.
We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe.
It’s all energy and it’s all moving.
Yes, Please and Thank you!
Bless my heart, Bless my heart, Bless my heart!
I am healthy, whole and complete.
My body is in perfect balance and harmony.
I am willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that has created this condition.
I lovingly allow joy to flow freely in my life.

I am health. I am wealth. I am happiness. I am joy.
God is my immediate and unending supply to every demand.

Use any of these or come up with your own. Words that move, motivate and inspire you will have the most powerful impact.

Here’s to your ultimate health, happiness and abundance, I’m here to help!

Let me know if you have questions or need support around something specific. How can I help you let go of what no longer serves you so that you might live a lighter, happier life?

New Year, New Year!

Happy New Year! Here’s to 2021 bringing you and yours all good things.

I don’t know about you, but 2020 was very enlightening for me. I got clear on a LOT of what I don’t want, which in turn gave me immense clarity on what I DO want. Yes, please and thank you.

We are right now in a time of enormous contrast as The Great Awakening lifts us through the shift of paradigms. The old way of doing things is just OLD. Jeez. So much of our technology and thinking are absolutely caveman in nature. Though I’m not curious as to why. The freedom inducing information I share with you is simple and releases you (and EVERYONE) from bondage of any type, be it of your own making or by the manipulation of others.

One such type of bondage and manipulation is being attached to outcomes. When you KNOW you’re creating your reality you recognize them as transient, only lasting as long as you give them your attention. When you’re creating your reality, you can allow any situation to look anyway it looks and still turn out in your own favor. Or better than that… for EVERYONE’S highest good. (At one point during Dionne’s journey through cancer she weighed around 87lbs, I was able to see her and still know everything was working out and it did. )

So many times in my life I’ve worried over one thing or another, only to have it work out. Maybe not in the way I initially wanted or expected, but absolutely worked out to my benefit. And even in my victory, often the joy was short lived.

Have you ever gotten what you wanted only to realize it didn’t make you happy?

In my mid 20’s I called it my If/Then syndrome. I realized I kept needing something to happen, then I could be happy.

If this would only happen… then I’ll feel better. Then I’ll be happy. Then I’ll start doing this or stop doing that.”

And most of the time what I felt needed to happen was for someone else to do something differently. Act different, be different.

Ahhhhhh. Bless my heart. Even though I understood the truth of me being the only thing that needs to change on a deep and fundamental level, I continued to have and sometimes casually entertain those if/then thoughts for years; but, at least I had figured out what I was doing.

I didn’t have to make all the changes at one time. I just had to begin noticing when I would say it out loud, and then after more practice, when I thought it. I might get a few sentences into the scenario or replay in my mind and then have to stop myself. Allow myself to breathe and relax, soothe myself about whatever was upsetting me and let myself come down.

The power of acknowledging my own thoughts and making a conscious decision to go or not go with them, came after years of practice. But, it doesn’t have to take as long you might think.

What I’ve found to be most important aspect in freeing ourselves, and by the way, I’ve thought A LOT about this…. is RADICAL HONESTY. You have to be honest with yourself. I mean, really and truly honest. It’s your best bet. You don’t have to be honest with anyone else. But, what I’ve also noticed is, if you ARE truly, radically honest with yourself, you won’t feel the need to be dishonest with other people.

Anytime you feel upset mentally or emotionally or feel any pain physically in your body, ask yourself a few questions. Start with a few deep breaths, give an audible (bless my heart) AHHHHHHH on the out breath. Relax and notice the relief in your body after each breath. Ask the questions I’ve included below and then notice what comes up for you. It’s a good idea to write them down to begin with and then write down your answers. That will be a clear black and white indicator of what direction your thoughts are taking you. When you keep all these thoughts wrapped up tight in the quiet of your mind you can convince yourself they’re smart and good and serving you… even when you know they make your stomach clench and your chest tight.

Whatever your answers are, write them down. You’ll then have a clearer picture of what the core issue is and have a definite and easier place to start.

  • What are my thoughts about the situation?
  • Are they really true?
  • Why do I think that?
  • Are these my own true thoughts/beliefs based on my own experience or did they come from someone else?
  • What emotions am I feeling? Name each and give a number 1 being least to 10 being worst.
  • What are the physical sensations in my body? Name and give a number for each 1 being least to 10 being worst.

