No matter what’s happening right now, no matter what you’re dealing with, say thank you.
If you’re awake/conscious enough to read these words, you have something to say thank you for.
Even if you don’t think you have something to be thankful for, chances are you have even more things to say thank you for.
When things are good, say thank you.
When things are GREAT, say thank you.
When things are bad, say THANK YOU.
It’s easy to count our blessings and say thank you in good times, but it isn’t easy when we’re in struggle to say thank you. And sometimes, even harder to mean it.
But, say it, even if you don’t mean it at first.
Say it even if you don’t yet understand why you should. Say it anyway. Thank you.
We have all the blessings we have because we appreciated them. And that’s how we keep them.
But, funnily enough, it’s also the quickest way to get through the hardest times.
Saying thank you, moves you toward what you would be thankful for, even if you don’t understand how.
“Be content with what you have, rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.”
Lao Tzu
Say Thank You.
When you say “thank you” for your struggle or upset, your mind will begin giving you clues as to how this is going to be of benefit. You don’t have to figure it out. You can’t figure it out, certainly from the space of experiencing the problem.
But, you can say thank you, and that will start you down the beautiful path of understanding.
Even IF it is only to see that we don’t like a particular thing or behavior and will henceforth discontinue use of or association with said thing or behavior. “GREAT! Thank you. I mean that. Thank you for the information. I was on the fence before, but NOW, I get it. Thank you struggle. Thank you upset. You have given me the most powerful information I could ask for.”
Now, don’t use this opportunity to make someone bad or wrong. Just decide it’s not for you and go in a different direction. No need to fight, yell or cuss. “Oh, hey, this is NOT for me, great, Thank you.” (The advanced work is now questioning where this need to continually blame other’s and hold grudges comes from… hmmmmm?)
As a Conscious Creator… there is no need to be mad about it or try to force change. Appreciate it as the good information it provided and move on. Yes, please and thank you. For the rest of your life. Rinse and repeat. Forever and ever. Amen.
What sucks in your life today that you can start saying thank you for?
How wonderful will it be when you gain the peace and mental clarity around your particular situation that will allow you to then issue a true, heartfelt and hearty THANK YOU? Whew! What a relief. Yes, please and thank you.
I love this part. It always happens, once I’ve moved through my initial upset and kneejerk response. We’re human after all. Getting mad at ourselves over our habitual responses just adds to the time it takes to move through the energy. Endeavor to let that go as soon as possible.
And as you do, your “habitual responses” will shift as well. You’re less disturbed by others out of alignment (people that do bad/dumb/mean things) and you begin to support the shift of the whole toward more love, cooperation and harmony.
You’ve got enough to deal with. There’s enough on your plate. Let yourself off the hook first. Then let everyone else in the world off the hook. Bless all hearts.
As we move into the holiday season, I want to remind you that Thanksgiving can be every day. Just without all the cooking and clean up. And when it is you’ll find you have more and more to be thankful for.
Shifting the energy and feeling the peace of 10 Zen monks is actually attainable… without spending 40 years in a cave. You only need be willing to let shit go and say thank you.
Support yourself this holiday season by moving through difficult situations and conversations with ease and grace. You can’t control everything, but you can control yourself, and that can be much easier than you think.
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Close out 2021 on a high note and sail smoothly into 2022 feeling the best and most excited you’ve been in years.
I’m here for it!
Take good care.
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Everybody has problems. Every single person in this world has problems. So I thought I’d share some of my struggles with you.
Oh, hey hey, you say. I thought you were a Conscious Creator? It’s SIMPLE, you say! Create your own reality, you say!
How can someone have struggles if they’re so good at creating their own reality?
Welcome To Humanity!
Being a conscious creator doesn’t mean that you’ll never have another struggle ever again.
It does mean, however, that any struggle you face, you’ll see as a catalyst for your own growth. You won’t be totally upset by anything and it will give you a higher level of conscious awareness as to which direction you should go next to move yourself closer to what you want.
Some folks may think I don’t have any troubles, because I don’t talk about them. I really only complain about petty and non-meaningful things, quickly, and often, in jest.
In all honesty, we’re human, we’ve all got “problems”.
But, if I am really, REALLY upset or worried about something, NO ONE will EVER know.
It’s one of my tricks as a Conscious Creator to move as quickly as I can through difficulties, without including a bunch of folks in a storyline I’d rather not play out.
