Roll With It, Baby

Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.

We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.

My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.

I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.

Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.

I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.

It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.

Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.

But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.

Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.

Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.

There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.

It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.

I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.

If you’re struggling right now, hold on.

Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.

In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)

I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.

By the way… it’s Friday.

Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…

New Year, New Rules

Sending health, happiness and prosperity to you!

Sending health, happiness and prosperity to you!

Happy New Year dear friends! Here’s to 2014 being your best year yet!

Do you really truly know what drives you? What compels you to make the decisions you do? I want you to think about the unspoken rules you live by and if they are working for you or against you.

So many of our beliefs(rules), make our lives more difficult than necessary. But, what if they aren’t true? How do you know?

What if there were an easy way to figure it out?

Good news… there is.

Once we take an honest look at the “rules” that govern the way we live our lives we get to consciously decide if they work for us or if maybe they are someone else’s rules we picked up by default and could change with ease.

What unexamined beliefs do you have that silently keep you on the hamster wheel of same stuff, different day? What false beliefs did you pick up in childhood or your early life that don’t allow you to experience the success you see in others?

Good girls don’t. Some folks can, but I can’t. The other shoe is about to drop. I’m not good enough. I don’t have what it takes. You have to work hard to make good money. Our bodies are meant to decline. I don’t know how. If it sounds too good to be true, it probably is. It’s impossible. I’m not smart enough. Girls wear pink and play with dolls. Boys take out the trash and mow the lawn. Daddy’s don’t stick around. Men are no good. Women are only after your money. Nothing good ever lasts. Expect the worst so you won’t be disappointed. Things never work out for me. I have terrible luck. You can’t find good help around here. All I deal with are liars and cheats. Nobody wants to work anymore. If you want it done right you have to do it yourself. I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t.

Most of us don’t really believe all of these statements, but too many people don’t realize the energetic feelings behind this false information is quietly and surely shaping your life and experiences.

Do you have a hard time hiring someone only to have them leave a few months after proving a valuable asset to your team or organization? Maybe you are struggling to get pregnant or hoping to find a life partner or career that pays your bills and fulfills your soul. Wouldn’t it be nice to know why it hasn’t worked out thus far and how to get yourself on track to letting it in?

There is a reason you are experiencing the blocks in your life and the right perspective can change everything. Learn how and why you look at life the way you do now and discover just how easy it is to change that.

Buying into the idea that struggle is honorable and hard work has to be painful is definitely old paradigm.

Welcome to 2014! Science has shown us in great detail how this world truly works and it’s a waste of your good life to continue operating from the limited knowledge and understanding of the 1800’s.

Not to worry…. Help is on the way!

Stay tuned in the next few weeks for my new Online Self-Paced Course.

The Energy Element Online Course

This informative and uplifting course will be a great way for you to begin delving into the new paradigm of ease and flow at your convenience at your own pace, in your own home.

You’ll discover the biggest block to your happiness and how to release it. You’ll find out what keeps you from getting that promotion, relationship or new body you’ve been wanting and working so hard for.

You’ll also find out why you’re never satisfied, even when you get what you want and the trick to being happy, no matter what.

I’ll give you all the information, resources and activities you need to get your life moving in a whole new direction. Find out what truly works for you and how to allow yourself to create the life of your dreams rather than re-creating the same limitations, frustrations and irritations that have plagued you for years.

Learn the real rules for living the life you want in 2014. They are not what you think and it’s way easier than what you’ve previously been doing to try and make big changes in your life. Here’s a secret you’ll learn about the rules… you get to make them up. I’ll teach you how.

Take a deep breath and relax. Life is about to get a whole lot easier and way more fun.

I’m here to help.

Much Love and Many Blessings for a happy, healthy and prosperous New Year,
Crystal

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Easy Does It

Let life be easy.

Let life be easy.

Does life run pretty smoothly or are you always asking yourself, “Why do I have to struggle and fight for everything I have!?”

I spent quite a few years of my own life asking that question. Along with… “Why can’t things be easier for me?”

Fortunately, asking myself those questions helped move me toward an easier life.

After reading Florence Scovel Shinn’s books in my early twenties, I knew what she said was true. We really are guiding our own lives with our words, thoughts and deeds.

It’s interesting, isn’t it, that we hold struggle in such high regard? Have you noticed?

If someone tells you something was easy for them do you immediately think, “well, so what?” or “Of course it was easy for you, everything is easy for you. Jerk” If it was easy, we don’t want or need to hear about it. Tell me what you struggled with and how much crap you had to take and dish-out and wrestle through to get somewhere and I’ll listen. And then I’ll engage you with my stories of struggle and hardship because that is what makes me worthy… my struggle.

