What’s Right?

Spring Lake, San Marcos TX

What if we spent more time asking each other, “What’s right?”

What if we began looking at every situation in our lives and asking ourselves a question that would serve us rather than bring us more problems?

I know, when someone walks into the room looking upset, gloomy or mad our curiosity gets the best of us. That part of us that cranes our neck to see the horrific accident or unfolding tragedy needs to know what’s wrong. Just tell me what’s wrong and I can relax. Not.

It truly is human nature. What’s wrong? Tell me what’s wrong. What’s wrong with me, with you, with this situation, with our government, our schools, our parents, our kids. Let’s get to the bottom of this! Let’s find out what caused this trouble so we can all point at it and shake our heads in righteous indignation. Oh that is SO WRONG.

I understand. I really do. I’m human too. I understand fear. I understand anxiety. I understand heartache. I understand loss. I understand uncertainty and pain. We all do. We’re not alone. We are all living exactly the same and completely different human experiences.

What can we do to help ourselves through these difficult emotions and times in our lives? How can we better support ourselves in the moment?  (And what would it take for us to want to figure out what creates these scenarios and situations over and over?)

What if we ask ourselves “What’s right about this situation?”

I know. I know. That’s a big, huge, enormous question in the midst of all that’s wrong. But, what if asking what’s right gave you a different perspective?

What if asking what’s right helped you to see what is right about this seeming tragedy in front of you?

Give it a shot. What have you got to lose? You’ve already been asking what’s wrong all this long time. How’s that working out for you? Asking “what’s wrong” has been and always will be lining you up vibrationally with more and more things you find wrong.

Decide now to begin asking “What’s right?”

I know that in the middle of confusion and upset asking what’s right about the situation feels weird, but go with it. Notice where the energy comes up in your body and feel through it. Relax and soothe yourself with such tenderness and love.

What harm could come from it? A positive perspective? You actually feeling better?

You might discover that you’re holding on to an old belief about yourself or others that’s creating this irritation or problem. Maybe you’re so focused on the problem that you’re totally missing the blessing that is your release from a dead-end job or relationship that was keeping you from having the money, love or support you deserve.

I remember thinking years back that I was ready for a new car. I loved my other car but some things were going wonky and I couldn’t seem to find a way to get them fixed. Not long after, on a 6am drive with my son to his high school for morning practice, were were rear-ended. It totaled the car. After my moment (about an hour or maybe half a day?) I realized I had been wanting a new car but wasn’t taking the steps to make it happen. I didn’t think I could afford it.

The universe showed me I could. I got another car, new to me and much better. I love my car so much. It feels so good to drive it. I enjoy just thinking about it.

In the moment, though, I was not pleased. Not pleased. Quite irritated and upset even. My son was driving. I was angry at the driver, angry it was six o’clock in the morning, angry my iced tea got poured into my lap. As soon as I jumped out of the passenger seat to see who had done this, I saw the culprit. A woman with two small children in her car and another vehicle behind her with two more small children. My initial anger dissipated into frustration and some compassion. Bless their hearts. We’re all up early shuttling our kids around. It was rainy and shit happens.

After all was said and done I sat in the drivers seat of my new car and laughed. This is what was right about that situation. I wanted a new car, needed one, but wasn’t taking the steps to make that happen. The universe gave me a little nudge.

What are you being nudged to do?

Think back over your life and recognize how many things have happened you first judged as bad that actually turned out better than you ever expected.

Now, look at a current struggle, take a deep breath and ask yourself “What’s right?”

There’s a perspective in every situation that serves you, but you have to be looking for it to find it. I am seeing you seeing it.

Sending all my love and support,

XOXO
Crystal

 

Taking Right Action

Check out my article from the May issue of Austin All Natural Magazine.

Austin All Natural - May 2013

Taking Right Action

Too often, you rush into action. Society tells you if you’re not busy, you’re a procrastinator.
Oh, and don’t be slow. That’s the worst thing – slow!

Action for the sake of action, however, doesn’t always yield the best results.

•     Should you jump into action before you really know what the best solution is, because waiting would make you look slow and indecisive?
•     If you really don’t know what to do, and need time to figure out the correct course to take, will you be viewed as a lazy procrastinator, good for nothing?
•     Once you’ve made a decision, do you stand by it, whether it works or not – because even worse than procrastinating or being slow is admitting you’re wrong?

Yikes!
You’ve been tricked by your own mind into believing that finding the problem will solve it – if you look long and hard enough at all the things that could go wrong, you’ll be able
to arm yourself with enough defenses to protect yourself and your stuff (umm – and your family, too, of course).

Problem with this is, you live in a universe based on a Law of Attraction. Whether you believe it or think it’s all just a bunch of hokum, it’s true. What you focus on, think about,
speak about – comes about. Looking for and finding problems only brings more problems.

