New Year, New Year!

Happy New Year! Here’s to 2021 bringing you and yours all good things.

I don’t know about you, but 2020 was very enlightening for me. I got clear on a LOT of what I don’t want, which in turn gave me immense clarity on what I DO want. Yes, please and thank you.

We are right now in a time of enormous contrast as The Great Awakening lifts us through the shift of paradigms. The old way of doing things is just OLD. Jeez. So much of our technology and thinking are absolutely caveman in nature. Though I’m not curious as to why. The freedom inducing information I share with you is simple and releases you (and EVERYONE) from bondage of any type, be it of your own making or by the manipulation of others.

One such type of bondage and manipulation is being attached to outcomes. When you KNOW you’re creating your reality you recognize them as transient, only lasting as long as you give them your attention. When you’re creating your reality, you can allow any situation to look anyway it looks and still turn out in your own favor. Or better than that… for EVERYONE’S highest good. (At one point during Dionne’s journey through cancer she weighed around 87lbs, I was able to see her and still know everything was working out and it did. )

So many times in my life I’ve worried over one thing or another, only to have it work out. Maybe not in the way I initially wanted or expected, but absolutely worked out to my benefit. And even in my victory, often the joy was short lived.

Have you ever gotten what you wanted only to realize it didn’t make you happy?

In my mid 20’s I called it my If/Then syndrome. I realized I kept needing something to happen, then I could be happy.

If this would only happen… then I’ll feel better. Then I’ll be happy. Then I’ll start doing this or stop doing that.”

And most of the time what I felt needed to happen was for someone else to do something differently. Act different, be different.

Ahhhhhh. Bless my heart. Even though I understood the truth of me being the only thing that needs to change on a deep and fundamental level, I continued to have and sometimes casually entertain those if/then thoughts for years; but, at least I had figured out what I was doing.

I didn’t have to make all the changes at one time. I just had to begin noticing when I would say it out loud, and then after more practice, when I thought it. I might get a few sentences into the scenario or replay in my mind and then have to stop myself. Allow myself to breathe and relax, soothe myself about whatever was upsetting me and let myself come down.

The power of acknowledging my own thoughts and making a conscious decision to go or not go with them, came after years of practice. But, it doesn’t have to take as long you might think.

What I’ve found to be most important aspect in freeing ourselves, and by the way, I’ve thought A LOT about this…. is RADICAL HONESTY. You have to be honest with yourself. I mean, really and truly honest. It’s your best bet. You don’t have to be honest with anyone else. But, what I’ve also noticed is, if you ARE truly, radically honest with yourself, you won’t feel the need to be dishonest with other people.

Anytime you feel upset mentally or emotionally or feel any pain physically in your body, ask yourself a few questions. Start with a few deep breaths, give an audible (bless my heart) AHHHHHHH on the out breath. Relax and notice the relief in your body after each breath. Ask the questions I’ve included below and then notice what comes up for you. It’s a good idea to write them down to begin with and then write down your answers. That will be a clear black and white indicator of what direction your thoughts are taking you. When you keep all these thoughts wrapped up tight in the quiet of your mind you can convince yourself they’re smart and good and serving you… even when you know they make your stomach clench and your chest tight.

Whatever your answers are, write them down. You’ll then have a clearer picture of what the core issue is and have a definite and easier place to start.

  • What are my thoughts about the situation?
  • Are they really true?
  • Why do I think that?
  • Are these my own true thoughts/beliefs based on my own experience or did they come from someone else?
  • What emotions am I feeling? Name each and give a number 1 being least to 10 being worst.
  • What are the physical sensations in my body? Name and give a number for each 1 being least to 10 being worst.

Scenario / Emotion / Physical Sensation
This situation / scares me / and I feel it in my stomach.

That exercise in and of itself will give you much more relief than if you just sat around thinking all of these same things. But even more than that, it gives you a road map for moving forward, onward and upward through any difficulties or anxiety inducing situations.