I’m not saying to not talk things through. What I am saying is be careful who you take into your confidence. Only share with folks that will allow you to move quickly through the hard parts to come to the best decision you can for yourself and your family.
I Confess
I say Bless my heart all the time. There are any number of scenarios that can play out during a day that might frustrate or irritate me. My answer to that is “Bless my heart!”. All day every day. This is what life is about. Moving quickly through the difficult bits. Acknowledging the minutiae and being kind to yourself makes it much easier to get through.
I promise to do better 20 times a day. Though I want to do my best every time, sometimes, I fall short. But, I don’t give myself a hard time. I breathe through, shake it off and tell myself, “I’ll do better next time” and often times do. 🙂
I have aches and pains that I have to stop my mind from making into a thing. My mind can be every bit as unruly as the next person. I just don’t give it any leeway. I understand we are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe and I tell myself as much when my mind tries to convince me it “could” be something else.
I feel frustrated, irritated and overwhelmed sometimes. My life isn’t perfect. I don’t have everything I want. Many things can seem difficult for me. So, I don’t try to think about, worry over or fix any of them. I tell myself it’s all Energy and it’s all moving and it always eventually does. I don’t rush myself or make it a big deal when it takes longer than I’d like.
Ioften wish I could use my hands to change things, which is supremely frustrating because I know the most powerful and easiest way to make real and lasting change is by moving the energy. But, that doesn’t preclude me from thinking “I’ve got to DO something!” on a fairly regular basis.
I feel uncomfortable when moving through the energy of… not wanting something because it’s someone else’s idea, even though it may be a good idea. Oh my gosh. This is so childish. Yet, here I find myself sometimes.
I’m sure I could come up with plenty more, but we’ll leave it here for now.
This Is All Human Nature
Move through the energy of all negative upset by allowing yourself to feel what the emotion feels like physically in your body, without telling yourself a bunch of unhelpful stories about what those feelings mean and EVERYTHING changes. Whew. Yes, please and thank you!
I’m working on a Free Course to introduce these ideas and concepts on my newsletter if you’d like to jump in and be part of helping me create that.
I need your feedback. I want your feedback. I’m here to help and I want to know what you need.
Be so easy about things. Don’t make them a big deal. Relax more about it and let unsettled feelings pass before you take any action.
Any amount of effort you give to this endeavor will yield results. And small wins gather much momentum when you focus on them.
Here’s to it! Much Love, Crystal
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As an organic gardener, I’ve heard, the best fertilizer for my garden is my shadow.
Through years of experience in life and in the garden, I know this to be true.
While I was inspecting my garden this morning, pulling weeds, pinching off the side shoots of my tomatoes, killing beetles on my cantaloupe flowers and spraying lemongrass essential oil in mosquito prone water traps, it once again occurred to me how powerful a teacher Mother Nature is.
As our shadow in our gardens suggests… we’re around, looking, inspecting and being wholly aware of what’s going on in there. If you catch a pest in the beginning, you can save yourself heartache and veggies. Otherwise, waiting around, not paying attention and ignoring the issue can spread the problem further throughout your garden.
This same principle stands true in our thoughts and minds. A Conscious Creator knows that negative thoughts and lower vibration emotions are to be acknowledged and felt through rather than ignored or worse, fueled. Can you imagine feeding the pests that were destroying your garden? What if you’re doing just that, unconsciously?
What Does it Mean to be a Conscious Creator?
I’ve been supporting small businesses by volunteering through my local Austin SCORE chapter since December of last year and one of my mentees ask me to explain the term, Conscious Creator. Thanks for that!
A Conscious Creator is someone who understands they are affecting their own reality with energy, thoughts, actions, and emotions, and so navigates life without giving power to (being upset by) outside circumstances. This doesn’t mean they don’t feel the physical sensations of that upset physically in the body, it just means they don’t react to situations because of those feelings. They are thoughtful and aware, giving themselves time to understand the situation and respond in the way that will bring them the best results.
A Conscious Creator recognizes that their outside physical circumstance is a direct reflection of their own inner turmoil, therefore the work is done internally mentally/emotionally and never blamed on another.
A Conscious Creator innerstands they have ALL THE POWER to make anything happen in their own life, no matter the outside circumstance.
