No matter what direction you’re headed, you can always turn it around.
Mentally, emotionally, physically… you can turn around your life, your health, your career, your relationships, even the soil and our environment… every single thing can be turned around.
In any given moment, you have within your ability to turn anything around.
What a relief! So, now that we know the bigger picture, take a deep breath and relax. The rest is just details.
Now For the Details
Have you ever changed jobs or moved to a new house and found yourself driving toward the old location? Then what happened? Did you keep driving to the old place? I doubt it, you probably snapped to, laughed to yourself and adjusted your course to your new destination. No big deal.
This is exactly the work of turning around our mental and emotional state. We remember our new destination is health, peace and joy so we turn around as quickly as we can when we find ourselves headed in the opposite direction.
So, the only way things couldn’t turn around is if we are UNWILLING to turn them around. And that’s something we each have to work through individually. No one is creating in our reality. It’s just us.
I decided in my 20’s I would rather be happy than right. I thank God everyday I made that particular decision. Yes, please and thank you.
How To Turn It Around
First, just imagine what it would be like if you could easily do that emotionally and mentally? Just turn it around and get yourself moving in the direction of your own peace, health and joy.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to let go of the old story lines of anger, resentment, dis-ease, frustration, irritation, indecision, upset or overwhelm?
This idea of a mental/emotional detox is actually a life saving perspective and tool for the empaths among us.
If you aren’t an empath, you might think this isn’t important. But be assured, it’s highly valuable for everyone to actually feel what they feel in their own body for the good information it is and to release it and allow it to move. This opens the space for things to be better and more in alignment with your highest values and ideals.
Did you keep every book you ever borrowed from the library? Or did you read it, gather the information and return the book? Same thing goes with our feelings, we experience them for us to gather the information we need about what we’re currently facing. Honesty and discernment are our best tools for sorting through this information for what’s real and true and what’s not.
If you can begin to think about being able to easily say thank you, let it go and turn it around, you’ve got a lot better chance of actually doing it. After all, everything starts in our mind.
Get To The Root
This is the #1 cause for addiction of any sort and substance abuse, trying to numb something or feel something. Mentally and emotionally detoxifying yourself is your own personal entry point into unravelling the programming needed to address those issues honestly.
We should want to (be able to) let go of the old stories we continue to tell ourselves and others. And we can. We can have healthy, happy mental and emotional lives that allows for the familial and community connections all humans crave.
This is how our bodies naturally work when we acknowledge our own feelings and allow them to inform us. And properly using that information is how we detoxify our system mentally and emotionally.
When you allow the physical energy of the emotion to be felt and acknowledged it can then be understood and acted upon. That’s what I call turning it around.
And Even Better
What’s even better than just being able to control your emotions, enjoying physical health and joyful connection with others? Your body will change as well.
Releasing toxic mental and emotional baggage allows your body to begin functioning at a higher level. You’ll notice you feel better and have more energy. You’ll want to do things that are good for your body and you’ll notice that crap food will begin to taste like it. You’ll feel how good it feels to feel good and you’ll be inspired to more action that feels genuinely good. Not trying to numb/feel something to get away from yourself.
You’ll begin to notice how food, tv, show’s, conversations, social media apps, FEEL when participating or engaging in them and be able to make the decision to either stop doing it or move the energy around that particular situation. And it’s up to you in every moment.
The quicker we turn around negative thought patterns or habitual physical practices the easier it will be to create change quickly.
You still have free will to do it the old way, but with my life and experience I’ll go with mine.
I invite you to explore your thoughts and feelings to see how they’re working out for you. What situations or relationships in your life could use turning around?
PS… Yep, we can even turn around climate change. Read Gabe Brown’s book Dirt to Soil (or listen to the linked podcast) to see how turning around our current “Big Ag” model will be a major step toward environmental sustainability.
And, my words, not his… Doing the right things for ourselves and our environment won’t require us to pay major money to corrupt politicians to fly private jets to climate crisis summits. It’s a win, win!
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Whatever you’re holding onto… mentally, emotionally, physically or vibrationally, that doesn’t serve you anymore, LET IT GO.
Old stories, old events, old occurrences that you witnessed, participated in or maybe, actually, only heard about. Let that go, too.
If it isn’t 100% relevant in making your life better today, let it go.
So, that means if someone you know did something they probably weren’t proud of 11 years ago, LET THAT SHIT GO.
They don’t want to hear about it. And it has nothing to do with you. That was on THEM back then, but when you bring it up today, it’s on YOU. Let it go.
The only thing you need to concern yourself with, is yourself. You deal with you. If you make it about someone else, that’s YOUR problem. Let it go.
If it isn’t going to make the situation better, let it go.
We’ve all done things we aren’t proud of. And literally the fact that we’re not proud of them is what allows us to learn what we needed to learn, and now we get to move on. So let’s all move on.
There is NOTHING wrong with making mistakes, even making the same mistake multiple times. These things happen and no one is perfect. Let it go.
