Alphabet Soup

Alphabet Soup

Photo by Tasya Menaker

Do you ever lie awake in bed at night and wish you could turn your brain off? Chores, bills, family issues running through your mind, one after the other. Things to do, business to handle, problems to solve and beside all of that, the world is going to hell in a hand-basket.

It’s really not, it just serves a handful of folks to make you think it is.

Not to worry, I can help.

Being human we all have this busy monkey mind problem. From where you may be right now, your thoughts can jump around from who’s done wrong, to what you’ve done wrong.

Focusing on what is bad, wrong, terrible, unjust, wrong, wrong, wrong(did I say wrong?) is the natural order of the day for most folks. If you think that’s just the way you are and it can’t change, you’re wrong.

It’s easy to refocus our minds with a bit of information and a couple of simple, easy tools in our belt to use when we need them.

Tip 1 – Get into your “Right Brain.”

As you know, our brain is divided into a right and left hemisphere. The left side of your brain is the analytical, critical thinking side(notice the word CRITICAL?), while the right hemisphere of your brain is where your creativity comes from. When your brain is running a mile a minute, say aloud or to yourself, “let’s get into our right brain.” It will help slow down the computer(your brain) and allow you to focus on something more pleasurable and relaxing.

Tip 2 – Give your brain a job.

Once you’ve gotten yourself into your “right mind,” consciously begin to think of other things. As I was lying in bed the other night trying to turn my brain off so I could get to sleep and rest easily, I started this little game in my head.

Using the alphabet, I started saying words that soothed me and focused me easily in a different direction(I was asleep by K). Coming up with the next word took all of my attention as I was searching for words that felt good so my busy mind was busy supporting me. You can’t keep thinking of what you don’t like if you are actively thinking about something else.

Below is the list of words I started compiling.

  • Amazing Appreciation Abundance Adventure Allow Afloat
  • Bold Believe Boundless Beauty Breakthrough BE Breathtaking
  • Caring Capable Compassion Confidence Creativity Colorful
  • Delicious Desire Dreams Daring Divine Dazzle
  • Exciting Effortless Ecstasy Empower Enjoy Ease Epic Exhilarating Expansive
  • Friendly Flowing Fun Faith Free Fabulous Fantastic Flowery
  • Gracious Grandeur Grateful Giggling Gentle Groovy Graceful
  • Happy Hilarious Hopeful Heart Hugs Honor Healthy
  • Inspired Imagination Independence Innovation Intention
  • Joyous Jokes Juicy Jolly Jocularity Jazz
  • Kindness Kiss Kinky
  • Love Laugh Luminous Life Lounging Lively Luscious Liberty Lavish Lucrative
  • Miracle Moments Memories Magic Mysterious
  • Natural Nature Nice Neat Nurtured Nourished
  • Original Optimist Orgasmic Outstanding
  • Purposeful Positivity Potential Possibility Peace Passionate Prosperity Power Playful Psychedelic
  • Quirky Quality Quilt Quiver Queendom Quaint
  • Romantic Relationship Romance Respect Robust Replenished Recharged Rested Renewed Relief
  • Strong Sweet Smart Solutions Shine Soothing Shift Sensual Serene Spectacular Success
  • Tantalizing Truth Triumph Transformation Thankful Terrific Trust
  • Unfolding Universe Uplifting Utopia Uninhibited Understood United Unequaled Unity
  • Vision Visualize Vibrations Vivacious Vibrant Virile Voluptuous Variety
  • Wonderful Worthiness Wonder Whole Wise Wellness Wealth Whimsical
  • Xylophone (haha, you let me know what X letters you come up with!)
  • Yes Yummy Yielding Yay Youthful Yachting
  • Zealous Zest Zone Zing Zippy

You can do it spontaneously or plan for it. Sometimes it helps to have a plan in place for moments when you know you could have a hard time focusing on the positive. Write them down on a piece of paper and just read them aloud or to yourself. Post your list in your car, on your bathroom mirror, the refrigerator or in your office.

Don’t let yourself spend too much time fretting, worrying or focusing on things that upset you. We, as human beings, are vibrational boomerangs. What you put out there you absolutely do get back.

