What’s Right?

Spring Lake, San Marcos TX

What if we spent more time asking each other, “What’s right?”

What if we began looking at every situation in our lives and asking ourselves a question that would serve us rather than bring us more problems?

I know, when someone walks into the room looking upset, gloomy or mad our curiosity gets the best of us. That part of us that cranes our neck to see the horrific accident or unfolding tragedy needs to know what’s wrong. Just tell me what’s wrong and I can relax. Not.

It truly is human nature. What’s wrong? Tell me what’s wrong. What’s wrong with me, with you, with this situation, with our government, our schools, our parents, our kids. Let’s get to the bottom of this! Let’s find out what caused this trouble so we can all point at it and shake our heads in righteous indignation. Oh that is SO WRONG.

I understand. I really do. I’m human too. I understand fear. I understand anxiety. I understand heartache. I understand loss. I understand uncertainty and pain. We all do. We’re not alone. We are all living exactly the same and completely different human experiences.

What can we do to help ourselves through these difficult emotions and times in our lives? How can we better support ourselves in the moment?  (And what would it take for us to want to figure out what creates these scenarios and situations over and over?)

What if we ask ourselves “What’s right about this situation?”

I know. I know. That’s a big, huge, enormous question in the midst of all that’s wrong. But, what if asking what’s right gave you a different perspective?

What if asking what’s right helped you to see what is right about this seeming tragedy in front of you?

Give it a shot. What have you got to lose? You’ve already been asking what’s wrong all this long time. How’s that working out for you? Asking “what’s wrong” has been and always will be lining you up vibrationally with more and more things you find wrong.

Decide now to begin asking “What’s right?”

I know that in the middle of confusion and upset asking what’s right about the situation feels weird, but go with it. Notice where the energy comes up in your body and feel through it. Relax and soothe yourself with such tenderness and love.

What harm could come from it? A positive perspective? You actually feeling better?

You might discover that you’re holding on to an old belief about yourself or others that’s creating this irritation or problem. Maybe you’re so focused on the problem that you’re totally missing the blessing that is your release from a dead-end job or relationship that was keeping you from having the money, love or support you deserve.

I remember thinking years back that I was ready for a new car. I loved my other car but some things were going wonky and I couldn’t seem to find a way to get them fixed. Not long after, on a 6am drive with my son to his high school for morning practice, were were rear-ended. It totaled the car. After my moment (about an hour or maybe half a day?) I realized I had been wanting a new car but wasn’t taking the steps to make it happen. I didn’t think I could afford it.

The universe showed me I could. I got another car, new to me and much better. I love my car so much. It feels so good to drive it. I enjoy just thinking about it.

In the moment, though, I was not pleased. Not pleased. Quite irritated and upset even. My son was driving. I was angry at the driver, angry it was six o’clock in the morning, angry my iced tea got poured into my lap. As soon as I jumped out of the passenger seat to see who had done this, I saw the culprit. A woman with two small children in her car and another vehicle behind her with two more small children. My initial anger dissipated into frustration and some compassion. Bless their hearts. We’re all up early shuttling our kids around. It was rainy and shit happens.

After all was said and done I sat in the drivers seat of my new car and laughed. This is what was right about that situation. I wanted a new car, needed one, but wasn’t taking the steps to make that happen. The universe gave me a little nudge.

What are you being nudged to do?

Think back over your life and recognize how many things have happened you first judged as bad that actually turned out better than you ever expected.

Now, look at a current struggle, take a deep breath and ask yourself “What’s right?”

There’s a perspective in every situation that serves you, but you have to be looking for it to find it. I am seeing you seeing it.

Sending all my love and support,

XOXO
Crystal

 

Looking Back

Spring SedumHave you ever noticed yourself in a situation where you find your mind projecting itself forward into the future and seeing your failure in this moment or an outcome you’d prefer not to have? It’s that crazy thing your mind does to keep you stuck exactly where you are, rather than allowing yourself to expand and fly to the heights and places you dream of going.