Most of our worst mistakes and errors are made in moments of upset when we speak or act before really assessing the situation honestly within ourselves.

Some people aren’t ready for that level of honesty, even if it is just with themselves. BUT! I know you’re out there. You, who want to let that shit go. YOU who want to move forward in your life and leave behind all of the old thoughts, ideas and habits that have kept you from feeling the way you want to feel and enjoying the health and life you hope for.

My way of moving through the world isn’t for everyone. Some folks still want to blame others for their bad behavior, all while ignoring their own shortcomings and mistakes. Some want to keep talking over and over about things that irritate and frustrate them without first feeling through the energy and acknowledging their own part in creating the problem. This is how the many humans behave, to some extent or another.

Let THEM and YOURSELF completely off the hook. We’re human after all. The great news is… just hearing this new information, and knowing it’s a possibility opens you up to experiencing it.

So, whatever you might think you need this new year, it’s nothing outside of yourself. With a few tools you can get where ever you want to go, from where ever you are, and easier than you think. This new year can be the best new year with just a little effort.

Starting with an earnest desire to be healthy, happy and free from your own crappy thoughts and habits requires you to be radically honest with yourself. And when you do, you’ll begin to understand why you are the way you are and the reasons behind why you do what you do.

You’ll begin to understand yourself and others in a way that eases you off the hamster wheel of blaming and complaining. You’ll not feel the need to protect or defend yourself and will be a softer more forgiving and understanding person. We’re all in this together, by the way; Where we go one, we go all. And as we lighten up, the collective conscious lightens up with us. So even though not everyone can or is willing to do these things, as we move further and further along this path of love and understanding, we’ll bring them with us. We’re shifting our collective momentum out of struggle and anger into ease and flow.

No rush, no pressure, no stress. Relax and allow all to be as it is and it will get better. Struggling to force things to happen only prolong the experience you’re trying to move through. I see people all the time that want to see immediate change or 100% relief from an issue they’ve been creating for years. Understand that it CAN be immediate, but you have to be willing to LET things happen. If you’ll settle for a little better and a little bit better, you’ll soon find things to be MUCH better faster than you realized. Because as we focus on “better” everything in our world changes. So if you start this new year focusing on what’s even better than before, you’ll get things even better than that.

So how about letting this New Year be a really, really New Year? A year in which you let go of asking, “What’s wrong?” and start to ask “What’s going right in your world?” Change the direction of your thoughts, mental focus a little every day by noticing what you’re thinking and feeling. Just notice. Once you begin to notice more quickly, you’ll be able to shift more easily.

Here’s to your ultimate happiness! Which is what everyone wants. We are always willing to spend the time and money on the things we want… that often doesn’t actually make us feel the way we want to feel. The trick is to figure out how to WANT to spend the time and money on the things that will ACTUALLY get us where we want to go.

I’m rooting for you. Let me know in the comments below what’s right in your world and what you’re looking forward to in this new and exciting 2021.

Happiest New Year of your LIFE.

Now get out there and create it.

Transcending Cancer

Practical solutions and first-hand testimony for gracefully moving through cancer.

No kittens were harmed (or actually juggled) during the taking of this hilarious photo taken in October 2020. What chemo? Look at that HAIR! Humor is the BEST.

In July of 2019 we got the diagnosis, Dionne had stage 4 breast cancer and it had metastasized into her spine causing multiple compression fractures. Her last chemo treatment was December 20th, 2019. And today December 28th of 2020, Dionne is out on the golf course (yes, we live in Texas). In the grand scheme of things it didn’t take too long, but sometimes it felt like an eternity. It was upsetting and frustrating and scary at times. But, we made it through.

From wherever you are, you can get to where you want to be.

You just have to want it and be willing to do a few things that will make the rest of it much, much easier.

You have to take responsibility for your own health, happiness and choices.