So when you find yourself raging against the machine(any of them or their drivers) take a couple steps back and a big deep breath.

Allowing yourself to move the energy physically in the moment and placing your conscious focus on better feeling things move you away from what you don’t want and draw you closer to that thing or situation that you would prefer, that feels good.

Simply reading a list of positive, good feeling words is much more helpful and effective than complaining about what happened and repeating that story to as many people will listen. You may think sharing your woes feels good, but it actually only creates more of what you don’t want.

Give it a shot. Make your own list or use words from mine. When you find yourself focusing in a way that doesn’t feel good do yourself a favor and consciously turn it around.

Let me know how this list works for you. Please share any other good feeling words I have undoubtedly left out.

Seeing your absolute freedom, happiness, wellness and abundance!

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Much appreciation to Tasya Menaker for the alphabet soup pic!
Check her out here – http://www.flickr.com/photos/tasyamenaker/6643549023/

All Is Well

SunflowerDrop the idea that anything is wrong. Relax for a minute.

Ask yourself, “What if everything is perfect right now and this is just where I am on my way to where I’m going?”

All is truly well. We live in a constant current of well-being. It’s all a matter of allowing.

Not a bunch of doing. A relaxing into. Allowing.

Take a deep breathe and begin to notice everything around you that is working perfectly and getting better and better.

You are loved and cared for in ways you can’t see or may not able to imagine. It makes no difference. It’s still there.

I’m seeing your absolute health, happiness, abundance, peace and joy.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Yes, Is The Grease

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes is one of the most powerful words in any language. No other word has more power to transform your personal situation than “Yes”. Learn to say “Yes” in the face of what you don’t want and difficulties begin dissolving immediately. Recognize there is a perspective in every scenario that serves you and your being willing to see it, gets you halfway there.

When you say “yes” you are not resisting anything and are actually opening yourself to new possibilities. “Yes” allows the situation to resolve, transform or fade all together.

When we say “NO, NO that’s not what I wanted. Let me run and tell everyone how angry I am and how terrible this situation is.” We are only adding our precious and powerful energy to a situation we do not want. When we give things we don’t want our attention we continue to create things that make us feel bad. But, when we can first say “Yes” and then “Thank You”, changes previously unavailable begin to present themselves.

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

“Yes”, I can allow this situation to transform and “thank you” for showing me where my focus and thoughts have been lately.

Don’t worry or give yourself a hard time. Just say, “OK. I’ve been focused on things other than what I want. It’s OK. I’m human. I can say yes and watch it all change. Everything is always working out for me.”

I find when I say “yes”, that most times, if it’s something I really don’t want to do, it doesn’t happen…

I get a call from a friend. “Hey! I’m moving out of my house and have no one to help me, will you?” Uh, yuck. I don’t want to move! BUT, I do love my friend and certainly want to be of assistance if I can, so “yes, of course I will help.” Not something I’m really looking forward to, but we always have fun and this will be no different. We’ll get it done and I’ll get some exercise. “Yes, I will help.”

The day before the big move, I get a call saying someone else with a big truck and a few buddies are happy to help (for beer!) and are taking care of the whole thing, maybe we can do dinner next week when things have settled down. Voila! “YES!” I said yes, and it all worked out. I was able to support my friend and created the space for more help that didn’t require me to move heavy furniture!

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

How can you support yourself by saying “YES” to allow more flow in your life? Even in situations you don’t want. Remember, “Yes” is the grease that allows things to shift and change with ease, “No” gums up the system and creates more of the same.

Do you notice yourself saying “no” and feeling it in your body? Find the “NO” physically in your body and breathe.(stomach, chest, throat, heart?) Breathe gently, in “yes” and out “thank you”. In “yes”, out “thank you.” Allow the resistance to move and watch the situation transform.

Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.

If you need more help saying “yes”, give me a call.

I’m here to help.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Taming the Voices in Relationships

Our discussion last week with Roxanne was about taming the voices in relationships. It’s easy to think that other people should act appropriately so as to not upset us, but trying to control someone else’s behavior is futile. As all the parents reading this will surely agree! The only thing we truly have control over is ourselves. It might be more difficult to exercise at times, but our own behavior is the only thing we can control.

