Roll With It, Baby

Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.

We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.

My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.

I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.

Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.

I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.

It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.

Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.

But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.

Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.

Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.

There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.

It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.

I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.

If you’re struggling right now, hold on.

Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.

In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)

I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.

By the way… it’s Friday.

Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…

How To Get Pregnant (or whatever you want)

Alright, alright. Everyone just settle down. Let’s be adults here. I’m assuming you all watched HBO as children or peaked through your fingers during a movie when your parents said to cover your eyes. Hell, maybe they even talked to you about it. Whatever the case. You know the basics.

What I’m here to tell you is how to help yourself energetically while doing the things you know you gotta do… physically.

First, if you’ve been struggling and/or spending large amounts of time and money to try and make this happen, take a deep breath and relax. As a matter of fact, take a few deep breaths. Bless your heart. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how frustrating, upsetting or possibly devastating this must be for you and your partner. I love you so much and am here to help.

You can get pregnant and you can have a healthy, happy baby.

Once you’ve tried a few or more times and things didn’t work out, you got nervous and scared that you couldn’t and began feeling a deep longing for something you feel you can’t have. That feeling may be in your heart, or your stomach. You possibly feel it throughout your chest area and up into your neck and throat. This aching pain and discomfort is actually your ticket to a baby.

Notice what your mind is saying to you as you feel the physical discomfort in your body. What emotions are swirling around that feeling? Sadness, worry, anger, frustration, fear, longing?

Take another few deep breaths, in through your nose, filling your belly first, then your chest, hold for a couple of seconds and exhale. Do this a few times allowing your mind to relax and rest for a moment.

I understand well the feeling of needing to do something to make something happen immediately. But being calm and centered is what creates the space for what we want to happen.

When you notice the bodily discomfort your negative thoughts bring up and just allow yourself to feel them without going deeper into the sad story you’ll begin to notice a shift. Those feelings are telling you your focus isn’t helping your cause. Don’t worry or be angry. Just breathe and let the moment pass.

The next step, is to really really appreciate your great life as it is right now. When you wake in the night snuggle into your bed or your partner and recognize that your nights of uninterrupted sleep are numbered. Soon there will be a baby to feed or care for so relish your sleep and down time.

Clean and organize your house in preparation for the chaos that comes with a new baby. Begin to baby proof the house and set yourself up for success in a way you couldn’t do with a baby on your hip or on less than two hours of sleep. Know that everything is happening in perfect timing.

Begin talking to your baby. Yes, I know you’re not pregnant yet, but you want to be don’t you? The soul that will be your baby is with you and waiting for you to relax enough to allow their entrance into your life. Sing songs to your baby and put your hand on your belly and feel the joy bursting in your heart for the new life you’ll be bringing into this world.

Feel the excitement and relief of holding your precious, healthy baby in your arms. Can you feel it? If you still feel fear, longing or worry that it won’t happen. Go back to that place in your body and relax around it.

Finally, soothe yourself in your mind, constantly. Don’t allow yourself to say things like, I’m never going to get pregnant, I don’t deserve a baby. Notice what your mind is telling you and feel the feelings around it.

Just as you’ll be quite diligent about keeping your little four year old out of a busy street, keep your mind focused on soothing and uplifting yourself. Any negative or defeated thoughts only create more problems and obstacles. It’s ok to have them, just don’t entertain them. Soothe yourself and let them pass.

For my dear friends that have to rely on medical procedures to get pregnant, realize the pressure behind this process. I’m giving you the biggest hug right now. Bless your heart. You have to let the energy move and allow yourself to be soothed and uplifted. Sterile and medical environments coupled with money concerns and deep need cause stress in your body and make it more difficult to conceive.

Try taking a yoga class and meditating. Or find other activities that soothe and center you. Being in a place of peace and ease helps your body be more receptive to what you want.

Never forget that what you want is also wanting you. There is a baby waiting for you. Ready to come in and change your life forever.