But, if you need to point out other people’s mistakes while completely ignoring your own, YOU have a problem. You can let that go, too!
When you find yourself dwelling on something someone else has done, stop thinking for a moment and feel what you feel, physically in your body.
Where is it? Stomach, chest, throat, neck, shoulders, etc…
What is the major emotion you’re feeling? Anger, resentment, exhaustion, etc.
Have you ever done anything wrong?
What did you do wrong?
Did you correct it immediately after the first event? No? Why? You’re human?
OH! Good to know.
Now, guess what… we’re all human. Let it go.
It’s So Hard To Let Go
I know, I know. Bless us everyone.
The reason we have such a hard time MENTALLY letting go of what no longer serves us, is that we’ve got enough of that energy stored in our physical body to power a battleship.
So, even if it FEELS big and difficult to let go of, it doesn’t have to be.
It feels like it will be hard and painful.
It feels like it will hurt and be scary.
You know what, it can be uncomfortable. But, that’s only temporary and you’ve been uncomfortable for a long time. What’s a few more minutes?
Mental / Emotional Detox
When we think of detoxing, folks probably think first of detoxifying their bodies, and yes, that is vitally important. But even more important than detoxing our bodies is detoxing our mind and emotions.
I’m always interested in the quickest and easiest solutions. I’ve done long, drawn out and complicated. I’m all in for peace and ease these days.
And when you learn to move the upset you feel physically through your body, you’ll find you’re less emotional, more confident and less easy to upset. It’s a beautiful thing!
I’m great at helping folks mentally and emotionally detoxify their lives.
Reach out for support and more ease in letting things go.
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This is a friendly reminder that you are an infinite being living/playing in a loving world that’s constantly conspiring for your greatest good.
Now… we can see this, or we can see the opposite of this.
And whichever that is, is the way it will be for us. And make no mistake, it will be what you say it is.
So, what do you want it to be?
How do you want the world to be?
Do you want the things happening around you to be for the greatest good?
Do you want all of your previous struggles to be for your benefit?
Can you see how transition can be messy and scary? Have NEVER had a bad haircut? It’ll grow back. Promise.
I will absolutely admit to forgetting this Truth.
Welcome To Humanity
When we think of the idea that God or the Universe loves us like a father, I have to laugh. My fathering experience wasn’t warm, fuzzy and nurturing. My raising felt much like that of a baby giraffe, and consequently, that’s how I’ve lived my life. (More about this in an upcoming blog on Blind Spots)
I’m realizing now, more and more, how often I don’t fully feel like I live in a world that loves and supports me. That’s not a familiar feeling for me personally, and I highly doubt I’m the only one.
But, fortunately, I’m in the business of moving energy and being comfortable with uncomfortable feelings, so I’m not the least bit disturbed. I do move through the emotions of sadness, I’m still human.
I feel the familiar feeling in my solar plexus of being on my own, without support. I hold in my heart the version of myself that has shown up in this moment, needing that support, and I breathe. I say bless my heart. We all came here to have the experiences we have, so we can learn the things we came here to learn.
If I didn’t get that, I wouldn’t be this.
And I came here to be this.
I love you so much.
I’m happy to feel what I feel and have gone through every single thing I’ve gone through to be able to tell you, you’ll be ok.
You too can get through this, feeling more joy and confidence with a deeper level of understanding of yourself, your life path, and the entire situation. The moment you realize it, you can’t help but let it go. Yes, please and thank you!
And that’s all we have to do to make major changes in our lives.
Just let go.
Let got of all the shit that doesn’t serve you anymore. Let go of needing things to be different. Let go of needing things to have BEEN different. They weren’t. It was what it was, and now it’s over. Learn from it and move on.
Stop believing in the struggle. Stop struggling. Set it down, lay it down, feel through it, appreciate it for the great information it was then and is today, and let it go.
There’s nothing to hold onto. Only things to let go of.
We’ve spent a lifetime learning the wrong way of looking at things.
This Un-Learning will be the most powerfully important thing you’ll ever do.
As you do you’ll remember life is a game, and the reality of life is LOVE.
Everybody has problems. Every single person in this world has problems. So I thought I’d share some of my struggles with you.
Oh, hey hey, you say. I thought you were a Conscious Creator? It’s SIMPLE, you say! Create your own reality, you say!
How can someone have struggles if they’re so good at creating their own reality?
Welcome To Humanity!
Being a conscious creator doesn’t mean that you’ll never have another struggle ever again.
It does mean, however, that any struggle you face, you’ll see as a catalyst for your own growth. You won’t be totally upset by anything and it will give you a higher level of conscious awareness as to which direction you should go next to move yourself closer to what you want.
Some folks may think I don’t have any troubles, because I don’t talk about them. I really only complain about petty and non-meaningful things, quickly, and often, in jest.
In all honesty, we’re human, we’ve all got “problems”.
