No matter what’s happening right now, no matter what you’re dealing with, say thank you.
If you’re awake/conscious enough to read these words, you have something to say thank you for.
Even if you don’t think you have something to be thankful for, chances are you have even more things to say thank you for.
When things are good, say thank you.
When things are GREAT, say thank you.
When things are bad, say THANK YOU.
It’s easy to count our blessings and say thank you in good times, but it isn’t easy when we’re in struggle to say thank you. And sometimes, even harder to mean it.
But, say it, even if you don’t mean it at first.
Say it even if you don’t yet understand why you should. Say it anyway. Thank you.
We have all the blessings we have because we appreciated them. And that’s how we keep them.
But, funnily enough, it’s also the quickest way to get through the hardest times.
Saying thank you, moves you toward what you would be thankful for, even if you don’t understand how.
“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”
Say Thank You.
When you say “thank you” for your struggle or upset, your mind will begin giving you clues as to how this is going to be of benefit. You don’t have to figure it out. You can’t figure it out, certainly from the space of experiencing the problem.
But, you can say thank you, and that will start you down the beautiful path of understanding.
Even IF it is only to see that we don’t like a particular thing or behavior and will henceforth discontinue use of or association with said thing or behavior. “GREAT! Thank you. I mean that. Thank you for the information. I was on the fence before, but NOW, I get it. Thank you struggle. Thank you upset. You have given me the most powerful information I could ask for.”
Now, don’t use this opportunity to make someone bad or wrong. Just decide it’s not for you and go in a different direction. No need to fight, yell or cuss. “Oh, hey, this is NOT for me, great, Thank you.” (The advanced work is now questioning where this need to continually blame other’s and hold grudges comes from… hmmmmm?)
As a Conscious Creator… there is no need to be mad about it or try to force change. Appreciate it as the good information it provided and move on. Yes, please and thank you. For the rest of your life. Rinse and repeat. Forever and ever. Amen.
What sucks in your life today that you can start saying thank you for?
How wonderful will it be when you gain the peace and mental clarity around your particular situation that will allow you to then issue a true, heartfelt and hearty THANK YOU? Whew! What a relief. Yes, please and thank you.
I love this part. It always happens, once I’ve moved through my initial upset and kneejerk response. We’re human after all. Getting mad at ourselves over our habitual responses just adds to the time it takes to move through the energy. Endeavor to let that go as soon as possible.
And as you do, your “habitual responses” will shift as well. You’re less disturbed by others out of alignment (people that do bad/dumb/mean things) and you begin to support the shift of the whole toward more love, cooperation and harmony.
You’ve got enough to deal with. There’s enough on your plate. Let yourself off the hook first. Then let everyone else in the world off the hook. Bless all hearts.
As we move into the holiday season, I want to remind you that Thanksgiving can be every day. Just without all the cooking and clean up. And when it is you’ll find you have more and more to be thankful for.
Shifting the energy and feeling the peace of 10 Zen monks is actually attainable… without spending 40 years in a cave. You only need be willing to let shit go and say thank you.
Support yourself this holiday season by moving through difficult situations and conversations with ease and grace. You can’t control everything, but you can control yourself, and that can be much easier than you think.
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Close out 2021 on a high note and sail smoothly into 2022 feeling the best and most excited you’ve been in years.
I’m here for it!
Take good care.
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The next time you’re having a conversation with someone in your own head, listen to yourself.
What are you mad about? What is the complaint? What did they do? What didn’t they do? What should they have done?
What are the general theme of these thoughts? Make a note of this, the story is less important.
Is it a recurring theme in your life?
Do these complaints revolve around the same type of situation? You get no respect, no one loves you, you’re always left holding the bag, you have to handle it, etc…
Someone not doing what they’re supposed to do? Someone not holding up their end of the bargain?
Are you not doing what you’re supposed to do? Are you not holding up your end of the bargain or relationship?
Now, where do you feel the sensation those questions, and the emotions they bring up, physically in your body?
I was cleaning up from some demo work we’re doing in the back yard. We’re taking down the roof of our shed that’s plywood, tar paper and 2 layers of shingles. And more nails than you can shake a stick at.
When we started I intended to catch as many nails as I could and be able to easily pick up any we might have missed.
As I was doing more clean up this morning sweeping and picking up trash, my eye was quickly and easily drawn to several nails in obscure areas.
It immediately caused me to think of WHY it happened so easily and what came to me was this…
My intention to be in peace and harmony (not stepping on a nail) and my intention for others enjoying my space to be in peace and harmony (also not stepping on a nail) caused me to vibrate at a frequency that, along with my participation in the expectation and conscious awareness of what I’m looking for, allowed my eyes to SEE what I was looking for. In this instance, rogue nails.
So, there can always be a reason and need to be focused in a way that’s opening the space for and empowering peace and harmony (pre-emptively clearing the nails), rather than projecting fear, defense and protection (creating the problem and then scaring folks into your solutions… look up The Hegelian Dialectic).
That would be like purposefully NOT picking up the nails and then telling someone walking barefoot in my yard, “Watch out! You’ll probably step on a rusty old nail and get tetanus for SURE!! Have fun!”