A Conscious Creator realizes Fear as information, notices manipulation and doesn’t respond as if their life is in danger.
Conscious Creators in Action
As we’re the only ones always with ourselves, it serves us well to be a shadow to what’s going on in our own mind. Learning to control our emotions and take a few moments before making a decision is a worthwhile endeavor. I have countless examples of when my knee jerk reaction was wrong and even more examples of something I didn’t like in the beginning turning out to be something I very much enjoyed and appreciated.
In the coming days and weeks I’m going to be posting a series of blogs about fear. So much of what I see in the world today is people living with and by fear. Be Safe! Be Careful… being the mantra for all occasions. What if you knew there was nothing to be afraid of?
If a life FREE from FEAR and anxiety sounds like a dream, stick around. We’re going to explore the reasons for fear and how it’s used. We’ll also discuss the science of Conscious Creation and how to use the information fear offers to your benefit.
If you’re attached to the SELF-limiting lifestyle fear and anxiety offer you, enjoy! Free will is a beautiful thing and all experiences are available, AND educational. You do you.
But, if you’re tired of being afraid and ready to take command of your own life the next few blogs will offer you some new things to think about. Old programming can be interrupted by actually becoming aware of it and questioning it’s origins.
So, like your shadow in the garden… make sure of your shadow in the “garden” of your own life. Spend time in awareness of your own thoughts, “beliefs” and the physical sensations that accompany your emotions. These Conscious Creators guidance tools help clarify the “reason” for current experiences and keep the most important areas of focus, top of mind.
Here’s to becoming better Conscious Creators through the release of fear and anxiety. It’s all energy and it’s all moving!
If you know this already and just need support, I’m here for that too.
Get ready to relax and enjoy your life!
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Growing up, my dad always told me, “Attitude is everything” and “Life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it”. He also told me I’d argue with a fence post, and that I’d bitch about being hung with a new rope, but these first mentioned ideas were the basis from which I built the rest of my life. So thank you, Daddy, you were absolutely right… about all of it. Ok, most of it. Let’s not get carried away.
I’ve been doing this work for 25 years… creating my reality. I was in my early 20’s when I read the book, The Writings of Florence Scovel Shinn, that changed my life. I knew while reading The Game of Life and How to Play It, it was all true and I could and would never forget.
The following are some basic takaways from what I’ve learned over these past 25 years. It might have been slow going in the very beginning, but has ramped up exponentially. This train is already rolling folks, jump on!
Get Tough, Girl
Daddy also told me I should have thicker skin. And as a super sensitive empath, this was quite the chore that took years to achieve. I’m still the same super sensitive empath, but I have moved so much of the energy I experienced in my younger life that even I can’t believe how confident I’ve become. My inner knowing and ease with being able to handle whatever happens has shaped my ALL LOVE and No Mercy attitude.
This reality creating isn’t for the faint of heart. You have to be strong in your faith and knowing and, flexible in your allowance of others.
I’ve listened to people laugh at what I say and roll their eyes while looking at the rest of the group like I’m airy-fairy and don’t live in the “real world”. I’ve irritated more than a few people with my incessant positivity and insisting that everything would indeed work out. Even more people have been aggravated with me for not wanting to listen to them go on and on about a problem from a negative vibration and telling them not to argue for their own limitations.
As you get more in touch with your own intuition and start living more fully in your body you’ll begin to feel energy physically. Negatively focused conversations (even from the best intentions) will clench your gut, chest or throat and make you want to run screaming down the street, tearing out your hair. I still have to remain calm while listening to people focus or speak fearfully or negatively, knowing this behavior is only creating the next opportunity for them to feel this way again. And, while maybe what they need most is more love and positivity, if I say something, it will only trigger them.
Pro Tip: It’s relevant for some to explore the lower vibrations more or for longer than is necessary for others… that doesn’t make them wrong, it’s just not right for me and maybe you.
Crystal Nuding
Everyone is where they are on their own path and it isn’t always going to run in alignment with our own. Blessings of love to each of us. We are loving humans that want what we think is best, but each individual is on their own life path and Free Will is the name of the game. Deep breaths and relax.
