What’s Right?

Spring Lake, San Marcos TX

What if we spent more time asking each other, “What’s right?”

What if we began looking at every situation in our lives and asking ourselves a question that would serve us rather than bring us more problems?

I know, when someone walks into the room looking upset, gloomy or mad our curiosity gets the best of us. That part of us that cranes our neck to see the horrific accident or unfolding tragedy needs to know what’s wrong. Just tell me what’s wrong and I can relax. Not.

It truly is human nature. What’s wrong? Tell me what’s wrong. What’s wrong with me, with you, with this situation, with our government, our schools, our parents, our kids. Let’s get to the bottom of this! Let’s find out what caused this trouble so we can all point at it and shake our heads in righteous indignation. Oh that is SO WRONG.

I understand. I really do. I’m human too. I understand fear. I understand anxiety. I understand heartache. I understand loss. I understand uncertainty and pain. We all do. We’re not alone. We are all living exactly the same and completely different human experiences.

What can we do to help ourselves through these difficult emotions and times in our lives? How can we better support ourselves in the moment?  (And what would it take for us to want to figure out what creates these scenarios and situations over and over?)

What if we ask ourselves “What’s right about this situation?”

I know. I know. That’s a big, huge, enormous question in the midst of all that’s wrong. But, what if asking what’s right gave you a different perspective?

What if asking what’s right helped you to see what is right about this seeming tragedy in front of you?

Give it a shot. What have you got to lose? You’ve already been asking what’s wrong all this long time. How’s that working out for you? Asking “what’s wrong” has been and always will be lining you up vibrationally with more and more things you find wrong.

Decide now to begin asking “What’s right?”

I know that in the middle of confusion and upset asking what’s right about the situation feels weird, but go with it. Notice where the energy comes up in your body and feel through it. Relax and soothe yourself with such tenderness and love.

What harm could come from it? A positive perspective? You actually feeling better?

You might discover that you’re holding on to an old belief about yourself or others that’s creating this irritation or problem. Maybe you’re so focused on the problem that you’re totally missing the blessing that is your release from a dead-end job or relationship that was keeping you from having the money, love or support you deserve.

I remember thinking years back that I was ready for a new car. I loved my other car but some things were going wonky and I couldn’t seem to find a way to get them fixed. Not long after, on a 6am drive with my son to his high school for morning practice, were were rear-ended. It totaled the car. After my moment (about an hour or maybe half a day?) I realized I had been wanting a new car but wasn’t taking the steps to make it happen. I didn’t think I could afford it.

The universe showed me I could. I got another car, new to me and much better. I love my car so much. It feels so good to drive it. I enjoy just thinking about it.

In the moment, though, I was not pleased. Not pleased. Quite irritated and upset even. My son was driving. I was angry at the driver, angry it was six o’clock in the morning, angry my iced tea got poured into my lap. As soon as I jumped out of the passenger seat to see who had done this, I saw the culprit. A woman with two small children in her car and another vehicle behind her with two more small children. My initial anger dissipated into frustration and some compassion. Bless their hearts. We’re all up early shuttling our kids around. It was rainy and shit happens.

After all was said and done I sat in the drivers seat of my new car and laughed. This is what was right about that situation. I wanted a new car, needed one, but wasn’t taking the steps to make that happen. The universe gave me a little nudge.

What are you being nudged to do?

Think back over your life and recognize how many things have happened you first judged as bad that actually turned out better than you ever expected.

Now, look at a current struggle, take a deep breath and ask yourself “What’s right?”

There’s a perspective in every situation that serves you, but you have to be looking for it to find it. I am seeing you seeing it.

Sending all my love and support,

XOXO
Crystal

 

Weekly Photo Challenge: Reflections

Reflections. Great for our Weekly Photo Challenge and an excellent reminder for life as well.

“As above, so below, as within, so without, as the universe, so the soul…”  Hermes Trismegistus

Reflections of the Blanco River

Reflections of the Blanco River

Walking around 5 Mile Dam is always a pleasure. I love living near water and have appreciated fully the beauty of this spot for the past ten years.

On this trip, I loved the reflection the large rocks on the opposite river bank created.

Looking at the picture I began to see things we might not always notice at first glance.

What if we turned and looked at it from all directions?

What will you see?