Well, I’m here to share a little secret with you.

Life is supposed to be easy.

I know. I know. Some part of your body jumped up and said, “HEY!!! You’re wrong. No fair. I’m struggling and don’t know how not to so you better be struggling too.”

Have you noticed how some people don’t want to hear about or talk to happy people? They’d rather commiserate and complain with you than hear about your triumphs, particularly if your wins came easily without a heavy price. We all want to experience that ease but often feel angry or irritated that it’s out of our reach when someone else demonstrates it.

If you share too much of your easy and happy life you’ll notice some folks around you grumbling, perhaps rolling their eyes at you and mouthing smart ass comments. Bless them, though. Don’t be mad. They don’t even realize what they’re doing.

Bringing more awareness into our lives is the key to letting things be easier. Just notice when you get frustrated hearing about your friends recent engagement, raise or job opportunity.  Don’t be mad at them for having the success OR upset with yourself for feeling less than enthusiastic. Realize you’re just doing what a huge portion of society is doing and let it go. When you begin to be aware of these feelings and physical sensations you can allow them to shift and change the way your own life works.

The problem was this… We’ve been lead to believe that the glory is in the struggle. And for a while, because life was so much more difficult for our parents and grandparents, it was necessary to find and appreciate the glory in the struggle. That was all we knew and making the best of a bad situation was the best we could do.

But, times have changed and our understanding of how the world actually works has changed. We can no longer(though most do) view the world through Newton’s Principia (Mathematical Principles of Natural Philosophy, originally published in 1687).

Classic Newtonian physics posits that everything is deterministic, but quantum physics has proven that nothing is.

Everything is changing, always. And most importantly it’s changing (or not) due to your observation, thoughts and words.

So… Easy does it.

If you don’t understand all of this quantum physics no worries. Just think about the last time you got a new car and then saw them everywhere on the road. I once rented a vehicle that I was unfamiliar with (can’t even remember now what it was… small SUV, H something or other) and the moment I drove away from the car rental place, I saw them everywhere.

Read Pam Grout’s book E-Squared to learn more about how your thoughts create your reality.

When you recognize the truth in all of this and need guidance on how to allow your life to be what you’ve always wanted, I am here for you. Beside focusing on what you want and using your thoughts to move you closer to that, I teach you how to find and feel the energy in your body that allows life to shift quickly and easily.

Purchase a set of 3 sessions today for yourself or someone you know and love.

Find out today how easy life can be.

Much Love to you,

Crystal

It’s Easier Than That

More alignment, less labor

More alignment, less labor

On this Labor Day, I’ve got some good news for you. Whatever you’re struggling with right now(money,job,health,relationship), the solution is available. Whatever you’re imagining needs to happen to resolve the issue, I’m here to tell you, it’s easier than that.

Our minds are currently wired to look for what’s wrong in any given situation, but, not to worry, it’s only a habit. We actually live in a vast and miraculous universe and what you need is already available, and it’s easier than you think. Someone has already figured it out and the solution is available right now, just waiting for you to find it.

Most of us spend too much time participating in our habit of poking at and talking about problems. How did this happen? What was the cause? Where did it start? Let’s get to the bottom of this!

So many people think they must focus on the problem and worry about it until it resolves… because, if I’m not worried, it means I don’t care, right? WRONG.

This is the way many of us were taught to handle such things. Grab the bull by the horns and wrestle that sucker to the ground. Or if I don’t know how to do that, worrying and planning for the worst will be my modus operandi. The original problem may well resolve, but the continued focus on and wrestling with it brings another situation right on it’s heels that will sting in much the same way.

What if there’s a simple solution?

What if it’s easier than I think?

How good will my life feel when I let things be easy?

How good will it feel to be genuinely, positively expectant?

How amazing will my life be when I realize there’s always an easy solution?

First, feel the ease of the previous questions. You don’t have to immediately answer the questions, just let your mind ponder them. Doesn’t that feel better than asking yourself what terrible thing could happen next?

Now, let yourself let it be easy. Begin expecting to find solutions more quickly and easily. Feel through any old feelings(physical sensations in your body) that says “things are hard, there’s honor in struggle or things come by easily aren’t worth much.”

Move the energy behind those old worn out thoughts and your mind more effortlessly reaches for positivity. And once your mind begins reaching for positivity everything changes. You get in the flow of life and things you want and need show up easily for you, right on time.

