Using Your Mind as a Tool

We spend so much time leaning toward disaster, upset, negativity and despair that many people don’t realize there are ways around it. It really was important to err on the side of wrong for our caveman ancestors because it COULD have been a tiger lurking out in the bushes. That’s not the case these days.

Many people think they have to stay the way they are. “I’ve always been this way.” Well, if you’re happy, healthy, positive and abundant, great! If you’re not, you can change.

Your mind IS your master until you understand your control over it. Self awareness and taking responsibility for your own thoughts, words and actions is the key to using your mind as a tool rather than letting it be your boss.

Despite what you watch on the news we are not in mortal danger all day every day. Certainly not in the way our minds have been programed to believe. Bless our hearts.

What we practice becomes habit, so if fear or anxiety has been your modus operandi for years it’s understandable. Not to worry, it’s not impossible to change. You just have to become aware of what you’re doing and practice focusing in a better direction.

Yep, there are easy, low action options for moving yourself closer to what you want.

One of them is asking yourself questions that actually serve you and will help the situation.

Rather than asking “What else could go wrong!?” What if you ask yourself better, more positive and helpful questions?

Try these:

What if it’s easier than I’m allowing it to be right now?

How can I let it be easier?

What if there is an answer?

How can I relax and let the solution show up?

What if I don’t have to handle everything?

How can I let in more help?

What if there is a cure?

How much better will I feel when I let myself off the hook?

What if I can do it?

What if it’s already taken care of, I just haven’t heard about it yet?

How can I focus more on what I want?

What if focusing positively really works?

What if I could just ask myself better questions and things I need would start showing up?

What if I enjoy doing it?

How can I let myself find more things to enjoy?

What if I end having a great time?

What if I learn something wonderful that changes my life?

What if this is exactly what I need?

How much better will I feel when I appreciate all my life experiences?

What if this opens the way for me to learn all kinds of new things?

What if it all works out perfectly?

What if I can have it all?

How can it get better than this?

What if the good stuff. And how much better will I feel when… Don’t try to answer the questions. Just ask and breathe. Let yourself create the smallest crack in your negative reality to let the solution in.

Don’t go over and over in your mind what terrible thing MIGHT happen or what scary dis-ease MIGHT be lurking. Let yourself find some hope. There is always hope.

This world will be whatever we make it. My Daddy always told me, “life is 10% what God gives you and 90% what you make of it.” Begin to make it what you want by helping yourself first.

Give yourself a break when your mind searches out and mulls over all the things that COULD go wrong. You are human, after all. And your mind works like everyone else.

But, with heightened self awareness and more thoughtful focus your life will change with relative ease. You’ve just got to be willing to spend a little more time thinking about what could go right.

Roll With It, Baby

Sometimes life IS too much or it certainly feels like that to me.

We lose someone too early while someone goes on in endless suffering or merely existing. A big bill comes in or your car breaks down. Your dog gets sick, money gets tight or someone you love hurts you. It happens. This is life after all.

My family and I have been going through a difficult time lately. This past month or more for sure… actually this whole year has been interesting. We lost my dear Aunt Lyn much too soon and several other family members are struggling with health issues.

I was standing at the kitchen sink, breathing through upset over one thing or another when I heard in my mind clear as a bell, “When life is too much, roll with it, baby.” Thank you, Steve Winwood.

Awwwwwwwww…. I remember. Yes and Thank you.

I can roll with this. I can soothe myself over what’s happening and hold the vision of peace, health and happiness for myself and my family.

It’s not always easy to remember to roll with it.

Hell, sometimes, it’s not even easy to roll with it when you remember to.

But, just remember that you CAN roll with it. Rolling with it is ALWAYS a possibility.

Rolling with it opens up avenues that resisting it shuts down.

Rolling with it relaxes your mind and allows you to see the potential positive outcome instead of staying focused on the crappy situation you’re having to deal with. Rolling with it keeps you moving while blaming or complaining keeps you stuck.

