Life is a Roller Coaster

Purple Star

My life completely turned upside down(fabulously!) in October. I was freshly on my own and wondering how it was all going to work out.  Financially supporting myself fully (without a “job” with a paycheck) for the first time in my life was nerve racking and exciting all at the same time.

It took months actually before I really realized how stuck I was in my thinking.

Years of doing things the way other people want them done can take a toll on you. You begin to think that someone else might actually know what you should do better than you. Wrong.

It took me a minute to get here, but here I am! Life is good and exciting and things are moving along nicely.

Creating the space for my success has been something I’ve been doing for a while now.  Allowing myself to move through the nervous/habitual energy when it comes up and not getting into some dramatic story of what’s happening and why and who is wrong or right. I let the energy move and it always works out.

Everything is always working out. Always.

The grip of “what’s going to happen” can be strong, but I always know it will work out. We humans do so love the drama.

And boy did it work out!

Today I have a small office in South Austin (by appointment only) and a thriving practice doing most of my sessions over the phone or via Skype. The money is coming, steadily and surely. I am now working with several businesses and many individuals creating great results.

I wrote a short eBook, 4 Tips for Living a Happy Life you can get for free by signing up for my Be Soothed and Uplifted newsletter or you may purchase it on Amazon Kindle. I’ve gotten great feed back which has spurred me on toward the completion of my next book in progress, Navigating Your Life.

A few months ago, I didn’t know how it was going to work or what it would look like. That amount of uncertainty leaves our minds all kinds of room for speculation and we do have a choice on which direction we speculate.

I did not fantasize about being broke or not being able to make it or having to get a “real job” that doesn’t burst my heart and make me happy. I didn’t freak out and call everyone telling them my problems and worries.

What I did do and still do(all day everyday) is allow myself to feel what I feel about everything and soothe my mind if it gets too busy over anything it thinks might need to be fixed.

I spend time doing the things I am inspired to do and feeling good about what I have done.

Things that show up, I deal with. Like when the heating element went out in my oven. I could have gotten upset and raised hell and complained about the “great timing”, but I didn’t.

What I did do was appreciate the opportunity to care for something that means a great deal to me and the people for whom I cook. I called a friend who knew about such things, got the part number and website to order it. When the part came in, the oven got pulled out, cleaned thoroughly, part replaced and something was cooked immediately.

My appreciation for my appliances and all of the things that make life so simple and easy is overwhelming. We’ve lived here for 10 years with no trouble so it was my pleasure to give some time and attention to the machine that has provided 1000’s of meals to family and friends.

Decide how you want to live your life and start moving that direction. Give yourself the soothing and support you need to live your best, easiest and most relaxed life. We didn’t come into this world to struggle for someone else’s wants, desires and wishes.

Give yourself a moment to think about what you want. What does your body tell you about those thoughts? Do you feel a “whatever dude!” in your stomach, or “not likely” in your chest. Maybe you feel that lump in your throat that says it’s not safe to express your own true self. Those “bad” feelings are a sign of beliefs you hold that don’t support you. The beauty is, once you realize this, the feelings can be felt, the energy moved and more supportive beliefs embraced.

A belief is just a thought you keep thinking, whether it’s true or not.

I’m here to tell you, enjoy the roller coaster, it’s all ok. And better than that, it’s great. Your true purpose in this life is to be happy; the feelings are showing you where to start. Those feelings in your body were never meant to stick around forever, they want to move and I can help.

Where in your body do you carry your nervous energy?
Heart/chest, stomach, jaw/throat?

Those feelings can move and when they do, you will feel relief and freedom. I’m here to help.

Much Love,
Crystal

Here’s To The New

Enjoy the unfolding of your life's path

Enjoy the unfolding of your life’s path

2012 has been quite an expansive year. Much of what came clear to me at the end of 2011 was expanded upon and my life has turned into something so absolutely wonderful, I couldn’t have previously imagined it. At this time last year I would never have thought I would be here today. And though the road here had some twists and turns (and more than a few bumps) I wouldn’t trade “here” for anything in the world.

We sometimes get confused thinking we live in a life/death world. What actually happens is life, death, and life again. Not the same as before, but life. And actually even better than before if you’re looking at it from the right perspective. Because as we experience the transition of one thing into another we learn and discover more and more about life and ourselves. We can learn what we’ll do differently next time and reflect on what we’re proud we did this time. We can learn how to handle ourselves in ways that are respectful to ourselves and others.

Life is the game we play our whole lives. Living, learning, growing and expanding. Understand the game and life is really easy.

Reflect today on your past year and appreciate everything that has worked out for you. (If you’re reading this from the physical plane things are going alright!) Allow yourself to feel through any regrets, sadness or frustration you’ve had. Take some deep breaths and appreciate what you learned from each situation that hurt or felt less than good.