Or to bring it straight home… It’s exactly like our news media not reminding folks how to support their own immunity and providing easy steps to take that would head off illness immediately. But instead, what the news media and the pamphlet from the covid test (the PCR test was created without a sample of the actual covid virus, so it was never a true representation of who had what) DID say, was to go home and take cold medicine until you can’t breathe, then go to the Emergency Room. GREAT IDEA! Said NO ONE. EVER. WTF?
Fake test + false data + fear pushed by the media = covid.
Does this feel at all familiar to anyone? Anyone? Bueller?
Can you feel the difference in those vibrations? Conscious preparation for peace and harmony or fear pushed for reasons of control.
Once you become aware, you can easily, with no fight or struggle, choose whichever you like.
When I think of what we’re seeing these days with the unconstitutional push to vaccinate everyone, even against a person’s free will, for a virus that has a 99% survivability rate, I see clearly the desperate grasp for control. I’ll say it again for those of you in the cheap seats… this virus has a 99%+ survival rate. That’s what science says.
Our military, law enforcement and healthcare workers being our first line of national defense should be 100% in control of their own health care decisions. This will not stand. Last time I checked we still lived in the United States of America.
The Simple Solution
So, how do we get around this crap? Move every bit of energy you have around every subject that comes up.
What are the conversations you keep having in your head? Who keeps doing what to you?
Be honest with yourself about what keeps you up at night. Acknowledge it in the day time. Say it out loud to yourself. Bring it into the light. Breathe deeply, be willing to soften around the worrisome thoughts or ideas and let them go. Solutions abound and readily present themselves when we shine light into those dark places.
Find the physical place in your body that feels the most uncomfortable when you’re thinking about whatever upsets you. Now, stop thinking and just be with that sensation in your body. Relax and breathe. Let the feeling pass. Support yourself mentally. Bless my heart. This too shall pass. I love you so much.
Do this every time you have an uncomfortable thought or feeling. Stop thinking. Put your brain aside and tell it you’ll think about it in a minute. Feel what you feel without thinking about why. Be your own best friend and kindest cheerleader. Speak to yourself as you’d have your child speak to themselves.
Are you getting the picture here? How’s it working for you?
If it’s not, get support. I’m here to help. Email me to schedule a session.
It’s very simple. But in the beginning it can be less than easy.
But, it CAN be easy and it will get easier with practice.
So, listen to yourself.
What are you thinking?
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Growing up, my dad always told me, “Attitude is everything” and “Life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it”. He also told me I’d argue with a fence post, and that I’d bitch about being hung with a new rope, but these first mentioned ideas were the basis from which I built the rest of my life. So thank you, Daddy, you were absolutely right… about all of it. Ok, most of it. Let’s not get carried away.
I’ve been doing this work for 25 years… creating my reality. I was in my early 20’s when I read the book, The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn, that changed my life. I knew while reading The Game of Life and How to Play It, it was all true and I could and would never forget.
The following are some basic takaways from what I’ve learned over these past 25 years. It might have been slow going in the very beginning, but has ramped up exponentially. This train is already rolling folks, jump on!
Get Tough, Girl
Daddy also told me I should have thicker skin. And as a super sensitive empath, this was quite the chore that took years to achieve. I’m still the same super sensitive empath, but I have moved so much of the energy I experienced in my younger life that even I can’t believe how confident I’ve become. My inner knowing and ease with being able to handle whatever happens has shaped my ALL LOVE and No Mercy attitude.
This reality creating isn’t for the faint of heart. You have to be strong in your faith and knowing and, flexible in your allowance of others.
I’ve listened to people laugh at what I say and roll their eyes while looking at the rest of the group like I’m airy-fairy and don’t live in the “real world”. I’ve irritated more than a few people with my incessant positivity and insisting that everything would indeed work out. Even more people have been aggravated with me for not wanting to listen to them go on and on about a problem from a negative vibration and telling them not to argue for their own limitations.
As you get more in touch with your own intuition and start living more fully in your body you’ll begin to feel energy physically. Negatively focused conversations (even from the best intentions) will clench your gut, chest or throat and make you want to run screaming down the street, tearing out your hair. I still have to remain calm while listening to people focus or speak fearfully or negatively, knowing this behavior is only creating the next opportunity for them to feel this way again. And, while maybe what they need most is more love and positivity, if I say something, it will only trigger them.
Pro Tip: It’s relevant for some to explore the lower vibrations more or for longer than is necessary for others… that doesn’t make them wrong, it’s just not right for me and maybe you.
Everyone is where they are on their own path and it isn’t always going to run in alignment with our own. Blessings of love to each of us. We are loving humans that want what we think is best, but each individual is on their own life path and Free Will is the name of the game. Deep breaths and relax.
Take Full and Complete Responsibility for Your Life
When I realized that we are all indeed creating our life by what we focus on and think about, I understood why, in life, I had gotten what I had gotten. No longer did I look to blame people outside of myself. No longer could I yell, scream or lose my shit. I am in control of my own life. I mean, it didn’t happen overnight. It actually took a few years to fully be able to pull it off on a regular basis, but that’s because it was a new concept and I didn’t have support or anyone to really talk with about what I was learning and going through.