Relationships are one of the most important parts of our lives and truly help expand us into the people we will ultimately become. Allowing ourselves to feel what we feel helps us begin to make better decisions about how to handle difficult situations. When you’re in the heat of the emotion it’s more difficult to come to a peaceful resolution or even see that one is available.

Noticing how others behavior makes us feel is a great way to see “where we are”. Am I allowing my day, week or even months(years?) of my life to be ruined(affected, colored, marred) by what I think someone did to me? If the answer is yes, I have to make the decision to let it go.

We must give ourselves a break from blaming and complaining and focus our energy on what we want rather than the circumstance that caused our upset. We alone decide our day to day focus and I’d be willing to bet the person that upset us isn’t giving it a second thought. We must not give up our here and now, ripe with pure potential, to lament something that is over. (And PS… even if it happened yesterday, IT’S OVER.) Make the decision to move forward and start heading that direction.

Let’s all give ourselves a break which allows us to move through our initial reaction and begin to see that better things are lining up. My job as a Consciousness Coach is to help you relax into your feelings and not take things so personally (or seriously!). I help folks find the energy in the body and move it for increased clarity and calm in their lives. It’s all ok. Everything is going to work out. We are exactly where we’re supposed to be doing just what we’re supposed to be doing, otherwise we’d be somewhere else doing something else.

Relax and let the perfect situation unfold. When I was a little girl my Great Grandaddy Patterson told me not to worry about falling off my horse… the ground would catch me, he said. I didn’t appreciate that advice then as I was well aware how hard the ground could be. But as an adult and knowing what I know now, I am giggling recalling his gruff manner.

Life will always catch us, when we’re struggling against things that ground can be pretty hard, but when we relax and allow ourselves to flow with ease and grace, resisting nothing… we bounce.

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Allowing Your Initial Reaction

One of the most important things for us to realize and understand is this… You will always have your “initial reaction” to every situation, thought or circumstance you encounter.

Many times my initial reaction is… “NO! Dang it! That’s not what I wanted.”

But then, after a few breaths and a moment of soothing myself, I suddenly realize maybe it’s not so bad after all. If “this” happens then “that” would become unnecessary or actually easy. Or if I did “that” at another time it would free me up to do “whatever.” You get my point. It’s not a big deal. There are always 1000 other perspectives than the one you are currently viewing your life through.

I tell people in my sessions all the time, “One of two things are going to happen. The situation will completely resolve, or you will feel completely different.” And either way, this is what you want, no? You want things to be different, or you want to feel good about what currently “is”.

If you need help finding a better perspective, get it.

This is your life. Enjoy it!

Free Live Webcast!

Join my friend Roxanne Darling and I tomorrow, January 11th at 2pm CST (11am HST) for a Free Live Webcast discussing consciousness. Find the link for Roxanne’s YouTube channel below and tune in to watch and or participate in our discussion.

Free Live Webcast: Everyday Consciousness

Google Plus Live Webcast with Roxanne DarlingPlease join me this Friday for a free, live webcast to talk about taming those voices we all have in our heads! It is one of the fastest ways to make things happen in your life that you actually want.

One of the things I am in the midst of this year is writing a book. I am trying out a lot of my ideas here on the blog. I am also creating live conversations so I can engage with you on a regular basis. I am one of those people who actually gets new ideas by interacting with others. Of course I also learn more about my ideas by seeing how easily (or not!) they land in other people’s hearts and minds.

My inaugural chat is this Friday, January 11th, at 10 am HST. You can check your time zone here. I will be hosting it in a “Google Hangout” on the Google + network and live-streaming it to my YouTube channel. This will be a learning experience for all of us, so I thank you in advance for your patience and curiosity. I will be sending a reminder to everyone on my email list with the links shortly before we begin. Please join the email list if you want to receive the notification or want to add a question or comment.

Meanwhile, if you use G+, please circle me there! Otherwise look for our free live webcast this Friday here on my YouTube page.