Once you get the hang of it, your life becomes completely your own. You’ll never really worry about anything again. Of course there will be those moments, there will always be moments, such is life. Relax and breathe and tell yourself, “You’re OK. You’re OK. We’re OK. This is OK. It’s easier than that. I love you. We’re absolutely love and supported. Thank goodness everything is always working out for us.”

With your own love, compassion and support, you can’t lose. All you ever need to completely change your world is your own self support,

So, when you find yourself struggling over a problem, relax. Spending your life in your head thinking about the troubles you’ve endured or witnessed only keeps you bound to those feelings and situations. Take a deep breathe, relax and remember that it’s much easier than you think.

I’m here to help. Contact me to schedule your phone or skype session. I look forward to hearing from you!

Sending all my love, soothing, peace, ease and flow,
Crystal

Skip It

Great song, I didn't skip it!

Great song, I didn’t skip it!

By now, I’m sure most folks have had some experience with Pandora Radio or the like. Rather than watching the news, ridiculous reality TV or whatever crap might be on at any given moment, (while simultaneously being forced to endure countless erectile dysfunction/depression medication commercials that blast at three times the volume of the program) we choose to listen to music.

A few of my favorite features on Pandora are also important in my every day life. Thumbs up, thumbs down and skip it.

  • If I like(or love) a song, I give it the ol’ thumbs up. Pandora get’s the message that I like that particular song and gives me more like it.
  • If I don’t like the song (or hate it!), I just click the thumbs down. No problem. Hey, Pandora, I don’t like that one.
  • Then, my favorite of all. I don’t like the song or want something different? I just click… Skip it.

That’s it. Done. Moving on. I don’t like that song. I’m in the mood for something different. I don’t call Pandora and tell them to take the song down. I don’t tell anyone. I don’t get mad. I don’t justify why I don’t want it. I just skip it.

What if we all lived our lives this way? What if instead of pushing against everything you don’t like or judge as bad/wrong you just skipped it?

When it’s obvious you don’t like or want what you’ve seen… Great. Duly noted. Nothing more to do. From this point any fighting, shouting, justifying or defending only adds energy to the very thing you disapprove of. Even the most well intentioned post/conversation to “spread the word” about the terrible injustice only strengthens and gives it more power.

So, what do you do when faced with something frustrating, irritating, scary, worrisome or horrible. Breathe. Relax and take big deep breaths. Let the physical sensation accompanying the upset flow through your body until you feel the relief. You will feel relief. It’s natural for this energy to move and flow.

Now, immediately turn your attention and thoughts to what you would prefer. Just like your focus on the negative brings you more like it, when you focus on what you want, that grows as well. You get more and more of whatever it is you focus on, whether you like it or not. So, doesn’t it make sense to focus on what pleases you and makes you feel good and happy?

All governments being responsible and fair. The news media focusing on the much larger picture of what’s right in our magnificent world. Religions of the world actually doing good works rather than converting or condemning. Every human being recognizing they alone hold the power in their lives.

What is your true hearts desire?

How could you more easily focus on that?

What if you stopped looking at the world in terms of what you like and don’t like and just noticed what is?

What will your life be like when you move quickly past what’s wrong and focus easily on what would be better?

If you don’t like it, let yourself skip it. It’s only our attention to things that keep them swirling around in our lives. No worries, though! All it takes is the recognition of how to do it and a bit of practice. I’m here to help.

Seeing your absolute freedom to fully enjoy your life!

All my Love,
Crystal

Focus Forward

ThroughTheTrees - San Marcos River

As you give thought to your future—your future that may be 10 years; your future that may be 5 years; or your future that is 60 days away—you literally begin pre-paving. And then, as you move into those pre-paved moments, and as that future becomes your present, you fine-tune it by saying, This, is what I now want. And all of those thoughts that you have put forth about your future, right down to this moment when you are now intending what action you want to take, will all fit together to bring you precisely that which you now want to live.

— Abraham
Excerpted from the book “The Law of Attraction, The Basics of the Teachings of Abraham”

I absolutely loved this Abraham quote. When we are in difficult situations or faced with ugly truths we tend to focus on the right now circumstances of our lives. Which, in moments of joy and happiness is great, but when things don’t look the way you want them to, can be painful to bear. In these hard times, the only thing to do is focus forward.

Think about how good it will feel just a few days, weeks or months from now when everything is as you’d like it to be.

Plan on it, say to yourself and everyone you know and love, “No worries, it’s all coming.” And then start imagining what it will look like when it gets here. Don’t allow yourself to stay focused on what you don’t want. Take a deep breath, relax and know it will work out. It can be hard for us to believe that our minds don’t always have the right answers and that sometimes(most times) until you are consciously focusing on what you want, it actually makes things worse.