Plus, I didn’t understand the concept of Energy at that time. I didn’t know how to feel through what I was feeling physically in my body to let it move. I mistakenly thought that if I felt something it meant it was true, it was real, it is here and if I feel it, it will GROW. Bless my heart.
That is what happens when we feel bad, emotionally or physically, and think negatively about why we feel bad at the same time. BUT, if we’ll set our brain aside and allow ourselves to experience the physical sensations in our body of the raw feeling, that accompanies the emotions, that revolves around the story… are you seeing a pattern here?
Take a moment to sit quietly… nice, straight and tall, both feet on the floor. Take a deep breath. Relax your face, jaw, neck, shoulders. Breathe slowly, deeply… in through your nose, filling your belly completely, then fill your chest, up through your neck and fill your head. Hold that for 2 and release with an audible AHHHHHHHHHH. This stimulates your parasympathetic nervous system that will calm your body without asking your brain for permission, thank you very much. Notice how your body relaxes a bit more after each breath. Feel the heart unclench and relax, the belly soften and the mind begin to ease.
Notice what you’re feeling physically in your body. Without thinking about why you feel these things soften and experience them as sensations in the body. Keep your mind occupied with soothing and comforting yourself with kindness and encouragement. If you can’t come up with your own words use these to start. Come up with phrases that are personal, relevant and really feel right for you.
Bless my heart, this is uncomfortable!
It’s all energy and its all moving
This sucks, but it’s only a feeling and it won’t kill me
We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe
Yes, Please and Thank you!
I love you, I love you, I love you!
Learning to take full control of your emotions and thoughts will put you firmly in the drivers seat of your own life. This has been the most rewarding and freeing part of my journey, being in control of myself. It has allowed me to gracefully navigate difficult situations in ways that truly benefitted all involved.
Lighten Up and Laugh About It
Whatever it is, lighten up and laugh. No matter the situation, me being calm and centered always yields a more favorable result. I always think of my sister, Johanna when I need to lighten a tense situation with a funny comment or one-liner. I could always count on her to throw out a hilarious zinger after I had just turned up the tension of a situation because of my own participation from a lower, chest clinching vibration. These days, I always allow myself to take a moment to breathe and feel the tension in my (chest). You can’t think straight when you’re mad, scared, frustrated, upset or worried. So take a minute. There are plenty of things that plenty of people will tell you to freak out about, get mad over, or that it’s worth a fight. Bless ALL hearts. Everything is worth moving the necessary energy around so the correct action for the highest good of everyone can be taken.
That being said, I’m from Texas and where Zen ends, ass kickin’ begins.
Make it Right
KNOWING I’m creating my reality, I will NEVER say, act, or behave as if something is NOT going to work out for me. That would be acting contrary to my own knowing. Not gonna happen.
If you’ve ever watched or participated in improvisational theater you might know the rule is, Yes, and… Yes to what’s just been said AND… what’s next… add your spin in the direction you’d like it to go. Yes, and can send you into orbits you didn’t even know existed. NO, ends the game, NO, gets you stuck.
Yes, and…. the most amazing thing happened.
Yes, and… then all my dreams came true!
Yes and… then the perfect situation presented itself that I couldn’t be more thrilled or excited about. It’s beyond all my wildest dreams of what I’d be doing or get to do. It just showed up. I got a phone call and here was something that I hadn’t even been focused on, but that had been important to me for a long time. I’ve spent countless hours thinking and talking about how to make this better or how it can be better and that someone has already figured it out. And here’s a phone call, out of the blue, that has asked me to be involved. WOW. Yes, please and thank you.
When you make things RIGHT, they will ALWAYS work out for you. No matter what they may look like at the time or in the beginning. Keeping our poise, even in the most difficult situations and circumstances. Empty tanks, empty beds, empty bank accounts are all old news. Keep your focus on what you want and intend to make everything right.
How could this work out for me?
What great thing could happen next?
How can I let this be easy?
Who is going to show up that I don’t even know about?
When we began dealing with Dionne’s cancer diagnosis, I told only a handful of people what was going on. We had already moved past the diagnosis and were emotionally, mentally and physically moving along the healing path. Me telling and retelling the story was not going to support my vision of her perfect health. When I told our core folks and asked them to tell others that would want to be told we said, this is going to be fine, we are working it out, cry about it as you need to, but we’re moving onward, upward and out of this.
And that’s exactly what we did. Our family and friend group followed our lead and we moved through Stage 4 breast cancer in 5 months. We’re still working our way out of that particular system, but it has come with more blessings that we can count and so many of them are human connections with beautiful, kind and loving people we’d never have had the chance to meet. What a true blessing and miracle that cancer turned out to be. And it’s true for us because we’re creating our reality consciously. These are always options when you make whatever happens “right”.
If you want something, make a decision. Decide what you want and move in that direction. I always encourage one to decide to be happy, healthy and abundant rather than needing any specific name, place, face or thing. We only want specific things because we think they will make us FEEL specific ways. I say, let’s cut out the middle man! How do you want to feel? The feelings will bring the things. The things will only temporarily bring the feelings and then you’ll need something else to bring the feelings. Do you see this pattern?
