New Year, New Year!

Happy New Year! Here’s to 2021 bringing you and yours all good things.

I don’t know about you, but 2020 was very enlightening for me. I got clear on a LOT of what I don’t want, which in turn gave me immense clarity on what I DO want. Yes, please and thank you.

We are right now in a time of enormous contrast as The Great Awakening lifts us through the shift of paradigms. The old way of doing things is just OLD. Jeez. So much of our technology and thinking are absolutely caveman in nature. Though I’m not curious as to why. The freedom inducing information I share with you is simple and releases you (and EVERYONE) from bondage of any type, be it of your own making or by the manipulation of others.

One such type of bondage and manipulation is being attached to outcomes. When you KNOW you’re creating your reality you recognize them as transient, only lasting as long as you give them your attention. When you’re creating your reality, you can allow any situation to look anyway it looks and still turn out in your own favor. Or better than that… for EVERYONE’S highest good. (At one point during Dionne’s journey through cancer she weighed around 87lbs, I was able to see her and still know everything was working out and it did. )

So many times in my life I’ve worried over one thing or another, only to have it work out. Maybe not in the way I initially wanted or expected, but absolutely worked out to my benefit. And even in my victory, often the joy was short lived.

Have you ever gotten what you wanted only to realize it didn’t make you happy?

In my mid 20’s I called it my If/Then syndrome. I realized I kept needing something to happen, then I could be happy.

If this would only happen… then I’ll feel better. Then I’ll be happy. Then I’ll start doing this or stop doing that.”

And most of the time what I felt needed to happen was for someone else to do something differently. Act different, be different.

Ahhhhhh. Bless my heart. Even though I understood the truth of me being the only thing that needs to change on a deep and fundamental level, I continued to have and sometimes casually entertain those if/then thoughts for years; but, at least I had figured out what I was doing.

I didn’t have to make all the changes at one time. I just had to begin noticing when I would say it out loud, and then after more practice, when I thought it. I might get a few sentences into the scenario or replay in my mind and then have to stop myself. Allow myself to breathe and relax, soothe myself about whatever was upsetting me and let myself come down.

The power of acknowledging my own thoughts and making a conscious decision to go or not go with them, came after years of practice. But, it doesn’t have to take as long you might think.

What I’ve found to be most important aspect in freeing ourselves, and by the way, I’ve thought A LOT about this…. is RADICAL HONESTY. You have to be honest with yourself. I mean, really and truly honest. It’s your best bet. You don’t have to be honest with anyone else. But, what I’ve also noticed is, if you ARE truly, radically honest with yourself, you won’t feel the need to be dishonest with other people.

Anytime you feel upset mentally or emotionally or feel any pain physically in your body, ask yourself a few questions. Start with a few deep breaths, give an audible (bless my heart) AHHHHHHH on the out breath. Relax and notice the relief in your body after each breath. Ask the questions I’ve included below and then notice what comes up for you. It’s a good idea to write them down to begin with and then write down your answers. That will be a clear black and white indicator of what direction your thoughts are taking you. When you keep all these thoughts wrapped up tight in the quiet of your mind you can convince yourself they’re smart and good and serving you… even when you know they make your stomach clench and your chest tight.

Whatever your answers are, write them down. You’ll then have a clearer picture of what the core issue is and have a definite and easier place to start.

  • What are my thoughts about the situation?
  • Are they really true?
  • Why do I think that?
  • Are these my own true thoughts/beliefs based on my own experience or did they come from someone else?
  • What emotions am I feeling? Name each and give a number 1 being least to 10 being worst.
  • What are the physical sensations in my body? Name and give a number for each 1 being least to 10 being worst.

Scenario / Emotion / Physical Sensation
This situation / scares me / and I feel it in my stomach.

That exercise in and of itself will give you much more relief than if you just sat around thinking all of these same things. But even more than that, it gives you a road map for moving forward, onward and upward through any difficulties or anxiety inducing situations.

Most of our worst mistakes and errors are made in moments of upset when we speak or act before really assessing the situation honestly within ourselves.

Some people aren’t ready for that level of honesty, even if it is just with themselves. BUT! I know you’re out there. You, who want to let that shit go. YOU who want to move forward in your life and leave behind all of the old thoughts, ideas and habits that have kept you from feeling the way you want to feel and enjoying the health and life you hope for.

My way of moving through the world isn’t for everyone. Some folks still want to blame others for their bad behavior, all while ignoring their own shortcomings and mistakes. Some want to keep talking over and over about things that irritate and frustrate them without first feeling through the energy and acknowledging their own part in creating the problem. This is how the many humans behave, to some extent or another.

