Getting Through Hard Times

We weren’t born onto this Earth to be perfect or to have perfect lives. How would we grow if things were always perfect? So learning to feel better when things look bad is key to transforming everything.

Two years ago this week Dionne began chemotherapy (along with doing many other natural things). Today she is healthy, so grateful, and happy to FEEL better. Every night when she’s able to turn over in her sleep or gets up to go to the bathroom and walks without pain she feels herself half asleep saying Thank You with every step. She remembers feeling really depressed when she was emotionally worried and physically hurting.

When you’re in pain, emotional or physical, your mind can’t focus positively. So learning how to support yourself in some key ways opens the door for big change with less effort than first thought necessary. The mental and emotional work she did while allowing support from Western medicine was paramount in her moving through her diagnosis with much more ease than many could believe.

You can only THINK as good as you FEEL.

Bless all our hearts.

How to Feel Better Now

I often write about moving the energy physically around emotions and have described the process many times. So I decided a couple days ago to make an audio to share with my newsletter folks and anyone that joins, as a gift. I have just gotten a new computer, as my old one slowly fades out of sight, and was practicing with my new equipment.

I didn’t initially intend to share this one. I didn’t AT ALL intend to share this one. The sound isn’t perfect. I bumped my mic. I didn’t say EXACTLY what I might have wanted to say. Because, duh, it was my first try and I was recording myself. OY. For those that don’t know me, I don’t necessarily like a lot of attention. I don’t like to have my picture taken, to be videoed, or to be recorded, because I sound like a country hick and I’ve been around enough to know how folks judge folks for things like not being perfect. Whoa. Hold on there. Who’s judging whom for not being perfect? That would be me… judging myself. See how this works?

Bless my heart. Bless all of our hearts. We’re not supposed to be perfect. We’re supposed to be as good as we can be, and do the best job we can, everyday, to get up and try again tomorrow. In my estimation, our objective is to see the world as God (The One True Infinite Creator, Universe, Spirit, whatever that means to YOU) sees it. Understanding that everything happens for a reason and we don’t always get to know why.

What others come into this life to experience and grow through is between them and their Higher Power and we have to soothe ourselves, and those around us, with kindness, gentleness, and support.

My parents lost a very wonderful young man yesterday. He worked for them on the ranch and was so kind, helpful, and sweet. I loved so much that they had him, and he had them. He struggled with things they knew about and probably more they had no clue of. The loss of that precious boy is being felt by so many. The idea of people suffering or struggling breaks my heart.

Clarity Through Pain

As I have felt through my own emotions and their corresponding physical sensations… my heart, heavy and aching, for him and his father/family, and my parents and his friends, my solar plexus in a knot. I feel a knot in my throat and find myself holding my breath. Usually during a thought that’s sad or looking at the situation from a very limited human perspective, instead of the way God sees it. Bless our Hearts.

When I notice this, I do this breathing exercise. I’ve talked about it a million times. It’s the thing that makes me feel better every time. It’s the thing that I want to share with as many people as possible so they can see and have the experience themselves of relief. From any emotion, from any sensation, relief. There’s plenty of brain science behind this, but from experience, I know.

When you FEEL better, you can THINK better.

And when you feel better, you can see there is support out there for you and that people love you and that we can get through anything. And with God, there is Grace. So whatever comes, it’ll all be ok.

Sharing My Process to Get You Through a Hard Time

So, I’m sharing it with you. Complete in it’s incompleteness. Perfect in it’s imperfection. My heart pounds now as I type this, thinking of sharing my first try. I grew up believing I should do everything right the first time. Let me just tell you that’s ridiculous. This isn’t the BEST I’ll ever do, but it’s a tool. And a powerful one at that. And tools don’t have to be perfect. They just have to work.

And in this moment I wish that he had had a tool to make him feel better. And the idea that I wouldn’t share something that might help someone because I don’t think it’s perfect is enough to make me share it, ready or not.

No one is perfect. Nothing is perfect. No life is perfect. Sometimes, things look and feel dark and difficult. But, there is always hope. If we can reach for a “just a little better” in difficult moments it will begin to ease. Soothing our body with this exercise will bypass the brain and begin to soften the body. Which will help shift our perspective and bring some relief.

So, do this breathing exercise and feel better. I love you. I want your complete and total health and happiness. Share this with whomever you think might need it, or use it, or share it themselves with someone in need.