Decide how you want to feel and move confidently in that direction.
Throughout this journey, certainly more in the beginning, if it doesn’t feel good to think about your absolute peace, boundless joy, flowing abundance and perfect health, that only means you have energy to move around (the situation) and where ever it feels tight or uncomfortable in your body… that’s where to focus first.
Our physical body is an indicator of how our current perception of the situation is lining up with our true higher, God self. Is this the way God sees it? Do you feel good? Yes. You are in alignment with your higher God self. Do you feel bad? No. You are not in alignment with your higher God self
If you feel bad about something it means the way you’re looking at it doesn’t allow you to see the actual benefit of the situation. How do you begin to see the benefit? Move the energy.
Once you do that you’ll always be the one to make the decision. I want this or I don’t. You won’t be waiting around for something or someone else to decide.
It ain’t over till it’s over. Don’t give up. Relax. Give up the struggle. Move the Energy. Hold the line. Stay calm. Stay poised. Breathe. Relax and support yourself.
Tools for Tough Times
As many of us learned during the recent freak winter storm, here in Texas and beyond, it’s good to be prepared. Likewise, in this journey of consciously creating our reality there are things we need along the way. In the beginning, you need a bit more support getting moving, but later you’ll find it’s more about refining and fine tuning for your optimum experience. Below are some suggestions that have helped me through all stages of my growth.
I’ve detailed above a breathing technique that works every time. Your willingness to take the time to do it is up to you. Support yourself, or get support. Once this becomes a regular practice and habit, your life will literally be YOUR OWN.
Make lists of things you love, appreciate and are grateful for. Quick and easy focus shifter when you need to consciously and purposefully move your mind in a better direction.
Keep a journal of all the magical and marvelous things you’ve created by thinking about or focusing on them. Let yourself open to what these might be, often times we’ll not take notice. Take notice.
Write a script when you’re feeling good and loving and in the flow that you can read to yourself when you’re feeling angry, low, scared or upset. Don’t count on your own brain to come up with inspiring material when you’re feeling funky. Take the initiative to support yourself.
Get grounded in your body. Get out in nature, bare feet or lay in the grass, take a shower/be in water, clean or sweep. Turn off the electronics and touch nature. The EMF’s from so many of our electronics are constantly disrupting and scrambling our energy. Nature soothes and supports our highest vibrational alignment.
Start a self care routine, buy yourself a nice comfy robe and big mug for tea. Get comfortable getting comfortable. Notice where you are uncomfortable, soften and soothe, breathe and stretch. Get used to noticing what you feel in your body. This is where your clearest communications from the Divine are received and if you’re not paying attention you’re missing the point.
Say YES to the high vibration friends that invite you to do fun stuff. Or intend to find some. Create your own community. Start a group in your area if there isn’t one. Try this… WANTED:High Vibration Co-Creators to support each other through our Conscious Creation Journey
Get a Consciousness Coach to support you through the tricky times and help move the difficult energy that will make the rest of this journey of conscious creation an absolute ball!
Life is supposed to be fun. Imagine consciously creating your own reality according to what would thrill and delight you. How does that feel? What does that look like?
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We’ve spent much of the last week in our back yard and garden enjoying the beautiful weather and stirrings of Spring. Cleaning up after a long, cold winter can be a daunting task and looking out at the visual devastation our garden suffered after this lingering, freezing winter storm we recently experienced was overwhelming.
The amount of dead to be cut back and put into the compost pile would make you think everything was lost. But, my understanding from many years previous experience, is that this is just part of the process. I can recognize all the work that needs to be done, but not get bogged down in it. I can see that despite appearances, things are working just as they should, not as I would have them. I don’t quickly give up on things that look entirely dead; I have too often seen that spark of life again spring forth when all seemed lost.
So, understanding this process and what I’m dealing with, I pick a task, just one task. Sweep/spray off the porch, vacuum/mulch leaves from a garden bed, buy/mix soil for pots… What seems to be the most easy and obvious task that will make me feel like I’ve really made some progress? What feels good to me? I understand the energy with which I undertake any task will flow forward into my next one.
Start with what feels good for you and they’ll all go that way.
Life is a process. The old saying that life is about the journey and not the destination is so true… and the journey is a process. We’re always in transition, from where we were to where we’re going.
Evolutionarily speaking our brain is here to protect our physical apparatus. So in that respect, notice, our brain constantly pointing out what’s wrong or could be dangerous is our old, caveman response. Long since useful to us, it’s now actually the most important thing we become aware of in ourselves and start to shift.
Science has proven we are influencing our reality by our focus and attention. So, knowing this information, it’s clear focusing on what is bad or wrong will only create more of what’s bad or wrong in our lives. This is a proven fact. It’s how the experimenter influences the experiment. What’s expected is often what we get. What do you expect? Is it what you want?
Whatever I’m facing in my outer physical reality is a direct reflection of my own inner conflict or struggle. If I can honestly accept that power and soften around my own personal struggles, removing my attention from the person or situation I have falsely blamed for all my worries and upsets, I can change my whole world, which includes individuals in it. I don’t force change on those around me, I create it myself by releasing the energy that created the situation in the first place.
