Using Your Mind as a Tool

We spend so much time leaning toward disaster, upset, negativity and despair that many people don’t realize there are ways around it. It really was important to err on the side of wrong for our caveman ancestors because it COULD have been a tiger lurking out in the bushes. That’s not the case these days.

Many people think they have to stay the way they are. “I’ve always been this way.” Well, if you’re happy, healthy, positive and abundant, great! If you’re not, you can change.

Your mind IS your master until you understand your control over it. Self awareness and taking responsibility for your own thoughts, words and actions is the key to using your mind as a tool rather than letting it be your boss.

Despite what you watch on the news we are not in mortal danger all day every day. Certainly not in the way our minds have been programed to believe. Bless our hearts.

What we practice becomes habit, so if fear or anxiety has been your modus operandi for years it’s understandable. Not to worry, it’s not impossible to change. You just have to become aware of what you’re doing and practice focusing in a better direction.

Yep, there are easy, low action options for moving yourself closer to what you want.

One of them is asking yourself questions that actually serve you and will help the situation.

Rather than asking “What else could go wrong!?” What if you ask yourself better, more positive and helpful questions?

Try these:

What if it’s easier than I’m allowing it to be right now?

How can I let it be easier?

What if there is an answer?

How can I relax and let the solution show up?

What if I don’t have to handle everything?

How can I let in more help?

What if there is a cure?

How much better will I feel when I let myself off the hook?

What if I can do it?

What if it’s already taken care of, I just haven’t heard about it yet?

How can I focus more on what I want?

What if focusing positively really works?

What if I could just ask myself better questions and things I need would start showing up?

What if I enjoy doing it?

How can I let myself find more things to enjoy?

What if I end having a great time?

What if I learn something wonderful that changes my life?

What if this is exactly what I need?

How much better will I feel when I appreciate all my life experiences?

What if this opens the way for me to learn all kinds of new things?

What if it all works out perfectly?

What if I can have it all?

How can it get better than this?

What if the good stuff. And how much better will I feel when… Don’t try to answer the questions. Just ask and breathe. Let yourself create the smallest crack in your negative reality to let the solution in.

Don’t go over and over in your mind what terrible thing MIGHT happen or what scary dis-ease MIGHT be lurking. Let yourself find some hope. There is always hope.

This world will be whatever we make it. My Daddy always told me, “life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it.” Begin to make it what you want by helping yourself first.

Give yourself a break when your mind searches out and mulls over all the things that COULD go wrong. You are human, after all. And your mind works like everyone else.

But, with heightened self awareness and more thoughtful focus your life will change with relative ease. You’ve just got to be willing to spend a little more time thinking about what could go right.

What’s Right?

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What if we spent more time asking each other, “What’s right?”

What if we began looking at every situation in our lives and asking ourselves a question that would serve us rather than bring us more problems?

I know, when someone walks into the room looking upset, gloomy or mad our curiosity gets the best of us. That part of us that cranes our neck to see the horrific accident or unfolding tragedy needs to know what’s wrong. Just tell me what’s wrong and I can relax. Not.

It truly is human nature. What’s wrong? Tell me what’s wrong. What’s wrong with me, with you, with this situation, with our government, our schools, our parents, our kids. Let’s get to the bottom of this! Let’s find out what caused this trouble so we can all point at it and shake our heads in righteous indignation. Oh that is SO WRONG.

I understand. I really do. I’m human too. I understand fear. I understand anxiety. I understand heartache. I understand loss. I understand uncertainty and pain. We all do. We’re not alone. We are all living exactly the same and completely different human experiences.

What can we do to help ourselves through these difficult emotions and times in our lives? How can we better support ourselves in the moment?  (And what would it take for us to want to figure out what creates these scenarios and situations over and over?)

What if we ask ourselves “What’s right about this situation?”

I know. I know. That’s a big, huge, enormous question in the midst of all that’s wrong. But, what if asking what’s right gave you a different perspective?

What if asking what’s right helped you to see what is right about this seeming tragedy in front of you?

Give it a shot. What have you got to lose? You’ve already been asking what’s wrong all this long time. How’s that working out for you? Asking “what’s wrong” has been and always will be lining you up vibrationally with more and more things you find wrong.

Decide now to begin asking “What’s right?”

I know that in the middle of confusion and upset asking what’s right about the situation feels weird, but go with it. Notice where the energy comes up in your body and feel through it. Relax and soothe yourself with such tenderness and love.

What harm could come from it? A positive perspective? You actually feeling better?

You might discover that you’re holding on to an old belief about yourself or others that’s creating this irritation or problem. Maybe you’re so focused on the problem that you’re totally missing the blessing that is your release from a dead-end job or relationship that was keeping you from having the money, love or support you deserve.

I remember thinking years back that I was ready for a new car. I loved my other car but some things were going wonky and I couldn’t seem to find a way to get them fixed. Not long after, on a 6am drive with my son to his high school for morning practice, were were rear-ended. It totaled the car. After my moment (about an hour or maybe half a day?) I realized I had been wanting a new car but wasn’t taking the steps to make it happen. I didn’t think I could afford it.

The universe showed me I could. I got another car, new to me and much better. I love my car so much. It feels so good to drive it. I enjoy just thinking about it.

In the moment, though, I was not pleased. Not pleased. Quite irritated and upset even. My son was driving. I was angry at the driver, angry it was six o’clock in the morning, angry my iced tea got poured into my lap. As soon as I jumped out of the passenger seat to see who had done this, I saw the culprit. A woman with two small children in her car and another vehicle behind her with two more small children. My initial anger dissipated into frustration and some compassion. Bless their hearts. We’re all up early shuttling our kids around. It was rainy and shit happens.

After all was said and done I sat in the drivers seat of my new car and laughed. This is what was right about that situation. I wanted a new car, needed one, but wasn’t taking the steps to make that happen. The universe gave me a little nudge.

What are you being nudged to do?

Think back over your life and recognize how many things have happened you first judged as bad that actually turned out better than you ever expected.

Now, look at a current struggle, take a deep breath and ask yourself “What’s right?”

There’s a perspective in every situation that serves you, but you have to be looking for it to find it. I am seeing you seeing it.

Sending all my love and support,

XOXO
Crystal