But, if I am really, REALLY upset or worried about something, NO ONE will EVER know.
It’s one of my tricks as a Conscious Creator to move as quickly as I can through difficulties, without including a bunch of folks in a storyline I’d rather not play out.
I’m not saying to not talk things through. What I am saying is be careful who you take into your confidence. Only share with folks that will allow you to move quickly through the hard parts to come to the best decision you can for yourself and your family.
I say Bless my heart all the time. There are any number of scenarios that can play out during a day that might frustrate or irritate me. My answer to that is “Bless my heart!”. All day every day. This is what life is about. Moving quickly through the difficult bits. Acknowledging the minutiae and being kind to yourself makes it much easier to get through.
I promise to do better 20 times a day. Though I want to do my best every time, sometimes, I fall short. But, I don’t give myself a hard time. I breathe through, shake it off and tell myself, “I’ll do better next time” and often times do. 🙂
I have aches and pains that I have to stop my mind from making into a thing. My mind can be every bit as unruly as the next person. I just don’t give it any leeway. I understand we are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe and I tell myself as much when my mind tries to convince me it “could” be something else.
I feel frustrated, irritated and overwhelmed sometimes. My life isn’t perfect. I don’t have everything I want. Many things can seem difficult for me. So, I don’t try to think about, worry over or fix any of them. I tell myself it’s all Energy and it’s all moving and it always eventually does. I don’t rush myself or make it a big deal when it takes longer than I’d like.
Ioften wish I could use my hands to change things, which is supremely frustrating because I know the most powerful and easiest way to make real and lasting change is by moving the energy. But, that doesn’t preclude me from thinking “I’ve got to DO something!” on a fairly regular basis.
I feel uncomfortable when moving through the energy of… not wanting something because it’s someone else’s idea, even though it may be a good idea. Oh my gosh. This is so childish. Yet, here I find myself sometimes.
I’m sure I could come up with plenty more, but we’ll leave it here for now.
This Is All Human Nature
Move through the energy of all negative upset by allowing yourself to feel what the emotion feels like physically in your body, without telling yourself a bunch of unhelpful stories about what those feelings mean and EVERYTHING changes. Whew. Yes, please and thank you!
I’m working on a Free Course to introduce these ideas and concepts on my newsletter if you’d like to jump in and be part of helping me create that.
I need your feedback. I want your feedback. I’m here to help and I want to know what you need.
Be so easy about things. Don’t make them a big deal. Relax more about it and let unsettled feelings pass before you take any action.
Any amount of effort you give to this endeavor will yield results. And small wins gather much momentum when you focus on them.
Here’s to it! Much Love, Crystal
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I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately. I’ve been PRAYING a lot lately.
I hold the vision that each of us, in our own way, to our own higher power, are calling out for Peace and Love in the hearts of ALL during this most difficult time in our Nation’s history.
The way I pray now is much different than how I prayed when I was younger and had less understanding of the world, how it works and what God actually wants from me.
As a child my prayers always started like this…
Now I lay me, down to sleep
I pray the Lord, my soul to keep.
If I should die, before I wake.
I pray the Lord, my soul to take.
I knew instinctively, at a very tender age that I couldn’t ask God for things that I didn’t also ask for other people. So, I added an addendum to my prayer…
Please forgive me of all my sins,
and forgive everyone else in the world of all their sins.
Please help me make it through the night,
and please help everyone else in the world make it through the night.
I remember knowing, even as a small child, that not everyone was going to make it through the night. That when morning came, some people in the world would have passed away and some family would be sad about it. But, I prayed that prayer all the same. The reality of life would not stop me from asking for what I knew to be true and right and good.
I still say that prayer every night when I go to sleep. Same dang way. It always cracks me up and I am infinitely proud of my little small self for KNOWING that I want EVERYONE’S highest good. Whether I know or like them or agree with them or not.
It also has occurred to me that I’ve been praying for years for God to help us through this dark night. Whatever it is, for whomever. This dark night… we will make it through.
I pray or meditate multiple times per day. When I’m irritated, upset, don’t know what to do, etc… I ask for clarity, guidance and support. I sit down and get still. I ask my higher power to be with me and help me make the best decision. This is also when I find the physical sensations of the emotional upset in my body and let it move. It’s a game changer. Everything is always working out.
I’ve added more addendums to my prayers …
Hey man! Walk with me, talk with me. (loving, friendly, familiar)
I want to see what you see.
I want to hear what you hear.
I want to say what you would have me say.
Be in my heart today, God.
Make me an instrument,
Of your Peace.
Of your Joy.
Of your Love.
All in your good time, God, not my time.
YOUR will, not mine.
I am open and available, thy will be done.
In Jesus name, I pray.
SO BE IT AND SO IT IS.
Whatever Works For You
You do you. Find your faith and pray joyful prayers of thanks for the good things you want for yourself and the entire world. Lay in the grass and breathe in Nature, and all the good there is in this world. Take a walk and wave to your neighbors, no matter what sign they have in their yard. Intend to see the world through God’s clear and loving eyes.