Step by step
So, if I understand my thoughts and focus create my reality, then I would want to practice thinking and focusing on the best, most positive, productive solutions and situations I can think of.
And, if I also understand the physical sensations I feel in my body, attached to the emotions, are the reason I might have difficulty releasing the long-running negative or fearful thoughts, then I’d want to learn to relax my body and allow myself to physically feel better so I could easily shift my thoughts to ones more positive, powerful and productive.
This is all assuming we’re willing to let go of our negative attachments to everyone and everything. If my allegiance to or hatred for a group or individual leaves me red faced, chest tight, stomach clenched, huffing and puffing, it’s not good for me. Do I want to be happy or right? Does being right actually make me happy? How can I relax and more easily move through this tightness in my solar plexus, while constantly setting aside my incessant, unhelpful thoughts and support myself mentally? Bless my heart, bless my heart, bless my heart. This is the work.
If you you’re recently beginning your journey of conscious creation and your mind still tends to focus negatively in judgement or fear, relax. Anyone proficient at anything first had to learn about it and then practice. You can do this and it can be easy. Don’t argue for your own limitation. Let yourself think about how great it’s going to be and then move through any doubt you feel arise physically in your body.
This is the process to fall in love with.
This is the ticket to your own personal freedom. You’ve just been given the keys to the kingdom. You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You have the freedom to focus on, think about and create the life of your dreams. No one else is creating in your reality. Other peoples thoughts and opinions only affect you to the extent you buy into and allow them.
You are F R E E. Go forth and be happy, healthy, and prosperous.
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I don’t know about you all…. but the last ten days have made me take a whole new look at my life. All aspects of my life, what I pay attention to, things I find valuable or intolerable, it’s been illuminating to say the least. As the last full year has been the absolute height of contrast, along with it comes clarity. Great contrast brings great clarity, and 6 degrees in Texas is great contrast. Thank you very much. I have never in my life been through that cold of temps for that amount of time. I’ve lived in Texas, for goodness sake!
I wrote the bulk of this blog before the SnowVid hit us here in Texas and over much of the U.S. so I was already thinking about how our choices were effecting our experience as we went through the “weather event”.
All day, every day we’re making choices. We make so many choices we don’t even realize we’re making them because habit kicks in and it’s no longer a choice. We just do what we’ve been doing. Because frankly, if we were to pay attention to every single detail in our lives all day, every day we’d go nuts.
Although… choices are fantastic! I LOVE choices. Choices are GREAT! But, there are different types of choices. There are choices that serve to move us toward what we ultimately want and there are also choices that take us further down a path we’d rather not travel. Becoming aware of this information will open you up to noticing when you’re choosing something you’d actually rather not.
We could have responded to SNOWPOCALYPSE 2021 in worrisome ways that would have us tied up and frozen (hehe) in overwhelm over a million frantic, scary scenarios that could possibly happen. (Faucets/pipes bursting, electricity going out, pool pump/pipes freezing, neighborhood kitties freezing, though we’d created a shelter) It would have been easy to freak ourselves out over any number of variables we had no control over; as I stood at the window looking at the heavily falling ice collecting on the four, large, old trees that surround our home. We didn’t do it, instead, lot’s of time spent breathing, calming and soothing that night… along with sending everything heat from the inside and singing “strength and flexibility” to all my neighborhood trees and anything else that needed it. It was a prime moment for demonstrating faith and acknowledging the powerful, physical energy that flows through our body when we feel worried or afraid. (or any strong emotion!) On that evening, I made my highest choice, I said “All is Well” and moved forward from there. We had done all of the physical work to care for our property and selves and now the work was to move the energy and soothe ourselves mentally.
Types of Choices
The lowest choice is the fearful or resentful choice. This is the choice we make because we’re afraid if we don’t do it, something bad will happen. We choose this option because we fear we have no other options. It’s the thing we do out of habit that we really want to stop doing but don’t know how. If it feels like it’s your only choice and it sucks… this is the lowest choice. This is the choice that will ensure that your next choice is crappy as well. BUT! Not to worry! We can come back from a lifetime of low choices, but we have to start looking at things a little differently. Namely, where do I feel that energy, physically in my body? Move that and all your choices get better.
Higher choices always feel better, stabilize situations and strengthen confidence. Higher choices are made from a place of peace, ease and with clear sight of our goals ahead. Choosing to take a moment to move any upsetting or unsettled energy puts us in a position to see all our choices for what they are and what they’ll bring into our lives. We can help ourselves make difficult decisions when we understand the concept of higher choices and how that looks in our everyday lives.
Participation. At what level are we participating in the conscious creation of our reality? Our recognition of how we’re making our choices and noticing when it’s by default, can help us begin consciously making better choices. Welcome the realization we’ve been on auto pilot in areas of our life for our own sanity and “self protection”. It would be too painful or difficult to really face the thing I’ve been allowing to silently guide my actions and decisions. Consciously choosing to participate in a different way sets us up for major change. All we need is to want more and be willing to take small steps to be better.
