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Getting Through Hard Times

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We weren’t born onto this Earth to be perfect or to have perfect lives. How would we grow if things were always perfect? So learning to feel better when things look bad is key to transforming everything.

Two years ago this week Dionne began chemotherapy (along with doing many other natural things). Today she is healthy, so grateful, and happy to FEEL better. Every night when she’s able to turn over in her sleep or gets up to go to the bathroom and walks without pain she feels herself half asleep saying Thank You with every step. She remembers feeling really depressed when she was emotionally worried and physically hurting.

When you’re in pain, emotional or physical, your mind can’t focus positively. So learning how to support yourself in some key ways opens the door for big change with less effort than first thought necessary. The mental and emotional work she did while allowing support from Western medicine was paramount in her moving through her diagnosis with much more ease than many could believe.

You can only THINK as good as you FEEL.

Bless all our hearts.

How to Feel Better Now

I often write about moving the energy physically around emotions and have described the process many times. So I decided a couple days ago to make an audio to share with my newsletter folks and anyone that joins, as a gift. I have just gotten a new computer, as my old one slowly fades out of sight, and was practicing with my new equipment.

I didn’t initially intend to share this one. I didn’t AT ALL intend to share this one. The sound isn’t perfect. I bumped my mic. I didn’t say EXACTLY what I might have wanted to say. Because, duh, it was my first try and I was recording myself. OY. For those that don’t know me, I don’t necessarily like a lot of attention. I don’t like to have my picture taken, to be videoed, or to be recorded, because I sound like a country hick and I’ve been around enough to know how folks judge folks for things like not being perfect. Whoa. Hold on there. Who’s judging whom for not being perfect? That would be me… judging myself. See how this works?

Bless my heart. Bless all of our hearts. We’re not supposed to be perfect. We’re supposed to be as good as we can be, and do the best job we can, everyday, to get up and try again tomorrow. In my estimation, our objective is to see the world as God (The One True Infinite Creator, Universe, Spirit, whatever that means to YOU) sees it. Understanding that everything happens for a reason and we don’t always get to know why.

What others come into this life to experience and grow through is between them and their Higher Power and we have to soothe ourselves, and those around us, with kindness, gentleness, and support.

My parents lost a very wonderful young man yesterday. He worked for them on the ranch and was so kind, helpful, and sweet. I loved so much that they had him, and he had them. He struggled with things they knew about and probably more they had no clue of. The loss of that precious boy is being felt by so many. The idea of people suffering or struggling breaks my heart.

Clarity Through Pain

As I have felt through my own emotions and their corresponding physical sensations… my heart, heavy and aching, for him and his father/family, and my parents and his friends, my solar plexus in a knot. I feel a knot in my throat and find myself holding my breath. Usually during a thought that’s sad or looking at the situation from a very limited human perspective, instead of the way God sees it. Bless our Hearts.

When I notice this, I do this breathing exercise. I’ve talked about it a million times. It’s the thing that makes me feel better every time. It’s the thing that I want to share with as many people as possible so they can see and have the experience themselves of relief. From any emotion, from any sensation, relief. There’s plenty of brain science behind this, but from experience, I know.

When you FEEL better, you can THINK better.

And when you feel better, you can see there is support out there for you and that people love you and that we can get through anything. And with God, there is Grace. So whatever comes, it’ll all be ok.

Sharing My Process to Get You Through a Hard Time

So, I’m sharing it with you. Complete in it’s incompleteness. Perfect in it’s imperfection. My heart pounds now as I type this, thinking of sharing my first try. I grew up believing I should do everything right the first time. Let me just tell you that’s ridiculous. This isn’t the BEST I’ll ever do, but it’s a tool. And a powerful one at that. And tools don’t have to be perfect. They just have to work.

And in this moment I wish that he had had a tool to make him feel better. And the idea that I wouldn’t share something that might help someone because I don’t think it’s perfect is enough to make me share it, ready or not.

No one is perfect. Nothing is perfect. No life is perfect. Sometimes, things look and feel dark and difficult. But, there is always hope. If we can reach for a “just a little better” in difficult moments it will begin to ease. Soothing our body with this exercise will bypass the brain and begin to soften the body. Which will help shift our perspective and bring some relief.

So, do this breathing exercise and feel better. I love you. I want your complete and total health and happiness. Share this with whomever you think might need it, or use it, or share it themselves with someone in need.

Life can be good and YOU CAN FEEL GOOD. No matter what you’re going through and no matter what is happening in your life.

Feel Better Now – Listen to this
Simple Breathing Technique and Guide to Moving Energy

Disengaging From The Great Motivator – Part 3

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Let’s look again at what fear actually is. It’s information. Really. A self fulfilling prophesy. Absolutely both.

So, what do we do with this fear? How do we use it to our benefit rather than letting it run our lives in a way that lowers our immune system and keeps us from making the best decisions for ourselves, based on our own knowledge of our hearts, minds and bodies?

The answer is this… pay attention and educate yourself.

Become aware of the motivations of others. Are they trying to set you free or are they controlling you?

Don’t blindly follow anyone off of a cliff. Keep your eyes peeled back and your britches on.

Let’s go through a couple ways fear is perpetuated.

THE GREAT MOTIVATOR EXPOSED

Projection 101

We don’t see the world as IT is, we see the world as WE are.

If we’re happy and well adjusted we’ll see things as such. But, if we lie, cheat and steal, we’ll think and accuse others of lying, cheating and stealing. When we do things wrong, we tend to think and accuse others of doing those same things.