If you need help moving the energy and finding a place of peace around the situation, you are not alone. I am here for you and I can help.

Sending you so much love, ease, flow, fertility and abundance,
Crystal

PS… this works for everything, not just getting pregnant. What do you want?

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Perspective is Everything.

My perspective - Straight Up (through the trees at Hoyt Arboretum)

My perspective – Straight Up (through the trees at Hoyt Arboretum, Portland OR)

per·spec·tive

/pərˈspektiv/
noun: perspective

A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.

The thing about life is this…. you get what you expect.

If you have a great outlook and positive attitude, it’s likely you’re pretty happy in your life. You expect things to work out for you and they usually do. Maybe not in the way you first thought you wanted, but ultimately you realize that what has happened is actually better than what you’d previously hoped for. Life is like that.

If you are negatively focused and cynical, life is probably a bitch and then you’ll die. You expect things to be irritating and annoying and they usually are. The jerk at the drive through gave you the wrong order, you’re always driving behind some other jerk on the highway and all the people you work with are idiots. No one ever does their part so that you can do yours and you usually end up having to do it all because that’s just your luck. You’re the only person that knows and does it right so you get stuck doing it. Life is like that.

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

― Albert Einstein

You get what you expect, think about most often and focus on.

It’s simple.

Your perspective creates your reality.

If you think the world is out to get you, it is.

If you think the world is loving and supporting you, it is.

That’s why everyone’s lives are so different. Have you noticed how members of the same family can be so different? Raised in the same home with much of the same environmental triggers but some turn out happy, healthy or wealthy while others are unhappy, sick or poor.

We personally create our own reality whether we are aware of it or not.

If you find yourself being stuck in negative loops of bad service, poor health, liars and cheats, poverty, abuse, judgment or neglect, take a deep breath and relax. Maybe you have plenty of money or the relationship of your dreams but you’re still not happy, you take a deep breath too. All truly is well and you can have what you want.

It may be difficult for you to believe at first, but it’s quite easy to change once you know how to do it.

Give yourself the happiest, healthiest, most loving and abundant life you can imagine by noticing and releasing destructive habits of thought; Keep reaching for that better feeling perspective.

How do you find a better perspective?

First, you have to release the old energy that makes you think the crappy perspective you have now is the only one.

When you’re in the middle of a crisis or bad situation, the energy of it is flowing mightily through your body. Learn to let that energy (of things not being what you want) move through without holding on to it and your fresh new perspective presents itself.

You can absolutely do it for yourself, but lots of folks need some help. I’m here to empower you to live the life you want. It’s absolutely available to you.

All my love,
Crystal

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Don’t Worry, Just Be

Relaxing on the river

Relaxing on the river

“Singin’ don’t worry, about a thing, cause every little thing, is gonna be alright.”

“Three Little Birds” – Bob Marley

It really is.

Don’t worry, everything is always working out for you. That difficult task in front of you. The solution you need but don’t know about. It’s already been done. Someone has already figured it out and knows how to do it. The research has been done and findings published. Easier ways have been discovered and created. Plans have been shared and tweaked to perfectly fit any situation.

It’s that easy. All the information we need is readily available, we just have to know how to find it.

And finding it is much easier than looking for a needle in a haystack. You actually don’t have to build any bridges or tear down any walls to get to it. And you don’t have to travel to far away places to find it. You don’t need airfare, a doctors note, your parents or spouses permission. It’s all right here, you just have to relax.

Our health can be recovered. Our finances can bounce back. Our family can once again(or for the first time) come together in harmony. Our every need can be fulfilled in any moment when we are willing to give up our struggle against and begin looking for what we want.

Everything we require or desire is available to us. If you didn’t already know this… just Google it.

My mom was staying with my son when we were out of town and he was attending a dressy function that required a tie. As I’m the one that always tied his ties, he ask his Grammie for help. She didn’t know how to tie it either, so, what to do?

That’s right, he Googled it.

