Age is an Attitude

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Age is an Attitude

My grandmother loves to tell anyone who will listen how terrible it is to grow old. She believes she is old, so she feels old. I can only soothe my Grandmother and make her laugh, but I know something that she was never told.

Let me share a powerful, life altering fact with all you vibrant women out there – Age is an Attitude! We’re only as old as we think we are, and our thoughts are the energy that creates our attitude.

As you can see from person to person, we all age at different rates and with different areas of struggle and ease. Many people like to attribute our aging to genetics and our family medical history. And while, yes, these things can be contributing factors, much more powerful and completely within your control is your attitude.

Having a sunny disposition isn’t always easy, but is always worth the effort. We may feel frustrated or irritated with a current situation or nagging condition but when we learn what fuels these feelings, shifting the circumstance becomes child’s play.

Our powerful energy

Success or failure in money, love, relationships, health and happiness begins and ends with the energy we carry around in our bodies.

Energy is behind all circumstances in our lives.

As children we pick up this energy from our parents and society around us. We learn to say, do and focus the way our parents and other influential adults did. As we grow up our discernment is heightened and developed to allow us to make different decisions and recognize more clearly what feels good to us.

It may take some of us longer to know what feels good for us; as women we have historically been “taught” to spend our time and energy caring for and worrying over others. When our parents, children and spouses take center stage in our lives we can completely lose touch with who we may be outside of our relationships with them.

Taking the time to cultivate an awareness of what feels good to us and what we want to do is paramount to our living a “young” and happy life.

Focus on you

Appreciate your deep capacity to love and care for others and then turn that powerful focus on yourself. Begin to notice your thoughts.

Are you soothing and uplifting yourself in your mind or are you beating yourself up for not being, doing or having more?
What ways are you already supporting the healthy happy life you want? In what ways could you be better?
What baby steps could you take to move yourself closer to the kind of self-care that will actually support you in thriving rather than just surviving?

Here are a few suggestions:

Watch what you think. Of course, what you ingest (food, media, conversations, etc.) makes a difference, but even more important is how you feel about what you’re doing. What are your thoughts telling you? Do you feel like life is working out for you or are you on a hamster wheel of negativity? These thoughts will lend great insight into whether what you are currently doing is working or not.

Find the feeling. When you are upset, nervous, sad, worried or frustrated take a moment to locate that feeling physically in your body. Is it in your stomach, chest, heart or throat? This is the energy behind the situation. Relax and give your brain a rest for a moment, tell it you’ll think about the problems later. Give yourself a moment to breathe and feel through the physical sensations of your upset. As the feeling passes you’ll have access to more productive thoughts.

Self Soothe. Our minds are always focused on what’s wrong. Once you’re able to fully recognize and acknowledge this you can stop worrying about all the things you think are wrong. Just like you don’t get mad at the mailman for delivering mail, you can stop fretting over the barrage of thoughts you are confronted with daily. You can change your focus by relaxing, breathing and moving through difficult moments and emotions throughout your day. Tell yourself, “It’s OK. Everything is always working out for me. Bless my heart this feeling is intense. I’m OK. It’s all OK.”

Meditate daily. Ideally 20 minutes twice a day, morning and evening. Let that be something you work up to if it feels too daunting or overwhelming. Start out with 5 or even 3 minutes to get yourself started. Remember you’re not doing it wrong if you have thoughts while meditating. You’ll get to the point that your thoughts slow down greatly, but in the beginning, just being aware of the tone and direction of your thoughts will help.

As you begin supporting yourself in this way you will notice yourself being drawn to food, people, supplements, make-up lines and products that you feel good about. You will notice yourself feeling better about yourself and celebrating with gratitude the gifts in your daily life.

Take some time for yourself every day – no one else can do it for you!

Remember This

The Daily Prompt – Powerful Suggestion

“What’s the one piece of advice you wish someone had given you a year (or five, or ten…) ago?”

I thought a lot about this question as I stood before the group of middle school kids. What did I need to know at this age? What did I wish someone would have told me? How can I make the biggest difference in their lives in the short time I have in front of them? What is the most important thing for us to always remember?

You are a vibrational being.

Energy and emotions are supposed to flow through you, not stick around forever. They will only stay with you if you talk about, blog about or share them repeatedly.

You are not your thoughts. Your brain is evolutionarily wired to focus on what’s wrong.
No worries, you can change that.

Your mind will hold onto hurts and failures much longer than your successes.
You can change that, too. Cultivate an awareness of your thoughts and
consciously choose to support yourself mentally.
Practice helps.

Your mind is a powerful focusing tool and you will always get
what you spend the most time focusing on. Success or failure.
There will be no wondering “what went wrong,” your focus brought it about.

Science has proven we are vibrational beings.
Western medicine and surgery is not the only way to heal.
Anything only works because we believe it does.
Modern medicine is like using an old Remington typewriter when you’ve got a brand new, lightning fast Mac to work on.
Energy medicine is the cutting edge technology.

You can actually feel the energy behind your emotions physically in your body
and release it to shift a current situation.
When you allow the energy to move, everything changes.