Projection, the mental process by which people attribute to others what is in their own minds… At a social level, racism, sexism, xenophobia, homophobia, and other malignant “othering” mindsets have been attributed at least partly to projection.

Britannica.com

If you are accused of doing or BEING something you know you are not, there is nothing to worry about; don’t “buy in” mentally to the accusation. If you know your own heart, and I hope you do, you already know the truth.

Recognize that these are tactics used by people, both intentionally and unintentionally, to make you feel something. Usually, the effort is trying to elicit some lower emotion like guilt, shame, fear, worry or compliance.

So, if it has worked, and you are feeling upset or triggered… relax, breathe and move through the energy physically in your body while supporting yourself mentally. These can be hurtful and upsetting moments.

Give yourself the loving support you need to move through it and come to a clearer understanding of what’s actually happening.

Recognize that it’s your job to move your own energy around each upset you face, and notice if you’re projecting your own issues onto people around you.

If you are, no problem! It’s great to become aware of what’s going on and begin doing the work of “seeing about our own self”.

It’s nobody’s job to make you happy or keep you informed. Take command of your life and begin moving in the direction YOU want to go.

Also, now is the time to become well aware of the massive amounts of projection going on around us at all times. This group blaming that group and that group blaming this group, it’s never helpful.

Intend to see beyond the distractions and keep yourself centered.

What’s really going on? Who’s really doing what? What clear and factual evidence do we have on the whole subject, not just someone’s opinion? (And at this point the NEWS is just a few folks opinion, not many real facts included.)

Have you ever watched someone instigate a fight between two other people? Could you see their motivation?

What did the instigator have to gain? What DOES an instigator have to gain?

Spend more time asking yourself questions about your beliefs rather than just looking for more evidence that supports them. This is doubly important when we’re looking at negative beliefs that assume some one individual or a whole group of “like” people are the bad.

Gaslighting 101

You know what gaslighting is. You’ve had or watched another go through a love interest that was absolutely “crazy making”. Being the most attentive lover in one moment and lying and cheating with the next breath, all the while CONvincing the victim it’s their fault.

In my helping people move through difficult relationships, I have been given countless examples of this very behavior. “Can you believe they did that?” To which I’d respond, “Yes, I can.”

When you see it, it’s very clear, but when you’re in it, the story is very different.

Gaslighting is an insidious form of manipulation and psychological control. Victims of gaslighting are deliberately and systematically fed false information that leads them to question what they know to be true, often about themselves. They may end up doubting their memory, their perception, and even their sanity. Over time, a gaslighter’s manipulations can grow more complex and potent, making it increasingly difficult for the victim to see the truth.

Psychologytoday.com

Gaslighting has been a tool of totalitarianism for many years. Insisting on total devotion with no ability to question or dissent, even if the mandate is self destructive. Lies are repeated over and over until they are taken for truth. The way of communication is deceptive and coercive, leading you directly to the one CONclusion, that you aren’t allowed to investigate.

When you begin to notice that a very small group gains MORE money and MORE power while a large group loses freedom, you’re catching on to the game.

REMINDER

This feels like a great time to remind you, that you are a powerful, free will, individual that can be, do, and have whatever you want.

You have the right to ask questions, make your own decisions and follow your own highest path. No matter what anyone else does or wants you to do. Virtue signalers and moral grandstanders can take a hike.

It may sometimes feel as if you are controlled by others, but the tools I share with you, will put your freedom firmly into your own capable hands.

But more importantly, you’ll learn here with me, about the game that will set you free from all struggle and outside, unwanted control.

The Game is Conscious Creation and the way to win is by learning to navigate your energy and emotions. Let’s go!!

YOU Are in the Driver’s Seat

One of my sisters texted me the pic below, saying it was too good not to share, I agree wholeheartedly. Thank you, Dawnie! Tears flowed while my heart soared as I read this page. This is how I know truth.

Can you recognize what that feels like for you? Do you think that Love is the Truth? Or do you think Fear is the Truth?

Whatever you expect, is what you’re creating. Don’t worry, everyone else is doing the same thing.

You can turn to, accept and embrace LOVE in any and every moment. Releasing the fear, drama and anger for understanding, lightening up and laughing about previous upsets, which will support a more just and equitable world and environment for everyone.

But, you have to decide you’re sick and tired of being mad and blaming others for your own emotions. We’ve all been there, it’s no big deal. Just don’t LIVE there for goodness sake!!!

Take a deep breath and relax. Notice what you’re feeling physically in your body. Now read the following text, notice what your mind says about what you read.

From the book “Path of Empowerment – The Pleiadians with Barbara Marciniak”

Chapter – Healing on the Lines of Time

Health is wealth, and a well-fortified immune system is the key to good health, and the simple key to a strong immune system is happiness. The transformation of human consciousness calls for you to accept personal responsibility for your health and healing, for you are the one who is ultimately in charge of your body and your life.

As we mentioned, genuine feelings of love and appreciation for your body convey a positive message containing essential life-sustaining signals that result in excellent health. In contrast, engaging in feelings of doom and despair, loneliness, helplessness, denial, anger, resentment, jealousy, greed, and fear conveys a negative message that promotes discord within the physical function of the body. Negative attitudes bring about negative effects. Anger and hatred are the most damaging emotions because they close off the flow of life-force energy to the body. The ability to both give and receive love, in all its many shades of splendor, holds the true key to healing because it is the most life-sustaining and affirming form of emotional expression.

The decision to accept ultimate responsibility for creating your life experience will empower you toward attaining a state of mental clarity and physical vitality. For a few moments, quiet your mind, and after breathing deeply and rhythmically for a while, consider this important question: Is the world a dangerous, fear-ridden place or is it a great adventure filled with bountiful opportunities to awaken spiritual power and transcend established limitations?