Crystal Nuding - Be Soothed and UpliftedI have invited a friend to join me – Crystal Nuding. I met Crystal four years ago. We both received  access to divine downloads as I call them and we are both creating our own personal iteration of that in the world. I think you will love experiencing Crystal’s clarity, positivity, and strength!

Crystal Nuding is a natural born empath, soother, uplifter and healer whose gift is the ability to help you live a happier and more joyful life. Through phone, Skype, or live sessions in South Austin, she can help you can find and move old stagnant energy that keeps you stuck. Learn more at CrystalNuding.com. Connect with Crystal on Google+ too.

Get Sad, Make A Decision

I wrote an article a while back called Get Mad, Make A Decision.  I wrote about finally getting tired of not getting what I wanted and making the decision to do something about it. Finally getting mad enough to say, “OK. I’ve had it. Something is changing NOW.”

What changes now is all up to you. Stop doing that thing that you know you do. Stop letting someone else be your excuse for you not having what you want. Decide what you want and head in that direction. No matter what anyone else says or thinks, this is your life, live it.

Sometimes you have to get mad before you’ll make a decision like that, but sometimes, something happens in your life that doesn’t make you mad, it makes you sad. Things happen in our lives that we don’t understand and from the very sad and hurt place we stand, the greater plan of our lives can be difficult, if not impossible to see. This is when we have to just be sad, and make a decision.

A little over 1 year ago, my sweet wiener dog, Zupe made his transition. He was sick for about a month before we knew it was time to let him go. During that month, we did everything we knew to do energetically and physically to heal and “save” our little dog, but in the end, it was his time. When it finally happened, we were exhausted and devastated. We tried so hard. We did everything we could do. (Some folks won’t understand loving a dog so much, it’s ok.) People have had the same experience with loved ones that have suffered too long. (Or maybe you’ve just lost a relationship or have found yourself at the end of something beautiful.)

I realized as we let Zupe go, that through his passing he was offering us a beautiful gift. Freedom. We all have this opportunity when something this big happens in our lives.

Decide now that you’re going to allow every bit of old energy that no longer serves and uplifts you to move. Let yourself grieve. For the loss of your loved one, for the pain you have suffered, for the hurt of everyone involved. Stay out of your head as much as possible during this time and only feel. Let yourself feel the physical feelings (the sick feeling in your stomach or the intense ache in your heart) of pain, sadness and grief in your body and let them move. Laugh every time you feel like it and rejoice that your loved one is laughing with you. Spend as much time outside in nature as you can and take good care of yourself. Be so kind, compassionate and loving to yourself. Soothe yourself in the quiet of your own mind when you begin to feel upset. Be your own best friend and cheerleader.

Allow yourself the time to feel everything. Don’t try to rush it or think you should already be feeling better. Remember that this too shall pass. One day the memories of your loved one will bring such pleasure and joy, rather than the loss you feel so deeply now.

Love is eternal.  These physical bodies are only a very small part of our whole being… our spirit is always in the non-physical. Death is a misconception. It’s only transition and they are never far away.

As I held Zupe to my chest before his transition, I felt him melt into my heart. I knew instinctively he’d always be there. Never parted from me, but certainly, always a part of me.

Celebrate the joy and freedom our friends and loved ones feel once they’ve made their transition.  Feel the exhilaration they feel being free from the vehicle that finally wore out. Talk to your loved ones daily and listen for the answer in your heart. Remember, when you are thinking about them, they are with you. Don’t feel the separation, feel the love. They are with us, always.

Money, Honey

What do we want? MONEY!  When do we want it? NOW!

Money. It’s what we want!  We need it, right?   To survive, to live, to eat, to thrive…?? Well, yes and no.  While it is useful to exchange for goods and services, we can’t eat it (gag) and money certainly can’t hold us when we are feeling vulnerable or need a hug.

We think we want money, but what we really want is what we think money will provide. Stability, security, freedom… get the picture?

While cash money is a fantastic tool that allows us to have the stuff we want and do things we want to do it isn’t necessary for our survival. At one point in history salt and chocolate were forms of money. Taking the life and death importance out of money can make it a little less scary when we find we need more in the bank than we currently have.