What you feel is more important than what you think.
When you quiet your mind and tune into your body, you get all the answers you need.
Yes, you can do this. Everyone can.

Aligning your energy with what you want
is more powerful than any physical effort you can exert.

Moving forward or acting out of fear or anger will only create
another situation that makes you feel afraid or angry.
Move the energy and everything changes.
It’s all energy and it’s all moving.

Grown ups don’t always handle situations in the best way.
We learn what we learn from whom we learn it. Sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s not.
Take the good and leave the rest.

Beliefs are just thoughts you keep thinking, over and over and over.
They aren’t always true.
Many of them don’t serve you.

If someone is trying to scare you, they are manipulating you.
Sometimes they mean to, sometimes they’re just scared.

There is no such thing as death.
We are energy.
Energy cannot be created nor destroyed.
It merely changes form.

Your passed loved ones are still around you, all day everyday, personality intact.
They are aware of you and your situation.
They love you and are offering you support and guidance in every moment.
When you tune into that, you can hear, feel, sense, or know whatever you need to know.
Yes, you can do this too. Even you.

There’s nothing to be scared of.
You carry your safety with you.
When you learn to move energy before you take action
you never have to worry about your security.

Be your own biggest cheerleader.
Be so kind and supportive of yourself in the quiet of your own mind.
Sure you want friends and loved ones,
but you can’t get all of your soothing and acceptance from them.
The way you treat yourself in your mind is the way the world will treat you.

I love you.
So many people love you.
The Universe/God/Source Energy/All That Is, loves you.
You’ve been placed on a perfect planet that supports your every need.
Your source loves you so much that you breathe in and out
and your heart beats everyday of your life without you having to think about it.

What more evidence do you need?
Ask me, I’ll give it to you.

My talk with the middle school kids didn’t go exactly like this. I kept it more on the scientific side. I wanted to help them understand on a basic level what their physical body and mind is doing when they find themselves nervous, scared or upset.

Faced with a big, important test, criticism from peers and family or not fitting in can feel terrible in the moment.

But when you know your automatic responses are just that, automatic, you can relax and give yourself the opportunity to feel better and find the perspective that serves you.

You’re never stuck. There is always a solution. And it’s always easier than you think.

I love you so much,
Crystal

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How To Deal

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The Energy Element… Coming Soon!

My thirty minutes of meditation in the morning is my favorite time of the day. Sitting quietly, relaxing my body and mind. Thirty minutes to sit still and do absolutely nothing. Answering no one. Just feeling what I feel in my body as my thoughts bubble up and float by. This is the best place to deal with all of the things that are troubling me or keeping me stuck in a situation I don’t like.

This morning I was so relaxed; I felt an itch on my shoulder. Now, sometimes, I’ll scratch it and move on, but this morning I was too deep in to care. Just a few moments of my conscious attention focused on the itch and it was gone. I kept checking back to see if it was itching but it wasn’t. All I had to do was feel it.

This happens too with my feet or my knees. I’ll feel pain or discomfort and will shift to give myself relief rather than just allowing myself relief by feeling through the physical sensation. And I notice, when I do that typically I soon find another spot of discomfort. You know what happens when you scratch an itch… most times it gets itchier.

It occurred to me how often we think we need to physically manipulate our outside circumstances to make ourselves comfortable.

The biggest misconception most people have about their negative feelings (worry, anger, anxiety, fear, irritation, etc…) is that if we let ourselves actually feel them, they’ll never go away. This is a complete falsity.

To the contrary… the ONLY thing that allows the uncomfortable feelings to move is our allowing ourselves to notice, feel them and let them move without getting into some story in our mind about why we feel them. (Kids, partners, bosses, traffic, bills… etc)

Our feelings are our own. Every feeling we have ever felt is absolutely valid. Our feelings are our natural reaction to our life experiences and the best kind of information. When we truly understand this and stop judging ourselves for feeling what we feel, or being angry at another for having their own natural feelings everything in our life gets easier to deal with.

We no longer take anything personally. We can begin to realize that our reaction to life comes from our (your age here) years on this earth and what we’ve learned by how our parents and communities reacted to things.

We can learn to take control of our lives and actually NOT react, but feel what we feel in any given situation to find out what our next move should be.

Not reacting but feeling what you feel will always help to diffuse a situation. Many times I’ve noticed my initial reaction is a bit “over the top” for the scenario. I can feel and recognize I am WAY more upset about the current situation than is actually warranted and save myself and others further upset.

Your feelings are valid. That being said, some of them are caused by superficial circumstances that truly don’t warrant our attention. Who said what makes absolutely no difference. Who did what is much the same. Actually the cause for the deep level of upset or irritation is typically something that happened in our childhood or earlier life.

The beauty of not reacting in these moments is that you get to keep this all contained. You don’t have to make a big fuss and upset someone else that has no idea why you’re mad. They probably weren’t even a part of the picture when the real reason (the seed situation) for your upset happened to you and created the dense energy that keeps recreating similar situations in your life.