Your focus on how you want it to be is the most important thing you can do
to bring about the results you want.

Give yourself the chance to create what you want instead of repeating old scenarios again and again. Let the last time be the last time and move on. No worries. No big deal. That’s how we previously did things, but we’re doing this now.

We think over 70,000 thoughts per day and the majority of those thoughts are the same as yesterday. Focusing forward moves yourself closer to what you actually do want.

When you allow what’s wrong to just flow by you(through your life experience) without fanfare, it doesn’t stick around. The situation will pass and you will be more aware of what you’d prefer to happen next time.

But, when we shout about it, fight about it, blog about it, Facebook it, Tweet it, think about it and discuss it with multiple friends and family members, it can’t help but repeat itself. And then you get to say, “See, I told you so. I knew this was going to happen. This always happens.”

But is that what you really want? No, it’s not. You may think it makes you feel better to “vent”, but you’re only hurting yourself(and the person that has to listen to it). Give yourself 5 minutes with one person to bitch about whatever you need to bitch about and then be done with it.

You want peace, ease, wellness, happiness, relief, health, harmony, joy, excitement, abundance, satisfaction, fulfillment… am I on the right track? Thought so.

Don’t ask why or what else could go wrong? Why only gets you more wrapped up in the trouble at hand and what else is creatively asking for more of what you don’t want.

If you want something different to happen in your world, you’ve got to begin to think differently. Allow yourself to feel through whatever comes up in your moment of upset, but begin to change the way you think about problems… Interesting situation. I wonder how this is going to work out in my favor? Forget that problems even exist. Forget them. Think about the solutions.

Focus forward with these questions. Don’t try to answer them. Just ask and let the universe deliver.

  • What is my true hearts desire?
  • How will it feel when I’ve gotten what I wanted?
  • How can it be easier?
  • Who could help?
  • How can I allow myself to allow more help?
  • How good will I feel when I’ve allowed the easiest solution?
  • How much easier will my life be when I think only in terms of solutions?
  • How fun and exciting will it be when I no longer see life’s problems as problems?

Now, just start making a note of everything that is working out for you. Make a list of things you want and start watching for them to show up.

Keep living your life and doing what you need to do, just notice when coincidences happen or synchronicities show up. Take them as cues that you’re on the right track and let it encourage you to keep your focus on the end result.

If you need help letting go of some old scenarios(heartache/heartbreak/anger/guilt/shame/resentment), I’m here to help. Don’t let your past steal your joyous now. Let that go and live your life.

Life is good and fun and it’s supposed to be easy. We’ve been brainwashed into thinking that struggle is honorable. While those who struggled before us certainly deserve their honor, we don’t have to struggle any more.

Life is easier than we let it be. I can help you let it be easy.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Weeky Photo Challenge – Curves

Oh, how I love where I live.

These shots were from Dionne’s birthday picnic (last January) at McKinney Falls State Park Southeast of Austin, Texas.

These beautiful limestone falls have been carved by water over thousands of years. Another example of the peaceful power of water. It doesn’t fight, it just keeps on rolling, constantly, gently making its way.

Here’s to us all being more like water… less fight, more flow.

McKinney Falls McKinney Falls 5 McKinney Falls 4 McKinney Falls 3

The water was low at this time but what a beautiful site we would have missed if it had been full. The graceful curves in the limestone created by the water is a wonderful reminder to let it all flow.McKinney Falls 2 McKinney Falls 6

To learn more about The Weekly Photo Challenge, click here.

Living Through Loss

Winter Sky

Winter Sky – Looking up through the trees in Washington Park, Portland Oregon.

It’s happened. You’ve lost a loved one. The relationship you thought was forever is over. The job you once loved so dearly is no more. Tragedy, personal or global. The major occurrence in your life you think will be the end of you. It won’t.

You will get over it. You will feel better. Life will be OK again. You will be happy. You will find joy in the memories. You will breathe freely with light and easy breaths. Your heart will sing. Your mind will be at ease. You will feel inspired and joyous. You will feel peace in your heart.

But, in the mean time…

Soothe yourself physically first. The shock of such a loss is hard on our hearts, minds and bodies. Begin to do the easiest things first. Move your body to take care of yourself. Breathe deeply, often. We rarely use our lungs to full capacity, instead we take shallow, shorter breaths. Notice your breathing rhythms and let yourself take slower, deeper, more cleansing breaths. Just doing this will also help slow your mind down and relax. Tell yourself you’ll think about it later. Right now, allow the energy in your body to move and flow on through with as much ease as you can.