“How to tie a Windsor knot” and Voilà! a long list of handy dandy videos and info-graphics explaining and giving a examples of how to do it. Done. That was easy! Next.

During the six years I helped run a very successful internet business I never had to reinvent the wheel. Every time a need or desire arose the first question was “how do we make this work?” and then I’d Google it and find more information than you could shake a stick at. Someone has done a review and given you a short list of the top software, sites, tutorials, videos, cameras, cars, web hosts, etc. If I couldn’t find it immediately, I’d say something like, “No worries! Won’t it be nice when I stumble across just the exact right thing we’re looking for?” And inevitably I’d find it.

Everything you need is out there. The answer to your prayer, the solution to your problem, the cure for your disease… all available and closer than you think.

The quickest way to finding what you need is to go within. Take a break from the whirlwind of your physical reality for a moment and just be. Take a few deep breaths now, in through your nose, filling your belly first and then your lungs, hold it for a couple seconds and release. Pull in your belly at the end to completely empty your lungs so you’re getting a full fresh breath every time. (Do that three to ten times whenever you need to relax and find a better perspective.)

Breathe and feel what you feel physically in your body. Listen to what kind of thoughts your mind is generating. Are they hopeful, helpful thoughts or are you singularly focused on the problem and how big and bad it is.

Your focus is creating your reality.

If there is something in your life you don’t like and don’t want, give yourself a moment to acknowledge the feelings of worry, fear, frustration and upset around the situation. Acknowledge your humanity and appreciate the fact that you are not the first person to deal with this issue and there are plenty of people who have made it through using a number of different approaches that you might not know about or understand.

For every question, there is an answer.

For every problem, there is a solution.

For every prescription drug, there is a natural remedy that that drug was derived from or created to replace.

There’s a shoe for every foot and an ass for every seat.

There are buyers for what you are selling that only want to buy from you. There is no competition, except in your mind.

There is nothing you can’t create or allow into your life if you know how the world works and are willing to work within it’s rules. (Your focus creates your reality. Have I said that before?)

For every problem, there IS a solution.

Nothing is impossible. It ain’t over till it’s over and if it isn’t over, you can find another way.

How do you find this way?

Stop reacting.

Let yourself be OK with however you feel right now. Accept your feelings as momentary, passing waves of emotion.

Emotion = Energy in Motion

Discover the power of poise. The next time you are struck by a powerful negative feeling or emotion allow yourself to relax and take three deep breaths. You’ll notice the intensity of the emotion begins to diminish in your body much more quickly than it does when you react out of fear, anger or frustration. As that feeling passes, clarity comes. Your deep emotion subsides and you are able to make better decisions and actually see the situation as the good information it is… a heads-up alert to what you’re creating.

Your emotions are a precise indicator of your focus and thoughts. Notice when you feel bad that you are focusing on lack, limitation, blame, anger, frustration, worry, irritation, etc. When you feel good you’re focused on and thinking about good things in your life, happy times, lovely family members, the great job you did, the many blessings you have or things that please you. This is quite simple and very easy for you to confirm and acknowledge to/for yourself.

I’ll give you a minute…

So you’ll now begin to recognize that what you are thinking about and focusing on, you are creating. Period. Bottom Line. End of Story. Therefore, whatever you are worrying about you are also creating.

But, don’t worry! We’re all human. We came by it honestly. It came by our birth into our families, communities and society that didn’t have the information we have now. They were raised thinking outside circumstances controlled their lives and that’s what we learned. But when you know better, you can do better.

Give yourself a break and practice focusing on your destination. Where do you want to go? What do you want to do? What experiences do you long for? Do you want to experience perfect health? Do you want to get married and have a baby? Do you want to be financially secure and free?

Think about what it is you most want to feel…  happy, loved and loving, satisfied, healthy, engaged, peaceful, excited, free, joyous and abundant? This is how you focus on the end result. The finish line. Not what you think it’s going to take to get you there. But, just being there.