Say NO thank you, and turn off any news channel or personality that tries to divide you from ANYONE in your community. We need each other. Life is a team sport. We didn’t come here to agree on everything or to succeed alone. We came here to learn what we can and share it with others.
What I’ve learned and am trying to share is…
LOVE IS and everything else, isn’t. God IS LOVE.
This is all you need to really understand, to let go of the negativity and divisiveness. That mindset and narrative is a mistake, intended confusion. It’s not real.
What’s real is love, connection and community. If the folks you are watching aren’t emulating this you’re watching the wrong stuff.
If YOU are someone that IS projecting something OTHER than LOVE, connection and community, I’d get radically honest and ask myself why.
When people act ugly or say ugly things, it says EVERYTHING about their own state of mind, and nothing about any person or subject they are disparaging.
Energy is running pretty high these days, folks.
Keep breathing and keep looking for ways to calm and soothe the situation.
I’m here to help. I love you so much!! Crystal
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Anyone else going through this right now? I know I’m not alone.
Last year a close member of my family became angry with me. Just the other day I received a box on my front door with a printed note, 2 books and the last gift I gave them, returned. Nice touch!
The note started with how much they loved me but that our relationship couldn’t stay the same if I continued my current behavior, though they haven’t seen or spoken to me in over a year. This is in reference to the way I handle myself, which is, by the way, in accordance with my own values and under/innerstanding of who I am, what I am and how I serve.
They then suggested I look up the term Spiritual Bypassing and research it, look through the book materials they left and be willing to accept new information.
Um, who do they think they are? I literally can’t remember a time I’ve insisted on any specific behavior from this person or anyone for that matter.
Is anyone else losing friends or family members because you aren’t behaving in the exact way they want you to? If you are, and feeling hurt, angry or upset, take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to relax. If you’re the one that did the cancelling, you’re free to do the same. Bless all of our hearts.
There is a very divisive movement going on in our country and world at this moment that isn’t intended to foster true and honest conversation. Nor is it for the benefit of either arguing party. Who benefits from all this fighting?
Remembering that we are creating our own reality is the most important thing to realize. Bless my heart. Bless my heart. Bless my heart. I forgive this situation and I forgive myself for creating it. Yes, please and thank you!
If others don’t understand that, it has NOTHING to do with you. Move through the energy of the lower vibrations and when it feels easy, send love and blessings to the individual in your own way, through prayer, meditation or some more obvious communication.
Anyone that tries to control your behavior is not focusing on their own lives and issues, therefore should NOT be relied upon for sound advice.
So, why in the world would I take that advice over my own knowing and intuition? I wouldn’t. EVER.
The extent that you buy into mentally and give a bunch of energy to anything, is the extent to which it can affect your reality. Ie… manifest, come true, or continue happening.
Understand you are matching the person or situation on a vibrational level, and that when YOU move YOUR energy around the situation, it WILL resolve. Either you’ll just feel better or the whole thing changes. And rest assured, when you FEEL better, everything changes. So quit trying to change the world by controlling outside circumstances. It’s like trying to rearrange what you see in the mirror. Everything that manifests in our physical reality is a direct reflection of our own internal struggle. Moving toward this knowing will forever set you free.
The Path of Conscious Creation
SO. This is what I do. ALL. THE. TIME… as a Conscious Creator.
I move MY energy around how I feel about things and that allows them to change in MY life. See what I did there?? “YOUR” or others thoughts and behavior do not factor into my decision making, or come into my focus. That’s on you or them. Period.
Everyone has this ability. Everyone has the free will to make their own choices. All races, ethnicities, genders have this free will ability. And not knowing that doesn’t make it NOT so. We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe.
Release yourself from “body identity” where you tend to live blaming and complaining about what another “body” did TO you. Expand your thinking. Expand your consciousness. The world is much larger and more complex and that’s a very cave man point of view.
Our world only stays the same because the way we are looking at it stays the same.
If you see what’s happening as an indicator that what you want is on the way, then what you want IS on the way.
If you look at what’s happening as an indicator that something terrible is happening, something terrible IS happening.
It’s as simple as that. You’re either Playing this game of Life or being played. Either might be relevant for YOUR life experience, so there really is nothing wrong with whatever your path is.
Trying to force others to conform to your path is YOUR problem, not theirs.
And while wisdom, maturity and life experience can help in understanding these truths, age is no indicator. There are plenty of young, wise folks and old fools alike. You can tell them by the way they talk and behave. Speaking negatively of others, holding grudges or behaving inappropriately towards another is an indicator of energy to move. But that goes for both sides of the equation, the perpetrator and the victim.
When you don’t know, you just focus on what’s easiest to focus on (the problem, fear, negativity) because that’s what we’re fed continuously through the news media, video games, music, movies /hollyweird and big tech.