There have been more than a few times in the past month I’ve wanted to raise some serious hell and fight. I wanted to cuss and yell and be ugly. I didn’t. But, I really wanted to.

It wouldn’t have helped. I was mad at life and hurt about things I couldn’t control. It would have made me feel worse than I already did. I’m proud of myself for being grown, for remaining calm and keeping myself under control. I haven’t always done that.

I know I and my family aren’t the only ones going through difficult times.

If you’re struggling right now, hold on.

Everything is always working out for us. If things don’t look the way you want them to, keep breathing and wait. What’s that saying about (insert your state here) Texas weather? If you don’t like it, just wait 5 minutes.

In the mean time, I know those 5 minutes can feel like an eternity. I really do understand. But, the more you breathe and soothe yourself in the moment the better things will work out. Truly. You keep moving forward and taking the action you need to take, but do it from a place of centered calm. Big belly breaths will help you get there. (In through your nose, filling your belly first, out through your mouth.)

I am sending you love and soothing and peace and so much more ease and flow than you may have been experiencing lately. This too shall pass. Keep breathing. You’re doing great.

By the way… it’s Friday.

Ladies and Gentleman, Steve Winwood…

How To Get Pregnant (or whatever you want)

Alright, alright. Everyone just settle down. Let’s be adults here. I’m assuming you all watched HBO as children or peaked through your fingers during a movie when your parents said to cover your eyes. Hell, maybe they even talked to you about it. Whatever the case. You know the basics.

What I’m here to tell you is how to help yourself energetically while doing the things you know you gotta do… physically.

First, if you’ve been struggling and/or spending large amounts of time and money to try and make this happen, take a deep breath and relax. As a matter of fact, take a few deep breaths. Bless your heart. I’m so sorry. I can’t imagine how frustrating, upsetting or possibly devastating this must be for you and your partner. I love you so much and am here to help.

You can get pregnant and you can have a healthy, happy baby.

Once you’ve tried a few or more times and things didn’t work out, you got nervous and scared that you couldn’t and began feeling a deep longing for something you feel you can’t have. That feeling may be in your heart, or your stomach. You possibly feel it throughout your chest area and up into your neck and throat. This aching pain and discomfort is actually your ticket to a baby.

Notice what your mind is saying to you as you feel the physical discomfort in your body. What emotions are swirling around that feeling? Sadness, worry, anger, frustration, fear, longing?

Take another few deep breaths, in through your nose, filling your belly first, then your chest, hold for a couple of seconds and exhale. Do this a few times allowing your mind to relax and rest for a moment.

I understand well the feeling of needing to do something to make something happen immediately. But being calm and centered is what creates the space for what we want to happen.

When you notice the bodily discomfort your negative thoughts bring up and just allow yourself to feel them without going deeper into the sad story you’ll begin to notice a shift. Those feelings are telling you your focus isn’t helping your cause. Don’t worry or be angry. Just breathe and let the moment pass.

The next step, is to really really appreciate your great life as it is right now. When you wake in the night snuggle into your bed or your partner and recognize that your nights of uninterrupted sleep are numbered. Soon there will be a baby to feed or care for so relish your sleep and down time.

Clean and organize your house in preparation for the chaos that comes with a new baby. Begin to baby proof the house and set yourself up for success in a way you couldn’t do with a baby on your hip or on less than two hours of sleep. Know that everything is happening in perfect timing.

Begin talking to your baby. Yes, I know you’re not pregnant yet, but you want to be don’t you? The soul that will be your baby is with you and waiting for you to relax enough to allow their entrance into your life. Sing songs to your baby and put your hand on your belly and feel the joy bursting in your heart for the new life you’ll be bringing into this world.

Feel the excitement and relief of holding your precious, healthy baby in your arms. Can you feel it? If you still feel fear, longing or worry that it won’t happen. Go back to that place in your body and relax around it.

Finally, soothe yourself in your mind, constantly. Don’t allow yourself to say things like, I’m never going to get pregnant, I don’t deserve a baby. Notice what your mind is telling you and feel the feelings around it.