You have to be willing to feel uncomfortable without making things worse by believing the scary things your mind is telling you about what’s going on or could happen.

You have to be willing to change, first and foremost, the way you think.

The way you look at challenges and difficulties and the perspectives you choose makes your road exceedingly tough or remarkably easy.

Lots of folks just want a pill… so they don’t have to change anything. But, things have to change if you want something to be different. But, no worries, it doesn’t have be harder, on the contrary it will be so much easier when you support yourself mentally and focus on things in a way that supports you and everyone around you.

It’s OK if you feel overwhelmed and afraid or hopeless. Just because you FEEL that, doesn’t make it TRUE. There is always hope. It’s only a breath away. As you relax, breathe and allow your difficult moment or feelings to pass, your mind begins to open up. Options and opportunities that you couldn’t see before now become available to you.

I’ve created a page for Cancer Support. Listen to three podcasts specifically focused on the ways we moved Dionne through the worst part of her journey in 5 months and check out the resources that we researched and used to support her body through the process of healing.

Please share this with anyone that needs it or is open to this information. I’m offering a free soothing session to anyone dealing with a cancer diagnosis for themselves or a loved one. Email me at Crystal@crystalnuding.com to schedule.

Anything is possible and things can change in an instant.

I’m here supporting you and holding the vision of perfect health for you and your family. It’s all energy and it’s all moving. I love you so much. This too shall pass, we are living proof.

Nice and Easy

When you realize that you’re actually involved with the creation of your own reality, you begin to see things in a much different way. You appreciate the synchronicities that add fun and playfulness to what can otherwise be boring and repetitive life activities.

I’ve been telling folks for a while now that life is supposed to be fun and easy. There’s plenty of “work” to be done but it doesn’t have to be miserable drudge work. We should all be playing to our own strengths and doing things that are fun and easy for us while making a living doing it. Not struggling to make it through a day of work that doesn’t remotely fulfill us and sucks every bit of life energy we have out of us. Bless all the hearts that do that. I was one, more that once, for longer that I cared to. BUT. It’s all good information. When we learn from our own life experiences what works and doesn’t work for us we can begin making the changes that will provide the biggest, easiest and most beneficial shifts in our feelings, emotions and actual physical situations.

When I turned on my music station, while setting our space for coffee and morning chats, a song by Ella Fitzgerald and Louis Armstrong came on, They All Laughed. It’s about being ok going for the thing you want because the most successful and prominent inventors and change makers were laughed at. People that have shifted consciousness and the way things happened in the world were ridiculed and laughed at because other’s were unable to share their vision. But, who actually got the last laugh?

So while I was laughing, singing and dancing around enjoying my very clear cue from the Divine, another one came along. The song directly after that one was Nice ‘n’ Easy by Frank Sinatra. Hell yes, people! You can’t make this stuff up. Nice and easy does it every time. It’s so true!! Yes, please and thank you.

I realized a while ago that it’s vitally important for me to succeed in my nice and easy way, because IF NOT ME, WHO?

Who else is telling you it’s ok to relax?

Who else is telling you “don’t do what I want you to do, but what YOU want to do”?

Who’s telling you to listen to your own heart above anything else and tune into your own intuition?

If you have people surrounding you telling you these things, congratulations!! You’re ahead of the curve. You’re creating a reality that supports you fully and completely.

But if you still live in a reality where anyone (parents, children, boss, spouse…) have very specific rules YOU need to follow to make THEM happy, you’re most certainly not alone.

It’s really ok to find yourself here, because NOW you can find your way out. Beginning to realize and raising your level of conscious awareness around what you’re “actually” doing is the key first step to any journey.

I’m here to support you on that journey!! I’m on it myself. It’s what we’re here to do… support each other on our journeys. I’m currently working on a book and podcast for your absolute support and my heart bursting need to share this loving, soothing, calming, nice and easy information. So, if you’re into what I’m sharing and have an interest in trading your applicable skills for sessions, I’m all ears! Reach out and let’s chat!