Life can be good and YOU CAN FEEL GOOD. No matter what you’re going through and no matter what is happening in your life.

Feel Better Now – Listen to this
Simple Breathing Technique and Guide to Moving Energy

Results, damnit!

Love is all around if you're looking for it.

Love is all around if you’re looking for it.

Bless our human hearts. We all want results.

We want to see immediately the results of our actions. I’ve started a diet and want to see a lower number on the scale and a new rear-end in the mirror on the second day. Or we have gotten really out of balance and have a dis-ease or diagnosis that should be cleared up with one pill.

Well, again, bless our human hearts.

We are hard wired to want those results. We don’t necessarily want to do the work it would take to get those results, we just want the results. Although the “work” we truly need to do to get the results we want isn’t “work” at all.

Sometimes we like the exercise or workouts we do and some of us even like to eat healthy foods, but as a society we’ve given every ounce of our own personal power away to big pharma, doctors, politicians, banks and the media.

We aren’t really willing to go through a process of healing or transformation. We just want it right now. But your illness or dire situation didn’t happen over night, it may sometimes seem as though it did, but I assure you it didn’t. It started a while ago and built up little by little until it got so loud that you were diagnosed with cancer or your partner left you or you lost your job.

There were little warning signs all along the way that if you knew and were paying attention you could have listened to and made adjustments to create a totally different outcome. Learn how to navigate these signals and you’ll never be caught off guard again.

So, ok… I get it. You want results.  What is the one result you can always look for that will make everything better? And I do mean everything.

re·lief
noun: relief

~ a feeling of reassurance and relaxation following release from anxiety or distress.

Ahhhhh, sweet relief.

If the result you are looking for is relief, everything in your life changes. Relief isn’t complete and total resolution, relief is feeling just a little bit better than you were before.

If you stop looking for the whole enchilada right now and appreciate the relief from your busy mind or a slight bit of relief in your body if illness or some diagnosis is what you’re in search of then you’re on your way.

So many times when faced with an illness or terrible situation the only thing people want is immediate, complete healing or resolution and nothing else will do. When that’s your standard, you’re not leaving yourself much room for improvement. You’re also not giving yourself the opportunity to discover what put you on that path to begin with. But, if you let just feeling a little bit better be enough it begins to compound.

Beginning to recognize where this illness or situation came from is quite helpful. Noticing where you’ve been directing your thoughts and focus can give you great information on how you’ve gotten yourself into any situation.

I know some people might not want to hear they had anything to do with their illness or dire situation, but taking responsibility for your own life, health and happiness is the only way to control it. Otherwise, you’re at the mercy of the outside world and that just sucks.

So, how do I get relief when things are so terrible in my life right now?

Well, begin with breathing. Stop what you’re doing and take a few deep breaths. In through your nose, filling your belly first and then your chest, then breathe out, pulling in your stomach to empty out your lungs completely before the next deep cleansing breath.

While you’re breathing begin to soothe yourself in your mind. Say calming and comforting things to yourself, even if at first you don’t believe them to be true. “I’m OK. I’m OK. It’s all OK. This is all going to be alright. Everything is working out for me. Even if I can’t see it, I know that things are working out for me.”

Get outside in nature. Take a walk with your pet or borrow someones pet (ask them first! haha) to take for regular walks. Play music that makes you feel good and dance around. Light some candles and put on comfy clothes. What makes you feel good?

By taking the time to make yourself feel better physically you’re giving your mind a chance to follow. You know how hard it is to be positive when you feel bad physically. If your problem IS feeling bad physically you must begin to take notice of feeling just a tiny bit better. Baby steps make all the difference.

Once you begin to get the hang of it, you’re golden. With enough practice, you’ll begin to believe what you’re saying and feel it to be true. You’ll also begin to hear the crazy shit your mind is telling you as crazy shit and won’t be so frightened by it.

You’ll notice how when you calm and soothe yourself, you don’t stay upset for so long, you have better ideas, your illness begins to respond to the treatment, you have more fun with your children, partner or spouse and life in general just gets better and better.

This is all so very simple, but not always easy. If you need support on your journey, I am here to assist and guide you.

You can do it. You know what your heart needs to hear. Say those things and begin cultivating a relationship with yourself based on soothing and support. Life really is good and fun and all you need to do to experience more of that is look for and give yourself relief.

Here’s to you finding it.

My love to you,

Crystal