As soon as is possible(and as often as you need to), put on your robe or most comfortable pj’s and straighten up your space. Light some candles and put on some soothing music. Sit in your most comfortable chair or lay down on the couch, get a blanket if you’re cold. Curl up or wrap your arms around yourself and breathe. Notice how your body is feeling. Lightly “check in” with your entire body. Start with your toes and work your way up.

Getting into your body and out of your head is the key short-cut.
When you “think” about what you feel, it/the feeling, never goes away.
When you feel what you feel, it can move rather quickly.

Allow yourself the sadness. Cry until you stop, and you will. Breathe into the grief (anger, hurt) you feel in your heart, stomach or throat. Feel where you feel it and breathe. Allow yourself to just physically feel the sensations in your body. When you feel yourself tightening your stomach, relax it and breathe. Just notice where the feelings are and also notice how the physical sensation moves when you focus on it. Feel the tightness relax and move up, notice the relief you feel after a big yawn. You are moving the energy. Let it take as long as it takes. If it’s quick, great. If it takes a while, no big deal. This was a big experience and you deserve your own loving kindness, care and compassion.

Give yourself a moment to fully experience your experience. Give yourself permission to feel every feeling you ever have without judgment. Intend now to consciously soothe yourself in the quiet of your own mind. Remind yourself it is all going to be ok and better than that, it’s perfect.

Life is always working out for you and just because you don’t understand this right now, doesn’t mean you won’t. It just means you need to allow yourself to be where you are in your experience. With experience comes knowledge.

It will all be clear one day. Relax in that knowing. The better you get at moving the energy physically in your body the quicker the clarity comes. It’s only our minds that tell us something is wrong. Our physical bodies are instruments of communication between ourselves and our source. Learn to control your mind (and it’s propensity to focus negatively) and your ability to hear, know and understand those communications increases exponentially.

I send so much Love and Many Blessings to each and every person struggling with loss today and every day. I am holding the vision for absolute happiness, health, vitality and peace in your heart. You are loved and supported more than you know.

Sailing Through Life

Crystal Sailing

Crystal MF’n Nuding – Captain of her own life

I sailed for the first time recently. It was an absolutely fantastic experience. I’ve been on motor boats, ski boats, fishing boats, pontoon boats, but never a sail boat, not even a little one.

When we first got on the boat I immediately noticed how the sails were connected by different color ropes, red, blue, green, so you can see clearly what you’re working with. Very clever. Of course you need different colors, can you imagine the confusion?

With a nice breezy day on the lake we had a very “sporty” ride.  Sail boat rides are much different from your typical boat ride. It is definitely an interactive experience. The seating is not as plentiful (or comfortable) and we didn’t know where to go to be out of the way.

Our very first turn after really getting out on the water had us leaned back against the side rails, almost touching the water, looking almost directly up at the person across. The pressure was strong and moving around or changing position was not an option. It was a bit harsh being trapped and unable to sit up. Back uncomfortable, seat wet.

But comes the inevitable turn (life always takes a turn) and we were back on top. I got better footing. Previous experience told me I didn’t want to be trapped on my back again. I found a different position so when we took the next turn I was upright with my center of gravity low for balance. With my feet under me I was able to maneuver the waves and lean into the turn.

Even further down under the boat is the keel, a weight essentially, of concrete and steel weighing approx 6,000lbs. The vessel will never capsize. No matter how far it leans to the right or to the left (Starboard or Port), something up top will fail before the boat would turn over. Such is the safety and wellbeing(ness) of our own lives. The Divine, God, the Universe is that weight that keeps the boat upright.

We all know money can’t buy happiness, security, worthiness, peace or joy. All of these things are within ourselves. Like the little cabin deep inside the boat. It is there whether you utilize it or not.

It may get rough or rocky, but breathe and relax as best you can until you reach the next turn that puts you back on top. Recognize where you lost your footing or how your seating could be better next time and make those adjustments. Make yourself more comfortable, be prepared by knowing where you’ll lean for support. Secure yourself. Root yourself firmly in your own center because you will turn again and this time it will be an adventure.

This is the reason for life and why we are here. To have these adventures and to eat good food and meet wonderful people and have experiences we haven’t yet had. Once you recognize this and know how to navigate, you’ll never worry or fear anything ever again.

It’s just a ride.

Here’s to your own smooth sailing.

With Much Love,
Crystal