It’s easy to be angry and self righteous, pointing blame outside of ourselves. That’s how our minds work when focusing on problems, until you understand that you are in control of your own mind and begin moving yourself in the direction of everyone’s health, joy and freedom.
We don’t deny peoples suffering or that it exists, we move through the energy we have around that suffering in order to shift the situation for everyone. No amount of physical action taken from a low vibration will bring the high vibration experience wanted. Move the energy and then take the action to achieve the largest impact.
Whichever side of this crap you’re on… Let it go. Don’t worry about it. Abraham says, “Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want.” Everything WILL be alright. Because that’s what I am creating.
What about you? What are you creating? Are you facing these struggles? If you need help navigating this sticky situation to create the most positive outcome for all involved, I’m here to help.
If you’ve been through this and have wisdom or insight that helped you through, we’d love to hear it.
If you have cancelled someone and gotten over it, I’d love to hear what helped you move through it.
And to my precious family member that I love and adore more than any words could ever convey… I’ll not go against my own knowing for anyone, even you.
My heart is going out to you America. We’re all in this together.
This too shall pass. It’s all Energy and it’s all moving.
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Growing up, my dad always told me, “Attitude is everything” and “Life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it”. He also told me I’d argue with a fence post, and that I’d bitch about being hung with a new rope, but these first mentioned ideas were the basis from which I built the rest of my life. So thank you, Daddy, you were absolutely right… about all of it. Ok, most of it. Let’s not get carried away.
I’ve been doing this work for 25 years… creating my reality. I was in my early 20’s when I read the book, The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn, that changed my life. I knew while reading The Game of Life and How to Play It, it was all true and I could and would never forget.
The following are some basic takaways from what I’ve learned over these past 25 years. It might have been slow going in the very beginning, but has ramped up exponentially. This train is already rolling folks, jump on!
Get Tough, Girl
Daddy also told me I should have thicker skin. And as a super sensitive empath, this was quite the chore that took years to achieve. I’m still the same super sensitive empath, but I have moved so much of the energy I experienced in my younger life that even I can’t believe how confident I’ve become. My inner knowing and ease with being able to handle whatever happens has shaped my ALL LOVE and No Mercy attitude.
This reality creating isn’t for the faint of heart. You have to be strong in your faith and knowing and, flexible in your allowance of others.
I’ve listened to people laugh at what I say and roll their eyes while looking at the rest of the group like I’m airy-fairy and don’t live in the “real world”. I’ve irritated more than a few people with my incessant positivity and insisting that everything would indeed work out. Even more people have been aggravated with me for not wanting to listen to them go on and on about a problem from a negative vibration and telling them not to argue for their own limitations.
As you get more in touch with your own intuition and start living more fully in your body you’ll begin to feel energy physically. Negatively focused conversations (even from the best intentions) will clench your gut, chest or throat and make you want to run screaming down the street, tearing out your hair. I still have to remain calm while listening to people focus or speak fearfully or negatively, knowing this behavior is only creating the next opportunity for them to feel this way again. And, while maybe what they need most is more love and positivity, if I say something, it will only trigger them.
Pro Tip: It’s relevant for some to explore the lower vibrations more or for longer than is necessary for others… that doesn’t make them wrong, it’s just not right for me and maybe you.
Everyone is where they are on their own path and it isn’t always going to run in alignment with our own. Blessings of love to each of us. We are loving humans that want what we think is best, but each individual is on their own life path and Free Will is the name of the game. Deep breaths and relax.
Take Full and Complete Responsibility for Your Life
When I realized that we are all indeed creating our life by what we focus on and think about, I understood why, in life, I had gotten what I had gotten. No longer did I look to blame people outside of myself. No longer could I yell, scream or lose my shit. I am in control of my own life. I mean, it didn’t happen overnight. It actually took a few years to fully be able to pull it off on a regular basis, but that’s because it was a new concept and I didn’t have support or anyone to really talk with about what I was learning and going through.
Plus, I didn’t understand the concept of Energy at that time. I didn’t know how to feel through what I was feeling physically in my body to let it move. I mistakenly thought that if I felt something it meant it was true, it was real, it is here and if I feel it, it will GROW. Bless my heart.
That is what happens when we feel bad, emotionally or physically, and think negatively about why we feel bad at the same time. BUT, if we’ll set our brain aside and allow ourselves to experience the physical sensations in our body of the raw feeling, that accompanies the emotions, that revolves around the story… are you seeing a pattern here?
Take a moment to sit quietly… nice, straight and tall, both feet on the floor. Take a deep breath. Relax your face, jaw, neck, shoulders. Breathe slowly, deeply… in through your nose, filling your belly completely, then fill your chest, up through your neck and fill your head. Hold that for 2 and release with an audible AHHHHHHHHHH. This stimulates your parasympathetic nervous system that will calm your body without asking your brain for permission, thank you very much. Notice how your body relaxes a bit more after each breath. Feel the heart unclench and relax, the belly soften and the mind begin to ease.