Don’t worry about what it will take to make it happen, just do what’s right in front of you. When you put one foot in front of the other and take care of what you need to take care of, with your focus on the end result, the easier road with all it’s possibilities and solutions will present itself in the most delightful way.

I am holding the vision of your perfect health, happiness, vitality and abundance. It’s available to you in all moments. Relax and receive.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

All my love to you for a joyous and blessed holiday season,

Crystal

Take More Naps

Happy Thursday folks and here’s your public service announcement for today and the rest of your life.

Take More Naps.

This boy knew how to nap.

This boy knew how to nap.

As the holidays speed toward us and we have so much on our plates, it’s important we take care of ourselves physically (and emotionally!) so we don’t get too stressed and overwhelmed by the whole process.

With travel, gifts, meals, parties and events to plan, prepare and coordinate this time of year is notorious for fraying nerves. Carving out time for yourself to rest and revitalize will help everything come together much more smoothly and efficiently.

When we’re asleep, we are completely relaxed. We enjoy relief from whatever troubles we’ve been dealing with. Our minds let go and allow the universe to continue showering us with blessings we might have been denying during our waking time by focusing on problems or how much we still have left to do.

Plan for yourself to take short power-naps or longer whenever you are able and just watch what happens. Before your nap and as you’re going to sleep at night, lightly set your intention to relax and release your worries of the day while gaining clarity on courses of action and setting yourself up for success.

Once you understand the importance of soothing and caring for yourself everything changes. Giving yourself the time to relax between meetings, tasks, parties and planning insures you are bringing the very best of you to each task.

Set of  4 Sessions – $350
Sessions usually done in a set of 3 gives you support and continuity.  We are habitual creatures and tend to revert back to the old way of reacting to life instead of creating it.
The extra session can be for you or for someone you love who needs it.

I am here to help. My holiday offer is available for the month of December. My days are filling with sessions so if you need help letting things be easy, get on board! Your life of ease and flow are within your reach.

Here’s to good rest and almost effortless holidays!

All My Love and Many Blessings,

Crystal

You’re In Control

Bus in de schemering

Photo by Gerard Stolk

You’re driving this bus, so drive it!

By the way, this bus… is your LIFE.

If you need to slow down, slow the hell down. If you need to make a turn, put on your turn signal and check your rear view mirrors.

Stop complaining about what’s wrong. Stop telling everyone the bad news. Stop spouting and sharing statistics that don’t support and uplift people. Find something good and appreciate it.

What do you want?

What area’s of your life would you like more control?

What parts of your world would you like to see changed?

Don’t know? Well think about it.

Oh, you do know? Great. Pick your whole self up and proceed in that direction.

Instead of walking around kicking the dirt acting like you just get what this mean ol’ world gives you, stand up and start moving yourself in the direction you want to go.

No one has control over you.

You get what you focus on whether you want it or not, so start noticing what you are giving your focused attention to.

Need help figuring it all out? That’s why I’m here.

Life is much easier than most of us allow it to be. (We do so love to hear ourselves bitch.)

There’s an easy way around that. I’m here to help.

Take the wheel folks. You’re already driving. Don’t you want to get better at getting what you want?

I’ve got the directions to Easy Street.

I’ll be here when you’re ready.

All my love,
Crystal

PS… Thanks for the great photo Gerard!

Skip It

Great song, I didn't skip it!

Great song, I didn’t skip it!

By now, I’m sure most folks have had some experience with Pandora Radio or the like. Rather than watching the news, ridiculous reality TV or whatever crap might be on at any given moment, (while simultaneously being forced to endure countless erectile dysfunction/depression medication commercials that blast at three times the volume of the program) we choose to listen to music.

A few of my favorite features on Pandora are also important in my every day life. Thumbs up, thumbs down and skip it.

  • If I like(or love) a song, I give it the ol’ thumbs up. Pandora get’s the message that I like that particular song and gives me more like it.
  • If I don’t like the song (or hate it!), I just click the thumbs down. No problem. Hey, Pandora, I don’t like that one.
  • Then, my favorite of all. I don’t like the song or want something different? I just click… Skip it.