Let THEM and YOURSELF completely off the hook. We’re human after all. The great news is… just hearing this new information, and knowing it’s a possibility opens you up to experiencing it.

So, whatever you might think you need this new year, it’s nothing outside of yourself. With a few tools you can get where ever you want to go, from where ever you are, and easier than you think. This new year can be the best new year with just a little effort.

Starting with an earnest desire to be healthy, happy and free from your own crappy thoughts and habits requires you to be radically honest with yourself. And when you do, you’ll begin to understand why you are the way you are and the reasons behind why you do what you do.

You’ll begin to understand yourself and others in a way that eases you off the hamster wheel of blaming and complaining. You’ll not feel the need to protect or defend yourself and will be a softer more forgiving and understanding person. We’re all in this together, by the way; Where we go one, we go all. And as we lighten up, the collective conscious lightens up with us. So even though not everyone can or is willing to do these things, as we move further and further along this path of love and understanding, we’ll bring them with us. We’re shifting our collective momentum out of struggle and anger into ease and flow.

No rush, no pressure, no stress. Relax and allow all to be as it is and it will get better. Struggling to force things to happen only prolong the experience you’re trying to move through. I see people all the time that want to see immediate change or 100% relief from an issue they’ve been creating for years. Understand that it CAN be immediate, but you have to be willing to LET things happen. If you’ll settle for a little better and a little bit better, you’ll soon find things to be MUCH better faster than you realized. Because as we focus on “better” everything in our world changes. So if you start this new year focusing on what’s even better than before, you’ll get things even better than that.

So how about letting this New Year be a really, really New Year? A year in which you let go of asking, “What’s wrong?” and start to ask “What’s going right in your world?” Change the direction of your thoughts, mental focus a little every day by noticing what you’re thinking and feeling. Just notice. Once you begin to notice more quickly, you’ll be able to shift more easily.

Here’s to your ultimate happiness! Which is what everyone wants. We are always willing to spend the time and money on the things we want… that often doesn’t actually make us feel the way we want to feel. The trick is to figure out how to WANT to spend the time and money on the things that will ACTUALLY get us where we want to go.

I’m rooting for you. Let me know in the comments below what’s right in your world and what you’re looking forward to in this new and exciting 2021.

Happiest New Year of your LIFE.

Now get out there and create it.

Giving Thanks for Peace

Happy Thanksgiving! I hope your day was filled with warmth, good food, good company and loving family of all kinds.

I am thankful for the love of my family and friends, my happiness and the peace in my heart.

Although our lives may never be exactly what we want, things are always shifting and changing. New opportunities and blessings present themselves as surely as we stumble across old challenges.

My deep peace comes from my knowledge of how the world works, my ability to not take everything I think seriously and knowing how to let myself feel what I feel without struggle. I know nothing lasts long if I don’t resist it and saying three magic words can change everything. Yes & Thank you.

It’s relatively simple but can be difficult to accept if we’ve spent our lives…reacting to every situation, blaming others for our unhappiness and misfortune, beating ourselves up for every tiny mistake we think we’ve made or thinking someone was “out to get us.”

I can relate to all of it. That was how I lived for a while. It was all I knew. Reacting to life. Recognizing I had control and learning to exercise that control was difficult and heart-wrenching before I learned the true secret to letting life be easy.

Here’s to living each day, appreciating the wonderful people, circumstances and opportunities that constantly surround us. They are always there, we just sometimes get side-tracked by things that worry and scare us.

If you’d like to feel more peace in your heart and happiness in your life, I can help. Click the links below to purchase and send me an email to schedule. Crystal@CrystalNuding.com

Give the lasting gift of peace this season.

“Stuff” is nice but, happiness, health and abundance, the natural by-products of true and lasting peace make life a delicious dream.

All my love,
Crystal

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Weekly Photo Challenge – Unexpected

One morning at the lake, Dionne brought me a cup of coffee. We relaxed and enjoyed the morning.

Just relaxing with a cup of coffee...

Relaxing with a cup of coffee enjoying the morning

Imagine my surprise when I saw this peeking up at me through my coffee.

Unexpected Visitor (1 of 2)

It’s nice and warm in here!

It's getting a little chilly...

It’s getting a little chilly…

This was my favorite coffee cup that I went for every morning at the lake. Our last visit, I got the news that my little friend is no longer with us. I’m so happy I have the pictures!

Here’s to great coffee, unexpected companions and morning conversations!

It’s pretty darn wet and chilly in my part of the world. I’m sending you all the warmth of love and compassion as you get ready to host or travel for Thanksgiving.