If you can’t yet find the positive perspective, lightly set your intention to get there and let it go. Decide to be your own best friend and cheer leader. Support yourself mentally with kindness and compassion. This simple act will change your entire life.

The very idea of 2013 has my heart bursting. I was born on Friday the 13th, so 13 has always been my lucky number. 2013 is my year! I am filled with joy and excitement over what’s already here and what is on it’s way.

This is your year too. This is the year you will fully recognize and understand the point in this life is joy and begin to move easily and confidently in that direction.

You are meant to live an expansive, exhilarating, good-feeling experience. It was your plan when you made the decision to become focused in your physical body in this time-space reality. You were born knowing that you are a powerful Being; that you are good; that you are the creator of your experience, and that the Law of Attraction (the essence of that which is like unto itself, is drawn) is the basis of the Universe, and you knew it would serve you well. And so it has.

— Abraham

The Abraham quote this morning put me into a state of appreciation because I do know this is how life works. And it works quite well.

To the people I have worked with in 2012, Thank you! My life is richer because I know you. Helping you reach your ultimate goals of inner peace and freedom is one of my greatest pleasures.

To the folks I’ll work with in the coming year, your freedom is on it’s way, quicker and easier than you think. I can’t wait to share it with you.

Much appreciation for an excellent 2012 and even more anticipation for a successful and satisfying 2013. Here’s to the new. New year, new perspectives. Here’s to everyone recognizing their own inner genius, true ultimate freedom and complete power over their own lives.

Have a wonderful last day of 2012 and enjoy ringing in the New Year this evening.

See you next year!

Stare At The Carrot

Don’t you just love it when you get a glimpse of the macrocosm in the microcosm? It is like watching the evolution of our species in the entire process between the first division of our single cell to the complete humans we become. Seeing the really big picture in a very small way or as ordinary part of everyday life.

Last night while fixing dinner, as usual, Oliver (pictured left) gets bites of the veggie being chopped, on this occasion, carrots. He knows it’s coming and waits patiently (or not) to receive them. Dionne tossed the carrots one by one, Oliver dutifully went after.

He missed one.

I stood looking at the carrot from my vantage point and seeing Oliver waiting expectantly in the kitchen, I told him the carrot was over there. (Looking at Oliver…) “Oliver, look over there. The carrot is over there.” (Pointing) Clap. Clap. Snap. “Hey! Oliver! Dude. Look over there!” Lord. This dog. (Actually, he’s a genius, but he does have his moments. I guess we all do. wink)

I looked over at the carrot laying on the rug. I heard, “Stare at the carrot”. It then occurred to me… Alecia Evans, my animal communicator friend says to communicate with your dogs/animals through visualization.  Duh. They get pictures from us. Yes, dogs can understand some words, but mainly they are taking the mental images we are projecting. In my head again, “STARE at the carrot.” OK!

So I thought, “Oliver the carrot is over there!” and I stared at the carrot. Not thinking anything, I just stared at the carrot.  After about 15 seconds Oliver jumped like someone had goosed him and went hot-steppin’ it into the living room. He sniffed around a couple of times and headed straight for the carrot.  Well, well, well.  Again, Duh.

Oliver Stares At Carrot

Keep staring at that carrot!

STARE at the carrot.

Before, I was looking at Oliver and telling him over and over again what I wanted him to know.  But what really worked was me staring directly at what I wanted him to see.  WOW!  Now that’s what I’m talking about people! Yes!  Practical applications in several areas.  I love when that happens. The universe brings us what we focus on. Period. No amount of calling, clapping, snapping and arm flailing makes what we want happen any faster than our pure focus and attention.

I know. I know. It’s not always easy to stare at the carrot. I hear ya. I really do. I’ve been feeling and moving through some big energy myself, and it ain’t all sunshine and roses. But, hear me now and believe me later. It’s all good! Energy is moving. You’ve got to let it move. You really can feel what you’re feeling and still keep your eye on that carrot. (If you can’t on your own, get sessions for help with your particular flavor of resistance!)

Let yourself have the time to really feel what you need to feel. (NOW! Recognize your mind is going to take you on a trip… yeah, yeah, yeah.  Been there, done that. I know what you’re doing. Thank you very much and let it go. The sooner you get bored with that busy mind the better. Then it can serve you rather than yank you around.) Spend some time getting into your body and finding where those feelings reside. Appreciate all of your lower emotions for letting you know you had this vibration going on and there is more power for you to reclaim. Yes! Thank you!

Don’t try to rush out of it. You are where you are and you feel what you feel. You are in the perfect place. Be OK with how you feel. Take the drama out of it. Let yourself really fully embrace that feeling, knowing that the slower and more deliberately you do this the faster it moves. When we try to skim the feeling or judge it, it only lasts longer or comes back later more powerfully. It will keep coming back until you appreciate it and allow it to flow freely on.