Take Full and Complete Responsibility for Your Life
When I realized that we are all indeed creating our life by what we focus on and think about, I understood why, in life, I had gotten what I had gotten. No longer did I look to blame people outside of myself. No longer could I yell, scream or lose my shit. I am in control of my own life. I mean, it didn’t happen overnight. It actually took a few years to fully be able to pull it off on a regular basis, but that’s because it was a new concept and I didn’t have support or anyone to really talk with about what I was learning and going through.
Plus, I didn’t understand the concept of Energy at that time. I didn’t know how to feel through what I was feeling physically in my body to let it move. I mistakenly thought that if I felt something it meant it was true, it was real, it is here and if I feel it, it will GROW. Bless my heart.
That is what happens when we feel bad, emotionally or physically, and think negatively about why we feel bad at the same time. BUT, if we’ll set our brain aside and allow ourselves to experience the physical sensations in our body of the raw feeling, that accompanies the emotions, that revolves around the story… are you seeing a pattern here?
Take a moment to sit quietly… nice, straight and tall, both feet on the floor. Take a deep breath. Relax your face, jaw, neck, shoulders. Breathe slowly, deeply… in through your nose, filling your belly completely, then fill your chest, up through your neck and fill your head. Hold that for 2 and release with an audible AHHHHHHHHHH. This stimulates your parasympathetic nervous system that will calm your body without asking your brain for permission, thank you very much. Notice how your body relaxes a bit more after each breath. Feel the heart unclench and relax, the belly soften and the mind begin to ease.
Notice what you’re feeling physically in your body. Without thinking about why you feel these things soften and experience them as sensations in the body. Keep your mind occupied with soothing and comforting yourself with kindness and encouragement. If you can’t come up with your own words use these to start. Come up with phrases that are personal, relevant and really feel right for you.
Bless my heart, this is uncomfortable!
It’s all energy and its all moving
This sucks, but it’s only a feeling and it won’t kill me
We are vibrational beings living in a vibrational universe
Yes, Please and Thank you!
I love you, I love you, I love you!
Learning to take full control of your emotions and thoughts will put you firmly in the drivers seat of your own life. This has been the most rewarding and freeing part of my journey, being in control of myself. It has allowed me to gracefully navigate difficult situations in ways that truly benefitted all involved.
Lighten Up and Laugh About It
Whatever it is, lighten up and laugh. No matter the situation, me being calm and centered always yields a more favorable result. I always think of my sister, Johanna when I need to lighten a tense situation with a funny comment or one-liner. I could always count on her to throw out a hilarious zinger after I had just turned up the tension of a situation because of my own participation from a lower, chest clinching vibration. These days, I always allow myself to take a moment to breathe and feel the tension in my (chest). You can’t think straight when you’re mad, scared, frustrated, upset or worried. So take a minute. There are plenty of things that plenty of people will tell you to freak out about, get mad over, or that it’s worth a fight. Bless ALL hearts. Everything is worth moving the necessary energy around so the correct action for the highest good of everyone can be taken.
That being said, I’m from Texas and where Zen ends, ass kickin’ begins.
Make it Right
KNOWING I’m creating my reality, I will NEVER say, act, or behave as if something is NOT going to work out for me. That would be acting contrary to my own knowing. Not gonna happen.
If you’ve ever watched or participated in improvisational theater you might know the rule is, Yes, and… Yes to what’s just been said AND… what’s next… add your spin in the direction you’d like it to go. Yes, and can send you into orbits you didn’t even know existed. NO, ends the game, NO, gets you stuck.
Yes, and…. the most amazing thing happened.
Yes, and… then all my dreams came true!
Yes and… then the perfect situation presented itself that I couldn’t be more thrilled or excited about. It’s beyond all my wildest dreams of what I’d be doing or get to do. It just showed up. I got a phone call and here was something that I hadn’t even been focused on, but that had been important to me for a long time. I’ve spent countless hours thinking and talking about how to make this better or how it can be better and that someone has already figured it out. And here’s a phone call, out of the blue, that has asked me to be involved. WOW. Yes, please and thank you.
When you make things RIGHT, they will ALWAYS work out for you. No matter what they may look like at the time or in the beginning. Keeping our poise, even in the most difficult situations and circumstances. Empty tanks, empty beds, empty bank accounts are all old news. Keep your focus on what you want and intend to make everything right.
How could this work out for me?
What great thing could happen next?
How can I let this be easy?
Who is going to show up that I don’t even know about?