Just as you’ll be quite diligent about keeping your little four year old out of a busy street, keep your mind focused on soothing and uplifting yourself. Any negative or defeated thoughts only create more problems and obstacles. It’s ok to have them, just don’t entertain them. Soothe yourself and let them pass.

For my dear friends that have to rely on medical procedures to get pregnant, realize the pressure behind this process. I’m giving you the biggest hug right now. Bless your heart. You have to let the energy move and allow yourself to be soothed and uplifted. Sterile and medical environments coupled with money concerns and deep need cause stress in your body and make it more difficult to conceive.

Try taking a yoga class and meditating. Or find other activities that soothe and center you. Being in a place of peace and ease helps your body be more receptive to what you want.

Never forget that what you want is also wanting you. There is a baby waiting for you. Ready to come in and change your life forever.

If you need help moving the energy and finding a place of peace around the situation, you are not alone. I am here for you and I can help.

Sending you so much love, ease, flow, fertility and abundance,
Crystal

PS… this works for everything, not just getting pregnant. What do you want?

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Questions?

Full Pond in Spring

Dear Crystal,

I dunno, girl, I like to think that I am a practical kind of guy, and a lot of your essays on your website seem like so much new age happyspeak. How does this work for a business? By contrast, the ideas in ‘Built to Last’, my business bible, are fairly concrete.

Not that I am not open to new ideas. I have read a lot of philosophy, I used to be a Rosicrucian, and I am a zen. Not a zen follower or advocate, not a Buddhist, not a zen master, although I know the answers to all the zen questions that seem so silly to the man on the street (Why is a mouse when it spins? If a tree falls in the forest, etc.) and only zen masters understand my answers. I don’t waste my time anymore offering my answers to the uninitiated, because they don’t understand.

But, like Ghengis Khan, I do seek out new weapons for my arsenal of business all the time.

Can you make your ideas a little less nebulous. Or maybe I am just dense.

Regards,
John Doe

Dear John Doe,
I understand.
I don’t get the impression you are dense, just uninformed.

Addressing your “new age happy-speak” comment, it’s actually new physics. If it works and makes you happier and brings you more health, money, joy, peace and ease? What would you call it? It’s easy for people who don’t understand to make such assumptions.

We live in a vibrational universe. Period, end of story. Science has been proving and telling us more and more about it for around 100 years. The old Newtonian physics model of the world does not contain it all. I’ll save the science explanation for a session if you’re interested.

The bottom line is, things happen vibrationally first and physically second; not knowing or understanding this doesn’t make it not so. Everything ever created was first an idea in someones head before they gave it their focus, time and energy to create it. (We’re creating constantly… jobs that run smoothly OR ones where you lose your *ss)

We (humanity/society) have lived this way for a long time… under the impression someone else was in control of our world. That is not the case. The observer affects his own reality.

My ideas and techniques are concrete as well. Each session is different. Everyone is different.

It depends on how strongly you are entrenched in the old way of living in the world:

  • life sucks and then you die
  • life is hard
  • that’s just the way it is, hon (a favorite phrase of your old white men)
  • you have to work hard and toil to be worthy and deserving
  • struggle is honorable
  • if it’s easy it’s not worth anything
  • the best of life is behind us

If you recognize truth(and bullshit) in your heart when you hear it then you’ll have no trouble understanding everything I have to teach you.

I will give you insights and teach you practical tools to put you in control of your own life and business.

I will explain the role your emotions play in your life and teach you how to move through difficult situations with ease and grace (so things like this won’t happen again.)

Lost my *ss on our first project because my field leader stayed drunk and got us run off the job. I had to fly out at my own expense and finish the job for free. I think I redeemed my good name, but the damage from that one irresponsible individual continues to spread.

Most of the people I work with are already aware of these concepts and are interested in my perspective, energy and support. So, I thank you for offering me the opportunity to really think about someone who knows nothing about this and try to find a way to not only explain but help you understand it.