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I see hearts, faces, arms, hair, mouths and hands. I see arms reaching out to receive and I see arms reaching up in joyous exaltation.

How can we take this approach in our lives?

What will you notice when you look at your life from different perspectives?

Will you notice that what you may be feeling about a recent particular situation is actually a reaction to an old circumstance?

Do you realize our lives are just a reflection of our inner conversations?

Big change is only a reflection away.

Much Love,
Crystal

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When Bad Things Happen

It happens. These things we witness and experience as bad or painful. We lose loved ones, jobs, friends, jewelery, books, pets and money. From the smallest most insignificant possessions to the most important people, loss is a part of our lives. Learning to allow it to pass with as little struggle as possible will create a rippling wave of ease through your life.

The important thing to remember in the midst of the hurt, grief, confusion, anger or sadness is this… there is a perspective around this very situation that serves you. A realization you’ll reach at some point that makes you say. “OHHhhhhhh… Ahhhhh. Bless my heart.”

It’s OK if you can’t see it or aren’t there right now.

Don’t rush yourself. Experience your experience and allow yourself to be human. Your current feelings are absolutely valid and as you accept and acknowledge how you feel the energy behind it also shifts and moves. The perspective is there and you’ll be able to find it soon enough.

Allow the tears to come and the shock of the loss to reverberate throughout your body. Tell yourself over and over in your mind, “This too shall pass and when it does, the clarity comes.” Give yourself the very best chance of healing by surrounding yourself with people that support and uplift you.

Remind yourself and your little ones of the love in your lives. Remind yourself of the joy you’ve experienced and feel such appreciation for the time well spent. Accept your momentary feelings of grief, loss, fear and confusion as part of the process, knowing that everything is always working out for you.

Seek out laughter and joyous experiences. Many of us feel that not worrying or feeling despondent would be a disservice to the person we’ve lost or that has suffered a seeming tragedy. This couldn’t be further from the truth.

The loved one we’ve lost is no longer suffering and wants you to feel the freedom and relief they are currently experiencing.

Those hospitalized or in rehab recovering from a tragedy or illness need your positive energy and high vibration to help them along the healing path. Seeing them as healthy, happy and vital is one of the most important things we can do for them.

Our energy and vibration is the most important “thing” we bring to this party called life.

Accepting that adversity is a part of your existence and allowing yourself to move through it with as much ease as possible is the greatest gift you can give yourself and those you love.

As you practice this, your mind will begin to understand the process and it won’t be so “bad” the next time a seeming catastrophe strikes. You’ll see it for what it is and move through it.

This doesn’t mean you’ll never feel pain again or won’t be upset by upsetting scenarios, it just means you won’t let it keep you down for long. You’ll feel through the pain and find the clarity much sooner.

But, wherever you are right now, is perfect. From right here you can get to wherever you want to be. You are absolutely loved, cared for and supported. Take a few deep breaths and feel it for yourself.

What could you do right now to feel just a little bit better about the situation?

Talk with a friend or play with a pet. Watch a funny movie or read a book that makes you laugh or gives you comfort. Find someone who gives really good hugs and get one. Allow yourself to be embraced, soothed and uplifted by those around that can see through the situation to the relief on the other side.

Sending you all my love, soothing, peace, ease and flow.

This too shall pass and all will be well.

Everything is always working out for you.

Much Love and Many Blessings,
Crystal

Weekly Photo Challenge – Perspective

Interesting that perspective is this weeks photo-challenge.

It’s so important for us to realize that our lives are completely about the perspective we hold.

When we’re troubled by something, we tend to look at it very closely. Examining and taking notes of every little think that we don’t like.

But, if we can take a few steps back from the situations the true reality can come into focus.

I love the series of pictures I took below on a trip with my (Dionne’s) family to Guatemala. We were hiking up Pacaya, one of Guatemala’s most active volcanoes.

As I thought of our challenge today, this felt like the perfect opportunity share a deeper perspective on perspectives.

The first picture I took was of course, close up.

Up close

Up close you can the small details.

But after the first picture I noticed a little more around my subject….

A little wider perspective begins to show even more details

A little wider perspective begins to show even more

My next picture was of the grand view. Not of us huffing and puffing our way up the volcano. But the true majesty of what we were experiencing.

Get the full perspective.