Well, I found myself there yesterday and it was a powerful moment.

We were out having a yard walk. Looking at the peas coming up in our garden, a few baby peaches that didn’t freeze, flowers, birds and bugs. I noticed a patch of sedum that is blooming so beautifully I wanted to take a picture of it.

As I was kneeling down and getting closer to it pulling some grass that was coming up in the middle that might disrupt my picture I heard myself saying. “Looking back, I knew that was a great place for a snake to hide and scare me.” YIKES. What? My heart started pounding and I recognized how in that moment I was planning to be scared.

A little side note… we had a rat snake that lived in our shed last year over the spring. She would scare the crap out of me when I’d open the door and see her up at eye level, on the third shelf, resting with one of her babies. (I decided she was the only snake alive to have laid just one egg… the alternative was more than I could stand.)

But her eyes were round, almost human, and she would just look at me as I’d shiver and breathe heavy for a moment. I’d tell her to stay put, I was just coming in for the shovel or rake. Nothing to worry about, no need to make any sudden movements. Whew. After several months of her gentle presence and noticing there were absolutely no scurrying sounds in the shed when we’d enter my feelings changed.

So, back to present tense, the true snake fear I had has all but melted. I know what I’m looking for and I am cautious and aware of my surroundings when out digging around, pulling weeds or picking up trash. I’ve got this.

So, in the moment of me telling myself a scary story, I thought, “What a great idea!” Ha! What if we told those “looking back” stories, not of failure and fear, but in a way that actually served us?

What if we took that very moment of planning for the worst and began planning for something we’d prefer?

Looking back… I knew this was going to make a beautiful picture; I am always aware of my surroundings and completely safe.

Looking back… I knew everything was working out for me. I have the love and support of family, friends and the vast resources of the God and the universe.

Looking back… I see how silly it was for me to worry that things wouldn’t work out for me because I had plenty of evidence supporting my happiness and success.

Looking back… I always knew I would be a mother, I just got a little scared and discouraged for a bit, much too focused on what hadn’t shown up yet.

Looking back… I knew that job was mine, I just had to let go of the fears and worry I wasn’t good enough.

Looking back… I always knew I could lose the weight and feel happy, healthy and vital I just had to stop beating myself up about where I was. Boy, I’m glad I did!

We’ve got to change the stories we tell ourselves in our minds. We have to decide we are going to succeed, be happy, regain our health, find our perfect partner or make tons of money and then support ourselves in moving that direction.

I can think of so many more negative or scary stories my mind has tried to “look back” on while I was in the present moment. Bless our hearts. I know I’m not alone. It truly is just a function of our minds constantly trying to protect us. When we fully grasp this concept the fear dissipates.

Lightly intend to recognize this, moment by moment when our thoughts are swirling around upsetting, limited or lack filled scenarios and tell a better story. Think of the greatest outcome and begin to describe it to yourself. Let yourself relax into peace, winning and success.

Our minds can’t tell the difference between what’s “real” and what we’re imagining, so begin imagining the things you’d most like to have and watch yourself begin attracting those things into your life.

How would you like your life to be when you “look back” on it? Begin seeing and visualizing it that way now. Relax around your scary mind stories, be consistent with your focus and you can’t go wrong.

Sending you much love, soothing and support.

Start “looking back” on your life right now, envisioning your success, happiness, health and abundance.

Share your “looking back” better feeling story with us and we can hold the vision of your fabulous life with you! One lucky sharer with receive a free Rave Session with me to help you get your energy moving confidently in the direction of what you’d most love. Good luck!

Weekly Photo Challenge – Perspective

Interesting that perspective is this weeks photo-challenge.

It’s so important for us to realize that our lives are completely about the perspective we hold.

When we’re troubled by something, we tend to look at it very closely. Examining and taking notes of every little think that we don’t like.

But, if we can take a few steps back from the situations the true reality can come into focus.

I love the series of pictures I took below on a trip with my (Dionne’s) family to Guatemala. We were hiking up Pacaya, one of Guatemala’s most active volcanoes.