I find so much of the need for an explanation goes rather quickly once people experience what I’m talking about, then they know for themselves.

So again, in plain English…

  1. We talk on the phone for 45min-1hr.
  2. We first talk about what you want and where you’re experiencing frustration.
  3. I teach you techniques to relax and release stress physically in your body (holding onto this energy is what makes you ill)
  4. I give you insights into why your negative thoughts aren’t true and how they don’t serve you. (consistent negative focus is what creates the things you don’t want)
  5. I give you much better perspectives and teach you to soothe your busy mind when it gets going.
  6. My high vibration calls and trains your vibration upwards.

I’m also an empath and do energy healing, so maybe that will be shocking to you as well. But they are gifts that serve me well and make me excellent at what I do.

What I offer you works for your business because it works for your life. Everything works better when you learn and practice these principles. You hire/attract the right people and create an environment that is harmonious, efficient and productive.

I’m not here to pull teeth or shove anything down anyones throat. There is no pressure from me. You ask me how I could help your business and here it is.

Hope this helps.

Take care, John Doe.

Sincerely,
Crystal

PS…  Life is nebulous, until you squint your eyes and put your attention on something (wanted or unwanted), then you begin giving energy to it and lending to its creation. I help people create what they WANT rather than their current creations of some things they don’t want.

Say YES to the Mystery

Colorful Sky

  • What if you didn’t have to figure it all out? (You don’t.)
  • What if what you want also want’s you? (It does.)
  • What if you were supposed to relax into it, instead of working so hard to get it? (You are.)
  • What if there were inspired action to take that would make your physical “work” enjoyable? (There is.)
  • What if you could ask the right questions and receive the inspiration? (You can.)
  • What if you had someone to help you figure this all out? (You do.)

Life doesn’t have to be filled with drudgery. There is a way for you to get exactly what you want without you having to do that thing you hate to get it.

Of course, you have to do your part. But your part can be whatever you want it to be. We didn’t come into this world to struggle and be miserable. God wants us to be happy, healthy and abundant. We are supposed to enjoy this beautiful earth and everything in it.

This is your life.

Live it the way you want to.

This seems to be a major theme with folks these days and I’m so happy to hear it. Imagine what the world would be like if everyone did what they wanted to do and allowed everyone else to do the same.

At our Be Soothed and Uplifted Meetup on Monday night, every single person at the table described their situation as “in transition.” People are ready and willing to make the changes they want in their lives.

Many folks I’ve been talking to lately are tired of doing things the old way. (The way someone else wants it done.) People are ready to let it in. Ready to figure out this new way of living… for themselves.

That doesn’t mean you don’t care about other people. It means you care enough about them to be your best and happiest self. When we are truly happy, we spread that joy to others. You can’t help it.

When you are happy and fulfilled, you over-flow that powerful energy to all you encounter. You are now an agent for positive change without saying a word or lifting a finger.

Joy, peace, happiness and compassion are like a salve for a wounded world. We’ve lived too long in conflict within ourselves and outwardly in our environment and relationships.

Take a deep breath right now and realize that what you want is ok. You have every right to your own true hearts’ desires, whatever they may be.

And even more good news… you don’t have to figure it all out.

Think of all the unexpected blessings you have experienced in your life. Think of the seeming tragedies(in the moment) that blossomed into something wonderful you previously couldn’t have imagined.

Learn how to say YES and relax into the mystery. Trying to figure everything out ourselves is a long and difficult process. Relax into your current reality and say YES, I can have what I want and no, I don’t have to know exactly how it’s going to work out right now.

God (the Universe/Source) knows how to make it happen and is conspiring to create it for you. There is no such thing as missed opportunities. If this didn’t work out, something else will. There will be a next opportunity and a next opportunity. That’s the way it works.

Live is a never-ending series of adventures. Learn to go with the flow!

It’s simple, you just need support while you get started. I’m here to help.