Let’s let it be Nice ‘n’ Easy, shall we?

Moving Through the Don’t Wants

So often, the first thoughts that come to mind when we learn new information that might be contrary to our immediate desires is… I don’t want THAT!

I don’t want this to happen, I don’t want to have to DO that, I don’t want it to be hard/sad/ upsetting. I DON”T WANT THAT!

Ahhhh. Bless our very human hearts. Welcome to humanity.

But, not to worry!

Can you begin to notice when your thoughts start with “don’t want”?

Can you begin to relax and breathe around “not wanting” something specific to happen?

Can you stop, breathe and feel where you feel that particular “don’t want” in your body?

Noticing the direction of these thoughts, softening around the physical sensations in the body and breathing slowly and deeply will help you move through the energy behind the “don’t wants”.

What are the “don’t want’s” anyway? Truths? No. Warnings? No. Good information? YES!

How about indicators of energy surrounding an old circumstance or situation that keeps you repeating the same old patterns that feel like this. Old, outdated, worn out, played out, exhausting, ridiculous, tired ideas born in childhood or early life (or anytime!). Picked up from our being in the situation we were in, having the experience we were having and not knowing the bad feeling was an indicator of our perspective.

Perhaps we saw something upsetting happen and instead of being of the perspective that it was a bad and unfortunate thing that I don’t have to experience, I took it as a pathway of things I would eventually have to experience.

Armed with this new knowledge, move as quickly as possible through the physical sensation of the “don’t want” and be ever so sweet and kind to yourself. Often we were told to suck it up and quit crying. This was good for helping “someone” to not feel bad, but not so great for the one stuffing down the emotion; to then have to feel over and over again through their lives until they find out how to let it go and move on.

But! LEARN you WILL and MOVE ON you SHALL!

It’s all energy and it’s all moving. We are Vibrational Beings living in a Vibrational Universe. Relax into what that truly means. Relax into allowing yourself to have the life you truly want. You can allow the life that would make you so happy and set you on fire with creativity and excitement.

What do you want?

Let the answer to this one be about the way you want to feel. Let’s stop projecting negatively into our future and shooting our own selves in the foot. Let’s think about the most productive way to get ourselves to where we want to be.

How do you want to feel?

How you want to feel is what you’re always going for. So, skip what you think you need to make you feel that way and just focus on feeling that way. Happy, healthy, joyful, abundant, prosperous, peaceful, easy, creative, excited, successful. Write these things down and think about how it feels to feel this way. Spend more time thinking about this than thinking about anything you “don’t want”.

Because when you know that what you focus only creates more of that, you’re more selective in what you focus on. And when you’ve moved through the energy of the “don’t want’s” it’s a heck of a lot easier to do that.

Here’s to feeling it all and letting it move.

I love you dearly and support you fully.

Vibrant Health

With all we see going on in the world, I wanted to share a reminder about the brilliant design of our physical bodies and the universe.

Our body’s ability to heal itself is miraculous and available to each of us.

Beside controlling our thoughts and emotions, boosting our immune systems and detoxing from all the chemicals in our environment is our best and safest bet when it comes to fighting harmful bacteria or viruses. [Actually, our bodies are MADE of these things that serve us very well. Exposure is our ally… along with fresh air and food, clean water, good sleep and moving our bodies]

Two weeks into the personal/global slowdown/reset… the canals of Venice were clear and dolphins, fish and swans could be seen swimming about. From Mumbai, the Himalayas became visible for the first time in 30 years, birds showed up in LA and sheep came down from the hills and grazed in lawns around London. What a blessing this has been to our planet and its inhabitants!

This is the shift in paradigms I’ve been going on and on about. Yes, please and Thank you!