That’s it. Done. Moving on. I don’t like that song. I’m in the mood for something different. I don’t call Pandora and tell them to take the song down. I don’t tell anyone. I don’t get mad. I don’t justify why I don’t want it. I just skip it.

What if we all lived our lives this way? What if instead of pushing against everything you don’t like or judge as bad/wrong you just skipped it?

When it’s obvious you don’t like or want what you’ve seen… Great. Duly noted. Nothing more to do. From this point any fighting, shouting, justifying or defending only adds energy to the very thing you disapprove of. Even the most well intentioned post/conversation to “spread the word” about the terrible injustice only strengthens and gives it more power.

So, what do you do when faced with something frustrating, irritating, scary, worrisome or horrible. Breathe. Relax and take big deep breaths. Let the physical sensation accompanying the upset flow through your body until you feel the relief. You will feel relief. It’s natural for this energy to move and flow.

Now, immediately turn your attention and thoughts to what you would prefer. Just like your focus on the negative brings you more like it, when you focus on what you want, that grows as well. You get more and more of whatever it is you focus on, whether you like it or not. So, doesn’t it make sense to focus on what pleases you and makes you feel good and happy?

All governments being responsible and fair. The news media focusing on the much larger picture of what’s right in our magnificent world. Religions of the world actually doing good works rather than converting or condemning. Every human being recognizing they alone hold the power in their lives.

What is your true hearts desire?

How could you more easily focus on that?

What if you stopped looking at the world in terms of what you like and don’t like and just noticed what is?

What will your life be like when you move quickly past what’s wrong and focus easily on what would be better?

If you don’t like it, let yourself skip it. It’s only our attention to things that keep them swirling around in our lives. No worries, though! All it takes is the recognition of how to do it and a bit of practice. I’m here to help.

Seeing your absolute freedom to fully enjoy your life!

All my Love,
Crystal

Alphabet Soup

Alphabet Soup

Photo by Tasya Menaker

Do you ever lie awake in bed at night and wish you could turn your brain off? Chores, bills, family issues running through your mind, one after the other. Things to do, business to handle, problems to solve and beside all of that, the world is going to hell in a hand-basket.

It’s really not, it just serves a handful of folks to make you think it is.

Not to worry, I can help.

Being human we all have this busy monkey mind problem. From where you may be right now, your thoughts can jump around from who’s done wrong, to what you’ve done wrong.

Focusing on what is bad, wrong, terrible, unjust, wrong, wrong, wrong(did I say wrong?) is the natural order of the day for most folks. If you think that’s just the way you are and it can’t change, you’re wrong.

It’s easy to refocus our minds with a bit of information and a couple of simple, easy tools in our belt to use when we need them.

Tip 1 – Get into your “Right Brain.”

As you know, our brain is divided into a right and left hemisphere. The left side of your brain is the analytical, critical thinking side(notice the word CRITICAL?), while the right hemisphere of your brain is where your creativity comes from. When your brain is running a mile a minute, say aloud or to yourself, “let’s get into our right brain.” It will help slow down the computer(your brain) and allow you to focus on something more pleasurable and relaxing.

Tip 2 – Give your brain a job.

Once you’ve gotten yourself into your “right mind,” consciously begin to think of other things. As I was lying in bed the other night trying to turn my brain off so I could get to sleep and rest easily, I started this little game in my head.

Using the alphabet, I started saying words that soothed me and focused me easily in a different direction(I was asleep by K). Coming up with the next word took all of my attention as I was searching for words that felt good so my busy mind was busy supporting me. You can’t keep thinking of what you don’t like if you are actively thinking about something else.

Below is the list of words I started compiling.