What World do YOU Want to Live in?

We get to decide. It’s our choice. I know how to make it. Do you?

Are you making the choices you want to make or do you feel yourself going along just to get along?

You don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. (I know that got a few of you!) You CAN step out and into your true and glorious self, making your own best decisions and actually supporting a better world in doing so.

Create It

I’m in the process of sharing my online course in a new, more engaging and interactive with me format. The Energy Element – 7 Week Guide to Conscious Creation program will have weekly live coaching calls with Q&A’s. I’ve been talking to you guys about this for quite a while and I thought NOW is the time to offer a group program with live Q&A’s to support the energy of the entire collective conscious moving forward.

It is my intention to share my knowledge and understanding to support you on your journey of living free and loving your life. It’s easier than you think and I’m here and committed to helping you make it happen.

Registration will be limited so I can make sure to provide focused support. Things are coming together now and the course will begin a the beginning of September. I’m so excited to share this with you and I ask that you share with anyone you think is ready to be in command of their own vessel and to live their lives with more peace and ease.

It’s available and I can help.

The Energy Element – 7 Weeks to Conscious Creation
Save your spot! –> Here 

Disengaging from the Great Motivator – Part 2

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We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe.

Fully awakening to this fact will serve you very well on your journey of Conscious Creation by releasing your mind from Fear. Which is why I’m working right now on a program that will teach you what it means, and how to, “Move Energy” or in other words, release tension and anxiety from your body. I realize how powerfully important this skill is and everyone is capable of doing it, I’m going to show you how. Stay tuned.

In the last post, I pointed out how fear has been used by many as a system of control and ask you to think about how this system presents in your own life. Do you do it? Or do you notice all the ways it’s being done to you?

Your physical body is the most advanced form of measurement of consciousness in the universe. Your intuition is the purest form of truth and information available to you and learning this language is easier than you think and more powerful than you can imagine.

The real and true science explains more precisely than ever before that the world is actually responding to us. We are, in fact (everything is), atoms vibrating, oscillating fields of energy… ultimately vibration.

Would you take a scalpel and cut vibration from vibration? Would you feed a pill to vibration? Or would you just raise the vibrational frequency to get a different result?

It seems pretty simple to me, but, it all depends on your level of consciousness. To what extent do you choose to participate in drama and struggle? First you will engage in that behavior and do, and then you just won’t, no matter what. That’s the process of evolving into a Conscious Creator and where ever you are on your journey is perfect. We all have to do what we have to do.

But, not understanding what has been proven over and over, or just not knowing about it because the powers that be prefer the old systems of control (FEAR), doesn’t make it not so. Gravity works whether you understand it or not. Same goes with energy and vibration.

The Scientific Method

The truth is the truth and facts are facts. The scientific method has been the same for a long time. Ask a question, do your research, form a hypothesis, test it with experiments (results must be able to be replicated by others), analyze the data and report the conclusions.

Science is about questioning and testing, and, questioning and testing, and, peer reviewed studies, by multiple peers and groups. So, if only one group can produce the results, that doesn’t hold up. But, if multiple people or teams have the same findings, we know this to be true.

IF a team is FUNDED by folks with a vested interest in a particular outcome, scrutinize those results and have another team NOT FUNDED by those interests also perform the exact experiments. This is truth and these are facts.

The Process of Conscious Creation

From the inner/understanding that “we live in a dynamic vibrational universe and our thoughts, attention, focus, and the physical sensations of our emotions (our divine instrument panel) are guiding us to and through our experiences and we have the free will to choose”…

What feels like it would be most helpful and would move us in the direction of what we want? Focusing on fear, separation, doom and gloom, which absolutely creates more of that. OR, recognizing that it’s all energy and it’s all moving. Free will allows us to make our own choice. Can you begin to notice when you choose fear in your arguments and reasoning? Noticing is the first part of the process.

When someone (from friend to journalist) is telling a story that triggers a negative reaction, what would be your most beneficial response? React or reflect? Are you trying to create a better world or more of the same?

Noticing we have been baited with fear (over the top or worst case scenarios), and moving through what comes up for us (mentally, emotionally and physically) around that fear, we can shift the whole scenario.

By not “buying in” you’re taking your power back and taking big steps in shifting the Collective Conscious from it’s knee jerk fear based reactions. And when that happens, the triggering situations will slow and eventually stop. Simple as that. It’s a learning curve, that just needs to be started. Join us! Let’s live in a fear free world.

On the other side of that, if you really are afraid of what you’re being told, move through what comes up around it (mentally, emotionally and physically), and you can shift the whole scenario. Perhaps a traumatic childhood (or later) memory or experience keeps you mulling over the past and reliving painful stories. But, knowing what you’ve learned here on my blog, you can soften and relax around anything to live joyfully free of fear and anxiety.

It’s a win win situation. And don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. You have more control over your physical reality that some folks WANT you to know.

You are the commander of your own vessel.
Others can only create in your reality to the extent you buy into or
are influenced by their opinions or demands. 

You can tell propaganda when it’s really shiny and wrapped up neatly by reporters being paid for their services. Don’t just take someone else’s word it. Dig deeper into what they are telling you. Are they supporting your feelings of fear or feelings of peace?

Fear and the promotion of fear is manipulation. Fear porn is an actual tactic, maybe you’ve seen any number of the films coming out of Hollyweird in the last 20 years? Don’t ask me, I stopped watching.

Awareness is Key.

I do my best to allow nature to be nature.

