One of the most important things for us to realize and understand is this… You will always have your “initial reaction” to every situation, thought or circumstance you encounter.
Many times my initial reaction is… “NO! Dang it! That’s not what I wanted.”
But then, after a few breaths and a moment of soothing myself, I suddenly realize maybe it’s not so bad after all. If “this” happens then “that” would become unnecessary or actually easy. Or if I did “that” at another time it would free me up to do “whatever.” You get my point. It’s not a big deal. There are always 1000 other perspectives than the one you are currently viewing your life through.
I tell people in my sessions all the time, “One of two things are going to happen. The situation will completely resolve, or you will feel completely different.” And either way, this is what you want, no? You want things to be different, or you want to feel good about what currently “is”.
If you need help finding a better perspective, get it.
This is your life. Enjoy it!