If you remember from seventh grade Life Science with old Mr. Wilson (or whoever), the Earth and all matter in it are atoms, vibrating. Magnified even further, you – and
everything – are just oscillating fields of energy. Science has been saying this for over a hundred years, but the majority of people don’t know it.

Of those that do, most still live like someone else is controlling their lives. The government’s taking my rights away, my boss undervalues me, my parents don’t understand me, partner doesn’t appreciate me, children don’t respect me, the sun’s terrible for my skin, high-fructose corn syrup causes diabetes, it’s the terrorists, the media – and everything I love makes me fat or is bad for me!

You are in control.
One day, we’ll all stop giving our power away to doctors and media, government, beauty creams, the sun. You’ll be independent of other people’s opinions, moving in the
direction of what you want by focusing your thoughts.

Taking control of yourself is the fastest way to bring about the personal and global change you wish to see in the world.

Take the medicine, use the creams with awareness, allow them to work. It’s your MIND that ultimately heals – not the medicine, not the cream. Use your mind to support you in
creating the life of your dreams, rather than one you worry into existence.

You have the power already. When your mind is supporting you, you’ll always be inspired to take the right action, living the life you’ve always wanted, with the health,
wealth, and relationships that make your heart sing.

Crystal Nuding is a Consciousness Coach, helping individuals and businesses find and move old stagnant energy that keeps them stuck. Phone, Skype, or live sessions in South Austin. Her new eBook 4 Tips for Living a Happy Life is available at CrystalNuding.com or as a Kindle book at Amazon.com
(512) 665-4414 – Crystal@CrystalNuding.com

Life is a Roller Coaster

Purple Star

My life completely turned upside down(fabulously!) in October. I was freshly on my own and wondering how it was all going to work out.  Financially supporting myself fully (without a “job” with a paycheck) for the first time in my life was nerve racking and exciting all at the same time.

It took months actually before I really realized how stuck I was in my thinking.

Years of doing things the way other people want them done can take a toll on you. You begin to think that someone else might actually know what you should do better than you. Wrong.

It took me a minute to get here, but here I am! Life is good and exciting and things are moving along nicely.

Creating the space for my success has been something I’ve been doing for a while now.  Allowing myself to move through the nervous/habitual energy when it comes up and not getting into some dramatic story of what’s happening and why and who is wrong or right. I let the energy move and it always works out.

Everything is always working out. Always.

The grip of “what’s going to happen” can be strong, but I always know it will work out. We humans do so love the drama.

And boy did it work out!

Today I have a small office in South Austin (by appointment only) and a thriving practice doing most of my sessions over the phone or via Skype. The money is coming, steadily and surely. I am now working with several businesses and many individuals creating great results.

I wrote a short eBook, 4 Tips for Living a Happy Life you can get for free by signing up for my Be Soothed and Uplifted newsletter or you may purchase it on Amazon Kindle. I’ve gotten great feed back which has spurred me on toward the completion of my next book in progress, Navigating Your Life.

A few months ago, I didn’t know how it was going to work or what it would look like. That amount of uncertainty leaves our minds all kinds of room for speculation and we do have a choice on which direction we speculate.

I did not fantasize about being broke or not being able to make it or having to get a “real job” that doesn’t burst my heart and make me happy. I didn’t freak out and call everyone telling them my problems and worries.

What I did do and still do(all day everyday) is allow myself to feel what I feel about everything and soothe my mind if it gets too busy over anything it thinks might need to be fixed.

I spend time doing the things I am inspired to do and feeling good about what I have done.

Things that show up, I deal with. Like when the heating element went out in my oven. I could have gotten upset and raised hell and complained about the “great timing”, but I didn’t.

What I did do was appreciate the opportunity to care for something that means a great deal to me and the people for whom I cook. I called a friend who knew about such things, got the part number and website to order it. When the part came in, the oven got pulled out, cleaned thoroughly, part replaced and something was cooked immediately.

My appreciation for my appliances and all of the things that make life so simple and easy is overwhelming. We’ve lived here for 10 years with no trouble so it was my pleasure to give some time and attention to the machine that has provided 1000’s of meals to family and friends.

Decide how you want to live your life and start moving that direction. Give yourself the soothing and support you need to live your best, easiest and most relaxed life. We didn’t come into this world to struggle for someone else’s wants, desires and wishes.

Give yourself a moment to think about what you want. What does your body tell you about those thoughts? Do you feel a “whatever dude!” in your stomach, or “not likely” in your chest. Maybe you feel that lump in your throat that says it’s not safe to express your own true self. Those “bad” feelings are a sign of beliefs you hold that don’t support you. The beauty is, once you realize this, the feelings can be felt, the energy moved and more supportive beliefs embraced.

A belief is just a thought you keep thinking, whether it’s true or not.

