Moving Through the Don’t Wants

So often, the first thoughts that come to mind when we learn new information that might be contrary to our immediate desires is… I don’t want THAT!

I don’t want this to happen, I don’t want to have to DO that, I don’t want it to be hard/sad/ upsetting. I DON”T WANT THAT!

Ahhhh. Bless our very human hearts. Welcome to humanity.

But, not to worry!

Can you begin to notice when your thoughts start with “don’t want”?

Can you begin to relax and breathe around “not wanting” something specific to happen?

Can you stop, breathe and feel where you feel that particular “don’t want” in your body?

Noticing the direction of these thoughts, softening around the physical sensations in the body and breathing slowly and deeply will help you move through the energy behind the “don’t wants”.

What are the “don’t want’s” anyway? Truths? No. Warnings? No. Good information? YES!

How about indicators of energy surrounding an old circumstance or situation that keeps you repeating the same old patterns that feel like this. Old, outdated, worn out, played out, exhausting, ridiculous, tired ideas born in childhood or early life (or anytime!). Picked up from our being in the situation we were in, having the experience we were having and not knowing the bad feeling was an indicator of our perspective.

Perhaps we saw something upsetting happen and instead of being of the perspective that it was a bad and unfortunate thing that I don’t have to experience, I took it as a pathway of things I would eventually have to experience.

Armed with this new knowledge, move as quickly as possible through the physical sensation of the “don’t want” and be ever so sweet and kind to yourself. Often we were told to suck it up and quit crying. This was good for helping “someone” to not feel bad, but not so great for the one stuffing down the emotion; to then have to feel over and over again through their lives until they find out how to let it go and move on.

But! LEARN you WILL and MOVE ON you SHALL!

It’s all energy and it’s all moving. We are Vibrational Beings living in a Vibrational Universe. Relax into what that truly means. Relax into allowing yourself to have the life you truly want. You can allow the life that would make you so happy and set you on fire with creativity and excitement.

What do you want?

Let the answer to this one be about the way you want to feel. Let’s stop projecting negatively into our future and shooting our own selves in the foot. Let’s think about the most productive way to get ourselves to where we want to be.

How do you want to feel?

How you want to feel is what you’re always going for. So, skip what you think you need to make you feel that way and just focus on feeling that way. Happy, healthy, joyful, abundant, prosperous, peaceful, easy, creative, excited, successful. Write these things down and think about how it feels to feel this way. Spend more time thinking about this than thinking about anything you “don’t want”.

Because when you know that what you focus only creates more of that, you’re more selective in what you focus on. And when you’ve moved through the energy of the “don’t want’s” it’s a heck of a lot easier to do that.

Here’s to feeling it all and letting it move.

I love you dearly and support you fully.

Remember This

The Daily Prompt – Powerful Suggestion

“What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?”

I thought a lot about this question as I stood before the group of middle school kids. What did I need to know at this age? What did I wish someone would have told me? How can I make the biggest difference in their lives in the short time I have in front of them? What is the most important thing for us to always remember?

You are a vibrational being.

Energy and emotions are supposed to flow through you, not stick around forever. They will only stay with you if you talk about, blog about or share them repeatedly.

You are not your thoughts. Your brain is evolutionarily wired to focus on what’s wrong.
No worries, you can change that.

Your mind will hold onto hurts and failures much longer than your successes.
You can change that, too. Cultivate an awareness of your thoughts and
consciously choose to support yourself mentally.
Practice helps.

Your mind is a powerful focusing tool and you will always get
what you spend the most time focusing on. Success or failure.
There will be no wondering “what went wrong,” your focus brought it about.

Science has proven we are vibrational beings.
Western medicine and surgery is not the only way to heal.
Anything only works because we believe it does.
Modern medicine is like using an old Remington typewriter when you’ve got a brand new, lightning fast Mac to work on.
Energy medicine is the cutting edge technology.

You can actually feel the energy behind your emotions physically in your body
and release it to shift a current situation.
When you allow the energy to move, everything changes.

What you feel is more important than what you think.
When you quiet your mind and tune into your body, you get all the answers you need.
Yes, you can do this. Everyone can.

Aligning your energy with what you want
is more powerful than any physical effort you can exert.

Moving forward or acting out of fear or anger will only create
another situation that makes you feel afraid or angry.
Move the energy and everything changes.
It’s all energy and it’s all moving.

Grown ups don’t always handle situations in the best way.
We learn what we learn from whom we learn it. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not.
Take the good and leave the rest.

Beliefs are just thoughts you keep thinking, over and over and over.
They aren’t always true.
Many of them don’t serve you.

If someone is trying to scare you, they are manipulating you.
Sometimes they mean to, sometimes they’re just scared.

There is no such thing as death.
We are energy.
Energy cannot be created nor destroyed.
It merely changes form.

Your passed loved ones are still around you, all day everyday, personality intact.
They are aware of you and your situation.
They love you and are offering you support and guidance in every moment.
When you tune into that, you can hear, feel, sense, or know whatever you need to know.
Yes, you can do this too. Even you.

There’s nothing to be scared of.
You carry your safety with you.
When you learn to move energy before you take action
you never have to worry about your security.

Be your own biggest cheerleader.
Be so kind and supportive of yourself in the quiet of your own mind.
Sure you want friends and loved ones,
but you can’t get all of your soothing and acceptance from them.
The way you treat yourself in your mind is the way the world will treat you.

I love you.
So many people love you.
The Universe/God/Source Energy/All That Is, loves you.
You’ve been placed on a perfect planet that supports your every need.
Your source loves you so much that you breathe in and out
and your heart beats everyday of your life without you having to think about it.

What more evidence do you need?
Ask me, I’ll give it to you.

My talk with the middle school kids didn’t go exactly like this. I kept it more on the scientific side. I wanted to help them understand on a basic level what their physical body and mind is doing when they find themselves nervous, scared or upset.

Faced with a big, important test, criticism from peers and family or not fitting in can feel terrible in the moment.

But when you know your automatic responses are just that, automatic, you can relax and give yourself the opportunity to feel better and find the perspective that serves you.

You’re never stuck. There is always a solution. And it’s always easier than you think.

I love you so much,
Crystal

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