Blessings & Beliefs

Many blessings for compassionate cooperation

Many blessings for compassionate cooperation

People are mad these days. Mad as hell and don’t want to take it any more. I say, good. Be mad. But then let it go.

Allow yourself to move through that energy and notice how you can shift the circumstances around you by not engaging. And even better than not engaging, how about blessing the person or situation you’re mad at?

I’ve had sessions this past week or so with folks angry, irritated or disgusted by either an individual or group of people. I can totally relate. We’ve all felt those less than warm and fuzzy feelings before and it’s absolutely OK.

Every feeling you have ever felt in your entire life is valid.

Those feelings were your natural reaction to the situation, given everything you’ve lived up to that point. So take a deep breathe and relax. It is OK and you are right to feel how you feel. But that doesn’t mean it can’t change.

We live in a society that wants to make us feel bad for how we feel.

“You shouldn’t feel that way!” “That’s not Christian of you to feel that way.” “That’s not the way I feel, you’re wrong.”

Any of these sound or feel familiar? Of course they do.

If we can’t understand and get frustrated when someone doesn’t like tomatoes or hates walnuts in their brownies, what do you think the reaction will be around subjects with deeper meaning like religion or politics?

We all believe what we believe. Beliefs are merely thoughts we think over and over again. We all think our beliefs are true, but they aren’t. Not necessarily. Unfortunately, some of our beliefs don’t serve us or anyone at all. Some of our beliefs are completely untrue.

We’re not taught to believe things by our parents or teachers by them saying… “Ok, kids! Pay attention. Today, I will teach you to believe ________.”

That didn’t happen.

What did happen was as children we were little sponges.

Our parents raised us and our preachers and teachers taught us like we were only listening to their words. Ha! Bless all of our hearts. I’m sure you can relate from your own experience the truth in this. We’ve all heard, “Do as I say, not as I do.” Guess what folks, it doesn’t work that way.

What we(ALL of us) as children did was pick up on the vibration, the attitude and the underlying meaning of why “they” did what they did. And filtering that through our own short life experiences, beliefs began to form in our little child minds.

Beliefs like…. “Women are supposed to take care of the house and children. Men don’t do dishes or housework. Girls have to be skinny, pretty and nice to get a husband. Boys have to work hard and make lots of money to get a girl. Women are supposed to make everything better. Daddies don’t stick around. I wasn’t good enough for them to love me. I have to be perfect all the time and never make mistakes. Men don’t respect women and think they are hysterical. Women have to take care of and protect themselves because men are neanderthals.”

Children grow up and learn how to treat people and how to allow people to treat them by watching their parents. Is their father kind, loving and respectful to their mother? Does their mother have her own power or does she always defer to father but then blow up and be angry with the children? Girls and boys learn much about the rules of society in their own homes. Whether kindness and compassion or impatience and abuse, they are affected by the circumstances around them.

What if they(we as children) saw and heard parents blessing their enemies?

What if children saw more kindness, gentleness and compassion in their homes? Not only the compassion that parents had for friends and loved ones, but also patience and compassion for people they disagreed with or didn’t appreciate. What change might that bring about?

How can you begin to bless the people that irritate or frustrate you most? Without making huge sweeping moves, what small ways can you begin to bless everyone around you.

What do you think would happen if everyone took a moment to say. “I really can’t stand this person, but wow, they must be suffering to act like that. Or what must they have been through to be like that? Bless their heart.” And then say, bless my heart for having to deal with them. Let yourself feel and move the energy around the situation while giving yourself and the opposing party a break.

Who can you send blessings to today that you have profound judgements about?

What you do for others, you do for yourself. When you judge, curse and demean others you’re doing it to yourself. When you bless them, you bless yourself.

Give it a shot. When you take time for prayer or meditation today, whatever that looks like for you, send blessings to those you don’t care for or understand.

You will be surprised at the level of peace you can achieve when you stop raging against what you don’t like and start cultivating more compassion for what you don’t understand.

I would never do what I see many people around me doing every day, but I’m not mad at them about it. My heart sees the suffering in their heart and I have deep compassion for them. Does it always come easily, no. Many times I have to feel through my own anger and judgement about the situation, but I always understand it is that, my OWN anger, fear or judgement.

Even people in positions of authority(doctors, teachers, pastors, politicians, lawyers) have issues. You have issues, your parents had issues, their parents had issues. Get over it. Stop judging others by their issues and recognize you have your own. Take a deep breath and give everyone a break(yourself included.) When you accept your feelings as your own and stop blaming others, life gets really good.

It’s not always easy, but it’s very simple.

Bless your heart, bless their heart, bless all of our hearts. Everything really is OK. We’re all going to get through this and life will be even better because of it.

Seeing and holding the vision of compassion and cooperation in all areas of our lives.

Sending much love and many blessings to all of you.

I’m here if you need some help.
Crystal

Skip It

Great song, I didn't skip it!

Great song, I didn’t skip it!