Allow yourself to see the full perspective.

This was much, much more than our aching limbs and labored breathing. Our momentary response to our current situation.

Taking a few steps back to notice what’s going on around us and how small we are in the grand scheme of things changes more that just our physical view.

We can begin to see the beauty of the big picture.

We can soothe ourselves through the momentary struggle to find beauty waiting patiently to assure us all is well.

Check out another blog I wrote about perspective.

Sending much love, soothing, peace, ease and flow to all,

Crystal

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Perspective is Everything.

My perspective - Straight Up (through the trees at Hoyt Arboretum)

My perspective – Straight Up (through the trees at Hoyt Arboretum, Portland OR)

per·spec·tive

/pərˈspektiv/
noun: perspective

A particular attitude toward or way of regarding something; a point of view.

The thing about life is this…. you get what you expect.

If you have a great outlook and positive attitude, it’s likely you’re pretty happy in your life. You expect things to work out for you and they usually do. Maybe not in the way you first thought you wanted, but ultimately you realize that what has happened is actually better than what you’d previously hoped for. Life is like that.

If you are negatively focused and cynical, life is probably a bitch and then you’ll die. You expect things to be irritating and annoying and they usually are. The jerk at the drive through gave you the wrong order, you’re always driving behind some other jerk on the highway and all the people you work with are idiots. No one ever does their part so that you can do yours and you usually end up having to do it all because that’s just your luck. You’re the only person that knows and does it right so you get stuck doing it. Life is like that.

“The most important decision we make is whether we believe we live in a friendly or hostile universe.”

― Albert Einstein

You get what you expect, think about most often and focus on.

It’s simple.

Your perspective creates your reality.

If you think the world is out to get you, it is.

If you think the world is loving and supporting you, it is.

That’s why everyone’s lives are so different. Have you noticed how members of the same family can be so different? Raised in the same home with much of the same environmental triggers but some turn out happy, healthy or wealthy while others are unhappy, sick or poor.

We personally create our own reality whether we are aware of it or not.

If you find yourself being stuck in negative loops of bad service, poor health, liars and cheats, poverty, abuse, judgment or neglect, take a deep breath and relax. Maybe you have plenty of money or the relationship of your dreams but you’re still not happy, you take a deep breath too. All truly is well and you can have what you want.

It may be difficult for you to believe at first, but it’s quite easy to change once you know how to do it.

Give yourself the happiest, healthiest, most loving and abundant life you can imagine by noticing and releasing destructive habits of thought; Keep reaching for that better feeling perspective.

How do you find a better perspective?

First, you have to release the old energy that makes you think the crappy perspective you have now is the only one.

When you’re in the middle of a crisis or bad situation, the energy of it is flowing mightily through your body. Learn to let that energy (of things not being what you want) move through without holding on to it and your fresh new perspective presents itself.

You can absolutely do it for yourself, but lots of folks need some help. I’m here to empower you to live the life you want. It’s absolutely available to you.

All my love,
Crystal

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Window

The windows in Guatemala were beautiful. Actually the windows, the architecture, the people the country… all beautiful. The time spent there changed my life and taught me so much about perspective. Our life is exactly how we see it. What perspective are you taking?

Always something beautiful to see.

Always something beautiful to see… have a peek at Lake Atitlan!

Windows in Guatemala

Lots of bars… but flowers too!

Windows in Guatemala

The detail amazes me! How’d they do that?

Windows in Guatemala

Enjoying a cup of coffee and the cool view.

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Questions?

Full Pond in Spring

Dear Crystal,

I dunno, girl, I like to think that I am a practical kind of guy, and a lot of your essays on your website seem like so much new age happyspeak. How does this work for a business? By contrast, the ideas in ‘Built to Last’, my business bible, are fairly concrete.

Not that I am not open to new ideas. I have read a lot of philosophy, I used to be a Rosicrucian, and I am a zen. Not a zen follower or advocate, not a Buddhist, not a zen master, although I know the answers to all the zen questions that seem so silly to the man on the street (Why is a mouse when it spins? If a tree falls in the forest, etc.) and only zen masters understand my answers. I don’t waste my time anymore offering my answers to the uninitiated, because they don’t understand.

But, like Ghengis Khan, I do seek out new weapons for my arsenal of business all the time.

