Busting Out

Crystal Laughing

We all need and do “bust out” from time to time. The thought of our friends becoming new parents makes my heart feel like it will bust out of my chest. Perhaps the job you loved for so long is no longer a match so it’s time to bust out. Maybe we’re busting out because our work project is complete or school is out and it’s time for much needed ease and relief.

Whatever the reason for your last “bust out”, you can see and probably even FEEL the release and relief of busting out. Extracting yourself from a place or feeling that doesn’t seem big enough for you anymore. Something you can’t contain or keep restrained any longer. Busting out, while sometimes uncomfortable, will set you free.

I grew up out in the country on a huge ranch in between two small Texas towns. The people there are good as gold, with hearts the size of our great state, but the minds around there could use a little opening. I’m sure they’d disagree, but I’m a bit different.

Growing up there, you didn’t even realize what a huge world there was outside of our little slice of it. You spend your childhood and young adult life hearing and doing the same things as everyone else around you, not because you wanted to, just because that’s what you did. Most everyone dressed the same and listened to the same music.

We had new kids come in from far away places(like California, ha!) and I would immediately feel sorry for them. They thought they had landed in po-dunk hell. In some ways they had, in others, it was heaven.

I loved growing up and living there, and even today I still love that that is how and where I grew up. So many things I am, know and do are because of my life in that small place, but there is much more to life and me(and you).

What we learn from our parents, communities and society growing up is just that, what we learn, what they knew to teach us, what they knew about life up to that point. But life goes on and we all keep learning.(hopefully)

Folks from my home town do many things… work in the oil field, in schools, they are teachers, coaches and administrators, they are business men and women, parents, stay-at-home moms, and more than a few cowboys. These are all expected, respected, acceptable and appreciated “jobs.”

But how does it work if what you do or your life path doesn’t look exactly like everyone else? What if you have thoughts and feelings that don’t match what everyone else is thinking and feeling? What if your idea of success doesn’t look like what you’ve been taught success looks like? What if your family/friends/community think you need to be, do or have things you don’t really care about? What if they think what you do is a scam or crazy?

Only one thing to do.

Bust. Out.

First let me assure you that you are perfect, absolutely perfect, right now and that everything is absolutely working out for you. The ultimate beauty of this magnificent world we live in is diversity. Variety is the spice of life. It’s what keeps things interesting. Living the life you were meant to live is the most important thing you will ever do for yourself and the world.

You can’t live your life for everyone else forever. Actually, some can and do. If you love it, do it, otherwise stop and do what you love. It’s up to each of us to determine what we want and what will make us happy. If you’re spending all of your time trying to make sure you’re doing things others will approve of you’re missing out on your own true hearts desires.

I lived much of my younger life doing what someone else told me to do. Parents, teachers, bosses and two husbands all to varying degrees determined my existence. Doing what I was told to do and/or what I knew others expected of me was my way of life. It was only after realizing how miserable I was that began to see I didn’t want the same things as everyone else. And that was OK.

Feeling like an alien in your family or community is actually not a bad thing. Take a big step back and have a look at the values, attitudes, ideals and behaviors of the people you feel separated from, do you agree with them? Often times you won’t, and that will be the reason you feel the separateness.

Appreciate everyone and everything that has brought you to right here and now. Know that from right where you are, you can go where ever you want. And this requires absolutely no change on anyone else’s part. They are perfect just the way they are, too.

When we get this concept and begin to appreciate everyone in our lives for their perfect role in shaping who we have and will become, we are amazingly free. No one can ever offend or upset us again.

Learning to live with other people not appreciating or respecting what you do, who you are or how you do things can be an interesting journey. But,ultimately the most rewarding and important journey we’ll ever take.

One day you’ll realize what other people think doesn’t matter and you’ll find yourself giggling. You’ll laugh and laugh about all the times you worried about what someone else might think. Hilarious.

Set your intention now to discover the real you. Intend to truly know who you are, what you do and your benefit to others/society. Many people from your “original tribe” might not really get it or you and that’s OK.

I’m sure you are well aware how people feel about things they don’t understand… many times fearful or dismissive. But, that’s not about you. It’s about them. Bless them and move on.

So, here’s to busting out in whatever way feels best to you. Here’s to you finding your own clearest, strongest voice and the courage to use it.

Find your niche, spread your wings and soar. The world needs more and more people like you… being truly, authentically, happily who you are.

Sending all my love and many blessings. I’m here to help.

Crystal

Many Blessings

Holly Fern Baby

In the wake of the shocking and upsetting incident in Boston, I am witnessing more and more of what I’ve been watching happen for a while now. The world is changing. People are reaching out and caring for one another.

I have seen infinitely more love and support than outrage. Not that outrage is wrong, it should be felt and moved through like all feelings. It’s just not productive to project it to the rest of the world. Of course the perpetrator/s will be discovered and justice will be served, but I prefer and appreciate the focus of so many people on the many blessings, the helpers.

I love how Abraham has shared with us that the people intimately involved in a tragedy actually deal with it better than those of us far away who don’t have the opportunity to physically help and be a part of the comforting and healing.

Many folks involved are thrilled to be alive and gain a fresh perspective on life. And while, yes, they may be injured, even to the point of loosing a limb, they recognize the gift they have been given. Life. Now.

As someone thousand’s of miles away that can’t physically jump in and begin to help, many can get stuck in their thinking about the upset and worry over what has happened or could happen. We want to do something. We want something done.

While our society greatly values physical action, your powerful, positive and loving thoughts do much more for the people of the tragedy than you might realize.