But, as I sit and enjoy being in my backyard and I watch the birds drinking, eating and hopping around, if I see my well fed and cared for neighbor’s cat lurking, ready to pounce on them, it would be pretty shitty of me to not sound an alarm.

On one hand, I could let nature take it’s course, but on the other hand if I have knowledge that can help people, then it would be my bad if I didn’t share that information. So, if you’re in a place to hear this, YAY for you. And ME!

Properly Dealing with Fear

Fear is information, just like the physical sensations you feel in your body. Information.

When we inner/understand this and begin seeing fear for what it is, we can make informed decisions about how to handle both the fear, and the perpetrators of that fear.

As a parent, if there is an emergency situation while you are with your children….
Do you freak out and tell them every negative scenario that could possibly happen?
Do you remind them constantly they are in danger?
Or do you, do your best to calm yourself and soothe them?
Will things run more smoothly if they are calm or upset?
Would there be any benefit at all to scaring or freaking out your own children? (I’ll let you think about parenting through fear on this question)

If you are a business owner or manager and there’s an emergency at work…
Do you immediately run around telling your employees that shit is hitting the fan and they should bend over and kiss their asses goodbye?
Would it be good for your business to make everyone afraid and nervous about what terrible thing could potentially happen?
Would there be any benefit at all to scaring the crap out of your employees?

As a parent, could you sit with your children and tell them everything is going to be alright? Could you hug them and breathe with them, and tell them that whatever happened, things will work out and we’ll all get through it?

As a business owner, could you tell your employees that “things happen”, but we keep moving forward. Could you calm fears and ease hearts and assure them that whatever was happening, we’ll get through it and be better for the knowledge we’ve gained through this adversity?

Which scenario do you think will bring better results? Which group is going to have a better experience and will have gained valuable insight into how to handle difficult situations the next time they arise? If you said the calm and soothed and supported group, you’re right. Duh.

No one makes great decisions while in fear. Add confusion on top of that and you’ve got a recipe for disaster.

It’s easy to see which authority figures are truly interested
in your best good,
by how they approach you with “bad” information.

If people truly care about your highest good, they’ll say the situation may be serious, but they’ll also offer perspectives, information and solutions that are actually good for and supportive of you and your best health, and they won’t curtail any of your God given rights and freedoms. Wow, Thanks!!

How to Know if You’re Being Manipulated

If someone is scaring you, they are manipulating you. Period. Bottom line. End of Story.

Maybe they are unaware of this fact and are scared of something, and mistakenly think that if you’re afraid, you’ll be safe too. Bless them. This is NOT how to keep people safe.

But, what if someone were consciously misleading you to keep you wrapped in fear and anxiety, which actually really just diminishes your ability to discern and weakens your immune system?

Could that happen? Who would do such a thing? What would be the benefit of misleading large groups of people through fear and trauma based programming?

If you know you’re creating your reality, you know that acting out of fear only creates more to be afraid of. Action taken from a vibration yields more of that vibration. So, take a moment to calm your body and mind to come to a place of greater clarity on the situation.

Fear creates more fear. Peace creates more peace. Decide what you want to experience more of and begin moving in that direction. Support is always available to those that want it.

Here’s to doing our part to truly support ourselves and our world in moving quickly through this tired, old, boring chapter of Fear and The Friends it Brings Along…. MORE FEAR.

Yes, Please and Thank you.

Cancelled

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I’ve been cancelled by a family member.

The Situation

Anyone else going through this right now? I know I’m not alone.

Last year a close member of my family became angry with me. Just the other day I received a box on my front door with a printed note, 2 books and the last gift I gave them, returned. Nice touch!

The note started with how much they loved me but that our relationship couldn’t stay the same if I continued my current behavior, though they haven’t seen or spoken to me in over a year. This is in reference to the way I handle myself, which is, by the way, in accordance with my own values and under/innerstanding of who I am, what I am and how I serve. 

They then suggested I look up the term Spiritual Bypassing and research it, look through the book materials they left and be willing to accept new information.

Um, who do they think they are? I literally can’t remember a time I’ve insisted on any specific behavior from this person or anyone for that matter.

Is anyone else losing friends or family members because you aren’t behaving in the exact way they want you to? If you are, and feeling hurt, angry or upset, take a few deep breaths and allow yourself to relax. If you’re the one that did the cancelling, you’re free to do the same. Bless all of our hearts.

There is a very divisive movement going on in our country and world at this moment that isn’t intended to foster true and honest conversation. Nor is it for the benefit of either arguing party. Who benefits from all this fighting?

My Solution

Remembering that we are creating our own reality is the most important thing to realize. Bless my heart. Bless my heart. Bless my heart. I forgive this situation and I forgive myself for creating it. Yes, please and thank you!

If others don’t understand that, it has NOTHING to do with you. Move through the energy of the lower vibrations and when it feels easy, send love and blessings to the individual in your own way, through prayer, meditation or some more obvious communication.

Anyone that tries to control your behavior is not focusing on their own lives and issues, therefore should NOT be relied upon for sound advice.

So, why in the world would I take that advice over my own knowing and intuition? I wouldn’t. EVER.

The extent that you buy into mentally and give a bunch of energy to anything, is the extent to which it can affect your reality. Ie… manifest, come true, or continue happening.

Understand you are matching the person or situation on a vibrational level, and that when YOU move YOUR energy around the situation, it WILL resolve. Either you’ll just feel better or the whole thing changes. And rest assured, when you FEEL better, everything changes. So quit trying to change the world by controlling outside circumstances. It’s like trying to rearrange what you see in the mirror. Everything that manifests in our physical reality is a direct reflection of our own internal struggle. Moving toward this knowing will forever set you free.