I’m linking what I put together from the research and information we gathered and used to get Dionne through stage FOUR cancer in FIVE months.
I’ve included links to products, videos and information to support you in learning more about natural ways to support your perfect health.

Aside from the physical action steps you can take to support yourself and family, the very most important factor is your thoughts and focus. Everything works or NOTHING works based on your beliefs and current mental state. That means no medicine, surgery or modality works if you don’t consciously support it. And to the contrary, the most simple and easy solution works if you believe in it.

I love you so much and have missed communicating regularly. But, sometimes big things have to happen to shake up the status quo. I say Yes and Thank you! This has been the most transformative time for me and I’m learning new things about myself and the world daily.

What have you learned about yourself during this time? What adjustments and changes have you made to your lifestyle? What have you noticed about the world around you? What do you want your new normal to feel like?

I’m here for you if you have any questions or need support. Please look through this information to see what you’re already doing or what you can add easily. Small steps are the most powerful and important when creating true and lasting change.

I love you dearly and can’t wait to hug your neck.
PS… Feel free to share this with anyone who needs it. 💚

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Using Your Mind as a Tool

We spend so much time leaning toward disaster, upset, negativity and despair that many people don’t realize there are ways around it. It really was important to err on the side of wrong for our caveman ancestors because it COULD have been a tiger lurking out in the bushes. That’s not the case these days.

Many people think they have to stay the way they are. “I’ve always been this way.” Well, if you’re happy, healthy, positive and abundant, great! If you’re not, you can change.

Your mind IS your master until you understand your control over it. Self awareness and taking responsibility for your own thoughts, words and actions is the key to using your mind as a tool rather than letting it be your boss.

Despite what you watch on the news we are not in mortal danger all day every day. Certainly not in the way our minds have been programed to believe. Bless our hearts.

What we practice becomes habit, so if fear or anxiety has been your modus operandi for years it’s understandable. Not to worry, it’s not impossible to change. You just have to become aware of what you’re doing and practice focusing in a better direction.

Yep, there are easy, low action options for moving yourself closer to what you want.

One of them is asking yourself questions that actually serve you and will help the situation.

Rather than asking “What else could go wrong!?” What if you ask yourself better, more positive and helpful questions?

Try these:

What if it’s easier than I’m allowing it to be right now?

How can I let it be easier?

What if there is an answer?

How can I relax and let the solution show up?

What if I don’t have to handle everything?

How can I let in more help?

What if there is a cure?

How much better will I feel when I let myself off the hook?

What if I can do it?

What if it’s already taken care of, I just haven’t heard about it yet?

How can I focus more on what I want?

What if focusing positively really works?

What if I could just ask myself better questions and things I need would start showing up?

What if I enjoy doing it?

How can I let myself find more things to enjoy?

What if I end having a great time?

What if I learn something wonderful that changes my life?

What if this is exactly what I need?

How much better will I feel when I appreciate all my life experiences?

What if this opens the way for me to learn all kinds of new things?

What if it all works out perfectly?

What if I can have it all?

How can it get better than this?

What if the good stuff. And how much better will I feel when… Don’t try to answer the questions. Just ask and breathe. Let yourself create the smallest crack in your negative reality to let the solution in.

Don’t go over and over in your mind what terrible thing MIGHT happen or what scary dis-ease MIGHT be lurking. Let yourself find some hope. There is always hope.

This world will be whatever we make it. My Daddy always told me, “life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it.” Begin to make it what you want by helping yourself first.

Give yourself a break when your mind searches out and mulls over all the things that COULD go wrong. You are human, after all. And your mind works like everyone else.

But, with heightened self awareness and more thoughtful focus your life will change with relative ease. You’ve just got to be willing to spend a little more time thinking about what could go right.

Roll With It, Baby

Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.

We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.

My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.

I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.

Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.

I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.

It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.

Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.

But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.

Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.

Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.

There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.

It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.

I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.

If you’re struggling right now, hold on.

Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.

In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)

I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.