We live in a world of oscillating fields(we are them and they are everything… science lesson later) and when you hold the vision of health, happiness and harmony for others you are affecting their field. We can stand firmly where we are, hold the vision of peace, love, soothing and healing in our hearts and give that to the people directly affected by the tragedy and those many blessings, the precious helpers that were within reach this time.

Life is a roller coaster. Tragedy happens, right alongside heroism, compassion and kindness. Recognize the trouble and immediately throw yourself into the solution. Allow the moment you need to soothe yourself and then you can begin to soothe others.

You are much more powerful than you know. Shine your light and let’s wrap Boston and the tender human beings there in loving kindness, peace and hope.

The rain always clears and the sun always shines again.
Let that be your reminder to allow what is to pass so that what will be can come.

You are loved and cared for in ways you can’t imagine. Count your many blessings daily and be sure to count yourself as a blessing to others. You are.

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Much Appreciation… For The Inspiration

The very kind and talented Ganesh Raam has nominated my blog, crystalnuding for the Shine On and Reality Blog Awards.  I am truly honored to get this nomination from Ganesh as I have so enjoyed his writings. Please check out his blog here –  http://ganeshraam.wordpress.com/.

Thank you so much, Ganesh for nominating me.  I have only been blogging for a couple of months, and your kind words are genuinely appreciated. The connections made and felt throughout our global WordPress community thrill me to no end. It is a powerful thing to join hearts and minds across our wondrous planet. The possibilities are infinite.  Many blessings to each of you.

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Shine On Award

THE RULES:

  1. Show appreciation of the blogger who nominated you and link back to them in your post
  2. Add the award logo to your blog
  3. Share 7 things about yourself
  4.  Nominate 5 – 10 or so bloggers you admire
  5. Contact your chosen bloggers to let them know
  6. Optional questions (This one I will forego for now to make it easier on everyone!)

 Seven things about me that you will not find in my bio:

  1. I was raised on a ranch in Texas.
  2. I have 4 sisters.
  3. I love to cook and love feed people.
  4. I’m an aspiring photographer and am seeing myself with a better camera. 🙂
  5. I love growing, cooking and eating (and taking pictures of) food from our small garden, with my partner Dionne. (Then composting and putting it all back.)
  6. We have a genius wiener dog named Oliver.
  7. My first genius son, Quentin is a sophomore at the University of Texas.

I am pleased to nominate the following blogs:

  1. http://largeself.com/
  2. http://momsopinions.wordpress.com/
  3. http://apuginthekitchen.com/
  4. http://searchingforthehappiness.wordpress.com/
  5. http://mymeanderingtrail.com/

Don’t forget to stop by Ganesh’s blog:  http://ganeshraam.wordpress.com/

Thank you again, Ganesh!

Homecoming / Coming Home

I’ve had some full circle moments lately.  I recently went home for my high school homecoming. It has been 21 years since I graduated from Jayton High School.  And for the first time since I was  a very young child, I wanted to go home.  I needed the comfort of my family.  I needed to know that the recent energy I was feeling (previously tied up with them) was indeed old and no longer existed in my life.

Beside feeling the comfort and ease of family and being in my child hood home, I was reminded of how big my home truly is.  I was raised and my family still lives on JD Patterson Ranch, between 2 small towns in Texas.  Returning for homecoming in a town of 513 people is pretty wild, the love and support is amazing.  Political differences, religious differences… no matter.  We all hugged and smiled and squeezed each other laughing.  We kids grew up together, and the elders watched me grow up and I love them, all of them. Then and now.

The other town over, Aspermont is where my mom and grand parents were raised and lived most of their lives.  Anytime we go back, we eat at Hickman’s, the cafe of my childhood.  (chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes, gravy, green beans, yeast rolls or garlic toast, old school salad bar… getting the picture!?? YUM.) As soon as I arrive in town, everyone recognizes me (because I look like my mother and my grandmother) and asks how they are.  Again, politics, religion, any difference at all… never mentioned.

It occurred to me on this trip how important having this community of familiar love and support has been in my life. I have 2 counties worth of folks that think I am pretty darn great and are always glad to see me and hug my neck. I see very clearly how people need it. I am well aware of the stability this network has provided me. Love and Support. I rarely see any of them (maybe once a year?) but they know me and love me and are there, with a smile on their faces whenever they think about me. And vice versa.

When I came home after the weekend.  I was again met with beautiful community.

I am recently rebuilding parts of my life. It feels so good to start fresh. Even if it’s a little scary at first, things always come around.  The unfamiliar can be most unsettling at times. But when I emailed my friends and family (some of which I’ve never seen in person, only spoken to on the phone or through email!) my new contact information and to tell them about this blog, my feeling of being home was even more palpable.  The love and support I have received has been overwhelming and I am more than thrilled at what life has in store for me.

Zupe

Alive and well in the NP. (non-physical!)

My sweet dog Zupe passed away 1 year ago on Oct 8th. He is ultimately what opened me up to the true nature of our lives and the beauty and wonder around us every day.  The energy I allowed to move with his passing flowered my full enlightenment.  The year that followed has been profound.  Vibrations that lay dormant in me (that no longer match my new reality) have come up and been felt.  Over and over again.  Situations I couldn’t believe.  Energy long since forgotten, back again for my feeling.  It didn’t always feel great, of course.  Because that is the way life is, and it’s ok.  I recognized at every turn myself moving old energy. Allowing the discomfort to wash over me and breathing through it.  Nothing to worry about. I’m not going to drown. I stand on solid ground. We all do.

So come home yourself.  To the knowing that all is truly well.

My life is exactly what I make of it.  No one creates in my life and reality. (Thank God!)

It’s just little ole me here.

Being excited about allowing more and more ease in my life and looking forward to sharing it all.

Much Love to you,
Crystal