The Path of Conscious Creation

SO. This is what I do. ALL. THE. TIME… as a Conscious Creator.

I move MY energy around how I feel about things and that allows them to change in MY life.  See what I did there?? “YOUR” or others thoughts and behavior do not factor into my decision making, or come into my focus. That’s on you or them. Period.

Everyone has this ability. Everyone has the free will to make their own choices. All races, ethnicities, genders have this free will ability. And not knowing that doesn’t make it NOT so. We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe.

Release yourself from “body identity” where you tend to live blaming and complaining about what another “body” did TO you. Expand your thinking. Expand your consciousness. The world is much larger and more complex and that’s a very cave man point of view.

Creating Reality

Our world only stays the same because the way we are looking at it stays the same.

If you see what’s happening as an indicator that what you want is on the way, then what you want IS on the way.

If you look at what’s happening as an indicator that something terrible is happening, something terrible IS happening.

It’s as simple as that. You’re either Playing this game of Life or being played. Either might be relevant for YOUR life experience, so there really is nothing wrong with whatever your path is.

Trying to force others to conform to your path is YOUR problem, not theirs.

And while wisdom, maturity and life experience can help in understanding these truths, age is no indicator. There are plenty of young, wise folks and old fools alike. You can tell them by the way they talk and behave. Speaking negatively of others, holding grudges or behaving inappropriately towards another is an indicator of energy to move. But that goes for both sides of the equation, the perpetrator and the victim.

Old Programming

When you don’t know, you just focus on what’s easiest to focus on (the problem, fear, negativity) because that’s what we’re fed continuously through the news media, video games, music, movies /hollyweird and big tech.

It’s easy to be angry and self righteous, pointing blame outside of ourselves. That’s how our minds work when focusing on problems, until you understand that you are in control of your own mind and begin moving yourself in the direction of everyone’s health, joy and freedom.

We don’t deny peoples suffering or that it exists, we move through the energy we have around that suffering in order to shift the situation for everyone. No amount of physical action taken from a low vibration will bring the high vibration experience wanted. Move the energy and then take the action to achieve the largest impact.

Moving Forward

Whichever side of this crap you’re on… Let it go. Don’t worry about it. Abraham says, “Worrying is using your imagination to create something you don’t want.” Everything WILL be alright. Because that’s what I am creating.

What about you? What are you creating? Are you facing these struggles? If you need help navigating this sticky situation to create the most positive outcome for all involved, I’m here to help.

If you’ve been through this and have wisdom or insight that helped you through, we’d love to hear it.

If you have cancelled someone and gotten over it, I’d love to hear what helped you move through it.

And to my precious family member that I love and adore more than any words could ever convey… I’ll not go against my own knowing for anyone, even you.

My heart is going out to you America. We’re all in this together.

This too shall pass. It’s all Energy and it’s all moving.

The Neighbor’s Cat and Mothers

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In honor of the recent Mother’s Day Holiday, I want to send blessings, love and support to all mothers everywhere! A day just isn’t enough for what you do.

September 2020… My neighbor’s cat had it’s 5th litter in my backyard. We’ve lived here for almost 3 years. 

The first three litters, I didn’t know about until kittens began emerging from under our deck, we didn’t yet know momma kitty and she was hiding. The fourth litter, I watched Momma roaming in the cold rain, big and pregnant looking for a safe place.

She’s an “outside” cat and her family backyard has two german shepherds… not an ideal environment for giving birth and raising kittens. So, we fixed up a big box and towels for her in our shed, she had her kittens and a week or so later the neighbor kids came knocking on the door asking for them. I happily handed over the box and asked them to please have her and the kittens fixed. Thank goodness THAT’s over. Ha!

Fast forward to September… 5th litter, 5 more kittens… the teenagers from her last litter still running around all over the neighborhood, we knew we had to get involved. This was not my idea of a good time. I’ve never owned a cat and certainly hadn’t planned on raising kittens. But, the idea of 5 more cats running around motivated me to action. I moved through the initial “don’t wants” and came to a place of more ease around what needed to be done. We would care for the kittens and get them adopted when the time came.

As I came to this decision and began to support this sweet little mother cat, that really had no choice in her life but to have these kittens and take care of them the best she can…. I had a really profound thought. What if I gave her all the love and conscious support… not PERFECT support, but the best and most “aware” support I can provide? Ok. Let’s do this.

She got food, shelter from the cold and rain, and lots of love. It always amazed me how she’d leave the food to receive the love. As I sat and loved on her I thought about the love and support I didn’t receive when I was a young pregnant mother. Though married, I got pregnant at 19 and felt embarrassed and ashamed. I didn’t feel as though I deserved help. I had “made my bed” so to speak and didn’t allow myself to ask for or expect the help and support I really needed.

What if, I thought. What if I gave this little momma cat the sweet, tender, loving kindness and support I needed? What if I just do the things I can do without needing to do everything and perfectly?

I think of mothers everywhere that take much of the responsibility, and get most of the blame, having only and ever done the best they could at the time. 

Can you find a similar situation in your life, that you could offer yourself, through action toward another, all that you needed but didn’t receive? Oftentimes we feel we don’t have these things to give but actually, offering what you always needed heals those tender places in ourselves that need the attention.

Realizing and embracing the idea that no mother can do it all, and we all need help, is paramount to our thriving. Also understand that we have always had what we needed, or thought we were lacking, in some form or other. If you think you don’t have your keys but they’re actually in the pocket of the pants you wore yesterday, do you really NOT have your keys? Or are you just not looking in the right place?