By the way… it’s Friday.

Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…

The Key to Self Awareness

Awareness is like the sun. When it shines on things, they are transformed. ~Thich Nhat HanhSelf awareness is a vital key to your ultimate freedom. Why do we do what we do? What causes us to take the action and make the choices we make? Or to maybe NOT take the action we know we should take?

Being able to self reflect and really know why we do what we do is imperative to our creating the change we want in our lives and world.

So what’s key to being self aware? Honesty. Not with someone else, but with you. Yep, being honest with yourself is imperative to self awareness. We can fool a lot of people and we spend an awful lot of time trying to fool ourselves, but as is usually the case, honesty is the best policy.

When we’re honest with ourselves about what we’re really feeling we can get to the heart of the issue. How many times have you found yourself upset with someone or something only to realize later that your level of upset didn’t really match the offending situation? Or maybe you were upset with the wrong person!

Each of our emotions are layered like an onion. The core of it was the first time you ever experienced the emotion. Perhaps you picked up the energy from a parent or other family member, maybe something upsetting happened to you, or both. From that first moment until you release it and allow the energy to move, that emotion continues to attract layer upon layer through each similar experience in our lives.

What you feel majorly upset about today is actually the extension of an emotion that many times started years ago.

When we know this we are able to see how we can sometimes over-react to small situations. They sure don’t seem small in the moment, but that’s because it carries with it years of upset, injustice, resentment, anger, fear, hurt or worry. That’s not to say that all situations are small. It’s just an opportunity to recognize that no matter what the circumstance we can respond differently.

What’s currently “wrong” in your life? What are you upset about?

You already know what it is. It’s that thing you think about all the time that makes you feel terrible. (When you think about it, where do you feel it physically in your body? Stomach, heart, throat, lower back, neck?)

Your weight, anxiety, your or a family members nagging health issue, money, your child, your aging or ailing parents, relationship issues, grief, your inability to get pregnant or an upcoming meeting/appointment/event.

Maybe it’s something that’s happening to another person or a situation you have no control over. That’s OK too. Your newly expanded self awareness will help you in finding clarity.

Ask yourself what’s at the core of my feeling about this situation? Do you feel responsible for fixing it? Do you feel like you should have done something to prevent it? Are you angry at the person you’re worried about? Let yourself explore your emotional feelings around the struggle. Allow yourself to get familiar with how you honestly feel.

Ask yourself what’s really going on? What started this? What’s this really about? When was the first time you recall feeling this emotion? Do you feel scared, mad, overlooked, overwhelmed, unworthy or not good enough? Regardless of your answers, it’s OK. Everything is always working out for us, no matter what it might look like right now.

Let yourself ask the questions and then relax. Don’t rack your brain trying to figure it out. It’ll come up easy enough, and if it doesn’t don’t force it. Notice where you feel it physically and soften around it. Tell yourself you’ll think about it later, but right now you’re just going to be. Breathe deeply and give yourself some mental and physical soothing and support. As you move through the physical energy, your mind will have access to more positive perspectives and ideas.

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When you become truly aware of your own thoughts, feelings and actions a picture of your life will emerge. Things you struggled over or wondered why about will suddenly come clear and you’ll have a better grip on what you want and what you need to do to get there.

Control: Who Has It & How To Take It

You Are Free To Be HappyHappy 4th of July! Independence Day for us here in the United States.

in·de·pend·ence
[in-di-pen-duhns]  noun

1.  Freedom from the control, influence, support, aid, or the like, of others.

While we in America enjoy many freedoms we don’t always realize how free we actually are. Even people who live in nations with far less freedom than we, have the same capabilities to experience a kind of freedom that isn’t given or allowed, but taken.

Many don’t realize how much control they have over their own lives. Yes, even you have complete control over your life and all that swirls around in it.