I’m here to tell you, enjoy the roller coaster, it’s all ok. And better than that, it’s great. Your true purpose in this life is to be happy; the feelings are showing you where to start. Those feelings in your body were never meant to stick around forever, they want to move and I can help.

Where in your body do you carry your nervous energy?
Heart/chest, stomach, jaw/throat?

Those feelings can move and when they do, you will feel relief and freedom. I’m here to help.

Much Love,
Crystal

Monday Morning Rave!

Spring is coming!

Spring is coming!

Raving is one of the best ways to get more of what you want. Look around you and notice what’s going right in your life. Much more than the little irritations of everyday living, we are surrounded by so much to appreciate.

When you take time out of your day to appreciate what you do have and what is going right for you, your mind gets on the band wagon and starts looking for more and more things for you to appreciate. The very same is true when you find things that irritate you. So be conscious of where you are focusing your attention.

It might take some practice but is well worth the effort. Get started with whatever is in front of you that you can’t imagine your life without. Once you begin to focus on the good stuff it gets easier and easier. You are essentially re-training your brain to focus on the wanted rather than the unwanted. Whatever you focus on, you get. No doubt about it. So start looking for what feels good and you’ll be amazed at what happens.

  1. I first want to appreciate Michelle Dobbins over at http://DailyAlchemy.com/ for featuring me in her blog on Friday. Michelle is a writer, mother and partner to her husband in their HVAC business in Greenville, South Carolina. She is a multi-talented woman and a blessing to everyone in her life. Her questions were so great that I created a FAQ page on my site with them. Thank you, Michelle!
  2. The weather has been absolutely beautiful here in Central Texas. My peach trees have already bloomed and there are tiny baby peaches everywhere. The tender green of the first leaves of spring warm my heart and remind me of the pure perfection of this amazing world we live in. We enjoyed working out in the yard yesterday, raking leaves and picking up the limbs and debris the wind has been blowing around.
  3. I’m looking forward to playing tennis this afternoon. Talk about something to rave about… TENNIS! It’s hilarious because we’re really not very good. But, it is a great workout and we just laugh the whole time.
  4. I LOVE hot tea. Delicious and doesn’t shake me out of my shoes. 🙂
  5. We spent a fantastic day in San Antonio on Saturday which was Texas Independence Day. On the way home, Dionne read (I feel a technology rave coming) to us about the Battle of the Alamo. We both cried and felt such love and appreciation to all of people, Texans and courageous men from all over that fought and died.
  6. Technology. How fantastic is that? We’re driving down the road talking about something(ANYTHING) and someone says, I’ll look it up. Out comes the smart phone and any information you might need is right at your finger tips. Amazing!
  7. I had a 2 hour Skype session with my little sister, Johanna Nuding yesterday. It was so good to see her face and hear of her Italian adventures. We laughed and talked forever. It’s been a while since we’ve gotten to chat and talking on Skype is almost like the being there. I don’t know what I’d do without it. YAY! Thank you technology.
  8. My son is healthy, happy, making grown up decisions and taking care of business. What a blessing! I truly can’t rave enough about that.
  9. I’ve created a Meetup group and we have our first meeting this evening!
  10. My biggest rave is my recognition of how the world works. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! I get that what I focus on expands and I create my world on a daily basis. When something shows up I don’t like or appreciate, I say yes and thank you! Thanks for letting me know what I have going on in my vibration. I can feel what it makes me feel without taking it personally or too seriously. My life is my own and I am FREE.
  11. I also want to RAVE about the beautiful birds I get to watch outside my office window. Beautiful red Cardinals and Bluejays are some of my favorites. The joy I experience from just watching them is palpable. Nature is one of our greatest blessings.
  12. I almost forgot to RAVE about the completion of my new eBook 4 Tips for Living a Better Life! You can get it for free when you sign up for my newsletter or it will soon be available for purchase on Amazon Kindle. Plus, my book Navigating Your Life is coming along nicely and I’m feeling great about it. 🙂

Start raving today and see what happens for you.

Much Love,
Crystal

What do you have to rave about?

For everyone that comments with a rave, I’ll put your name in a drawing for a Free Rave or Soothing Session. I’ll draw and announce the results on Friday!
Have a wonderful week!

Taming the Voices in Relationships

Our discussion last week with Roxanne was about taming the voices in relationships. It’s easy to think that other people should act appropriately so as to not upset us, but trying to control someone else’s behavior is futile. As all the parents reading this will surely agree! The only thing we truly have control over is ourselves. It might be more difficult to exercise at times, but our own behavior is the only thing we can control.

Relationships are one of the most important parts of our lives and truly help expand us into the people we will ultimately become. Allowing ourselves to feel what we feel helps us begin to make better decisions about how to handle difficult situations. When you’re in the heat of the emotion it’s more difficult to come to a peaceful resolution or even see that one is available.

