We weren’t born onto this Earth to be perfect or to have perfect lives. How would we grow if things were always perfect? So learning to feel better when things look bad is key to transforming everything.
Two years ago this week Dionne began chemotherapy (along with doing many other natural things). Today she is healthy, so grateful, and happy to FEEL better. Every night when she’s able to turn over in her sleep or gets up to go to the bathroom and walks without pain she feels herself half asleep saying Thank You with every step. She remembers feeling really depressed when she was emotionally worried and physically hurting.
When you’re in pain, emotional or physical, your mind can’t focus positively. So learning how to support yourself in some key ways opens the door for big change with less effort than first thought necessary. The mental and emotional work she did while allowing support from Western medicine was paramount in her moving through her diagnosis with much more ease than many could believe.
You can only THINK as good as you FEEL.
Bless all our hearts.
How to Feel Better Now
I often write about moving the energy physically around emotions and have described the process many times. So I decided a couple days ago to make an audio to share with my newsletter folks and anyone that joins, as a gift. I have just gotten a new computer, as my old one slowly fades out of sight, and was practicing with my new equipment.
I didn’t initially intend to share this one. I didn’t AT ALL intend to share this one. The sound isn’t perfect. I bumped my mic. I didn’t say EXACTLY what I might have wanted to say. Because, duh, it was my first try and I was recording myself. OY. For those that don’t know me, I don’t necessarily like a lot of attention. I don’t like to have my picture taken, to be videoed, or to be recorded, because I sound like a country hick and I’ve been around enough to know how folks judge folks for things like not being perfect. Whoa. Hold on there. Who’s judging whom for not being perfect? That would be me… judging myself. See how this works?
Bless my heart. Bless all of our hearts. We’re not supposed to be perfect. We’re supposed to be as good as we can be, and do the best job we can, everyday, to get up and try again tomorrow. In my estimation, our objective is to see the world as God (The One True Infinite Creator, Universe, Spirit, whatever that means to YOU) sees it. Understanding that everything happens for a reason and we don’t always get to know why.
What others come into this life to experience and grow through is between them and their Higher Power and we have to soothe ourselves, and those around us, with kindness, gentleness, and support.
My parents lost a very wonderful young man yesterday. He worked for them on the ranch and was so kind, helpful, and sweet. I loved so much that they had him, and he had them. He struggled with things they knew about and probably more they had no clue of. The loss of that precious boy is being felt by so many. The idea of people suffering or struggling breaks my heart.
Clarity Through Pain
As I have felt through my own emotions and their corresponding physical sensations… my heart, heavy and aching, for him and his father/family, and my parents and his friends, my solar plexus in a knot. I feel a knot in my throat and find myself holding my breath. Usually during a thought that’s sad or looking at the situation from a very limited human perspective, instead of the way God sees it. Bless our Hearts.
When I notice this, I do this breathing exercise. I’ve talked about it a million times. It’s the thing that makes me feel better every time. It’s the thing that I want to share with as many people as possible so they can see and have the experience themselves of relief. From any emotion, from any sensation, relief. There’s plenty of brain science behind this, but from experience, I know.
When you FEEL better, you can THINK better.
And when you feel better, you can see there is support out there for you and that people love you and that we can get through anything. And with God, there is Grace. So whatever comes, it’ll all be ok.
Sharing My Process to Get You Through a Hard Time
So, I’m sharing it with you. Complete in it’s incompleteness. Perfect in it’s imperfection. My heart pounds now as I type this, thinking of sharing my first try. I grew up believing I should do everything right the first time. Let me just tell you that’s ridiculous. This isn’t the BEST I’ll ever do, but it’s a tool. And a powerful one at that. And tools don’t have to be perfect. They just have to work.
And in this moment I wish that he had had a tool to make him feel better. And the idea that I wouldn’t share something that might help someone because I don’t think it’s perfect is enough to make me share it, ready or not.
No one is perfect. Nothing is perfect. No life is perfect. Sometimes, things look and feel dark and difficult. But, there is always hope. If we can reach for a “just a little better” in difficult moments it will begin to ease. Soothing our body with this exercise will bypass the brain and begin to soften the body. Which will help shift our perspective and bring some relief.
So, do this breathing exercise and feel better. I love you. I want your complete and total health and happiness. Share this with whomever you think might need it, or use it, or share it themselves with someone in need.
Life can be good and YOU CAN FEEL GOOD. No matter what you’re going through and no matter what is happening in your life.