As I thought of our challenge today, this felt like the perfect opportunity share a deeper perspective on perspectives.

The first picture I took was of course, close up.

Up close

Up close you can the small details.

But after the first picture I noticed a little more around my subject….

A little wider perspective begins to show even more details

A little wider perspective begins to show even more

My next picture was of the grand view. Not of us huffing and puffing our way up the volcano. But the true majesty of what we were experiencing.

Get the full perspective.

Allow yourself to see the full perspective.

This was much, much more than our aching limbs and labored breathing. Our momentary response to our current situation.

Taking a few steps back to notice what’s going on around us and how small we are in the grand scheme of things changes more that just our physical view.

We can begin to see the beauty of the big picture.

We can soothe ourselves through the momentary struggle to find beauty waiting patiently to assure us all is well.

Check out another blog I wrote about perspective.

Sending much love, soothing, peace, ease and flow to all,

Crystal

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Juxtaposition

We had a flood here on the Blanco River on Halloween night. We went out the next day to see how everything looked. The powerful water that came through the area did some rearranging.

Signs Web

Clean up after your pets… and cactus and fisherman.

Misplaced Tree

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Beginning

That beautiful first blush...

That beautiful first blush…

I know it’s January, but like many of my gardening friends my thoughts are never far from Spring. The memory of morning walks in my garden to discover tomatoes beginning to ripen makes my heart skip a beat.

Enjoy your Winter and the experience of going within but know that Spring always comes and the time for our silent seeds to emerge will be here before you know it.

Seeing this being a peaceful season of quiet internal growth for you that culminates in beautiful bounties you didn’t know you could create.

Love and Blessings,
Crystal

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Weekly Photo Challenge – Grand

The landscape, like the people of Guatemala... beautiful.

The landscape, like the people of Guatemala… beautiful.

Our view from the fabulous Sunset Cafe looking over Lake Atitlan in Panajachel, Guatemala.

My heart bursts with love and appreciation for this beautiful place and it’s warm and loving inhabitants. Our experiences along with the views were indeed grand.

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Weekly Photo Challenge – Unexpected

One morning at the lake, Dionne brought me a cup of coffee. We relaxed and enjoyed the morning.

Just relaxing with a cup of coffee...

Relaxing with a cup of coffee enjoying the morning

Imagine my surprise when I saw this peeking up at me through my coffee.

Unexpected Visitor (1 of 2)

It’s nice and warm in here!

It's getting a little chilly...

It’s getting a little chilly…

This was my favorite coffee cup that I went for every morning at the lake. Our last visit, I got the news that my little friend is no longer with us. I’m so happy I have the pictures!

Here’s to great coffee, unexpected companions and morning conversations!

It’s pretty darn wet and chilly in my part of the world. I’m sending you all the warmth of love and compassion as you get ready to host or travel for Thanksgiving.

Blessings, soothing, peace, ease and flow to you today and everyday!

Love you so much!

Crystal

Weekly Photo Challenge: Eerie

After taking this first shot, I noticed him there calling out to me…

Old Man River

Old Man River

Old Man River

It seemed the soul of the fallen tree was calling out to be noticed.

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Weekly Photo Challenge – Horizon

Clouds

Just up the road to the river…

That beautiful sky was our view driving up to our favorite spot on the Guadalupe river.

Heaven is a place on earth.

Heaven is a place on earth.

Heading home we were treated to a magnificent rain storm and a full double rainbow.

Note: If you’ve seen the youtube video of the guy filming the double rainbow you get somewhat of an idea how I was reacting. It was amazingly beautiful and I was beside myself. I have no shame.

OMG. It's a FULL Double Rainbow!!

OMG. It’s a FULL Double Rainbow!!

Rainbow Horizon

The rain slowed so I could roll the window down.

Full Rainbow Horizon

I could see the whole rainbow, end to end.

These shots were taken with my cell phone from the car with me turned completely around in the passengers seat.

It was a beautiful site to behold and I am so happy I witnessed it and now get to share it with you.