What’s that? You don’t feel like you’re in control? You feel like you’re at the mercy of your boss, government, family obligations, money limitations or health issues? It’s OK. Many do until they realize that isn’t actually the case.

Our focus, energy and vibration control our reality.

What we focus on expands and we get what we generally expect.

Governments, religions, teachers and parents all create rules for us to abide by, but only you control your thoughts. You think thoughts all day long that no one else knows about or has any control over.

YOU are in control.

It may not feel that way if you have a busy or racing mind that’s constantly running between what’s wrong, what’s not done and what’s still left to do. If this is the case for you, I want to acknowledge you. Bless all of our hearts.

Our minds are negatively focused, and will be until you take the steps to begin to turn it around. You have that power and that control. You just have to exercise it.

I heard someone say the other day, “that’s just the way I am.” I hear ya. I have said that many times myself.

But, it doesn’t have to be the way you are. You can change. Everyone can.

The things I used to say “that’s just the way I am” about were generally things I wasn’t proud of and that didn’t bring me joy or make me a good and happy person. For instance, being impatient, judgmental, superior/self righteous or holding grudges for years longer than necessary.

We’ve all felt these things. We’re human.

Welcome to the human race!

But, the beautiful part of being human is that we’re in control. We are where we are evolutionarily speaking because of our ability to change our minds. To think of and see things from another perspective.

The best way to change a negative perspective is to release the stressful energy that’s causing it. Notice when you’re feeling bad/mad where you feel it in your body. Set aside your very good reason for being so upset, resentful or afraid and let yourself be with what you’re feeling physically in your body.

That physical sensation in your stomach, back, knee, chest/heart, throat or jaw is what keeps those old emotions present in your body and mind. But, if you can stop telling yourself that old worn out story that keeps bringing the anger and resentment back up you’ll have an easier time releasing it.

It’s actually not difficult at all. It’s a very simple process that works every time to help you to relax and release the ever present stress you feel in your body.

And, what’s better than that? When you release the stress, the situation changes.

You find you’re not so angry, upset or worried anymore and then you suddenly realize or see another view point that was previously unavailable to you. The person, situation or just the thing you needed shows up in perfect time.

But, if what you want doesn’t happen immediately, don’t get discouraged. Learning to exercise control over our own lives and emotions will take some practice. After all you had to crawl before you could walk, right? Anything worth doing takes a bit of your time and effort. Especially if it will change your whole life, don’t you think?

“We’ve had a great first half. Now, what’s important is who’s gonna handle their emotions.”
~Gregg Popovich
Coach of San Antonio Spurs, 2014 NBA Champions

Who’s gonna handle their emotions?

This is the cornerstone of control, in your daily interactions and your life. And how do you control your emotions? By moving the stress energy physically in your body when it comes up.

At first you might have to walk away or stop and count to ten or breathe ten deep breaths, do that. It’s always worth it.

The person who control’s their emotions, is in control. Always. Notice the next time you see someone throwing a fit or acting out of anger. Recognize how out of control they are. In the midst of this you can breathe through any upset and have a calming and centering effect on the situation.

So, if you want more control over your life, begin to control the small things you can control. Firstly, your thoughts and emotions. As you practice and get better and better at it, you’ll notice a huge shift in the world around you. Possibilities and opportunities present themselves and things you’ve been concerned about will begin to take care of themselves.

Sending you much soothing, peace, ease and flow on this day of our great nations independence.

Now get out there and control yourself!! 😉

Love and blessings for a safe and happy week-end,
Crystal

Photo Credit: Be What’s Possible FB Page – Thank you!

You’ve Got To Hand It To Them: But They’ll Take It How They Take It

Check out my latest article, just posted on LinkedIn.We drove out to our favorite river spot yesterday. On the way we stopped at Rusty Rooster to pick up a snack of delicious fried chicken, just like my Granny used to make.

We shared a piece driving down the road…

A few bites into the chicken I handed the piece to Dionne in the way I felt she’d be able to hold it easily and get the best bite, but when she reached for it, she took it in a completely different way than I had handed it to her.