Notice what you’re feeling physically in your body. Without thinking about why you feel these things soften and experience them as sensations in the body. Keep your mind occupied with soothing and comforting yourself with kindness and encouragement. If you can’t come up with your own words use these to start. Come up with phrases that are personal, relevant and really feel right for you.
Bless my heart, this is uncomfortable!
It’s all energy and its all moving
This sucks, but it’s only a feeling and it won’t kill me
We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe
Yes, Please and Thank you!
I love you, I love you, I love you!
Learning to take full control of your emotions and thoughts will put you firmly in the drivers seat of your own life. This has been the most rewarding and freeing part of my journey, being in control of myself. It has allowed me to gracefully navigate difficult situations in ways that truly benefitted all involved.
Lighten Up and Laugh About It
Whatever it is, lighten up and laugh. No matter the situation, me being calm and centered always yields a more favorable result. I always think of my sister, Johanna when I need to lighten a tense situation with a funny comment or one-liner. I could always count on her to throw out a hilarious zinger after I had just turned up the tension of a situation because of my own participation from a lower, chest clinching vibration. These days, I always allow myself to take a moment to breathe and feel the tension in my (chest). You can’t think straight when you’re mad, scared, frustrated, upset or worried. So take a minute. There are plenty of things that plenty of people will tell you to freak out about, get mad over, or that it’s worth a fight. Bless ALL hearts. Everything is worth moving the necessary energy around so the correct action for the highest good of everyone can be taken.
That being said, I’m from Texas and where Zen ends, ass kickin’ begins.
Make it Right
KNOWING I’m creating my reality, I will NEVER say, act, or behave as if something is NOT going to work out for me. That would be acting contrary to my own knowing. Not gonna happen.
If you’ve ever watched or participated in improvisational theater you might know the rule is, Yes, and… Yes to what’s just been said AND… what’s next… add your spin in the direction you’d like it to go. Yes, and can send you into orbits you didn’t even know existed. NO, ends the game, NO, gets you stuck.
Yes, and…. the most amazing thing happened.
Yes, and… then all my dreams came true!
Yes and… then the perfect situation presented itself that I couldn’t be more thrilled or excited about. It’s beyond all my wildest dreams of what I’d be doing or get to do. It just showed up. I got a phone call and here was something that I hadn’t even been focused on, but that had been important to me for a long time. I’ve spent countless hours thinking and talking about how to make this better or how it can be better and that someone has already figured it out. And here’s a phone call, out of the blue, that has asked me to be involved. WOW. Yes, please and thank you.
When you make things RIGHT, they will ALWAYS work out for you. No matter what they may look like at the time or in the beginning. Keeping our poise, even in the most difficult situations and circumstances. Empty tanks, empty beds, empty bank accounts are all old news. Keep your focus on what you want and intend to make everything right.
How could this work out for me?
What great thing could happen next?
How can I let this be easy?
Who is going to show up that I don’t even know about?
When we began dealing with Dionne’s cancer diagnosis, I told only a handful of people what was going on. We had already moved past the diagnosis and were emotionally, mentally and physically moving along the healing path. Me telling and retelling the story was not going to support my vision of her perfect health. When I told our core folks and asked them to tell others that would want to be told we said, this is going to be fine, we are working it out, cry about it as you need to, but we’re moving onward, upward and out of this.
And that’s exactly what we did. Our family and friend group followed our lead and we moved through Stage 4 breast cancer in 5 months. We’re still working our way out of that particular system, but it has come with more blessings that we can count and so many of them are human connections with beautiful, kind and loving people we’d never have had the chance to meet. What a true blessing and miracle that cancer turned out to be. And it’s true for us because we’re creating our reality consciously. These are always options when you make whatever happens “right”.
If you want something, make a decision. Decide what you want and move in that direction. I always encourage one to decide to be happy, healthy and abundant rather than needing any specific name, place, face or thing. We only want specific things because we think they will make us FEEL specific ways. I say, let’s cut out the middle man! How do you want to feel? The feelings will bring the things. The things will only temporarily bring the feelings and then you’ll need something else to bring the feelings. Do you see this pattern?
Decide how you want to feel and move confidently in that direction.
Throughout this journey, certainly more in the beginning, if it doesn’t feel good to think about your absolute peace, boundless joy, flowing abundance and perfect health, that only means you have energy to move around (the situation) and where ever it feels tight or uncomfortable in your body… that’s where to focus first.
Our physical body is an indicator of how our current perception of the situation is lining up with our true higher, God self. Is this the way God sees it? Do you feel good? Yes. You are in alignment with your higher God self. Do you feel bad? No. You are not in alignment with your higher God self
If you feel bad about something it means the way you’re looking at it doesn’t allow you to see the actual benefit of the situation. How do you begin to see the benefit? Move the energy.
Once you do that you’ll always be the one to make the decision. I want this or I don’t. You won’t be waiting around for something or someone else to decide.