Blessings, soothing, peace, ease and flow to you today and everyday!

Love you so much!

Crystal

Weekly Photo Challenge – Habit

Oh La Fonda….
How do I love thee?

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My most important food group.

Let me count the ways.
One, two, three, four, five, six…
Well, hell. It’s a lot!

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And the winner is… Chicken Flautas!

This is a weekly habit for Dionne and I. We are never disappointed.

We love the food and the people. We’ve been eating at La Fonda for the past 10 years. It’s a favorite spot that makes me happy just driving there. When we walk in everyone says hi and Sylvia brings out what she already knows we want. We’ve shared this treasure with everyone in our family and anyone that comes to visit. It’s top of the list when folks come to stay with us.

When we order breakfast tacos through the drive through on a week-end morning most times they’ll say… “Is this for Crystal?”

To which I reply… “You know it!”

If you’re driving down I-35 through San Marcos, TX and need your Mexican food fix…. I highly recommend checking out the LF. You can thank me later.

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Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween!

Happy Halloween!

And for throw back Thursday…

Here’s a picture of our sweet weiner dudes Oliver and Zupe from 3 years ago.

Looking dapper in their duds.

Looking dapper in their duds.

When Zupe was just a little pup, he had a round orange toy that held treats. Later basketballs and pumpkins would become the object of his obsession, thinking all he needed to do was roll it around a few times to get a treat. Can you see that glazed look in his eye?

Have a fantastic Halloween with plenty of treats and only the kindest of tricks.

All my Love,

Crystal

Weekly Photo Challenge – Escape

We spent three weeks in Italy last summer with my sister, Johanna. How’s that for an escape?

During our trip, we visited Lago Di Garda with my friend, artist and musician, Elizabeth Lee. We had so much fun watching her perform with her Italian band, Cozmic Mojo. Our day on the beach was wonderful, no sand here, just small smooth pebbles.

Lago Di GardaElizabeth, the sun goddess, was enjoying her time while we had had all we could take. She caught us escaping the sun and heat in the shade.

Lago Di Garda EscapeWe had to have another picture with the beautiful Lake Garda in the background.

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Go Fly a Kite

Kite on the BeachSeriously. Drop everything right now and go fly a kite. Unless there’s no wind, then don’t, that would be very frustrating. What I’m suggesting is to find simple pleasures that are fun, exhilarating and make you laugh until you cry.

I had never flown a kite until this past week-end. How can I be from some place as windy as Texas and not have ever flown a kite? Who knows. There are a lot of questions like this I ask myself. To which I quickly answer… “Who cares! No time like the present!”

We knew it was going to be windy as hell on the beach so we dropped two dollars on a kite at the grocery store as we headed out of town. There were Barbi kites and ones with Monster trucks on them, but the one with the big bloodshot eyes on it conveyed the week-end at the beach feel we were going for.

When Dionne and I took the kite out for our first run, I was a bit apprehensive. I really wanted that kite to fly, but the only other time I had tried(as a child) was a bit of a downer. It didn’t work out. Who knows what the problem was then. Blazing hot sun, stickers and not enough wind, I’d imagine. This time was different.

We were in Port Aransas, Texas and the wind was blowing around 400 mph. (Ok, maybe it was 40mph, we couldn’t tell.) With the first toss of the kite into the air, it took flight. Those big blood shot eyes staring down at us, a sign of what was to come. We laughed and laughed. I was a natural.

When it would start to drop, I’d take some slack out of the string and watch it rise. If that didn’t work I’d take off running and up it would go. We took turns, handing the kite back and forth, running and laughing at the birds that came around to see what we were doing.

By the time we made it back into the house we were absolutely spent. Wind whipped and breathless, we giggled for the next few hours. Laughing about our attempts to actually navigate the darn thing.

Saturday we tied our little grocery store kite to our beach chairs and let it fly. We saw all kinds of fancy kites with long tails and beautiful designs but our little kite with the blood shot eyes fit us perfectly. You could actually see the resemblance toward the end of the day.

We came home on Sunday to my Mom who was babysitting our wiener dog, Oliver. “Mom! I flew a kite! I flew a kite! Did you know I could fly a kite?!” The childlike wonder and joy could not be contained.

If it’s breathtaking and exhilarating, that’s when you know you’ve got it. Do that thing that makes you feel like that over and over again.

We started playing tennis back in January and it has been an endless fount of entertainment and exercise, but there are windy days that make it less enjoyable. We now have an equally enjoyable and laugh inducing activity for those days.

So, get out there and fly a kite. Play tennis. Watch children play. Laugh. Do something that tickles you. Intend right now to find your childlike wonder and see what fun things start showing up to make you laugh even more.