Find out what your carrot is (joy, health, vitality, expansion) and keep your eye on it.  If your mind is the problem, recognize it. The sooner you hear it, the sooner you can unhook from it.  Lightly set your intention to release all attachment to it’s endless chatter. If you need help, get it!  This is your life and it is meant to be enjoyed!

Here’s to our soft, easy and laser like focus on everything we want and the beauty in all of it.

Keep staring at that carrot!

Sending Love, Ease and Flow,
Crystal

Thanks Crystal

Thanks for that post Crystal.

I’m going to read it slower later and really digest it!

Here’s a carrot for you:

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🙂

Love,

Terry x

Staring at the carrot

Thanks, Crystal, this is a great story and I love thinking of “stare at the carrot” to remind me to get focused. You mentioned “bored with the busy mind” too, and I hadn’t really realized that a lot of my thinking actually is quite boring. Recently I have been noticing it more, and choosing to ignore it in favor of feeling yummy. Lots of love and blessings, Grace

Love this!

Just found this, Crystal — and I love the simplicity and clarity of your message. It’s all just so easy (even though we want to complicate it beyond measure), and you convey that in such an effortless, fun way. Yay!!

Wonderful!

Thank you, Crystal, for that reminder to keep staring at our carrots! Much Love and appreciation! Siana

Ah, this new carrot!

Your blog, dear Crystal, came right in good time because I’ve been staring at a new carrot and I must get it! Thank you for your powerful insight!!! Hugs + love, love, love.

Homecoming / Coming Home

I’ve had some full circle moments lately.  I recently went home for my high school homecoming. It has been 21 years since I graduated from Jayton High School.  And for the first time since I was  a very young child, I wanted to go home.  I needed the comfort of my family.  I needed to know that the recent energy I was feeling (previously tied up with them) was indeed old and no longer existed in my life.

Beside feeling the comfort and ease of family and being in my child hood home, I was reminded of how big my home truly is.  I was raised and my family still lives on JD Patterson Ranch, between 2 small towns in Texas.  Returning for homecoming in a town of 513 people is pretty wild, the love and support is amazing.  Political differences, religious differences… no matter.  We all hugged and smiled and squeezed each other laughing.  We kids grew up together, and the elders watched me grow up and I love them, all of them. Then and now.

The other town over, Aspermont is where my mom and grand parents were raised and lived most of their lives.  Anytime we go back, we eat at Hickman’s, the cafe of my childhood.  (chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes, gravy, green beans, yeast rolls or garlic toast, old school salad bar… getting the picture!?? YUM.) As soon as I arrive in town, everyone recognizes me (because I look like my mother and my grandmother) and asks how they are.  Again, politics, religion, any difference at all… never mentioned.

It occurred to me on this trip how important having this community of familiar love and support has been in my life. I have 2 counties worth of folks that think I am pretty darn great and are always glad to see me and hug my neck. I see very clearly how people need it. I am well aware of the stability this network has provided me. Love and Support. I rarely see any of them (maybe once a year?) but they know me and love me and are there, with a smile on their faces whenever they think about me. And vice versa.

When I came home after the weekend.  I was again met with beautiful community.

I am recently rebuilding parts of my life. It feels so good to start fresh. Even if it’s a little scary at first, things always come around.  The unfamiliar can be most unsettling at times. But when I emailed my friends and family (some of which I’ve never seen in person, only spoken to on the phone or through email!) my new contact information and to tell them about this blog, my feeling of being home was even more palpable.  The love and support I have received has been overwhelming and I am more than thrilled at what life has in store for me.

Zupe

Alive and well in the NP. (non-physical!)

My sweet dog Zupe passed away 1 year ago on Oct 8th. He is ultimately what opened me up to the true nature of our lives and the beauty and wonder around us every day.  The energy I allowed to move with his passing flowered my full enlightenment.  The year that followed has been profound.  Vibrations that lay dormant in me (that no longer match my new reality) have come up and been felt.  Over and over again.  Situations I couldn’t believe.  Energy long since forgotten, back again for my feeling.  It didn’t always feel great, of course.  Because that is the way life is, and it’s ok.  I recognized at every turn myself moving old energy. Allowing the discomfort to wash over me and breathing through it.  Nothing to worry about. I’m not going to drown. I stand on solid ground. We all do.

So come home yourself.  To the knowing that all is truly well.

My life is exactly what I make of it.  No one creates in my life and reality. (Thank God!)

It’s just little ole me here.

Being excited about allowing more and more ease in my life and looking forward to sharing it all.

Much Love to you,
Crystal