It ain’t over till it’s over. Don’t give up. Relax. Give up the struggle. Move the Energy. Hold the line. Stay calm. Stay poised. Breathe. Relax and support yourself.
Tools for Tough Times
As many of us learned during the recent freak winter storm, here in Texas and beyond, it’s good to be prepared. Likewise, in this journey of consciously creating our reality there are things we need along the way. In the beginning, you need a bit more support getting moving, but later you’ll find it’s more about refining and fine tuning for your optimum experience. Below are some suggestions that have helped me through all stages of my growth.
I’ve detailed above a breathing technique that works every time. Your willingness to take the time to do it is up to you. Support yourself, or get support. Once this becomes a regular practice and habit, your life will literally be YOUR OWN.
Make lists of things you love, appreciate and are grateful for. Quick and easy focus shifter when you need to consciously and purposefully move your mind in a better direction.
Keep a journal of all the magical and marvelous things you’ve created by thinking about or focusing on them. Let yourself open to what these might be, often times we’ll not take notice. Take notice.
Write a script when you’re feeling good and loving and in the flow that you can read to yourself when you’re feeling angry, low, scared or upset. Don’t count on your own brain to come up with inspiring material when you’re feeling funky. Take the initiative to support yourself.
Get grounded in your body. Get out in nature, bare feet or lay in the grass, take a shower/be in water, clean or sweep. Turn off the electronics and touch nature. The EMF’s from so many of our electronics are constantly disrupting and scrambling our energy. Nature soothes and supports our highest vibrational alignment.
Start a self care routine, buy yourself a nice comfy robe and big mug for tea. Get comfortable getting comfortable. Notice where you are uncomfortable, soften and soothe, breathe and stretch. Get used to noticing what you feel in your body. This is where your clearest communications from the Divine are received and if you’re not paying attention you’re missing the point.
Say YES to the high vibration friends that invite you to do fun stuff. Or intend to find some. Create your own community. Start a group in your area if there isn’t one. Try this… WANTED:High Vibration Co-Creators to support each other through our Conscious Creation Journey
Get a Consciousness Coach to support you through the tricky times and help move the difficult energy that will make the rest of this journey of conscious creation an absolute ball!
Life is supposed to be fun. Imagine consciously creating your own reality according to what would thrill and delight you. How does that feel? What does that look like?
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We’ve spent much of the last week in our back yard and garden enjoying the beautiful weather and stirrings of Spring. Cleaning up after a long, cold winter can be a daunting task and looking out at the visual devastation our garden suffered after this lingering, freezing winter storm we recently experienced was overwhelming.
The amount of dead to be cut back and put into the compost pile would make you think everything was lost. But, my understanding from many years previous experience, is that this is just part of the process. I can recognize all the work that needs to be done, but not get bogged down in it. I can see that despite appearances, things are working just as they should, not as I would have them. I don’t quickly give up on things that look entirely dead; I have too often seen that spark of life again spring forth when all seemed lost.
So, understanding this process and what I’m dealing with, I pick a task, just one task. Sweep/spray off the porch, vacuum/mulch leaves from a garden bed, buy/mix soil for pots… What seems to be the most easy and obvious task that will make me feel like I’ve really made some progress? What feels good to me? I understand the energy with which I undertake any task will flow forward into my next one.
Start with what feels good for you and they’ll all go that way.
Life is a process. The old saying that life is about the journey and not the destination is so true… and the journey is a process. We’re always in transition, from where we were to where we’re going.
Evolutionarily speaking our brain is here to protect our physical apparatus. So in that respect, notice, our brain constantly pointing out what’s wrong or could be dangerous is our old, caveman response. Long since useful to us, it’s now actually the most important thing we become aware of in ourselves and start to shift.
Science has proven we are influencing our reality by our focus and attention. So, knowing this information, it’s clear focusing on what is bad or wrong will only create more of what’s bad or wrong in our lives. This is a proven fact. It’s how the experimenter influences the experiment. What’s expected is often what we get. What do you expect? Is it what you want?
Whatever I’m facing in my outer physical reality is a direct reflection of my own inner conflict or struggle. If I can honestly accept that power and soften around my own personal struggles, removing my attention from the person or situation I have falsely blamed for all my worries and upsets, I can change my whole world, which includes individuals in it. I don’t force change on those around me, I create it myself by releasing the energy that created the situation in the first place.
Step by step
So, if I understand my thoughts and focus create my reality, then I would want to practice thinking and focusing on the best, most positive, productive solutions and situations I can think of.
And, if I also understand the physical sensations I feel in my body, attached to the emotions, are the reason I might have difficulty releasing the long-running negative or fearful thoughts, then I’d want to learn to relax my body and allow myself to physically feel better so I could easily shift my thoughts to ones more positive, powerful and productive.