Scenario / Emotion / Physical Sensation
This situation / scares me / and I feel it in my stomach.

That exercise in and of itself will give you much more relief than if you just sat around thinking all of these same things. But even more than that, it gives you a road map for moving forward, onward and upward through any difficulties or anxiety inducing situations.

Most of our worst mistakes and errors are made in moments of upset when we speak or act before really assessing the situation honestly within ourselves.

Some people aren’t ready for that level of honesty, even if it is just with themselves. BUT! I know you’re out there. You, who want to let that shit go. YOU who want to move forward in your life and leave behind all of the old thoughts, ideas and habits that have kept you from feeling the way you want to feel and enjoying the health and life you hope for.

My way of moving through the world isn’t for everyone. Some folks still want to blame others for their bad behavior, all while ignoring their own shortcomings and mistakes. Some want to keep talking over and over about things that irritate and frustrate them without first feeling through the energy and acknowledging their own part in creating the problem. This is how the many humans behave, to some extent or another.

Let THEM and YOURSELF completely off the hook. We’re human after all. The great news is… just hearing this new information, and knowing it’s a possibility opens you up to experiencing it.

So, whatever you might think you need this new year, it’s nothing outside of yourself. With a few tools you can get where ever you want to go, from where ever you are, and easier than you think. This new year can be the best new year with just a little effort.

Starting with an earnest desire to be healthy, happy and free from your own crappy thoughts and habits requires you to be radically honest with yourself. And when you do, you’ll begin to understand why you are the way you are and the reasons behind why you do what you do.

You’ll begin to understand yourself and others in a way that eases you off the hamster wheel of blaming and complaining. You’ll not feel the need to protect or defend yourself and will be a softer more forgiving and understanding person. We’re all in this together, by the way; Where we go one, we go all. And as we lighten up, the collective conscious lightens up with us. So even though not everyone can or is willing to do these things, as we move further and further along this path of love and understanding, we’ll bring them with us. We’re shifting our collective momentum out of struggle and anger into ease and flow.

No rush, no pressure, no stress. Relax and allow all to be as it is and it will get better. Struggling to force things to happen only prolong the experience you’re trying to move through. I see people all the time that want to see immediate change or 100% relief from an issue they’ve been creating for years. Understand that it CAN be immediate, but you have to be willing to LET things happen. If you’ll settle for a little better and a little bit better, you’ll soon find things to be MUCH better faster than you realized. Because as we focus on “better” everything in our world changes. So if you start this new year focusing on what’s even better than before, you’ll get things even better than that.

So how about letting this New Year be a really, really New Year? A year in which you let go of asking, “What’s wrong?” and start to ask “What’s going right in your world?” Change the direction of your thoughts, mental focus a little every day by noticing what you’re thinking and feeling. Just notice. Once you begin to notice more quickly, you’ll be able to shift more easily.

Here’s to your ultimate happiness! Which is what everyone wants. We are always willing to spend the time and money on the things we want… that often doesn’t actually make us feel the way we want to feel. The trick is to figure out how to WANT to spend the time and money on the things that will ACTUALLY get us where we want to go.

I’m rooting for you. Let me know in the comments below what’s right in your world and what you’re looking forward to in this new and exciting 2021.

Happiest New Year of your LIFE.

Now get out there and create it.

Transcending Cancer

Practical solutions and first-hand testimony for gracefully moving through cancer.

No kittens were harmed (or actually juggled) during the taking of this hilarious photo taken in October 2020. What chemo? Look at that HAIR! Humor is the BEST.

In July of 2019 we got the diagnosis, Dionne had stage 4 breast cancer and it had metastasized into her spine causing multiple compression fractures. Her last chemo treatment was December 20th, 2019. And today December 28th of 2020, Dionne is out on the golf course (yes, we live in Texas). In the grand scheme of things it didn’t take too long, but sometimes it felt like an eternity. It was upsetting and frustrating and scary at times. But, we made it through.

From wherever you are, you can get to where you want to be.

You just have to want it and be willing to do a few things that will make the rest of it much, much easier.

You have to take responsibility for your own health, happiness and choices.

You have to be willing to feel uncomfortable without making things worse by believing the scary things your mind is telling you about what’s going on or could happen.

You have to be willing to change, first and foremost, the way you think.