Noticing how others behavior makes us feel is a great way to see “where we are”. Am I allowing my day, week or even months(years?) of my life to be ruined(affected, colored, marred) by what I think someone did to me? If the answer is yes, I have to make the decision to let it go.

We must give ourselves a break from blaming and complaining and focus our energy on what we want rather than the circumstance that caused our upset. We alone decide our day to day focus and I’d be willing to bet the person that upset us isn’t giving it a second thought. We must not give up our here and now, ripe with pure potential, to lament something that is over. (And PS… even if it happened yesterday, IT’S OVER.) Make the decision to move forward and start heading that direction.

Let’s all give ourselves a break which allows us to move through our initial reaction and begin to see that better things are lining up. My job as a Consciousness Coach is to help you relax into your feelings and not take things so personally (or seriously!). I help folks find the energy in the body and move it for increased clarity and calm in their lives. It’s all ok. Everything is going to work out. We are exactly where we’re supposed to be doing just what we’re supposed to be doing, otherwise we’d be somewhere else doing something else.

Relax and let the perfect situation unfold. When I was a little girl my Great Grandaddy Patterson told me not to worry about falling off my horse… the ground would catch me, he said. I didn’t appreciate that advice then as I was well aware how hard the ground could be. But as an adult and knowing what I know now, I am giggling recalling his gruff manner.

Life will always catch us, when we’re struggling against things that ground can be pretty hard, but when we relax and allow ourselves to flow with ease and grace, resisting nothing… we bounce.

Part 1 

Part 1 Continued

Join us tomorrow!

Roxanne and I are back tomorrow, Friday January 18th, at 1:30 CST for another free webcast!

This Friday’s free webcast continues our discussion of small self, large self from last week. Here is a link in case you missed seeing it
Our next conversation will highlight the power you have from discerning your first reaction from your second reaction.

Jelly Bean Sedum

Allow your life to be easy!

DETAILS:
30-minute live webcast
Friday, 18 January 2013
9:30 am HST / 11:30 am PST / 1:30 pm CST / 2:30 pm EST

Check your time zone here.
Watch it on YouTube!
In real time or later – it’s being recorded.
You may have to refresh the page to see the live webcast.

There are several ways you can interact with us:

Last week was hugely successful – we have had over 300 views so far! Many thanks to my colleague Crystal Nuding who joined my in Part 2. In Part 1, I had some technical difficulties that are now resolved.

Love and a hui hou,

 

You can also leave a comment or question below on this blog. I am looking forward to the enlightening conversation! We would love for you to join us.

Much Love,

Crystal

Taming The Voices Webcast

After a hiccup in the beginning, Roxanne and I got connected.

Here’s the video…. 🙂

Check out Roxanne at her site: http://inthetransition.com/

Follow her on Twitter – @divinerox

Taming The Voices In Your Head with Roxanne Darling – Part 1

Free Live Webcast!

Join my friend Roxanne Darling and I tomorrow, January 11th at 2pm CST (11am HST) for a Free Live Webcast discussing consciousness. Find the link for Roxanne’s YouTube channel below and tune in to watch and or participate in our discussion.

Free Live Webcast: Everyday Consciousness

Google Plus Live Webcast with Roxanne DarlingPlease join me this Friday for a free, live webcast to talk about taming those voices we all have in our heads! It is one of the fastest ways to make things happen in your life that you actually want.

One of the things I am in the midst of this year is writing a book. I am trying out a lot of my ideas here on the blog. I am also creating live conversations so I can engage with you on a regular basis. I am one of those people who actually gets new ideas by interacting with others. Of course I also learn more about my ideas by seeing how easily (or not!) they land in other people’s hearts and minds.

My inaugural chat is this Friday, January 11th, at 10 am HST. You can check your time zone here. I will be hosting it in a “Google Hangout” on the Google + network and live-streaming it to my YouTube channel. This will be a learning experience for all of us, so I thank you in advance for your patience and curiosity. I will be sending a reminder to everyone on my email list with the links shortly before we begin. Please join the email list if you want to receive the notification or want to add a question or comment.

Meanwhile, if you use G+, please circle me there! Otherwise look for our free live webcast this Friday here on my YouTube page.

Crystal Nuding - Be Soothed and UpliftedI have invited a friend to join me – Crystal Nuding. I met Crystal four years ago. We both received  access to divine downloads as I call them and we are both creating our own personal iteration of that in the world. I think you will love experiencing Crystal’s clarity, positivity, and strength!

Crystal Nuding is a natural born empath, soother, uplifter and healer whose gift is the ability to help you live a happier and more joyful life. Through phone, Skype, or live sessions in South Austin, she can help you can find and move old stagnant energy that keeps you stuck. Learn more at CrystalNuding.com. Connect with Crystal on Google+ too.