By now, I’m sure most folks have had some experience with Pandora Radio or the like. Rather than watching the news, ridiculous reality TV or whatever crap might be on at any given moment, (while simultaneously being forced to endure countless erectile dysfunction/depression medication commercials that blast at three times the volume of the program) we choose to listen to music.

A few of my favorite features on Pandora are also important in my every day life. Thumbs up, thumbs down and skip it.

  • If I like(or love) a song, I give it the ol’ thumbs up. Pandora get’s the message that I like that particular song and gives me more like it.
  • If I don’t like the song (or hate it!), I just click the thumbs down. No problem. Hey, Pandora, I don’t like that one.
  • Then, my favorite of all. I don’t like the song or want something different? I just click… Skip it.

That’s it. Done. Moving on. I don’t like that song. I’m in the mood for something different. I don’t call Pandora and tell them to take the song down. I don’t tell anyone. I don’t get mad. I don’t justify why I don’t want it. I just skip it.

What if we all lived our lives this way? What if instead of pushing against everything you don’t like or judge as bad/wrong you just skipped it?

When it’s obvious you don’t like or want what you’ve seen… Great. Duly noted. Nothing more to do. From this point any fighting, shouting, justifying or defending only adds energy to the very thing you disapprove of. Even the most well intentioned post/conversation to “spread the word” about the terrible injustice only strengthens and gives it more power.

So, what do you do when faced with something frustrating, irritating, scary, worrisome or horrible. Breathe. Relax and take big deep breaths. Let the physical sensation accompanying the upset flow through your body until you feel the relief. You will feel relief. It’s natural for this energy to move and flow.

Now, immediately turn your attention and thoughts to what you would prefer. Just like your focus on the negative brings you more like it, when you focus on what you want, that grows as well. You get more and more of whatever it is you focus on, whether you like it or not. So, doesn’t it make sense to focus on what pleases you and makes you feel good and happy?

All governments being responsible and fair. The news media focusing on the much larger picture of what’s right in our magnificent world. Religions of the world actually doing good works rather than converting or condemning. Every human being recognizing they alone hold the power in their lives.

What is your true hearts desire?

How could you more easily focus on that?

What if you stopped looking at the world in terms of what you like and don’t like and just noticed what is?

What will your life be like when you move quickly past what’s wrong and focus easily on what would be better?

If you don’t like it, let yourself skip it. It’s only our attention to things that keep them swirling around in our lives. No worries, though! All it takes is the recognition of how to do it and a bit of practice. I’m here to help.

Seeing your absolute freedom to fully enjoy your life!

All my Love,
Crystal

Alphabet Soup

Alphabet Soup

Photo by Tasya Menaker

Do you ever lie awake in bed at night and wish you could turn your brain off? Chores, bills, family issues running through your mind, one after the other. Things to do, business to handle, problems to solve and beside all of that, the world is going to hell in a hand-basket.

It’s really not, it just serves a handful of folks to make you think it is.

Not to worry, I can help.

Being human we all have this busy monkey mind problem. From where you may be right now, your thoughts can jump around from who’s done wrong, to what you’ve done wrong.

Focusing on what is bad, wrong, terrible, unjust, wrong, wrong, wrong(did I say wrong?) is the natural order of the day for most folks. If you think that’s just the way you are and it can’t change, you’re wrong.

It’s easy to refocus our minds with a bit of information and a couple of simple, easy tools in our belt to use when we need them.

Tip 1 – Get into your “Right Brain.”

As you know, our brain is divided into a right and left hemisphere. The left side of your brain is the analytical, critical thinking side(notice the word CRITICAL?), while the right hemisphere of your brain is where your creativity comes from. When your brain is running a mile a minute, say aloud or to yourself, “let’s get into our right brain.” It will help slow down the computer(your brain) and allow you to focus on something more pleasurable and relaxing.

Tip 2 – Give your brain a job.

Once you’ve gotten yourself into your “right mind,” consciously begin to think of other things. As I was lying in bed the other night trying to turn my brain off so I could get to sleep and rest easily, I started this little game in my head.

Using the alphabet, I started saying words that soothed me and focused me easily in a different direction(I was asleep by K). Coming up with the next word took all of my attention as I was searching for words that felt good so my busy mind was busy supporting me. You can’t keep thinking of what you don’t like if you are actively thinking about something else.

Below is the list of words I started compiling.