The way you look at challenges and difficulties and the perspectives you choose makes your road exceedingly tough or remarkably easy.

Lots of folks just want a pill… so they don’t have to change anything. But, things have to change if you want something to be different. But, no worries, it doesn’t have be harder, on the contrary it will be so much easier when you support yourself mentally and focus on things in a way that supports you and everyone around you.

It’s OK if you feel overwhelmed and afraid or hopeless. Just because you FEEL that, doesn’t make it TRUE. There is always hope. It’s only a breath away. As you relax, breathe and allow your difficult moment or feelings to pass, your mind begins to open up. Options and opportunities that you couldn’t see before now become available to you.

I’ve created a page for Cancer Support. Listen to three podcasts specifically focused on the ways we moved Dionne through the worst part of her journey in 5 months and check out the resources that we researched and used to support her body through the process of healing.

Please share this with anyone that needs it or is open to this information. I’m offering a free soothing session to anyone dealing with a cancer diagnosis for themselves or a loved one. Email me at Crystal@crystalnuding.com to schedule.

Anything is possible and things can change in an instant.

I’m here supporting you and holding the vision of perfect health for you and your family. It’s all energy and it’s all moving. I love you so much. This too shall pass, we are living proof.

Nice and Easy

When you realize that you’re actually involved with the creation of your own reality, you begin to see things in a much different way. You appreciate the synchronicities that add fun and playfulness to what can otherwise be boring and repetitive life activities.

I’ve been telling folks for a while now that life is supposed to be fun and easy. There’s plenty of “work” to be done but it doesn’t have to be miserable drudge work. We should all be playing to our own strengths and doing things that are fun and easy for us while making a living doing it. Not struggling to make it through a day of work that doesn’t remotely fulfill us and sucks every bit of life energy we have out of us. Bless all the hearts that do that. I was one, more that once, for longer that I cared to. BUT. It’s all good information. When we learn from our own life experiences what works and doesn’t work for us we can begin making the changes that will provide the biggest, easiest and most beneficial shifts in our feelings, emotions and actual physical situations.

When I turned on my music station, while setting our space for coffee and morning chats, a song by Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong came on, They All Laughed. It’s about being ok going for the thing you want because the most successful and prominent inventors and change makers were laughed at. People that have shifted consciousness and the way things happened in the world were ridiculed and laughed at because other’s were unable to share their vision. But, who actually got the last laugh?

So while I was laughing, singing and dancing around enjoying my very clear cue from the Divine, another one came along. The song directly after that one was Nice ‘n’ Easy by Frank Sinatra. Hell yes, people! You can’t make this stuff up. Nice and easy does it every time. It’s so true!! Yes, please and thank you.

I realized a while ago that it’s vitally important for me to succeed in my nice and easy way, because IF NOT ME, WHO?

Who else is telling you it’s ok to relax?

Who else is telling you “don’t do what I want you to do, but what YOU want to do”?

Who’s telling you to listen to your own heart above anything else and tune into your own intuition?

If you have people surrounding you telling you these things, congratulations!! You’re ahead of the curve. You’re creating a reality that supports you fully and completely.

But if you still live in a reality where anyone (parents, children, boss, spouse…) have very specific rules YOU need to follow to make THEM happy, you’re most certainly not alone.

It’s really ok to find yourself here, because NOW you can find your way out. Beginning to realize and raising your level of conscious awareness around what you’re “actually” doing is the key first step to any journey.

I’m here to support you on that journey!! I’m on it myself. It’s what we’re here to do… support each other on our journeys. I’m currently working on a book and podcast for your absolute support and my heart bursting need to share this loving, soothing, calming, nice and easy information. So, if you’re into what I’m sharing and have an interest in trading your applicable skills for sessions, I’m all ears! Reach out and let’s chat!

Let’s let it be Nice ‘n’ Easy, shall we?

Moving Through the Don’t Wants

So often, the first thoughts that come to mind when we learn new information that might be contrary to our immediate desires is… I don’t want THAT!

I don’t want this to happen, I don’t want to have to DO that, I don’t want it to be hard/sad/ upsetting. I DON”T WANT THAT!

Ahhhh. Bless our very human hearts. Welcome to humanity.

But, not to worry!

Can you begin to notice when your thoughts start with “don’t want”?