Though our children (pets, projects, relationships), every one of our insecurities are able to play out right before our eyes. Our outer, physical, right now reality, is a perfect reflection of our inner struggles. So being aware of this information can help you relax and soften around anything you might currently feel bad about.

ALERT – Unsolicited Parenting Advice!

What I’ve learned is this, take it or leave it. We’re supposed to love, support, teach and enjoy our children to the best of our (human) ability and then set them free to live the life they came here to live, regardless of what we’ve hoped and envisioned for them. And our perfection or being far from it has nothing to do with the success or perceived failures of our children. We all (as individual mind-body-spirit complexes) came here to do what we do, not do what someone else wants or thinks we should do. So, if you’re judging yourself based on what your child has or hasn’t accomplished, you’re missing your own point. And on the other end of that, if your child is judging you for parenting mistakes, they haven’t grown up enough to recognize these truths for themselves. So bless all of our hearts! Let everyone, including yourself, off the hook. We all came here to experience what we’re experiencing and this “choose your own adventure” is just that. You get to choose and so does everyone else.

Not knowing where this “kitten raising road” was going when it started… nearing the end I could see how this, as everything, was a lesson in letting go. (of old stories, ideas, energy, people, places or things that no longer serve us)

How to let go and when to let go have been recurring struggles I’ve created/experienced in my life.

From this level of consciousness I let myself feel my way through it without judgment or rush. “I’ll know when I know”… is what I tell myself. Because, as I have often experienced, there always comes a time when I’ve had enough and I am ready, willing and able to go through whatever I have to go through, to get where I want to be. 

Support for Mothers

We, as women and mothers (and of course some men), love our children, spouses, family and friends so much that we’ll give it all, everything we have, to someone unwilling or unable to give us what we need in return.

If you find yourself there, just BE there. Don’t struggle. Relax. Breathe. Right where you are. Feel what it feels like physically in your body to experience what you’re experiencing. Don’t think about anything. Stop and breathe. Whatever it is. It can shift. 

If we let “what is” BE, and turn our attention to a subject (or object, such as my neighbors cat and her 5 kittens) that is pleasing, relaxing, playful, fun, sweet… we can let things shift. That doesn’t mean we’re not attending to what needs attending to, it means that we’re creating our reality by selectively focusing on things that please and ease us in moments of frustration about another subject. And from the knowing/understanding of “you get what you focus on”, that’s a darn good tactic.

The name of the game is relaxation. If you are relaxed about something, you’ll not struggle against it and it can more easily turn out how you want, or in such a way that you’re easily able to flow with. We wanted our neighbors to have their cat fixed but we didn’t want to approach it from a place of frustration or judgement. Great!

How can you relax about what’s happening or “could” happen? (Is the cat pregnant again!? NO!) Keep breathing and feel through the sensations of the emotions surrounding the upset.

Can you catch yourself in a moment when you’re wanting something good to happen but are actually PLANNING on something bad happening? Just being aware that you’re doing this begins to shift your perception of what’s actually happening.

Resolution!

The kittens have been adopted, yes! And here I sit feeling the familiar painful feeling of letting go. Knowing this is the way. The natural way of things. Heartbroken, but full of hope for these sweet babes to have happy lives. We did the work, physically, emotionally and energetically/ vibrationally. It wasn’t necessarily easy, but knowing what we know, totally worth it.

Fast forward 8 months, Momma kitty got pregnant again, and had her 6th and final litter in our shed. This time though, when the neighbor kids came knocking on our door and I carried Gracie (we finally learned her name) and her 4 fat and healthy kitties next door and deposited them in our neighbors home, we were thanked so sweetly for caring for them and assured she would be fixed. YES, please and thank you. What a blessing.

We walked home filled with love and bursting with joy at the way we allowed this scenario to play out. Our sweet neighbor kids get to have the experience of raising these kittens and taking responsibility for them. It was a beautiful interaction.

So, for me, the big movement around some really tender, personal, old pain and upset in regard to my own young parenting experience was played out through the journey from irritation, upset and judgment around caring for my neighbors cat into understanding, acceptance and appreciation for each experience, mine and hers.

When we can withhold judgment and just allow ourselves to experience what’s in front of us magical things can happen. Life is happily exposing us to our limiting beliefs for our own benefit. It’s our own free will choice to take it or leave it.

Happy Friday, my friends.

I myself, will take it.

All my love,
Crystal

Transcending Cancer

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Practical solutions and first-hand testimony for gracefully moving through cancer.

No kittens were harmed (or actually juggled) during the taking of this hilarious photo taken in October 2020. What chemo? Look at that HAIR! Humor is the BEST.

In July of 2019 we got the diagnosis, Dionne had stage 4 breast cancer and it had metastasized into her spine causing multiple compression fractures. Her last chemo treatment was December 20th, 2019. And today December 28th of 2020, Dionne is out on the golf course (yes, we live in Texas). In the grand scheme of things it didn’t take too long, but sometimes it felt like an eternity. It was upsetting and frustrating and scary at times. But, we made it through.

From wherever you are, you can get to where you want to be.

You just have to want it and be willing to do a few things that will make the rest of it much, much easier.

You have to take responsibility for your own health, happiness and choices.

You have to be willing to feel uncomfortable without making things worse by believing the scary things your mind is telling you about what’s going on or could happen.

You have to be willing to change, first and foremost, the way you think.

The way you look at challenges and difficulties and the perspectives you choose makes your road exceedingly tough or remarkably easy.