Interactions – In our interactions with others we are choosing who we want to be… the understanding, supportive, non-judgmental type, or the negative nay-sayer that craps all over everyone’s exciting ideas. We’ve all been both so don’t start being the judgmental, self righteous, know it all… yep, been that too. Who do you want to be in this world? How do you want to show up for people? How do you want people to show up for you? How do you want people to feel when they leave an interaction with you? Decide who that is and begin to make the conscious choice to be that person in all your relationships and encounters.
Reaction/Response – In all scenarios, where we as human beings learn or are exposed to some new news or information, we have aphysically feltemotion in response. Joy, upset, fear, elation, cognitive dissonance… all emotions, also physical sensations in our bodies. Just knowing this allows us to shift perspective on our initial, knee-jerk reaction. We have the choice to remain calm and allow the momentary storm of emotions and physical sensations (burning ears, pounding heart, constricted throat) to pass, or to burst out with harsh words and actions. Just knowing we have the choice makes it easier to choose a different response. We can actually choose to RESPOND rather than REACT. How great is that?!?
Energetically – We get to choose how we show up in the world energetically and physically. It is my daily intention to vibrate at the highest frequency available to me for everyone’s highest good, no exceptions. When you understand how important Energy is in your life, you’ll shift your focus from less important things and onto the foundational reasons you experiences what you do on a daily basis. Therefore, by choosing your focus you change, with relative ease, everything around you.
Words – Choosing our words is one of the major ways we’re programming ourselves and our world on a daily basis. What do I talk about most. Is it pleasing to me and exciting for others to hear? Or does it drag me down? There’s also an element of choosing and being in the right (for me) circles with people that are having the kinds of discussions that move forward, onward and upward. And if we don’t want to move forward, onward and upward, that’s our choice, and an excellent question and conversation to have with ourselves.
Making the highest choice for ourselves isn’t always the easiest thing to do, most of the time because we’re afraid. We don’t feel we have the support, the money, the confidence, the training to go for the choice that would really bring us our highest joy and excitement. Or maybe we’re just so concerned with pleasing other people that we don’t have the will or energy to actually figure out what we’d like to do. Moving the energy around these ideas will set you free and have you thinking of all manner of things that would please and delight you.
We’ve all been indoctrinated into a system that hasn’t shared the whole truth. We’ve believed ourselves to be at the mercy of other people, money, debt, governments, the weather, you name it. But I am here to share the good news.
We are only under the control of anyone to the extent we buy into that idea. We are, after all, Vibrational Beings living in a Vibrational Universe. We can be, do or have anything we like and from right where we are is the perfect place to start. We can make the choice to change many aspects of our life simply by shifting the way we think about things, and that all happens inside the quiet of our own mind. Find the energy physically in the body, relax, breathe, support ourselves mentally. I’m here to help.
PS….. All blessings to everyone affected by this recent winter weather event here in Texas and all over the U.S. and world. I say thank you to these events for raising excellent questions in the minds of millions of Americans. This paradigm shift is happening and transparency in our government FOR the people is a big part of that. Yes, please and thank you. All blessings to everyone, no exceptions. Here’s to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness!
PPS… Shall we play game? The first person to email me with the accurate number of how many times choice/choices show up in this blog gets a F R E E session. Just count them up and send me an email (Crystal@crystalnuding.com) with the number! Good luck!
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If you feel your life is limited by your surroundings I’d like to introduce you to the idea of Life as a Game. There are a few things happening in this Game… You’ve got the Game vs the small game and the Player vs the player/piece.
Most folks live their lives from the view point of the playing piece, as on the Monopoly board, rather than the actual hand or Player that moves the piece along throughout the entire Game.
If we don’t understand we are the Player, we will play as the piece.
And you might as well BE a hat, shoe or thimble by the amount of power given away to random and familiar people, agencies, and institutions. But, when you begin to understand the concept of life as a game, which it is (that we absolutely came here to play!), you can relax about the things and situations that upset you.
The Game of life is about evolving into the highest version and ideal of ourselves that chooses Love easily and effortlessly in every instant. Everyone is playing this game, that is the point of this physically manifested universe; a playground to learn to love.
The small game of life is about acquiring things, money, status, power. Most people are stuck in this game. Surviving our childhoods but carrying our old hurts and fears around creating more of the same and blaming someone else for it happening.
In the Game of life we are the Player, the Player sees the whole board and understands the moves made by other Players and makes the best moves based on the wider perspective and understanding of how the game works.
In the small game of life we are the player/piece. As the player/piece we’re an object moved around a board, with no input or power, subject to the whims of a drawn card, taxes or overpriced rentals. Go to jail. Go directly to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Dang.
I don’t know about you, but I am here to Play this Game.
My days of being the player/piece that mindlessly gets knocked about by “bad news” or disappointments are long since gone. Being the Player is a much more thoughtful and rich experience. Players feel the full extent of the emotions around any subject or situation and make sound and stable decisions from a place of peace and loving awareness.
If you’re not familiar with these ideas and still find yourself needing other people to be different for you to be happy, I send you all my blessings. This isn’t for everyone. Some people like the small game drama of family fights, disagreements and hospital visits. And everyone gets to have the experience they want. It’s called Free Will.