Can you make your ideas a little less nebulous. Or maybe I am just dense.

Regards,
John Doe

Dear John Doe,
I understand.
I don’t get the impression you are dense, just uninformed.

Addressing your “new age happy-speak” comment, it’s actually new physics. If it works and makes you happier and brings you more health, money, joy, peace and ease? What would you call it? It’s easy for people who don’t understand to make such assumptions.

We live in a vibrational universe. Period, end of story. Science has been proving and telling us more and more about it for around 100 years. The old Newtonian physics model of the world does not contain it all. I’ll save the science explanation for a session if you’re interested.

The bottom line is, things happen vibrationally first and physically second; not knowing or understanding this doesn’t make it not so. Everything ever created was first an idea in someones head before they gave it their focus, time and energy to create it. (We’re creating constantly… jobs that run smoothly OR ones where you lose your *ss)

We (humanity/society) have lived this way for a long time… under the impression someone else was in control of our world. That is not the case. The observer affects his own reality.

My ideas and techniques are concrete as well. Each session is different. Everyone is different.

It depends on how strongly you are entrenched in the old way of living in the world:

  • life sucks and then you die
  • life is hard
  • that’s just the way it is, hon (a favorite phrase of your old white men)
  • you have to work hard and toil to be worthy and deserving
  • struggle is honorable
  • if it’s easy it’s not worth anything
  • the best of life is behind us

If you recognize truth(and bullshit) in your heart when you hear it then you’ll have no trouble understanding everything I have to teach you.

I will give you insights and teach you practical tools to put you in control of your own life and business.

I will explain the role your emotions play in your life and teach you how to move through difficult situations with ease and grace (so things like this won’t happen again.)

Lost my *ss on our first project because my field leader stayed drunk and got us run off the job. I had to fly out at my own expense and finish the job for free. I think I redeemed my good name, but the damage from that one irresponsible individual continues to spread.

Most of the people I work with are already aware of these concepts and are interested in my perspective, energy and support. So, I thank you for offering me the opportunity to really think about someone who knows nothing about this and try to find a way to not only explain but help you understand it.

I find so much of the need for an explanation goes rather quickly once people experience what I’m talking about, then they know for themselves.

So again, in plain English…

  1. We talk on the phone for 45min-1hr.
  2. We first talk about what you want and where you’re experiencing frustration.
  3. I teach you techniques to relax and release stress physically in your body (holding onto this energy is what makes you ill)
  4. I give you insights into why your negative thoughts aren’t true and how they don’t serve you. (consistent negative focus is what creates the things you don’t want)
  5. I give you much better perspectives and teach you to soothe your busy mind when it gets going.
  6. My high vibration calls and trains your vibration upwards.

I’m also an empath and do energy healing, so maybe that will be shocking to you as well. But they are gifts that serve me well and make me excellent at what I do.

What I offer you works for your business because it works for your life. Everything works better when you learn and practice these principles. You hire/attract the right people and create an environment that is harmonious, efficient and productive.

I’m not here to pull teeth or shove anything down anyones throat. There is no pressure from me. You ask me how I could help your business and here it is.

Hope this helps.

Take care, John Doe.

Sincerely,
Crystal

PS…  Life is nebulous, until you squint your eyes and put your attention on something (wanted or unwanted), then you begin giving energy to it and lending to its creation. I help people create what they WANT rather than their current creations of some things they don’t want.

Yes, Is The Grease

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes is one of the most powerful words in any language. No other word has more power to transform your personal situation than “Yes”. Learn to say “Yes” in the face of what you don’t want and difficulties begin dissolving immediately. Recognize there is a perspective in every scenario that serves you and your being willing to see it, gets you halfway there.

When you say “yes” you are not resisting anything and are actually opening yourself to new possibilities. “Yes” allows the situation to resolve, transform or fade all together.

When we say “NO, NO that’s not what I wanted. Let me run and tell everyone how angry I am and how terrible this situation is.” We are only adding our precious and powerful energy to a situation we do not want. When we give things we don’t want our attention we continue to create things that make us feel bad. But, when we can first say “Yes” and then “Thank You”, changes previously unavailable begin to present themselves.

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

“Yes”, I can allow this situation to transform and “thank you” for showing me where my focus and thoughts have been lately.