Lots of folks just want a pill… so they don’t have to change anything. But, things have to change if you want something to be different. But, no worries, it doesn’t have be harder, on the contrary it will be so much easier when you support yourself mentally and focus on things in a way that supports you and everyone around you.

It’s OK if you feel overwhelmed and afraid or hopeless. Just because you FEEL that, doesn’t make it TRUE. There is always hope. It’s only a breath away. As you relax, breathe and allow your difficult moment or feelings to pass, your mind begins to open up. Options and opportunities that you couldn’t see before now become available to you.

I’ve created a page for Cancer Support. Listen to three podcasts specifically focused on the ways we moved Dionne through the worst part of her journey in 5 months and check out the resources that we researched and used to support her body through the process of healing.

Please share this with anyone that needs it or is open to this information. I’m offering a free soothing session to anyone dealing with a cancer diagnosis for themselves or a loved one. Email me at Crystal@crystalnuding.com to schedule.

Anything is possible and things can change in an instant.

I’m here supporting you and holding the vision of perfect health for you and your family. It’s all energy and it’s all moving. I love you so much. This too shall pass, we are living proof.

Roll With It, Baby

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Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.

We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.

My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.

I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.

Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.

I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.

It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.

Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.

But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.

Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.

Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.

There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.

It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.

I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.

If you’re struggling right now, hold on.

Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.

In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)

I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.

By the way… it’s Friday.

Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…

Remember This

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The Daily Prompt – Powerful Suggestion

“What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?”

I thought a lot about this question as I stood before the group of middle school kids. What did I need to know at this age? What did I wish someone would have told me? How can I make the biggest difference in their lives in the short time I have in front of them? What is the most important thing for us to always remember?

You are a vibrational being.

Energy and emotions are supposed to flow through you, not stick around forever. They will only stay with you if you talk about, blog about or share them repeatedly.

You are not your thoughts. Your brain is evolutionarily wired to focus on what’s wrong.
No worries, you can change that.

Your mind will hold onto hurts and failures much longer than your successes.
You can change that, too. Cultivate an awareness of your thoughts and
consciously choose to support yourself mentally.
Practice helps.

Your mind is a powerful focusing tool and you will always get
what you spend the most time focusing on. Success or failure.
There will be no wondering “what went wrong,” your focus brought it about.

Science has proven we are vibrational beings.
Western medicine and surgery is not the only way to heal.
Anything only works because we believe it does.
Modern medicine is like using an old Remington typewriter when you’ve got a brand new, lightning fast Mac to work on.
Energy medicine is the cutting edge technology.

You can actually feel the energy behind your emotions physically in your body
and release it to shift a current situation.
When you allow the energy to move, everything changes.

What you feel is more important than what you think.
When you quiet your mind and tune into your body, you get all the answers you need.
Yes, you can do this. Everyone can.

Aligning your energy with what you want
is more powerful than any physical effort you can exert.

Moving forward or acting out of fear or anger will only create
another situation that makes you feel afraid or angry.
Move the energy and everything changes.
It’s all energy and it’s all moving.

Grown ups don’t always handle situations in the best way.
We learn what we learn from whom we learn it. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not.
Take the good and leave the rest.

Beliefs are just thoughts you keep thinking, over and over and over.
They aren’t always true.
Many of them don’t serve you.

If someone is trying to scare you, they are manipulating you.
Sometimes they mean to, sometimes they’re just scared.

There is no such thing as death.
We are energy.
Energy cannot be created nor destroyed.
It merely changes form.

Your passed loved ones are still around you, all day everyday, personality intact.
They are aware of you and your situation.
They love you and are offering you support and guidance in every moment.
When you tune into that, you can hear, feel, sense, or know whatever you need to know.
Yes, you can do this too. Even you.

There’s nothing to be scared of.
You carry your safety with you.
When you learn to move energy before you take action
you never have to worry about your security.

Be your own biggest cheerleader.
Be so kind and supportive of yourself in the quiet of your own mind.
Sure you want friends and loved ones,
but you can’t get all of your soothing and acceptance from them.
The way you treat yourself in your mind is the way the world will treat you.

I love you.
So many people love you.
The Universe/God/Source Energy/All That Is, loves you.
You’ve been placed on a perfect planet that supports your every need.
Your source loves you so much that you breathe in and out
and your heart beats everyday of your life without you having to think about it.

What more evidence do you need?
Ask me, I’ll give it to you.

My talk with the middle school kids didn’t go exactly like this. I kept it more on the scientific side. I wanted to help them understand on a basic level what their physical body and mind is doing when they find themselves nervous, scared or upset.

Faced with a big, important test, criticism from peers and family or not fitting in can feel terrible in the moment.

But when you know your automatic responses are just that, automatic, you can relax and give yourself the opportunity to feel better and find the perspective that serves you.

You’re never stuck. There is always a solution. And it’s always easier than you think.

I love you so much,
Crystal

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Teacher Appreciation Week

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Teacher Appreciation Week

How about EVERY DAY?

Lord. Bless us every one and especially our teachers.

I always appreciated teachers when my son was in school but I recently gained a whole new level of respect for them.

While I absolutely LOVE my son, there was no way I could spend 24 hours a day with him, much less with hundreds of other children. I didn’t have the patience.

Not only do our teachers teach their specific subject or grade, they support, guide and love our kids. Everyone’s kids. They deal with our happy, sad, hyper, sleepy, irritated, irritating, smart mouthed, bored, sweet children daily. And they put up with some parents that can sometimes lose their minds and forget what a blessing teachers are.

A teacher has the patience of Job and the heart of a lion. It takes courage and dedication to do what they do every single day. Then, they go to their own home, children and families to keep their own lives running on track. Feeding their families and sometimes themselves, maybe getting in some quiet time for themselves, but usually not.