  • Amazing Appreciation Abundance Adventure Allow Afloat
  • Bold Believe Boundless Beauty Breakthrough BE Breathtaking
  • Caring Capable Compassion Confidence Creativity Colorful
  • Delicious Desire Dreams Daring Divine Dazzle
  • Exciting Effortless Ecstasy Empower Enjoy Ease Epic Exhilarating Expansive
  • Friendly Flowing Fun Faith Free Fabulous Fantastic Flowery
  • Gracious Grandeur Grateful Giggling Gentle Groovy Graceful
  • Happy Hilarious Hopeful Heart Hugs Honor Healthy
  • Inspired Imagination Independence Innovation Intention
  • Joyous Jokes Juicy Jolly Jocularity Jazz
  • Kindness Kiss Kinky
  • Love Laugh Luminous Life Lounging Lively Luscious Liberty Lavish Lucrative
  • Miracle Moments Memories Magic Mysterious
  • Natural Nature Nice Neat Nurtured Nourished
  • Original Optimist Orgasmic Outstanding
  • Purposeful Positivity Potential Possibility Peace Passionate Prosperity Power Playful Psychedelic
  • Quirky Quality Quilt Quiver Queendom Quaint
  • Romantic Relationship Romance Respect Robust Replenished Recharged Rested Renewed Relief
  • Strong Sweet Smart Solutions Shine Soothing Shift Sensual Serene Spectacular Success
  • Tantalizing Truth Triumph Transformation Thankful Terrific Trust
  • Unfolding Universe Uplifting Utopia Uninhibited Understood United Unequaled Unity
  • Vision Visualize Vibrations Vivacious Vibrant Virile Voluptuous Variety
  • Wonderful Worthiness Wonder Whole Wise Wellness Wealth Whimsical
  • Xylophone (haha, you let me know what X letters you come up with!)
  • Yes Yummy Yielding Yay Youthful Yachting
  • Zealous Zest Zone Zing Zippy

You can do it spontaneously or plan for it. Sometimes it helps to have a plan in place for moments when you know you could have a hard time focusing on the positive. Write them down on a piece of paper and just read them aloud or to yourself. Post your list in your car, on your bathroom mirror, the refrigerator or in your office.

Don’t let yourself spend too much time fretting, worrying or focusing on things that upset you. We, as human beings, are vibrational boomerangs. What you put out there you absolutely do get back.

So when you find yourself raging against the machine(any of them or their drivers) take a couple steps back and a big deep breath.

Allowing yourself to move the energy physically in the moment and placing your conscious focus on better feeling things move you away from what you don’t want and draw you closer to that thing or situation that you would prefer, that feels good.

Simply reading a list of positive, good feeling words is much more helpful and effective than complaining about what happened and repeating that story to as many people will listen. You may think sharing your woes feels good, but it actually only creates more of what you don’t want.

Give it a shot. Make your own list or use words from mine. When you find yourself focusing in a way that doesn’t feel good do yourself a favor and consciously turn it around.

Let me know how this list works for you. Please share any other good feeling words I have undoubtedly left out.

Seeing your absolute freedom, happiness, wellness and abundance!

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Much appreciation to Tasya Menaker for the alphabet soup pic!
Check her out here – http://www.flickr.com/photos/tasyamenaker/6643549023/

Seven Day Challenge

Cactus FlowerSome big changes are on the horizon for us. Perhaps for you as well. Maybe things in your life still look like they have looked for a quite a while, but do you feel the change in the air? Notice the change in the air is actually your recent desire for something better.

Whether or not you’re able to see and touch your coming manifestation makes no difference. When you feel it coming is when you start getting excited. Don’t worry so much about what’s around you at the moment. Your job, car, money or relationship situation is only temporary, certainly the way you feel about it is. Big change is on the horizon, all you have to do is relax and be on the lookout, ready to receive it.

How does this work? How do you relax and receive something you can’t see, taste, touch or smell? Well, you’ll start with doing some things to move yourself toward what you want.

My partner, Dionne and I have started a Seven Day Challenge. The premise is this, do the small things you can do to make yourself and your surroundings feel even better before what you want actually shows up. Prepare yourself and your space to receive whatever it is you’re looking for.