Don’t worry or give yourself a hard time. Just say, “OK. I’ve been focused on things other than what I want. It’s OK. I’m human. I can say yes and watch it all change. Everything is always working out for me.”

I find when I say “yes”, that most times, if it’s something I really don’t want to do, it doesn’t happen…

I get a call from a friend. “Hey! I’m moving out of my house and have no one to help me, will you?” Uh, yuck. I don’t want to move! BUT, I do love my friend and certainly want to be of assistance if I can, so “yes, of course I will help.” Not something I’m really looking forward to, but we always have fun and this will be no different. We’ll get it done and I’ll get some exercise. “Yes, I will help.”

The day before the big move, I get a call saying someone else with a big truck and a few buddies are happy to help (for beer!) and are taking care of the whole thing, maybe we can do dinner next week when things have settled down. Voila! “YES!” I said yes, and it all worked out. I was able to support my friend and created the space for more help that didn’t require me to move heavy furniture!

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

How can you support yourself by saying “YES” to allow more flow in your life? Even in situations you don’t want. Remember, “Yes” is the grease that allows things to shift and change with ease, “No” gums up the system and creates more of the same.

Do you notice yourself saying “no” and feeling it in your body? Find the “NO” physically in your body and breathe.(stomach, chest, throat, heart?) Breathe gently, in “yes” and out “thank you”. In “yes”, out “thank you.” Allow the resistance to move and watch the situation transform.

Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.

If you need more help saying “yes”, give me a call.

I’m here to help.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Here’s To The New

Enjoy the unfolding of your life's path

Enjoy the unfolding of your life’s path

2012 has been quite an expansive year. Much of what came clear to me at the end of 2011 was expanded upon and my life has turned into something so absolutely wonderful, I couldn’t have previously imagined it. At this time last year I would never have thought I would be here today. And though the road here had some twists and turns (and more than a few bumps) I wouldn’t trade “here” for anything in the world.

We sometimes get confused thinking we live in a life/death world. What actually happens is life, death, and life again. Not the same as before, but life. And actually even better than before if you’re looking at it from the right perspective. Because as we experience the transition of one thing into another we learn and discover more and more about life and ourselves. We can learn what we’ll do differently next time and reflect on what we’re proud we did this time. We can learn how to handle ourselves in ways that are respectful to ourselves and others.

Life is the game we play our whole lives. Living, learning, growing and expanding. Understand the game and life is really easy.

Reflect today on your past year and appreciate everything that has worked out for you. (If you’re reading this from the physical plane things are going alright!) Allow yourself to feel through any regrets, sadness or frustration you’ve had. Take some deep breaths and appreciate what you learned from each situation that hurt or felt less than good.

If you can’t yet find the positive perspective, lightly set your intention to get there and let it go. Decide to be your own best friend and cheer leader. Support yourself mentally with kindness and compassion. This simple act will change your entire life.

The very idea of 2013 has my heart bursting. I was born on Friday the 13th, so 13 has always been my lucky number. 2013 is my year! I am filled with joy and excitement over what’s already here and what is on it’s way.

This is your year too. This is the year you will fully recognize and understand the point in this life is joy and begin to move easily and confidently in that direction.

You are meant to live an expansive, exhilarating, good-feeling experience. It was your plan when you made the decision to become focused in your physical body in this time-space reality. You were born knowing that you are a powerful Being; that you are good; that you are the creator of your experience, and that the Law of Attraction (the essence of that which is like unto itself, is drawn) is the basis of the Universe, and you knew it would serve you well. And so it has.

— Abraham

The Abraham quote this morning put me into a state of appreciation because I do know this is how life works. And it works quite well.

To the people I have worked with in 2012, Thank you! My life is richer because I know you. Helping you reach your ultimate goals of inner peace and freedom is one of my greatest pleasures.

To the folks I’ll work with in the coming year, your freedom is on it’s way, quicker and easier than you think. I can’t wait to share it with you.

Much appreciation for an excellent 2012 and even more anticipation for a successful and satisfying 2013. Here’s to the new. New year, new perspectives. Here’s to everyone recognizing their own inner genius, true ultimate freedom and complete power over their own lives.

Have a wonderful last day of 2012 and enjoy ringing in the New Year this evening.

See you next year!