As the Player we understand we actually chose our most difficult personal experiences from which to learn and grow. But if, as the player/piece we’re unwilling or unable to find a higher perspective, no worries, in this game of life a similar situation will keep coming around. It will happen over and over again in our life, in the lives of our children and in the lives of their children. Until someone along that line wakes up and starts Playing the Game.
Learning to Play this Game is the most important work you will ever do. It changes the work required of you. It releases the drama and fighting, the illness, anxiety, lack, fear and disease. It opens you up to experience true peace in your heart which shifts all manner of circumstances and situations.
If you are ready to feel more in control of your own life and want support in learning to Play the Game, I’m here to help!
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Florence Scovel Shinn told us, “we can’t change our thoughts, but we can change our words”. Yes, Please and Thank you!
One of the first steps to changing our thoughts IS changing our words. And once we get clear on how to better support ourselves in changing our words, our world changes with us.
How to begin…
Without making any major change in your own life, behaviors or actions, start by noticing how folks around you use their words. Are they making people feel better or worse? Are they calming and soothing the situation or starting shit and fanning flames? You can always tell, your body being a clear indicator. Do you feel like lingering or running away? This exercise in awareness will help you become conscious of the energy present in any situation. Do you want to hang out? Or is it time to skedattle? And whether the energy you’re feeling is your own or someone else’s, becoming consciously aware you’re feeling it is a HUGE part of this game.
Lightly intend to notice how it physically feels to be around your favorite and not so favorite people.
Who are your favorite people to be around? Who always gives you a lift? Who exhausts and gives you a headache when you walk away from them? What are the things about each that you enjoy or don’t? What are they always talking about?
How to Change Your Words
Making a list can help to organize and clarify information so we can begin noticing the patterns that swirl through our existence. So, once you get better at noticing how people, conversations and situations make you FEEL physically, in your body, you can start moving through the energy that will clear out the irritations and bring in more high vibe, life changing experiences.
Change your words by finding better thoughts and phrases that match what you’re looking to create and write them down. Affirmations are helpful when you’re in struggle and can’t easily access those light, forward thinking, helpful thoughts. Make your list and keep it handy. Repeat them often. Look at them often. Put them up on your bathroom mirror. Set an alarm on your phone that goes off multiple times a day with the affirmations you’re relaxing into.
These can be your own thoughts or ones you borrow from someone else. The most important thing is that you feel good saying it, you buy it, you want it.
Some of my favorite affirmations are from The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn and Louise Hay’s You Can Heal Your Life. I have had these books around for over 20 years and will browse through and find loving and soothing insights into anything I might need to soften around.
As you move into your journey of noticing how things make you feel and hearing the words from yourself and others that instigate these feelings, you’ll discover a treasure trove of information that will make your life infinitely easier to navigate.
Becoming aware of our own physical and emotional responses helps us relax around most situations. You’ll be able to feel that familiar feeling in your chest or stomach when faced with a certain situation and then laugh realizing it’s a childhood trigger. Softening around the tension and breathing slowly and deeply allows the moment to pass and releases you from the trigger. When we can mentally support ourselves through emotional or physical discomfort is when we become reality creating ninjas. Change your words, change your life.
Some of my faves and go to phrases…
I love and approve of myself. Every day, in every way, I get better and better. I receive all the benefit and release all the detriment. We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe. It’s all energy and it’s all moving. Yes, Please and Thank you! Bless my heart, Bless my heart, Bless my heart! I am healthy, whole and complete. My body is in perfect balance and harmony. I am willing to release the pattern in my consciousness that has created this condition. I lovingly allow joy to flow freely in my life. I am health. I am wealth. I am happiness. I am joy. God is my immediate and unending supply to every demand.
Use any of these or come up with your own. Words that move, motivate and inspire you will have the most powerful impact.
Here’s to your ultimate health, happiness and abundance, I’m here to help!
Let me know if you have questions or need support around something specific. How can I help you let go of what no longer serves you so that you might live a lighter, happier life?
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Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.
We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.
My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.
I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.
Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.
I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.
It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.
Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.
But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.
Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.
Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.
There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.
It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.
I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.
If you’re struggling right now, hold on.
Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.
In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)
I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.
By the way… it’s Friday.
Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…
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Alright, alright. Everyone just settle down. Let’s be adults here. I’m assuming you all watched HBO as children or peaked through your fingers during a movie when your parents said to cover your eyes. Hell, maybe they even talked to you about it. Whatever the case. You know the basics.
What I’m here to tell you is how to help yourself energetically while doing the things you know you gotta do… physically.
First, if you’ve been struggling and/or spending large amounts of time and money to try and make this happen, take a deep breath and relax. As a matter of fact, take a few deep breaths. Bless your heart. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how frustrating, upsetting or possibly devastating this must be for you and your partner. I love you so much and am here to help.
You can get pregnant and you can have a healthy, happy baby.
Once you’ve tried a few or more times and things didn’t work out, you got nervous and scared that you couldn’t and began feeling a deep longing for something you feel you can’t have. That feeling may be in your heart, or your stomach. You possibly feel it throughout your chest area and up into your neck and throat. This aching pain and discomfort is actually your ticket to a baby.
