Control: Who Has It & How To Take It

You Are Free To Be HappyHappy 4th of July! Independence Day for us here in the United States.

in·de·pend·ence
[in-di-pen-duhns]  noun

1.  Freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.

While we in America enjoy many freedoms we don’t always realize how free we actually are. Even people who live in nations with far less freedom than we, have the same capabilities to experience a kind of freedom that isn’t given or allowed, but taken.

Many don’t realize how much control they have over their own lives. Yes, even you have complete control over your life and all that swirls around in it.

What’s that? You don’t feel like you’re in control? You feel like you’re at the mercy of your boss, government, family obligations, money limitations or health issues? It’s OK. Many do until they realize that isn’t actually the case.

Our focus, energy and vibration control our reality.

What we focus on expands and we get what we generally expect.

Governments, religions, teachers and parents all create rules for us to abide by, but only you control your thoughts. You think thoughts all day long that no one else knows about or has any control over.

YOU are in control.

It may not feel that way if you have a busy or racing mind that’s constantly running between what’s wrong, what’s not done and what’s still left to do. If this is the case for you, I want to acknowledge you. Bless all of our hearts.

Our minds are negatively focused, and will be until you take the steps to begin to turn it around. You have that power and that control. You just have to exercise it.

I heard someone say the other day, “that’s just the way I am.” I hear ya. I have said that many times myself.

But, it doesn’t have to be the way you are. You can change. Everyone can.

The things I used to say “that’s just the way I am” about were generally things I wasn’t proud of and that didn’t bring me joy or make me a good and happy person. For instance, being impatient, judgmental, superior/self righteous or holding grudges for years longer than necessary.

We’ve all felt these things. We’re human.

Welcome to the human race!

But, the beautiful part of being human is that we’re in control. We are where we are evolutionarily speaking because of our ability to change our minds. To think of and see things from another perspective.

The best way to change a negative perspective is to release the stressful energy that’s causing it. Notice when you’re feeling bad/mad where you feel it in your body. Set aside your very good reason for being so upset, resentful or afraid and let yourself be with what you’re feeling physically in your body.

That physical sensation in your stomach, back, knee, chest/heart, throat or jaw is what keeps those old emotions present in your body and mind. But, if you can stop telling yourself that old worn out story that keeps bringing the anger and resentment back up you’ll have an easier time releasing it.

It’s actually not difficult at all. It’s a very simple process that works every time to help you to relax and release the ever present stress you feel in your body.

And, what’s better than that? When you release the stress, the situation changes.

You find you’re not so angry, upset or worried anymore and then you suddenly realize or see another view point that was previously unavailable to you. The person, situation or just the thing you needed shows up in perfect time.

But, if what you want doesn’t happen immediately, don’t get discouraged. Learning to exercise control over our own lives and emotions will take some practice. After all you had to crawl before you could walk, right? Anything worth doing takes a bit of your time and effort. Especially if it will change your whole life, don’t you think?

“We’ve had a great first half. Now, what’s important is who’s gonna handle their emotions.”
~Gregg Popovich
Coach of San Antonio Spurs, 2014 NBA Champions

Who’s gonna handle their emotions?

This is the cornerstone of control, in your daily interactions and your life. And how do you control your emotions? By moving the stress energy physically in your body when it comes up.

At first you might have to walk away or stop and count to ten or breathe ten deep breaths, do that. It’s always worth it.

The person who control’s their emotions, is in control. Always. Notice the next time you see someone throwing a fit or acting out of anger. Recognize how out of control they are. In the midst of this you can breathe through any upset and have a calming and centering effect on the situation.

So, if you want more control over your life, begin to control the small things you can control. Firstly, your thoughts and emotions. As you practice and get better and better at it, you’ll notice a huge shift in the world around you. Possibilities and opportunities present themselves and things you’ve been concerned about will begin to take care of themselves.

Sending you much soothing, peace, ease and flow on this day of our great nations independence.

Now get out there and control yourself!! 😉

Love and blessings for a safe and happy week-end,
Crystal

Photo Credit: Be What’s Possible FB Page – Thank you!

2 thoughts on “Control: Who Has It & How To Take It

  1. Very informative and well put. You gave me a few pointers in there. Very nice and as you said it is simple and easy to do. Thank You and Blessing of Love and Happiness your way. Peace and Calming thoughts will gather around you. And you deserve them. Again Very nice.

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