This is all assuming we’re willing to let go of our negative attachments to everyone and everything. If my allegiance to or hatred for a group or individual leaves me red faced, chest tight, stomach clenched, huffing and puffing, it’s not good for me. Do I want to be happy or right? Does being right actually make me happy? How can I relax and more easily move through this tightness in my solar plexus, while constantly setting aside my incessant, unhelpful thoughts and support myself mentally? Bless my heart, bless my heart, bless my heart. This is the work.
If you you’re recently beginning your journey of conscious creation and your mind still tends to focus negatively in judgement or fear, relax. Anyone proficient at anything first had to learn about it and then practice. You can do this and it can be easy. Don’t argue for your own limitation. Let yourself think about how great it’s going to be and then move through any doubt you feel arise physically in your body.
This is the process to fall in love with.
This is the ticket to your own personal freedom. You’ve just been given the keys to the kingdom. You can be, do, and have whatever you want. You have the freedom to focus on, think about and create the life of your dreams. No one else is creating in your reality. Other peoples thoughts and opinions only affect you to the extent you buy into and allow them.
You are F R E E. Go forth and be happy, healthy, and prosperous.
If you understand the value of coaching and are interested in soothing and support along this very real journey of conscious creation, I’m here for you. My support is not required, you can do this alone, but it’s always easier and better together. Join me!
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If you feel your life is limited by your surroundings I’d like to introduce you to the idea of Life as a Game. There are a few things happening in this Game… You’ve got the Game vs the small game and the Player vs the player/piece.
Most folks live their lives from the view point of the playing piece, as on the Monopoly board, rather than the actual hand or Player that moves the piece along throughout the entire Game.
If we don’t understand we are the Player, we will play as the piece.
And you might as well BE a hat, shoe or thimble by the amount of power given away to random and familiar people, agencies, and institutions. But, when you begin to understand the concept of life as a game, which it is (that we absolutely came here to play!), you can relax about the things and situations that upset you.
The Game of life is about evolving into the highest version and ideal of ourselves that chooses Love easily and effortlessly in every instant. Everyone is playing this game, that is the point of this physically manifested universe; a playground to learn to love.
The small game of life is about acquiring things, money, status, power. Most people are stuck in this game. Surviving our childhoods but carrying our old hurts and fears around creating more of the same and blaming someone else for it happening.
In the Game of life we are the Player, the Player sees the whole board and understands the moves made by other Players and makes the best moves based on the wider perspective and understanding of how the game works.
In the small game of life we are the player/piece. As the player/piece we’re an object moved around a board, with no input or power, subject to the whims of a drawn card, taxes or overpriced rentals. Go to jail. Go directly to jail, do not pass go, do not collect $200. Dang.
I don’t know about you, but I am here to Play this Game.
My days of being the player/piece that mindlessly gets knocked about by “bad news” or disappointments are long since gone. Being the Player is a much more thoughtful and rich experience. Players feel the full extent of the emotions around any subject or situation and make sound and stable decisions from a place of peace and loving awareness.
If you’re not familiar with these ideas and still find yourself needing other people to be different for you to be happy, I send you all my blessings. This isn’t for everyone. Some people like the small game drama of family fights, disagreements and hospital visits. And everyone gets to have the experience they want. It’s called Free Will.
As the Player we understand we actually chose our most difficult personal experiences from which to learn and grow. But if, as the player/piece we’re unwilling or unable to find a higher perspective, no worries, in this game of life a similar situation will keep coming around. It will happen over and over again in our life, in the lives of our children and in the lives of their children. Until someone along that line wakes up and starts Playing the Game.
Learning to Play this Game is the most important work you will ever do. It changes the work required of you. It releases the drama and fighting, the illness, anxiety, lack, fear and disease. It opens you up to experience true peace in your heart which shifts all manner of circumstances and situations.
If you are ready to feel more in control of your own life and want support in learning to Play the Game, I’m here to help!
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Happy Thanksgiving! I hope your day was filled with warmth, good food, good company and loving family of all kinds.
I am thankful for the love of my family and friends, my happiness and the peace in my heart.
Although our lives may never be exactly what we want, things are always shifting and changing. New opportunities and blessings present themselves as surely as we stumble across old challenges.
My deep peace comes from my knowledge of how the world works, my ability to not take everything I think seriously and knowing how to let myself feel what I feel without struggle. I know nothing lasts long if I don’t resist it and saying three magic words can change everything. Yes & Thank you.
It’s relatively simple but can be difficult to accept if we’ve spent our lives…reacting to every situation, blaming others for our unhappiness and misfortune, beating ourselves up for every tiny mistake we think we’ve made or thinking someone was “out to get us.”
I can relate to all of it. That was how I lived for a while. It was all I knew. Reacting to life. Recognizing I had control and learning to exercise that control was difficult and heart-wrenching before I learned the true secret to letting life be easy.
Here’s to living each day, appreciating the wonderful people, circumstances and opportunities that constantly surround us. They are always there, we just sometimes get side-tracked by things that worry and scare us.
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Give the lasting gift of peace this season.
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