When we began dealing with Dionne’s cancer diagnosis, I told only a handful of people what was going on. We had already moved past the diagnosis and were emotionally, mentally and physically moving along the healing path. Me telling and retelling the story was not going to support my vision of her perfect health. When I told our core folks and asked them to tell others that would want to be told we said, this is going to be fine, we are working it out, cry about it as you need to, but we’re moving onward, upward and out of this.
And that’s exactly what we did. Our family and friend group followed our lead and we moved through Stage 4 breast cancer in 5 months. We’re still working our way out of that particular system, but it has come with more blessings that we can count and so many of them are human connections with beautiful, kind and loving people we’d never have had the chance to meet. What a true blessing and miracle that cancer turned out to be. And it’s true for us because we’re creating our reality consciously. These are always options when you make whatever happens “right”.
You Decide
If you want something, make a decision. Decide what you want and move in that direction. I always encourage one to decide to be happy, healthy and abundant rather than needing any specific name, place, face or thing. We only want specific things because we think they will make us FEEL specific ways. I say, let’s cut out the middle man! How do you want to feel? The feelings will bring the things. The things will only temporarily bring the feelings and then you’ll need something else to bring the feelings. Do you see this pattern?
Decide how you want to feel and move confidently in that direction.
Throughout this journey, certainly more in the beginning, if it doesn’t feel good to think about your absolute peace, boundless joy, flowing abundance and perfect health, that only means you have energy to move around (the situation) and where ever it feels tight or uncomfortable in your body… that’s where to focus first.
Our physical body is an indicator of how our current perception of the situation is lining up with our true higher, God self. Is this the way God sees it? Do you feel good? Yes. You are in alignment with your higher God self. Do you feel bad? No. You are not in alignment with your higher God self
If you feel bad about something it means the way you’re looking at it doesn’t allow you to see the actual benefit of the situation. How do you begin to see the benefit? Move the energy.
Once you do that you’ll always be the one to make the decision. I want this or I don’t. You won’t be waiting around for something or someone else to decide.
It ain’t over till it’s over. Don’t give up. Relax. Give up the struggle. Move the Energy. Hold the line. Stay calm. Stay poised. Breathe. Relax and support yourself.
Tools for Tough Times
As many of us learned during the recent freak winter storm, here in Texas and beyond, it’s good to be prepared. Likewise, in this journey of consciously creating our reality there are things we need along the way. In the beginning, you need a bit more support getting moving, but later you’ll find it’s more about refining and fine tuning for your optimum experience. Below are some suggestions that have helped me through all stages of my growth.
I’ve detailed above a breathing technique that works every time. Your willingness to take the time to do it is up to you. Support yourself, or get support. Once this becomes a regular practice and habit, your life will literally be YOUR OWN.
Make lists of things you love, appreciate and are grateful for. Quick and easy focus shifter when you need to consciously and purposefully move your mind in a better direction.
Keep a journal of all the magical and marvelous things you’ve created by thinking about or focusing on them. Let yourself open to what these might be, often times we’ll not take notice. Take notice.
Write a script when you’re feeling good and loving and in the flow that you can read to yourself when you’re feeling angry, low, scared or upset. Don’t count on your own brain to come up with inspiring material when you’re feeling funky. Take the initiative to support yourself.
Get grounded in your body. Get out in nature, bare feet or lay in the grass, take a shower/be in water, clean or sweep. Turn off the electronics and touch nature. The EMF’s from so many of our electronics are constantly disrupting and scrambling our energy. Nature soothes and supports our highest vibrational alignment.
Start a self care routine, buy yourself a nice comfy robe and big mug for tea. Get comfortable getting comfortable. Notice where you are uncomfortable, soften and soothe, breathe and stretch. Get used to noticing what you feel in your body. This is where your clearest communications from the Divine are received and if you’re not paying attention you’re missing the point.
Say YES to the high vibration friends that invite you to do fun stuff. Or intend to find some. Create your own community. Start a group in your area if there isn’t one. Try this… WANTED:High Vibration Co-Creators to support each other through our Conscious Creation Journey
Get a Consciousness Coach to support you through the tricky times and help move the difficult energy that will make the rest of this journey of conscious creation an absolute ball!
Life is supposed to be fun. Imagine consciously creating your own reality according to what would thrill and delight you. How does that feel? What does that look like?
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