Seeing you accepting and saying YES to the mystery. It comes with all sorts of perks!

Much Love to you,

Crystal

All Is Well

SunflowerDrop the idea that anything is wrong. Relax for a minute.

Ask yourself, “What if everything is perfect right now and this is just where I am on my way to where I’m going?”

All is truly well. We live in a constant current of well-being. It’s all a matter of allowing.

Not a bunch of doing. A relaxing into. Allowing.

Take a deep breathe and begin to notice everything around you that is working perfectly and getting better and better.

You are loved and cared for in ways you can’t see or may not able to imagine. It makes no difference. It’s still there.

I’m seeing your absolute health, happiness, abundance, peace and joy.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Yes, Is The Grease

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes keeps everything moving!

Yes is one of the most powerful words in any language. No other word has more power to transform your personal situation than “Yes”. Learn to say “Yes” in the face of what you don’t want and difficulties begin dissolving immediately. Recognize there is a perspective in every scenario that serves you and your being willing to see it, gets you halfway there.

When you say “yes” you are not resisting anything and are actually opening yourself to new possibilities. “Yes” allows the situation to resolve, transform or fade all together.

When we say “NO, NO that’s not what I wanted. Let me run and tell everyone how angry I am and how terrible this situation is.” We are only adding our precious and powerful energy to a situation we do not want. When we give things we don’t want our attention we continue to create things that make us feel bad. But, when we can first say “Yes” and then “Thank You”, changes previously unavailable begin to present themselves.

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

“Yes”, I can allow this situation to transform and “thank you” for showing me where my focus and thoughts have been lately.

Don’t worry or give yourself a hard time. Just say, “OK. I’ve been focused on things other than what I want. It’s OK. I’m human. I can say yes and watch it all change. Everything is always working out for me.”

I find when I say “yes”, that most times, if it’s something I really don’t want to do, it doesn’t happen…

I get a call from a friend. “Hey! I’m moving out of my house and have no one to help me, will you?” Uh, yuck. I don’t want to move! BUT, I do love my friend and certainly want to be of assistance if I can, so “yes, of course I will help.” Not something I’m really looking forward to, but we always have fun and this will be no different. We’ll get it done and I’ll get some exercise. “Yes, I will help.”

The day before the big move, I get a call saying someone else with a big truck and a few buddies are happy to help (for beer!) and are taking care of the whole thing, maybe we can do dinner next week when things have settled down. Voila! “YES!” I said yes, and it all worked out. I was able to support my friend and created the space for more help that didn’t require me to move heavy furniture!

“Yes” is the grease, “no” is the glue.

How can you support yourself by saying “YES” to allow more flow in your life? Even in situations you don’t want. Remember, “Yes” is the grease that allows things to shift and change with ease, “No” gums up the system and creates more of the same.

Do you notice yourself saying “no” and feeling it in your body? Find the “NO” physically in your body and breathe.(stomach, chest, throat, heart?) Breathe gently, in “yes” and out “thank you”. In “yes”, out “thank you.” Allow the resistance to move and watch the situation transform.

Give it a shot and let me know how it goes.

If you need more help saying “yes”, give me a call.

I’m here to help.

Much Love to you,
Crystal

Take It Back

Tree And Ivy

I first wanted to start a Take Back The Weather campaign.

Listening to the radio, I heard John Aielii on Eklektikos mention how no one believes the weather man anymore when rain is in the forecast and everyone just expects no rain. Also, watching the thermometer hit 93 degrees yesterday before we’ve even gotten into Spring made me really think about what I want to see “weather-wise” in my life.

I took a big deep breath and let it go.

When we stop looking at life in terms of what we like and don’t like
we have a lot more peace in our lives.

It was, however, very clear to me that it is time to take it back.

Whatever “it” is for you, that maybe you think you don’t have anymore or that someone might have taken from you, take it back. Your youth, confidence, joy, abundance, happiness, vitality, satisfaction… all of these things are still here for you to experience. Regardless of your financial situation, age, gender or social status, your life is your own creation and can be whatever you want it to be.