Teachers spend home time working on school projects and thinking about lesson plans and standardized testing. On their hearts are the kids in their classes that don’t have great home lives and might not get good healthy home-cooked food or receive the love and attention they so desperately want and need from their busy parents.

Thank you, Teachers. Thank you. For being there daily, we know you are and we appreciate you.

I worked with around 100 kids at Blanco Middle school during April to help them mentally, emotionally and physically prepare for the STAAR Testing. The two days I spent at the school left me exhausted. I drove home each day alternately laughing and crying over what I had experienced. The sharing and interactions, laughter and a few tears.

It’s always interesting trying to keep their attention and share with them valuable information that will support them throughout their lives. I’m so happy to give them information I really needed at that age.

People that act ugly are hurting.

People, even adults, don’t always know how
to handle situations properly.

Parents and teachers love you and
do the best they can for you.

You are not your thoughts.

Your brain is pre-programed to focus on what’s wrong
and holds on to your failures far longer that your successes.

You can reprogram your brain.

Your thoughts can only go the direction of your feelings
in any given moment.

Breathe deep and relax, let the feeling pass and you’ll have
access to more supportive thoughts.

Be your own best friend.

Be good to yourself and others.

Take care of your body and it will take care of you.

In the follow-up visit I got such a great response. They had used the techniques I taught them and shared them with teachers, family and friends. Students reported feeling more calm and had avoided fights with siblings and parents. I was so thrilled. They were listening.

These kids are listening. They will take the love and support of whomever will give it to them. Teachers, thank you for giving it to them.

Please, please, please, do something nice for you. Take care of yourself. Schedule yourself time to exercise, read a book for pleasure, meditate, get a massage or take a long walk or luxurious bath. Get a great robe and thick soft towels. Use soothing and uplifting scents and lotions. Drink hot tea or a refreshing beverage. Eat healthy and delicious food. Help yourself recover your precious energy daily by taking care of yourself physically. You give so much to others, but you must take care of yourself.

As a parent I remember feeling completely overwhelmed many times and thanking the good Lord above that my child went to school. I was so glad to have my work day. You are there for them daily, teaching them academically, guiding, supporting and showing them how to be good human beings.

It takes a very special person to be a teacher and I am sending each of you my biggest, most heart-felt, loving and supportive hug. I appreciate you. So many people appreciate you. One of these days, very soon, your salary will reflect that.

Times are changing and the more we hold you up and the more you soothe and support yourself, envisioning better pay and more resources, these things will happen. I’m holding the vision of teachers having rock star, super athlete status and esteem. You already have it in my eyes.

Have you appreciated a teacher today?

When Bad Things Happen

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It happens. These things we witness and experience as bad or painful. We lose loved ones, jobs, friends, jewelery, books, pets and money. From the smallest most insignificant possessions to the most important people, loss is a part of our lives. Learning to allow it to pass with as little struggle as possible will create a rippling wave of ease through your life.

The important thing to remember in the midst of the hurt, grief, confusion, anger or sadness is this… there is a perspective around this very situation that serves you. A realization you’ll reach at some point that makes you say. “OHHhhhhhh… Ahhhhh. Bless my heart.”

It’s OK if you can’t see it or aren’t there right now.

Don’t rush yourself. Experience your experience and allow yourself to be human. Your current feelings are absolutely valid and as you accept and acknowledge how you feel the energy behind it also shifts and moves. The perspective is there and you’ll be able to find it soon enough.

Allow the tears to come and the shock of the loss to reverberate throughout your body. Tell yourself over and over in your mind, “This too shall pass and when it does, the clarity comes.” Give yourself the very best chance of healing by surrounding yourself with people that support and uplift you.

Remind yourself and your little ones of the love in your lives. Remind yourself of the joy you’ve experienced and feel such appreciation for the time well spent. Accept your momentary feelings of grief, loss, fear and confusion as part of the process, knowing that everything is always working out for you.

Seek out laughter and joyous experiences. Many of us feel that not worrying or feeling despondent would be a disservice to the person we’ve lost or that has suffered a seeming tragedy. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

The loved one we’ve lost is no longer suffering and wants you to feel the freedom and relief they are currently experiencing.

Those hospitalized or in rehab recovering from a tragedy or illness need your positive energy and high vibration to help them along the healing path. Seeing them as healthy, happy and vital is one of the most important things we can do for them.

Our energy and vibration is the most important “thing” we bring to this party called life.

Accepting that adversity is a part of your existence and allowing yourself to move through it with as much ease as possible is the greatest gift you can give yourself and those you love.

As you practice this, your mind will begin to understand the process and it won’t be so “bad” the next time a seeming catastrophe strikes. You’ll see it for what it is and move through it.

This doesn’t mean you’ll never feel pain again or won’t be upset by upsetting scenarios, it just means you won’t let it keep you down for long. You’ll feel through the pain and find the clarity much sooner.

But, wherever you are right now, is perfect. From right here you can get to wherever you want to be. You are absolutely loved, cared for and supported. Take a few deep breaths and feel it for yourself.

What could you do right now to feel just a little bit better about the situation?

Talk with a friend or play with a pet. Watch a funny movie or read a book that makes you laugh or gives you comfort. Find someone who gives really good hugs and get one. Allow yourself to be embraced, soothed and uplifted by those around that can see through the situation to the relief on the other side.

Sending you all my love, soothing, peace, ease and flow.

This too shall pass and all will be well.

Everything is always working out for you.

Much Love and Many Blessings,
Crystal