Stop giving people so much control over your life by worrying how they are acting and what they are saying. You get happy and feel every feeling that comes through your body and you’ll notice that people won’t say ugly or upsetting things to you. You’ll notice that as you stop judging and criticizing yourself in your mind, the world will become a more pleasant and approving place.

It’s only OUR OWN judgments and criticisms that come back around in our life experience as others judging and criticizing us. You stop doing it to yourself and it will stop happening in your outer life experience. You have to be your own kindest, most gentle and soothing cheerleader.

Notice every time you want to speak critically of another. Why? Did you take something they said or did personally? That wasn’t about you. It’s about them. Always. The way you react is about you. You can try to make it about you or just feel it and move on. If it’s not true there is absolutely no need to defend yourself.

If it IS true, recognize where you feel the upset, hurt or frustration in your body and allow the energy to shift and move. The next time it happens, you’ll notice it doesn’t bother you so much. And if you continue with this you’ll never be upset for long by another’s actions, regardless of who they are and what they do. You’ll know it’s not about you.

So on the flip side of that coin, what you do and how you react is solely about YOU. It’s not about them, what they said or did.

Your angry outburst or harsh reaction to a situation is all about YOU. No one else. Relax into your feelings and find the comfort of your own power. Know that as you allow this feeling to pass without giving it energy (by blogging about it, sharing it on Facebook or calling ten friends to cuss and discuss,) you are steadily and surely regaining your power.

There will come a time when you can sit back and smile at the chaos around you, no matter what it is. You won’t feel like you’re “dealing” with anything. You’ll respond peacefully and easily to any circumstance.

Knowing that you are doing what you need to be doing to create the life you want, nothing anyone else does or says will ever bother you. You’ll still have moments of upset and irritation, believe me. But they won’t last near as long and you won’t take them personally when you understand the truth of how the world works.

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Easy Does It

Let life be easy.

Let life be easy.

Does life run pretty smoothly or are you always asking yourself, “Why do I have to struggle and fight for everything I have!?”

I spent quite a few years of my own life asking that question. Along with… “Why can’t things be easier for me?”

Fortunately, asking myself those questions helped move me toward an easier life.

After reading Florence Scovel Shinn’s books in my early twenties, I knew what she said was true. We really are guiding our own lives with our words, thoughts and deeds.

It’s interesting, isn’t it, that we hold struggle in such high regard? Have you noticed?

If someone tells you something was easy for them do you immediately think, “well, so what?” or “Of course it was easy for you, everything is easy for you. Jerk” If it was easy, we don’t want or need to hear about it. Tell me what you struggled with and how much crap you had to take and dish-out and wrestle through to get somewhere and I’ll listen. And then I’ll engage you with my stories of struggle and hardship because that is what makes me worthy… my struggle.

Well, I’m here to share a little secret with you.

Life is supposed to be easy.

I know. I know. Some part of your body jumped up and said, “HEY!!! You’re wrong. No fair. I’m struggling and don’t know how not to so you better be struggling too.”

Have you noticed how some people don’t want to hear about or talk to happy people? They’d rather commiserate and complain with you than hear about your triumphs, particularly if your wins came easily without a heavy price. We all want to experience that ease but often feel angry or irritated that it’s out of our reach when someone else demonstrates it.

If you share too much of your easy and happy life you’ll notice some folks around you grumbling, perhaps rolling their eyes at you and mouthing smart ass comments. Bless them, though. Don’t be mad. They don’t even realize what they’re doing.

Bringing more awareness into our lives is the key to letting things be easier. Just notice when you get frustrated hearing about your friends recent engagement, raise or job opportunity.  Don’t be mad at them for having the success OR upset with yourself for feeling less than enthusiastic. Realize you’re just doing what a huge portion of society is doing and let it go. When you begin to be aware of these feelings and physical sensations you can allow them to shift and change the way your own life works.

The problem was this… We’ve been lead to believe that the glory is in the struggle. And for a while, because life was so much more difficult for our parents and grandparents, it was necessary to find and appreciate the glory in the struggle. That was all we knew and making the best of a bad situation was the best we could do.

But, times have changed and our understanding of how the world actually works has changed. We can no longer(though most do) view the world through Newton’s Principia (Mathematical Principles of Natural Philosophy, originally published in 1687).

Classic Newtonian physics posits that everything is deterministic, but quantum physics has proven that nothing is.

Everything is changing, always. And most importantly it’s changing (or not) due to your observation, thoughts and words.

So… Easy does it.

If you don’t understand all of this quantum physics no worries. Just think about the last time you got a new car and then saw them everywhere on the road. I once rented a vehicle that I was unfamiliar with (can’t even remember now what it was… small SUV, H something or other) and the moment I drove away from the car rental place, I saw them everywhere.

Read Pam Grout’s book E-Squared to learn more about how your thoughts create your reality.

When you recognize the truth in all of this and need guidance on how to allow your life to be what you’ve always wanted, I am here for you. Beside focusing on what you want and using your thoughts to move you closer to that, I teach you how to find and feel the energy in your body that allows life to shift quickly and easily.

Purchase a set of 3 sessions today for yourself or someone you know and love.

Find out today how easy life can be.

Much Love to you,

Crystal