Ok, you ask, so change is coming and I’m definitely ready for it, but what can I do to physically move myself toward something unknown and abstract?

To help yourself focus forward on what is coming and let go of the old (you’re ready to see gone,) begin consciously doing things to make your life better and commit to do it for seven days.

Below is a list of four easy things to begin moving you toward a much more satisfying life. Do one or more things on the list every day for seven days. Do at least one per day, but if you do more you will definitely notice a bigger difference. The point of this is to take small, easy steps, so do what feels best and easiest to you. If it’s easy, you’ll do it.

  • Move (your body)
  • Meditate (to clear your mind)
  • Purge (to rid your space of unwanted/unnecessary objects)
  • Organize (to create the harmony in your environment you want in your life)

You may already do these things periodically but doing them often with mindfulness changes everything.

Move – What feels good to you? What do you enjoy? Find an activity and a friend to share it with. It’s more fun with a friend and when you don’t have the motivation they will. Don’t look at what other people do and achieve. Do what feels easiest and best to you in the moment. Dance to music in your living room, chase your dog around your yard, whatever you want, just move and breathe.

Meditate – Spend 5-30 minutes daily sitting quietly. Sit in a comfortable place with your feet flat on the floor, hands comfortably in your lap, take a few deep breathes and then allow yourself to really relax. Let your thoughts roll by (without following them) and just notice how they make you feel. Are you reminding yourself of obligations or deadlines? Are you worrying about an upcoming event? Our brain is like a computer, it’s an excellent tool, but don’t let it run your life. It’s subject to previous programs that are no longer the latest, greatest, updated information. Garbage in, garbage out. Once you begin to recognize the general direction your mind takes, you can re-direct it, but before that happens it’s all too easy to be terrorized and bullied by a busy and negatively focused mind.

Purge – We all have junk we don’t need. Drawers of crap or whole areas of your house that are filled with things someone else needs and could use. If you don’t use it, want it or if it doesn’t make your heart sing, get rid of it. Every object in your home holds energy. Clearing your space not only feels better physically, it is also making the space vibrationally for things you truly want. Donate clothes and shoes to local shelters or non-profits that help folks. Have a garage sale, pay someone to come haul off your old stuff or sell it on eBay. All of the extra stuff cluttering your space could be used and greatly appreciated by someone else. You’ll feel lighter and lighter as you let go and allow others to appreciate and utilize what is currently cluttering up your space.

Organize – Once you’ve gotten rid of what you don’t want, use or need, you can organize what’s left. Being able to easily access things you want, use and need on a regular basis is an absolute joy and the space you reclaim will feel open and fresh. You don’t have to do the whole thing at one time, start small. When you start small and complete the task you give yourself a boost. Notice what little things you could tweak around your house to make it more user friendly.

Side Note: It was amazing to me how long we kept the tea(daily use item) on a higher shelf in the cabinet than some things I rarely use. I would stretch and reach to get a box and three boxes would come tumbling out on my head. Now I laugh each time I easily reach my tea. Any similar situations in your life?

Key Point – Completing small tasks gives you the impetus to do more. Baby steps are the way to go here. When you try to do the whole thing at once it can be demoralizing when you lose steam mid-way through the project. So pick an area, your junk drawer or the cabinet under your bathroom sink and get started. If you already exercise regularly, do it with greater awareness, focus on each muscle group and see it working better, getting stronger. If you already practice meditation great! Add these activities to your life. If you don’t think you know how to meditate or think you’re doing it wrong, think again. Just sitting quietly for 5 minutes is beneficial. Breathing and pulling yourself out of your busy mind will be a welcome respite that turns into a relaxing habit.