No matter what is going on in your world right now, laughing will make it better. Give it a shot. If you have a hard time laughing because of the situation you might be in, relax. Things can change in an instant.

The only thing that REALLY has to change for you to feel better right NOW, is your perspective. There is one that serves you. What you want is out there. You can have it and it is easier than you think. Lightening up about life and everything in it helps.

Watch a funny TV show or read a funny book. Spend time with people that make you laugh. If you don’t have any friends like that, no worries. Simply imagine how much fun it will be when they show up. It’s just that you didn’t know to be looking for them.

Sending you much love, laughter, peace, ease, flow and enough wind to keep your kite up! Fly high!

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Weekly Photo Challenge: Love

As a child, every Sunday we went to Granny and Pop’s (my great-grandparents) house for dinner. Granny’s food was mouthwatering. Our Sunday dinner was almost always fried chicken and gravy. If she had prepared another vegetable that wasn’t mashed potatoes, I’d cry and she’d whip up some instant potatoes that you’d swear were better than the real thing. I also had to have fried cornbread patties, so I could pile my mashed potatoes on them. YUM. I had very specific ideas about what I wanted to eat. And as an adult that no longer gets to eat her delicious cooking, I’m glad I made a fuss.

Week-ends with my mother’s parents, Joycie Bear and Papa, assured we’d have sausage, biscuits and gravy for breakfast, every morning. Waking up to Papa whistling in the kitchen, the smell of sausage and bacon, knowing we didn’t need to do a thing until called to the table. (tickled out of bed, usually… we’d wait for him, giggling)

As I recall these memories of my childhood love rushes in and fills me completely. The love they put into the meals and their willingness and joy to please and make us happy is overwhelming. As much as I knew they loved me (it was A LOT), I felt it in their food.

Cooking is one of my greatest joys, second only to sharing the food I’ve prepared with anyone and everyone that might possibly need or enjoy it. I smell my grandparents in my kitchen often. I’ll stop what I’m doing and take big, deep breaths inhaling it all. The food, the memories, the absolute knowledge that food IS love.

My partner, Dionne and I spent 3 weeks in Italy this past summer, visiting my little sister, Johanna who’s living there for the next year. After weeks of traveling and eating delicious Italian food, I was ready to cook. It was our last few days with my sissy and we were all beginning to feel a bit of sadness in anticipation of our departure.

So, what did we do?

We had three days of good ol’ West Texas country cooking. I fried everything that wasn’t tied down. We laughed and talked and breathed deeply the scent of love. I felt such appreciation for my country roots and the yummy comfort food I was raised on.

This is fried chicken and cream gravy just like Granny and Papa made for us as kids. Looking back at this picture, the hearts on the table cloth say it all.

Granny's Fried Chicken and Papa's Gravy

Granny’s Fried Chicken and Papa’s Gravy = Love

(You can see more pic’s in Johanna’s Comfort Food Sessions photo album on FB!)

Create Your Own Happiness Revolution

Many thanks to Daphne Gray-Grant (I get her Power Writing Newsletter) for bringing this Ted Talk to my attention. I love, love, LOVE when someone with lots of credentials and fancy schoolin’ comes to the same conclusions as little ol’ me. 🙂

Get happy and productivity follows!

Shawn Achor: The Happy Secret To Better Work

Here’s to your happy life!

Part Deux

We got so wrapped up in our family holiday that very few pictures were taken. (I love/hate when that happens.) And the ones that were taken weren’t amazing. But. Never fear.  We had our Thanksgiving ReMix last night and it was delicious.

I made some fresh turkey gravy with onions, celery and fresh herbs and put the turkey breast in to heat gently. We had brussels sprouts and red potatoes that didn’t get made on the actual day that got their turn to shine. Brussels sprouts with bacon and a few cherry tomatoes and the red potatoes got a bath in milk, butter and rosemary. Delish. I wanted to make some fresh rolls but didn’t have the energy. Ha! That’s because I’ve already had enough rolls… (although Dionne is off work today and I can hear her in the kitchen making bread… I’m smelling cilantro, yum.)

Turkey Day ReMix

Turkey Day ReMix

So that was dinner last night and lunch again today. We ate all of the brussels sprouts last night so we did have to make more rolls for lunch. I mean, there they were just waiting to have butter melted in them. What would you have done?

The next and final stop for this fabulous turkey from Richardson’s Farm will be a yummy turkey pot pie.

Oh, and did I mention Dionne made bread?

Fresh Baked Bread

Cilantro, Dill & Green Onion Cottage Cheese Bread