Can you begin to relax and breathe around “not wanting” something specific to happen?

Can you stop, breathe and feel where you feel that particular “don’t want” in your body?

Noticing the direction of these thoughts, softening around the physical sensations in the body and breathing slowly and deeply will help you move through the energy behind the “don’t wants”.

What are the “don’t want’s” anyway? Truths? No. Warnings? No. Good information? YES!

How about indicators of energy surrounding an old circumstance or situation that keeps you repeating the same old patterns that feel like this. Old, outdated, worn out, played out, exhausting, ridiculous, tired ideas born in childhood or early life (or anytime!). Picked up from our being in the situation we were in, having the experience we were having and not knowing the bad feeling was an indicator of our perspective.

Perhaps we saw something upsetting happen and instead of being of the perspective that it was a bad and unfortunate thing that I don’t have to experience, I took it as a pathway of things I would eventually have to experience.

Armed with this new knowledge, move as quickly as possible through the physical sensation of the “don’t want” and be ever so sweet and kind to yourself. Often we were told to suck it up and quit crying. This was good for helping “someone” to not feel bad, but not so great for the one stuffing down the emotion; to then have to feel over and over again through their lives until they find out how to let it go and move on.

But! LEARN you WILL and MOVE ON you SHALL!

It’s all energy and it’s all moving. We are Vibrational Beings living in a Vibrational Universe. Relax into what that truly means. Relax into allowing yourself to have the life you truly want. You can allow the life that would make you so happy and set you on fire with creativity and excitement.

What do you want?

Let the answer to this one be about the way you want to feel. Let’s stop projecting negatively into our future and shooting our own selves in the foot. Let’s think about the most productive way to get ourselves to where we want to be.

How do you want to feel?

How you want to feel is what you’re always going for. So, skip what you think you need to make you feel that way and just focus on feeling that way. Happy, healthy, joyful, abundant, prosperous, peaceful, easy, creative, excited, successful. Write these things down and think about how it feels to feel this way. Spend more time thinking about this than thinking about anything you “don’t want”.

Because when you know that what you focus only creates more of that, you’re more selective in what you focus on. And when you’ve moved through the energy of the “don’t want’s” it’s a heck of a lot easier to do that.

Here’s to feeling it all and letting it move.

I love you dearly and support you fully.

Vibrant Health

With all we see going on in the world, I wanted to share a reminder about the brilliant design of our physical bodies and the universe.

Our body’s ability to heal itself is miraculous and available to each of us.

Beside controlling our thoughts and emotions, boosting our immune systems and detoxing from all the chemicals in our environment is our best and safest bet when it comes to fighting harmful bacteria or viruses. [Actually, our bodies are MADE of these things that serve us very well. Exposure is our ally… along with fresh air and food, clean water, good sleep and moving our bodies]

Two weeks into the personal/global slowdown/reset… the canals of Venice were clear and dolphins, fish and swans could be seen swimming about. From Mumbai, the Himalayas became visible for the first time in 30 years, birds showed up in LA and sheep came down from the hills and grazed in lawns around London. What a blessing this has been to our planet and its inhabitants!

This is the shift in paradigms I’ve been going on and on about. Yes, please and Thank you!

I’m linking what I put together from the research and information we gathered and used to get Dionne through stage FOUR cancer in FIVE months.
I’ve included links to products, videos and information to support you in learning more about natural ways to support your perfect health.

Aside from the physical action steps you can take to support yourself and family, the very most important factor is your thoughts and focus. Everything works or NOTHING works based on your beliefs and current mental state. That means no medicine, surgery or modality works if you don’t consciously support it. And to the contrary, the most simple and easy solution works if you believe in it.

I love you so much and have missed communicating regularly. But, sometimes big things have to happen to shake up the status quo. I say Yes and Thank you! This has been the most transformative time for me and I’m learning new things about myself and the world daily.

What have you learned about yourself during this time? What adjustments and changes have you made to your lifestyle? What have you noticed about the world around you? What do you want your new normal to feel like?

I’m here for you if you have any questions or need support. Please look through this information to see what you’re already doing or what you can add easily. Small steps are the most powerful and important when creating true and lasting change.

I love you dearly and can’t wait to hug your neck.
PS… Feel free to share this with anyone who needs it. 💚

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