  • Amazing Appreciation Abundance Adventure Allow Afloat
  • Bold Believe Boundless Beauty Breakthrough BE Breathtaking
  • Caring Capable Compassion Confidence Creativity Colorful
  • Delicious Desire Dreams Daring Divine Dazzle
  • Exciting Effortless Ecstasy Empower Enjoy Ease Epic Exhilarating Expansive
  • Friendly Flowing Fun Faith Free Fabulous Fantastic Flowery
  • Gracious Grandeur Grateful Giggling Gentle Groovy Graceful
  • Happy Hilarious Hopeful Heart Hugs Honor Healthy
  • Inspired Imagination Independence Innovation Intention
  • Joyous Jokes Juicy Jolly Jocularity Jazz
  • Kindness Kiss Kinky
  • Love Laugh Luminous Life Lounging Lively Luscious Liberty Lavish Lucrative
  • Miracle Moments Memories Magic Mysterious
  • Natural Nature Nice Neat Nurtured Nourished
  • Original Optimist Orgasmic Outstanding
  • Purposeful Positivity Potential Possibility Peace Passionate Prosperity Power Playful Psychedelic
  • Quirky Quality Quilt Quiver Queendom Quaint
  • Romantic Relationship Romance Respect Robust Replenished Recharged Rested Renewed Relief
  • Strong Sweet Smart Solutions Shine Soothing Shift Sensual Serene Spectacular Success
  • Tantalizing Truth Triumph Transformation Thankful Terrific Trust
  • Unfolding Universe Uplifting Utopia Uninhibited Understood United Unequaled Unity
  • Vision Visualize Vibrations Vivacious Vibrant Virile Voluptuous Variety
  • Wonderful Worthiness Wonder Whole Wise Wellness Wealth Whimsical
  • Xylophone (haha, you let me know what X letters you come up with!)
  • Yes Yummy Yielding Yay Youthful Yachting
  • Zealous Zest Zone Zing Zippy

You can do it spontaneously or plan for it. Sometimes it helps to have a plan in place for moments when you know you could have a hard time focusing on the positive. Write them down on a piece of paper and just read them aloud or to yourself. Post your list in your car, on your bathroom mirror, the refrigerator or in your office.

Don’t let yourself spend too much time fretting, worrying or focusing on things that upset you. We, as human beings, are vibrational boomerangs. What you put out there you absolutely do get back.

So when you find yourself raging against the machine(any of them or their drivers) take a couple steps back and a big deep breath.

Allowing yourself to move the energy physically in the moment and placing your conscious focus on better feeling things move you away from what you don’t want and draw you closer to that thing or situation that you would prefer, that feels good.

Simply reading a list of positive, good feeling words is much more helpful and effective than complaining about what happened and repeating that story to as many people will listen. You may think sharing your woes feels good, but it actually only creates more of what you don’t want.

Give it a shot. Make your own list or use words from mine. When you find yourself focusing in a way that doesn’t feel good do yourself a favor and consciously turn it around.

Let me know how this list works for you. Please share any other good feeling words I have undoubtedly left out.

Seeing your absolute freedom, happiness, wellness and abundance!

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Much appreciation to Tasya Menaker for the alphabet soup pic!
Check her out here – http://www.flickr.com/photos/tasyamenaker/6643549023/

Take It Back

Tree And Ivy

I first wanted to start a Take Back The Weather campaign.

Listening to the radio, I heard John Aielii on Eklektikos mention how no one believes the weather man anymore when rain is in the forecast and everyone just expects no rain. Also, watching the thermometer hit 93 degrees yesterday before we’ve even gotten into Spring made me really think about what I want to see “weather-wise” in my life.

I took a big deep breath and let it go.

When we stop looking at life in terms of what we like and don’t like
we have a lot more peace in our lives.

It was, however, very clear to me that it is time to take it back.

Whatever “it” is for you, that maybe you think you don’t have anymore or that someone might have taken from you, take it back. Your youth, confidence, joy, abundance, happiness, vitality, satisfaction… all of these things are still here for you to experience. Regardless of your financial situation, age, gender or social status, your life is your own creation and can be whatever you want it to be.

Decide to focus positively in the direction of what you want.

So, I want milder temperatures and more rain this Spring and Summer here in Texas. How can I go about changing the weather?

For starters, I am going to stop complaining about it being so hot and dry. I will notice when I see rain in the forecast and feel confident and excited about it’s arrival. When I want to say, “Damnit, it’s hot out here”, I will instead say, “It looks like rain!” I will allow myself to feel the physical sensations in my body that come up when looking at evidence to the contrary.

Reality is only temporary, don’t get too bogged down in it.

As I allow myself to focus on what would please me instead of pointing out an obvious irritation, my mind will begin to look for more pleasing things. Our negative focus is only a habit that can be changed like any other. Small steps make the biggest progress.

Decide today to move toward what you want. Here are some statements to help you get started…

  • I will consciously cultivate what I want to see, hear, feel and experience by telling myself it’s on its way. (Everything you want is truly on it’s way to you, release resistance and allow it in.)
  • I will allow myself to feel and move the physical sensations that arise in my body when I am faced with a situation that doesn’t please me.
  • I will start talking about what I want and looking for evidence of its arrival.
  • I will focus on what makes me happy and brings me the most joy.

Take a deep breath and feel the possibility. We live in a miraculous world that has the ability to bring to you all you require or desire. Feel the simplicity of focusing on the wanted as a way of life.

Arguing for your limitation will never get you what you want. Supporting yourself in your mind while moving the energy in your body is the quickest route.

If you are ready to take back your life and need some direction. I am here to help.

Let’s talk.

Much Love,
Crystal