Decide to focus positively in the direction of what you want.

So, I want milder temperatures and more rain this Spring and Summer here in Texas. How can I go about changing the weather?

For starters, I am going to stop complaining about it being so hot and dry. I will notice when I see rain in the forecast and feel confident and excited about it’s arrival. When I want to say, “Damnit, it’s hot out here”, I will instead say, “It looks like rain!” I will allow myself to feel the physical sensations in my body that come up when looking at evidence to the contrary.

Reality is only temporary, don’t get too bogged down in it.

As I allow myself to focus on what would please me instead of pointing out an obvious irritation, my mind will begin to look for more pleasing things. Our negative focus is only a habit that can be changed like any other. Small steps make the biggest progress.

Decide today to move toward what you want. Here are some statements to help you get started…

  • I will consciously cultivate what I want to see, hear, feel and experience by telling myself it’s on its way. (Everything you want is truly on it’s way to you, release resistance and allow it in.)
  • I will allow myself to feel and move the physical sensations that arise in my body when I am faced with a situation that doesn’t please me.
  • I will start talking about what I want and looking for evidence of its arrival.
  • I will focus on what makes me happy and brings me the most joy.

Take a deep breath and feel the possibility. We live in a miraculous world that has the ability to bring to you all you require or desire. Feel the simplicity of focusing on the wanted as a way of life.

Arguing for your limitation will never get you what you want. Supporting yourself in your mind while moving the energy in your body is the quickest route.

If you are ready to take back your life and need some direction. I am here to help.

Let’s talk.

Much Love,
Crystal

Free Live Webcast!

Join my friend Roxanne Darling and I tomorrow, January 11th at 2pm CST (11am HST) for a Free Live Webcast discussing consciousness. Find the link for Roxanne’s YouTube channel below and tune in to watch and or participate in our discussion.

Free Live Webcast: Everyday Consciousness

Google Plus Live Webcast with Roxanne DarlingPlease join me this Friday for a free, live webcast to talk about taming those voices we all have in our heads! It is one of the fastest ways to make things happen in your life that you actually want.

One of the things I am in the midst of this year is writing a book. I am trying out a lot of my ideas here on the blog. I am also creating live conversations so I can engage with you on a regular basis. I am one of those people who actually gets new ideas by interacting with others. Of course I also learn more about my ideas by seeing how easily (or not!) they land in other people’s hearts and minds.

My inaugural chat is this Friday, January 11th, at 10 am HST. You can check your time zone here. I will be hosting it in a “Google Hangout” on the Google + network and live-streaming it to my YouTube channel. This will be a learning experience for all of us, so I thank you in advance for your patience and curiosity. I will be sending a reminder to everyone on my email list with the links shortly before we begin. Please join the email list if you want to receive the notification or want to add a question or comment.

Meanwhile, if you use G+, please circle me there! Otherwise look for our free live webcast this Friday here on my YouTube page.

Crystal Nuding - Be Soothed and UpliftedI have invited a friend to join me – Crystal Nuding. I met Crystal four years ago. We both received  access to divine downloads as I call them and we are both creating our own personal iteration of that in the world. I think you will love experiencing Crystal’s clarity, positivity, and strength!

Crystal Nuding is a natural born empath, soother, uplifter and healer whose gift is the ability to help you live a happier and more joyful life. Through phone, Skype, or live sessions in South Austin, she can help you can find and move old stagnant energy that keeps you stuck. Learn more at CrystalNuding.com. Connect with Crystal on Google+ too.

Create Your Own Happiness Revolution

Many thanks to Daphne Gray-Grant (I get her Power Writing Newsletter) for bringing this Ted Talk to my attention. I love, love, LOVE when someone with lots of credentials and fancy schoolin’ comes to the same conclusions as little ol’ me. 🙂

Get happy and productivity follows!

Shawn Achor: The Happy Secret To Better Work

Here’s to your happy life!