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Focus Forward

ThroughTheTrees - San Marcos River

As you give thought to your future—your future that may be 10 years; your future that may be 5 years; or your future that is 60 days away—you literally begin pre-paving. And then, as you move into those pre-paved moments, and as that future becomes your present, you fine-tune it by saying, This, is what I now want. And all of those thoughts that you have put forth about your future, right down to this moment when you are now intending what action you want to take, will all fit together to bring you precisely that which you now want to live.

— Abraham
Excerpted from the book “The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham”

I absolutely loved this Abraham quote. When we are in difficult situations or faced with ugly truths we tend to focus on the right now circumstances of our lives. Which, in moments of joy and happiness is great, but when things don’t look the way you want them to, can be painful to bear. In these hard times, the only thing to do is focus forward.

Think about how good it will feel just a few days, weeks or months from now when everything is as you’d like it to be.

Plan on it, say to yourself and everyone you know and love, “No worries, it’s all coming.” And then start imagining what it will look like when it gets here. Don’t allow yourself to stay focused on what you don’t want. Take a deep breath, relax and know it will work out. It can be hard for us to believe that our minds don’t always have the right answers and that sometimes(most times) until you are consciously focusing on what you want, it actually makes things worse.

Your focus on how you want it to be is the most important thing you can do
to bring about the results you want.

Give yourself the chance to create what you want instead of repeating old scenarios again and again. Let the last time be the last time and move on. No worries. No big deal. That’s how we previously did things, but we’re doing this now.

We think over 70,000 thoughts per day and the majority of those thoughts are the same as yesterday. Focusing forward moves yourself closer to what you actually do want.

When you allow what’s wrong to just flow by you(through your life experience) without fanfare, it doesn’t stick around. The situation will pass and you will be more aware of what you’d prefer to happen next time.

But, when we shout about it, fight about it, blog about it, Facebook it, Tweet it, think about it and discuss it with multiple friends and family members, it can’t help but repeat itself. And then you get to say, “See, I told you so. I knew this was going to happen. This always happens.”

But is that what you really want? No, it’s not. You may think it makes you feel better to “vent”, but you’re only hurting yourself(and the person that has to listen to it). Give yourself 5 minutes with one person to bitch about whatever you need to bitch about and then be done with it.

You want peace, ease, wellness, happiness, relief, health, harmony, joy, excitement, abundance, satisfaction, fulfillment… am I on the right track? Thought so.

Don’t ask why or what else could go wrong? Why only gets you more wrapped up in the trouble at hand and what else is creatively asking for more of what you don’t want.

If you want something different to happen in your world, you’ve got to begin to think differently. Allow yourself to feel through whatever comes up in your moment of upset, but begin to change the way you think about problems… Interesting situation. I wonder how this is going to work out in my favor? Forget that problems even exist. Forget them. Think about the solutions.

Focus forward with these questions. Don’t try to answer them. Just ask and let the universe deliver.

  • What is my true hearts desire?
  • How will it feel when I’ve gotten what I wanted?
  • How can it be easier?
  • Who could help?
  • How can I allow myself to allow more help?
  • How good will I feel when I’ve allowed the easiest solution?
  • How much easier will my life be when I think only in terms of solutions?
  • How fun and exciting will it be when I no longer see life’s problems as problems?

Now, just start making a note of everything that is working out for you. Make a list of things you want and start watching for them to show up.

Keep living your life and doing what you need to do, just notice when coincidences happen or synchronicities show up. Take them as cues that you’re on the right track and let it encourage you to keep your focus on the end result.

If you need help letting go of some old scenarios(heartache/heartbreak/anger/guilt/shame/resentment), I’m here to help. Don’t let your past steal your joyous now. Let that go and live your life.

Life is good and fun and it’s supposed to be easy. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking that struggle is honorable. While those who struggled before us certainly deserve their honor, we don’t have to struggle any more.

Life is easier than we let it be. I can help you let it be easy.

Much Love to you,
Crystal