Notice what your mind is saying to you as you feel the physical discomfort in your body. What emotions are swirling around that feeling? Sadness, worry, anger, frustration, fear, longing?
Take another few deep breaths, in through your nose, filling your belly first, then your chest, hold for a couple of seconds and exhale. Do this a few times allowing your mind to relax and rest for a moment.
I understand well the feeling of needing to do something to make something happen immediately. But being calm and centered is what creates the space for what we want to happen.
When you notice the bodily discomfort your negative thoughts bring up and just allow yourself to feel them without going deeper into the sad story you’ll begin to notice a shift. Those feelings are telling you your focus isn’t helping your cause. Don’t worry or be angry. Just breathe and let the moment pass.
The next step, is to really really appreciate your great life as it is right now. When you wake in the night snuggle into your bed or your partner and recognize that your nights of uninterrupted sleep are numbered. Soon there will be a baby to feed or care for so relish your sleep and down time.
Clean and organize your house in preparation for the chaos that comes with a new baby. Begin to baby proof the house and set yourself up for success in a way you couldn’t do with a baby on your hip or on less than two hours of sleep. Know that everything is happening in perfect timing.
Begin talking to your baby. Yes, I know you’re not pregnant yet, but you want to be don’t you? The soul that will be your baby is with you and waiting for you to relax enough to allow their entrance into your life. Sing songs to your baby and put your hand on your belly and feel the joy bursting in your heart for the new life you’ll be bringing into this world.
Feel the excitement and relief of holding your precious, healthy baby in your arms. Can you feel it? If you still feel fear, longing or worry that it won’t happen. Go back to that place in your body and relax around it.
Finally, soothe yourself in your mind, constantly. Don’t allow yourself to say things like, I’m never going to get pregnant, I don’t deserve a baby. Notice what your mind is telling you and feel the feelings around it.
Just as you’ll be quite diligent about keeping your little four year old out of a busy street, keep your mind focused on soothing and uplifting yourself. Any negative or defeated thoughts only create more problems and obstacles. It’s ok to have them, just don’t entertain them. Soothe yourself and let them pass.
For my dear friends that have to rely on medical procedures to get pregnant, realize the pressure behind this process. I’m giving you the biggest hug right now. Bless your heart. You have to let the energy move and allow yourself to be soothed and uplifted. Sterile and medical environments coupled with money concerns and deep need cause stress in your body and make it more difficult to conceive.
Try taking a yoga class and meditating. Or find other activities that soothe and center you. Being in a place of peace and ease helps your body be more receptive to what you want.
Never forget that what you want is also wanting you. There is a baby waiting for you. Ready to come in and change your life forever.
If you need help moving the energy and finding a place of peace around the situation, you are not alone. I am here for you and I can help.
Sending you so much love, ease, flow, fertility and abundance,
PS… this works for everything, not just getting pregnant. What do you want?
My perspective – Straight Up (through the trees at Hoyt Arboretum, Portland OR)
A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.
The thing about life is this…. you get what you expect.
If you have a great outlook and positive attitude, it’s likely you’re pretty happy in your life. You expect things to work out for you and they usually do. Maybe not in the way you first thought you wanted, but ultimately you realize that what has happened is actually better than what you’d previously hoped for. Life is like that.
If you are negatively focused and cynical, life is probably a bitch and then you’ll die. You expect things to be irritating and annoying and they usually are. The jerk at the drive through gave you the wrong order, you’re always driving behind some other jerk on the highway and all the people you work with are idiots. No one ever does their part so that you can do yours and you usually end up having to do it all because that’s just your luck. You’re the only person that knows and does it right so you get stuck doing it. Life is like that.
“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”
― Albert Einstein
You get what you expect, think about most often and focus on.
Your perspective creates your reality.
If you think the world is out to get you, it is.
If you think the world is loving and supporting you, it is.
That’s why everyone’s lives are so different. Have you noticed how members of the same family can be so different? Raised in the same home with much of the same environmental triggers but some turn out happy, healthy or wealthy while others are unhappy, sick or poor.
We personally create our own reality whether we are aware of it or not.
If you find yourself being stuck in negative loops of bad service, poor health, liars and cheats, poverty, abuse, judgment or neglect, take a deep breath and relax. Maybe you have plenty of money or the relationship of your dreams but you’re still not happy, you take a deep breath too. All truly is well and you can have what you want.
It may be difficult for you to believe at first, but it’s quite easy to change once you know how to do it.
Give yourself the happiest, healthiest, most loving and abundant life you can imagine by noticing and releasing destructive habits of thought; Keep reaching for that better feeling perspective.
How do you find a better perspective?
First, you have to release the old energy that makes you think the crappy perspective you have now is the only one.
When you’re in the middle of a crisis or bad situation, the energy of it is flowing mightily through your body. Learn to let that energy (of things not being what you want) move through without holding on to it and your fresh new perspective presents itself.
You can absolutely do it for yourself, but lots of folks need some help. I’m here to empower you to live the life you want. It’s absolutely available to you.