The more you do these things the better other areas of your life will get. Your breathing improves, your balance gets better, the pain in your hip/neck/shoulders eases and you feel stronger and stronger, your health is improving. You’ll notice you want to eat healthier and your old go-to junk food will become distasteful to you. You’ll laugh more and you’ll notice your skin looks better, your eyes brighter. Others will notice this too. The pants that were previously a bit uncomfortable now seem to have plenty of room. The promotion you’ve been deserving at work begins to fall into place and you find the perfect contractor to work on your house. The money to pay for the projects shows up on time so you’re able to enjoy the process rather than worry about how you’re going to pay for it.

We are on day five of our challenge and already things are changing.

Our movement has been yoga and tennis. (We got rackets for Christmas and laugh constantly when we play, we’re not great, but that doesn’t matter.) It is fun and we are feeling so excited about life in general. We are sleeping better and our bodies feel amazing. I feel stronger than I ever have and more peaceful daily. We’ve purged and organized four different areas of our home and yard and are ready for more. It was amazing how many things were out of date and easily thrown away/recycled. Reclaiming our space is truly a joy. Isn’t it fabulous how starting small and doing little things causes such great change?

What will we do at the end of day seven? Keep it going!

Get started today on your own Seven Day Challenge and let me know how things are going.

I am looking for someone to support and chronicle their successes through a series of blog posts. If you’d like it to be you contact me below through this handy dandy contact form. Let me know what you want out of your life and we’ll start moving you that direction.

How can I help you get closer to what you want?

Say YES to the Mystery

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  • What if you didn’t have to figure it all out? (You don’t.)
  • What if what you want also want’s you? (It does.)
  • What if you were supposed to relax into it, instead of working so hard to get it? (You are.)
  • What if there were inspired action to take that would make your physical “work” enjoyable? (There is.)
  • What if you could ask the right questions and receive the inspiration? (You can.)
  • What if you had someone to help you figure this all out? (You do.)

Life doesn’t have to be filled with drudgery. There is a way for you to get exactly what you want without you having to do that thing you hate to get it.

Of course, you have to do your part. But your part can be whatever you want it to be. We didn’t come into this world to struggle and be miserable. God wants us to be happy, healthy and abundant. We are supposed to enjoy this beautiful earth and everything in it.

This is your life.

Live it the way you want to.

This seems to be a major theme with folks these days and I’m so happy to hear it. Imagine what the world would be like if everyone did what they wanted to do and allowed everyone else to do the same.

At our Be Soothed and Uplifted Meetup on Monday night, every single person at the table described their situation as “in transition.” People are ready and willing to make the changes they want in their lives.

Many folks I’ve been talking to lately are tired of doing things the old way. (The way someone else wants it done.) People are ready to let it in. Ready to figure out this new way of living… for themselves.

That doesn’t mean you don’t care about other people. It means you care enough about them to be your best and happiest self. When we are truly happy, we spread that joy to others. You can’t help it.

When you are happy and fulfilled, you over-flow that powerful energy to all you encounter. You are now an agent for positive change without saying a word or lifting a finger.

Joy, peace, happiness and compassion are like a salve for a wounded world. We’ve lived too long in conflict within ourselves and outwardly in our environment and relationships.

Take a deep breath right now and realize that what you want is ok. You have every right to your own true hearts’ desires, whatever they may be.

And even more good news… you don’t have to figure it all out.

Think of all the unexpected blessings you have experienced in your life. Think of the seeming tragedies(in the moment) that blossomed into something wonderful you previously couldn’t have imagined.

Learn how to say YES and relax into the mystery. Trying to figure everything out ourselves is a long and difficult process. Relax into your current reality and say YES, I can have what I want and no, I don’t have to know exactly how it’s going to work out right now.

God (the Universe/Source) knows how to make it happen and is conspiring to create it for you. There is no such thing as missed opportunities. If this didn’t work out, something else will. There will be a next opportunity and a next opportunity. That’s the way it works.

Live is a never-ending series of adventures. Learn to go with the flow!

It’s simple, you just need support while you get started. I’m here to help.

Seeing you accepting and saying YES to the mystery. It comes with all sorts of perks!

Much Love to you,

Crystal