In that moment, I gained a level of clarity on so much of what we do that I had to share it with you.

They’ll take it how they take it.

This is true whatever message, product or service you’re sharing; business or personal. No matter the energy behind what you’re doing, the other person can only perceive that which is in their own vibration and matches their level of conscious awareness.

Years ago, I worked for a person that I loved dearly. I would feel such waves of appreciation for the work we were doing together, I’d be moved send a rave email. In it I’d share all the reasons I was so proud to be doing the work and happy to help and support in any way I could.

I remember on more than one occasion not getting the response I thought I’d get. This person read my heart bursting, absolutely open and loving message and took it the wrong way.

Instead of hearing what I was genuinely saying they took it as a sign I wanted more power, money or recognition. I would never have turned down more money, of course, but those were never my intentions. I was simply sharing my moment of joy and appreciation.

So what’s the solution?

How do we make sure our message falls on open ears and arrives with our true intention intact?

First, feel through the physical sensations of upset or irritation any misunderstanding might have caused. Where is it? In your heart, stomach, throat? Resist the need to explain or defend yourself. They couldn’t hear you anyway. Recognize the other person is receiving this information through their own level of consciousness and no amount of research or hard facts will change their mind in the moment.

We all view the world through the very personal lenses of our positive or negative encounters. Our deepest fears and worries are what cloud our daily life experience. Move through this discomfort physically in your body to align your energy with those that can hear your message and will resonate with your business or service. You aren’t trying to reach everyone, just the ones that need what you’re offering.

Appreciate these ‘outages’ in the moment for the good information they are. Learn to acknowledge the upset you’re feeling physically as the thing keeping you from your perfect alignment. Let yourself feel through it without judgment or justification (or the stories of WHY you’re upset to begin with) and you’ll get even more clear about what you want to say or share or even how you need to re-direct your focus and efforts.

When we begin to recognize bad feelings or momentary “misses” as actual opportunities to move ourselves closer to what we want, then there’s never a problem, merely another potential solution.

Finding Your Flow

Have you ever been presented with an opportunity that obviously worked well for others but you immediately assumed was no good? Or maybe it felt good in the beginning but soon your mind had you convinced that it was a mistake and wouldn’t work out.

In each of these situations we have the opportunity to feel through our initial response to get to the truth of the matter for ourselves. Not what someone else thinks is right, but what WE feel is right for US.

What works for you won’t necessarily work for others and vice versa.

If you’re not connecting with your ideal client or customer, where’s the outage? Is it the way you feel about your offering or the way you feel about presenting or sharing your information?

Either way is no problem. By first being aware of what’s happening you have the opportunity to make adjustments, but they’re not the adjustments you might think.

More important than SEO, content marketing or Facebook ads, aligning your energy to feel good about what you’re doing is paramount to having a successful business. When you are in alignment, advertising is just icing on the cake. Word of mouth will become your greatest advertising tool and any money spent on marketing and ads will yield a higher ROI.

You can still do what you do, but you’ll be doing it in a way that reaches the people you are most excited to help and they will be happy to have found you.

What are the obstacles you bump up against on a regular basis? Where do you physically carry your anxiety, upset, irritation or grief?

When you realize this powerful and important information is available to you right now you can utilize it to create the shift and momentum you need for living the life you’ll love. You don’t have to do it like everyone else. You just have to do it the way that works best for you.

What do you think? If you’re reaching your target audience easily, what are your best tips? If you aren’t, what do you feel is standing in your way?

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Crystal Nuding is a leading edge thinker and stress management expert whose message of soothing and uplifting has helped people around the world. With no religious or spiritual affiliation, she encourages personal fulfillment through self acceptance and empowerment helping people release themselves from suffering, struggle and self-limiting beliefs. https://crystalnuding.com/about-crystal/