First, just breathe. Everything is always working out for you. (If you think it isn’t, think again!)

What is your relationship with money?

Do you love money or hate it? Do you think people that have money are “bad” or “smarter than the rest of us”? When out with family or friends, do you think the person with most money should pay for everything? Do you feel confident you’ll always be able to create or generate all the money you need? Do you feel like you’ll never make enough? Are you envious, jealous or even angry with people that have a lot of money? Do you actually have a bit of money but are constantly afraid of losing it or that someone will take it from you? Have you decided you’ll probably just live paycheck to paycheck for the rest of your life?

Think about your answers to the previous questions.  What beliefs did you just realize you have about money? Do they support you and make you feel good, or do they feel bad and scary or worrisome?

The way you feel right now, physically, in your body,
is the key to the amount of money you are currently creating in your reality
.

It’s not the economy, the current or past administration. It’s not your boss or family. It is only about the physical sensation you’re feeling right now as you’re thinking about and focusing on money. Is it in your stomach, heart or throat, perhaps? (It could be in your ear, elbow, knee, ankle or big toe!)

Notice how your body feels when you talk about money.  Does anything tense up?  Do you feel that nervous feeling in your stomach or a clinch in your chest? Does your mind jump on the scary roller coaster of trying to figure out how you’re going to make everything work?

These little signs are telling you how you feel about money. The great news is that from now on, you’ll have a bit more awareness of how your thoughts affect your body. Yay!

Feeling those feelings (the physical sensations in your body)
without thinking about why you are feeling them (I’m broke and have bills to pay)
will set you free.

I understand completely how scary our current reality can seem, but that fear is tied directly to the feelings in your body. It’s like having an oscillating fan plugged in and turned on high, unplug it from the electrical outlet and it stops. Let yourself feel those feelings and they will flow on through your body as intended. Feeling the feeling removes the “charge”. Then the whole situation is transformed. The perfect solution presents itself, a check shows up in the mail.  A friend or relative gifts you with the money or you create the space for your own financial abundance. The number of positive solutions to your situation is limitless, don’t trap yourself in the 1 or 2 terrible scenarios you keep playing over and over in your head.

Speaking of terrible scenarios playing over and over in your head… Your mind is going to automatically point out what’s wrong with everything and how it could be even worse. That way of thinking was imperative to our survival as cavemen needing to protect ourselves from real and present danger, but we are no longer in danger. (No matter what the news says!) Bless our negatively focused minds and our news media. Fortunately we have the freewill and power to change our focus. It takes a little effort and consistency, but is well worth it. We create with the power of our minds and our laser like focus. Make sure you are focused on what you want, not what’s gone wrong.

We have these feelings for a very good reason, after all. They are our guidance system. Everyone receives guidance from the Divine/God/Universal Intelligence, but not everyone knows how to hear it. Feelings are the key to this communication. Feelings that feel bad are telling you that the thoughts you are thinking are not in alignment with your larger, more expanded self. This doesn’t mean anything is bad or wrong, it just shows you that you are not seeing the situation as your Divine Self sees it.

After years of not allowing ourselves to fully feel, experience and let flow our feelings and emotions (because they can be painful), we’re like storage units full of old and useless crap we don’t need anymore, but still pay for.  Month after month, paying for stuff we don’t need or use. Except you’re not paying with money in this way, you’re paying with your energy, your health and your life experience.

Let yourself feel how you feel. Whether you need more money, a better job or a new relationship. Don’t resist anything. Just acknowledge your feelings and let them move.

Set your intention to get fully into your body so that you can, first, hear the information being given to you. And secondly, to begin navigating your life in a way that is easy, pleasing and fun. Life isn’t nearly as hard or scary as we’ve been lead to believe. Bless our hearts.  We know what we know and do the best we can.  When we know better we can do better.

No big changes to make, just an awareness to cultivate.

Feel what you feel. Recognize when you’re mind is taking you down a rocky road and choose a smoother path.

The evidence that shows up in your life will astound you.

Here’s to letting it be easy!  I can help.
Much Love,
Crystal